Letting Go: When Your Kid Needs You Less

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October 5, 2017

When your kids are babies and toddlers, they NEED you. They need you for everything. Feed them, bathe them, wipe their bottoms. Play-dates and social times require hand-holding. Sometimes it feels like your child is literally glued to your body. As we all have come to realize, that time although it feels like it lasts for-ev-er, it goes by in a blink.

In what seems like a matter of minutes you have a school-aged child attempting to navigate the norms of school, sports, and social lives. (Social lives that often seem to have more action than your own!) How your child needs you transforms. They can get their own cereal, get dressed on their own, and attempt to clean their own rooms. You become the homework helper, chauffeur, and the hygiene checker.

The biggest change of school-aged kids: you are suddenly NOT COOL anymore. Yes, you read that right, you are not cool. This is just the start of that, I heard we parents get more uncool the older our kids get. Suddenly, instead of “going on adventures” with mommy and hanging out with you, your child wants to be with friends and go to school functions but not to actually spend time with you. They run off to find friends, even if it is someone they won’t see again! I have found myself lately, at family events, alone. My son quickly running off to be with the other kids. Basically saying “forget you, mommy!”

Having him wander, under my careful supervision, of course, to be with the other kids is healthy! Even if it does hurt my feelings just a bit. I know he is not the only nine-year-old doing this. Kids need to be around each other outside the walls of the classroom or baseball diamond. The best part about this is kids are engaging with others. They are meeting new peers, and that is good for them! We as parents have to sit back and let it happen. Even though it is not always easy to do. Will it always be roses and unicorns? Nope. Will there be disagreements? Um, yes, yes there will be.

Here’s the thing without us hovering over them they will learn to solve disagreements and make good decisions. Or, in some cases learn the consequences of making the wrong decision. Now, I am talking about school-aged kids, bad decisions here are usually limited to trying to use another kids fidget spinner. Kids are able to problem solve by themselves without our interfering. We spend our time loving on our kids, showing them manners, how to be polite, how to be kind. Why, do we suddenly not trust them to be able to demonstrate those emotions outside our grasp? They can do it!

We can sit back, observe from afar, I mean not too far away, we still need to keep them an eye on them. But, we can observe them being the “good” kids we know they are. Trust yourself, and your parenting to know that you are setting up your children to form successful friendships and connections. Then sit back, and watch the friendships form.

Raising a Child in Unfamiliar Territory

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Kelsie Rodriguez

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October 4, 2017

Growing up, I caught frogs and snakes in the pond in the backyard with my brother. We explored the woods behind our house with our cousins and the neighborhood kids and built forts in fallen trees. We lived in a house on two and a half acres on a dirt road, in a town where everyone knew one another and how they were related.

My son, by comparison, lives on a 0.1-acre lot in the ‘burbs, where our yard is limited but the sidewalks extend indefinitely in all directions. There are fewer farms and more restaurants. We couldn’t possibly know everyone in our town (or even on our street), but instead, we have the excitement of continuing to meet new friends. We spend more time at parks and less time in the woods. We might not see deer running through our backyard, but there are plenty of squirrels to watch from our windows, and to a two-year-old, this is equally thrilling.

I adored my childhood, but I have found that different lifestyles have suited me in different chapters of my life. A small town while growing up, a small city for college, a much bigger city for grad school, and for now, the suburbs. We like to go out and try new places and meet new people, and the job opportunities and proximity to a major airport were other factors that influenced our decision.

This is how my husband and I found ourselves raising our son almost two hours from his closest set of grandparents. We’ve had to build our own village, but we did it – and we continue to expand on it – and it’s a blessing to choose the people you want your children to be surrounded by.

There are certainly challenges to living this way (aside from the most salient: we didn’t inherit ready-made babysitters nearby). I don’t have a blueprint to follow. We plan as we go, usually only one step ahead. My parents worked the same jobs that they started in their early twenties until they retired, and they still live in the house on the dirt road that they built before I was born. I don’t know where we will be in two years or five years, professionally or geographically, but I do know our decisions will continue to be different than the decisions my parents were facing at those points in their lives.

Many aspects of my son’s childhood are new to me. He goes to a daycare center one day a week, something I never did. He meets new friends there, and at the park and at playgroups through mutual friends, whereas I knew almost everyone close to my age in my town (and our parents and grandparents grew up together too). There were 75 students in my high school graduating class, which included two small towns, and I had known the majority of my classmates since first grade. He will have options for school, depending on what suburb we decide to live in, which school district we fall into, and whether we opt for public or private. He had been on more flights before age 1 than I had been on when I graduated college.

Here’s the complexity: it’s because of my happy, secure childhood that I feel well-equipped to create a life that fits for me and my husband and son, even though that life is a considerable distance and considerably different from my hometown. My parents raised me to be independent and to think for myself. Some people will find that following their hearts keeps them close to their families; some will venture off to follow a career or a significant other across the globe; and some, like us, will consider all these factors and find a middle ground.

Yes, the life we are creating is different than how I grew up, and at times it’s unfamiliar territory to me . . . but not to my son. This is the only life he knows, and as far as I can tell, he seems to be thriving in it. One day, I hope he can look back on his childhood as I do mine: fondly and with deep appreciation. As Tolstoy said, “All happy families are alike,” so in this way, my experience and my son’s have an important commonality after all.

31 Days of Halloween Fun!

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Lacey Salerno

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October 3, 2017

I love this time of year with the cool weather, changing leaves, and of course HALLOWEEN! In putting this guide together last year I challenged myself to try some new things and see how many days I could maximize my family time by doing something fun and memorable. Check out my guide below and maybe get inspired for some new things to try with your family!

Sunday, October 1: My Halloween décor spills out my front door and into my front yard! Take the opportunity to visit your local farm, farmer’s market, or cider mill with your kids and stock up on a fun variety of mums, pumpkins, gourds, and hay and let the kids help you set up a photo-worthy porch!

Monday, October 2: Continue getting in the spirit by adding some fall decorations to your living space. My kids love setting up our Halloween village with items we add annually from Michaels (along with a variety of other treasures). We have also hit the jack-o-lantern-pot in the dollar section at Target, Kirkland’s, and Marshalls, to add to our collection.

Tuesday, October 3: While the weather is still warm, take this opportunity to go on a changing colors hike. My kids love collecting pine cones, pretty leaves, and acorns along with anything else they find along the way. Find a new great park to explore and take along a picnic.

Wednesday, October 4: Take the opportunity to use some of your collected items from yesterday and make something fun that you can display. Here is one I absolutely love but share some of yours as well on our Facebook page.

Thursday, October 5: Storytime- I know this is a story that I mentioned last year, but it bears repeating and is one I gift frequently because I LOVE it so much: Room on the Broom by Julia Donaldson. Make sure to get the DVD ($5 on Amazon) and download the app as well. My kids are endlessly entertained by it, and so am I.

Friday, October 6: If you haven’t done so already break out your Halloween pajamas and settle in for a spooky family feature. I still look forward to my first viewing of Hocus Pocus every year, and my kids humor me and pretend they love it just as much.

Saturday, October 7: Take a quick trip to your local retailer and help your kids find the perfect Halloween attire. My kids usually keep them in the rotation year-round, but they get heavy wear during the month of October. Carters, Target, and Gymboree have a darling selection, but if you are looking for something more personalized make sure to check out Etsy.

Sunday, October 8: Cooking time- Slow cooker chili! Okay, I am admittedly not a cook, but I can manage slow cooker recipes and this one is a win! I modify it a smidge by adding a can of corn, some mild jalapeno and using a combination of pork and beef, but there really is no wrong way to do it.

Monday, October 9: Time to be neighborly. Have your kiddos cut out pumpkin shapes and decorate some cards for the neighbors. I know our elderly neighbors appreciate this gesture beyond measure and it’s a great way for you to get to know the people around you.

Tuesday, October 10: Time to play! Now that my kids are school-age they love games, and one of their favorites is bingo. Check out this site for free Halloween bingo card printables and use candy corns to cover the spaces. Play until the candy is gone;)

Wednesday, October 11: Here are a little hump-day fun…stop at a cider mill on the way to school for some fresh cider and donuts without the crazy lines (you are welcome). If you love your teachers as much as we do, make sure to get a couple extra to share or maybe even take them in for a special class treat!

Thursday, October 12: Storytime – At the Old Haunted House, by Helen Ketteman is a great story for the little ones and has counting, rhyming, and repetition, perfect to keep their attention.

Friday, October 13: Did you know that the Grinch that Stole Christmas has a prequel? Well there is and it is called Halloween is Grinch Night, and you can watch it on Youtube. It’s very cute, and the perfect short flick for right before bed.

Saturday, October 14: Cider mills are my all-time favorite, but with kids, they need to have a little more to look forward to than just snacks. That is why I love Yates and Rochester Cider Mill because they have petting zoos too! Yummy treats and cute little animals = WIN! WIN! See a complete list of cider mills throughout the metro Detroit area here – DMB’s Guide to Cider Mills

Sunday, October 15: Time to give back- with the holidays coming the local food pantries are stocking up on necessities to be prepared for the demand. I love to take time as often as I can to teach my kids the importance of giving back and now it a great time to take up a food drive in your neighborhood. Click here to learn more – Gleaners Food Bank

Monday, October 16: Mondays are hard, have a cookie. Here is a great twist on traditional chocolate chip cookies that my kids LOVE. The best part is that they contain a vegetable so they are almost healthy! This recipe is SO good —–> Pumpkin Chocolate Chip Cookie Recipe

Tuesday, October 17: By now it’s starting to feel like fall and the weather is getting cooler so spending time outside is getting tougher. That makes it the perfect time for a bonfire. If you don’t exactly have perfect yard, you can always get a portable pit that sits on your deck or driveway. If that still won’t work for you, download the virtual version on your TV or iPad, light some fall candles, and get cozy under some blankets.

Wednesday, October 18: Time for a craft with stuff from around your house. These darling apple stamps make the perfect pumpkin! Make sure your kids don’t eat them when they are done 😉

Thursday, October 19: Have you ever been BOOed? If not, start the tradition in your neighborhood. See this link for directions, but you put together a little Halloween treat bag for your neighbors, then wait until dark and put it on their porch with a note telling them they have been BOOed! It spreads like wildfire.

Friday, October 20: Get out and enjoy nature! If you are in north Oakland Co. check out the Halloween Hoot at Dinosaur Hill on the 20th, 21st, or 22nd!

Saturday, October 21: Hayrides anyone? Check out the Fall Harvest Festival at Upland Hills Farm on Saturdays and Sundays in October and reserve your time for hayrides in the evening. http://www.uplandhillsfarm.com/fallharvestfestival.html

Sunday, October 22: If you haven’t gotten a chance to get to Zoo Boo at the Detroit Zoo, make sure you get tickets for this last night of festivities. It’s a great test-run for the Halloween costumes and fun for the whole family.

Monday, October 23: Movie night- Frankenweenie is a new favorite in our house, but a very heartwarming addition to our annual lineup. Like most well-done children’s films, it is a great one for kids and parents.

Tuesday, October 24: Pumpkin beer is one of my absolute favorites, so when I saw a recipe for soft pretzels made with pumpkin beer I was sold! These turned out fantastic and were even great the next day as sandwich buns. They were much easier than expected and paired perfectly with a day of football.

Wednesday, October 25: Nothing breaks up the week like a Halloween treasure hunt. See the attached suggestions for doing one in your home, take it outside, or come up with your own ideas.

Thursday, October 26: Another good read- Skelton Hiccups, by Margery Cuyler. This is a super cute and funny book, and if your kids are like mine they will love imitating the hiccups. There is also a read-along version on Youtube.

Friday, October 27: If you haven’t checked out any of your local haunted houses, why not have a haunted house/ Halloween party for your favorite little ones. Use some of the above suggestions or come up with great ideas of your own. Set your creative side free and let your kids make spooky decorations to scare their friends.

Saturday, October 28: Trunk or Treating is one of my new favorite trends. Schools, daycares, and other local organizations have stepped up to help keep kid festivities safe and enjoyable. Check with your local schools, businesses, and downtown to see if they are doing these.

Saturday, October 29: If you have kept up with this list then you have probably maximized your fun for the season, but if you still have some energy left check out Cross Roads Village, Green Field Village, pumpkin farms, cider mills, and other local happenings in your area for more ideas.

Monday, October 30: Pumpkin carving is a great time, but equally enjoyable in our house is pumpkin painting. Letting the kids paint spooky faces and decorate their pumpkins helps them last a little bit longer. Make sure to paint one teal to display on your porch if you are going to pass out allergy-safe treats as well!

Tuesday, October 31: Time for the MAIN EVENT! Enjoy trick-or-treating and have a safe and happy Halloween!

Step and Single Parents: Heroes or Villains?

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chelguild

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October 2, 2017

As parents, it often seems like we can’t get things right, but the judgments and expectations are far worse for single and stepparents. Have you ever noticed that single dads and stepdads are often seen as heroes, while single moms are seen as never doing enough and stepmoms are just plain evil?!

Single moms, while revered by their adult children for all of the hardships they endured (Cue TuPac), aren’t very often cut slack while the kids are minors. After all, women in general, need to lean in lest they be slackers. They need to be everywhere and do everything up to society’s standards, but meet a single father who has custody of his kids and watch the accolades roll in! The man is a martyr! He’s clearly altered the course of his life for his children. Gag.

A similar double standard applies to stepparents. The mere mention of a stepmother conjures images of the evil queen, a trophy-wife, upgrade with ulterior motives who must be jealous of the step-kids and therefore cannot be trusted. A stepdad, however, has clearly filled a void in a family. He’s a role model, a provider, and a saint for stepping in when another man stepped out. Finally, there’s someone to throw the ball around with Little Carter and take Little Olivia to that daddy-daughter dance!

I know I sound bitter, but I’ve got enough experience in this field to write a book, let alone a blog post. And for every naysayer, I know there are 20 people cheering anyway. Allow me to explain.

Some single fathers and stepfathers are heroes. Some single moms really have given up and aren’t doing all they should. (In fact, I adopted a child of a single mom who completely walked out and abandoned her offspring!) And yes, some stepmothers have serious issues to sort out and treat stepchildren unfairly. More often than not, however, single and stepparents simply aren’t perceived equally to their counterparts.

When I met my ex-husband, he was a young, single father with full custody of his little girl. He had no problems getting the ladies to pay him attention and it was clear to see why: there he was, this tattooed and hardworking guy, raising an adorable, pink-clad princess all on his own. The story was that her mother jumped ship and he was left to navigate uncharted waters alone. He worked multiple jobs to keep them afloat. Of course, there is much more to this tale, but the point is the common misperception. I can honestly say I fell for him for different reasons and didn’t buy into the poor, single dad narrative. You see, I was raised by a single mother, so I didn’t think that he was doing anything commendable. I thought he was doing what anyone who chooses to bring a child into this world ought to do.

Even though everyone thought it was an absolute crime that the girl didn’t have a mother, the moment I stepped into the role, the same people tried to burn me at the stake. How dare I come in and try to parent? Couldn’t I just be her friend? Imagine for a moment that I had taken the stepdad approach, coming home, living my own life, going out with my friends, and staying out of the discipline aspect of parenting all together. It would have been said that I wasn’t doing enough.

So I propose that we all take an honest look at the stereotypes of the savior step and single dads, and the evil and slacking step and single moms and think twice before applying them. Pop culture isn’t always representative of real life. Let’s view all parents equally, with compassion, knowing that parenting is always hard and that being either a step or single parent of either gender adds unique challenges to an already difficult job.

Detroit Moms Guide to October

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Amber Cross

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October 1, 2017

It’s kinda spooky that it’s already October and we’re into fall full swing. The bewitching month is upon us. Have your little ones decided on a Halloween costume yet? It’s Fall in Michigan – and that’s the BEST time of the year! Dig into our guide to October for some awesome Fall/Halloween Happenings in+around Detroit and if you know of an event happening and you don’t see it here please feel free to add it to our calendar! Happy Haunting, Mamas! Also, stay tuned for a Halloween-specific guide coming soon!

October 1st - 7th

October 1, 2017

5K Donut Dash

Location :: Clawson City Hall, 425 Main Street, Clawson
Time :: 8:30 a.m.
Cost :: $25.00 registration fee per participant

Fall Festival and Car Show

Location :: Clawson City Park, 1098 Bywood, Clawson
Time :: 3:00 – 8:00 p.m.
Cost :: Free to attend

Fall Harvest Festival

Location :: Upland Hills Farm, 481 Lake George Rd., Oxford
Time :: 10:00 a.m. – 5:00 p.m.
Cost :: $10.00 per person for admission

20th Annual Taste of Clarkston

Location :: Downtown Clarkston
Time :: 12:00 p.m.
Cost :: Food tickets are sold in $1.00 increments

31st Annual Harvest Happening

Location :: Hess-Hathaway Park, 825 S. Williams Lake Rd., Waterford
Time :: 12:00 p.m. – 5:00 p.m.
Cost :: Individual attractions have separate fees

Open Streets Detroit

Location :: Michigan Ave and Vernor Hwy, Detroit
Time :: 12:00 p.m. – 5:00 p.m.
Cost :: Free to attend

Hard Cider and Donuts

Location :: Michigan By the Bottle Tasting Room – Auburn Hills, Royal Oak and Shelby Township locations!
Time :: 12:00 – 2:00 p.m. OR 3:00 – 5:00 p.m.
Cost :: $12.00 admission. CALL NOW to reserve your spot

October 2, 2017

Fire Safety Day

Location :: PKSA Karate, 31380 Harper Ave., St. Clair Shores
Time :: 6:00 p.m.
Cost :: Free to attend

October 3, 2017

16th Annual Hay Day

Location :: Heritage Park, S. Wacousta Rd., Farmington Hills
Time :: 5:00 p.m. – 8:00 p.m.
Cost :: Free to attend

October 5, 2017

Pumpkins, Pumpkins, Pumpkins! Making Pumpkin Treats!

Location :: Wolcott Mills Metropark, 65775 Wolcott Rd., Ray Twp.
Time :: 6:00 – 8:00 p.m.
Cost :: $8.00 per person

October 6, 2017

Public Planetarium Show

Location :: Wayne State University Planetarium, 4841 Cass Ave., Detroit
Time :: 7:00 p.m.
Cost :: Free

Zoo Boo!

Location :: The Detroit Zoo, 8450 10 Mile Rd., Royal Oak
Time :: 5:00 – 8:00 p.m. time slots
Cost :: $10.00

Harvest Moon Hayrides

Location :: Upland Hills Farm, 481 Lake George Rd., Oxford
Time :: 7:00 – 10:00 p.m.
Cost :: $9.00 per person

Mom/Son Superhero Dance Party

Location :: William Costick Activity Center, 28600 Eleven Mile Rd., Farmington Hills
Time :: 7:00 – 8:30 p.m.
Cost :: Residents of FH $9.00 per person, non-residents $14.00 per person

Skeletons are Alive Kickoff Celebration

Location :: Downtown Northville
Time :: 6:00 p.m.
Cost :: Free to attend

October 7, 2017

Zoo Boo!

Location :: The Detroit Zoo, 8450 10 Mile Rd., Royal Oak
Time :: 5:00 – 8:00 p.m. time slots
Cost :: $10.00

Fall Harvest Festival

Location :: Upland Hills Farm, 481 Lake George Rd., Oxford
Time :: 10:00 a.m. – 5:00 p.m.
Cost :: $10.00 per person for admission

Harvest Moon Hayrides

Location :: Upland Hills Farm, 481 Lake George Rd., Oxford
Time :: 7:00 – 10:00 p.m.
Cost :: $9.00 per person

The Halloween Hustle 5K Detroit

Location :: The Detroit Riverfront
Time :: 8:00 a.m.
Cost :: See race page for details

2017 Ferndale Fall Festival

Location :: The Detroit Curling Club, 1615 E Lewiston Ave., Ferndale
Time :: 11:00 a.m. – 3:00 p.m.
Cost :: $5.00 for children and $2.00 for adults – cash only

Fall Festival at Kensington

Location :: Kensington Metropark Farm Center, 4570 Huron River Pkwy., Milford
Time :: 11:00 a.m.
Cost :: $10 entrance fee into the metropark, free to attend

My Little Pony Movie Party

Location :: Barnes and Noble, 2800 S Rochester Rd., Rochester Hills
Time :: 11:00 a.m.
Cost :: Free to attend

HarvestFEST

Location :: Ray Wiegand’s Nursery and Garden Center, 47747 Romeo Plank Rd., Macomb
Time :: 11:00 a.m.
Cost :: See website for details

MSU Tollgate Center Pumpkinfest 2017

Location :: MSU Tollgate Farm and Education Center, 28115 Meadowbrook, Novi
Time :: 11:00 a.m. – 5:00 p.m.
Cost :: Parking is $5.00, entry is free, fee for additional attractions

Halloween Costume Sale

Location :: Grosse Pointe Public Library, 20600 Mack Ave., Grosse Pointe Woods
Time :: 10:00 a.m. – 2:00 p.m.
Cost :: Free to attend

October 8, 2017

Zoo Boo!

Location :: The Detroit Zoo, 8450 10 Mile Rd., Royal Oak
Time :: 5:00 – 8:00 p.m. time slots
Cost :: $10.00

Fall Harvest Festival

Location :: Upland Hills Farm, 481 Lake George Rd., Oxford
Time :: 10:00 a.m. – 5:00 p.m.
Cost :: $10.00 per person for admission

Hard Cider and Donuts

Location :: Michigan By the Bottle Tasting Room – Auburn Hills, Royal Oak and Shelby Township locations!
Time :: 12:00 – 2:00 p.m. OR 3:00 – 5:00 p.m.
Cost :: $12.00 admission. CALL NOW to reserve your spot.

Fall Festival at Kensington

Location :: Kensington Metropark Farm Center, 4570 Huron River Pkwy., Milford
Time :: 11:00 a.m.
Cost :: $10 entrance fee into the metropark, free to attend

St. Clair Shores Fire Station Open House

Location :: St. Clair Shores Fire Station, 26700 Harper Ave., St. Clair Shores
Time :: 12:00 – 3:00 p.m.
Cost :: Free to attend

HarvestFEST

Location :: Ray Wiegand’s Nursery and Garden Center, 47747 Romeo Plank Rd., Macomb
Time :: 11:00 a.m.
Cost :: See website for details

Trick or Feet! 5K/10K walk/run

Location :: Mayburn State Park, 49575 8 Mile Rd., Northville
Time :: 9:00 a.m.
Cost :: State park entry fee applies – see website for registration details for the race itself

MSU Tollgate Center Pumpkinfest 2017

Location :: MSU Tollgate Farm and Education Center, 28115 Meadowbrook, Novi
Time :: 11:00 a.m. – 5:00 p.m.
Cost :: Parking is $5.00, entry is free, fee for additional attractions

Johnny Appleseed Festival

Location :: Wolcott Mills Metropark, 65775 Wolcott Rd., Ray Township
Time :: 12:00 – 3:00 p.m.
Cost :: $5.00 admission

Family Fall Fest

Location :: The Troy Farm, 3325 South Blvd., Troy
Time :: 12:00 – 4:00 p.m.
Cost :: $5.00 per child. Parents and children under 3 are free

October 10, 2017

Family Fun Night

Location :: Hazel Park Memorial District Library, 123 E 9 Mile Rd., Hazel Park
Time :: 6:00 – 7:30 p.m.
Cost :: Free to attend, registration requested

October 8th - 14th

October 8, 2017

Zoo Boo!

Location :: The Detroit Zoo, 8450 10 Mile Rd., Royal Oak
Time :: 5:00 – 8:00 p.m. time slots
Cost :: $10.00

Fall Harvest Festival

Location :: Upland Hills Farm, 481 Lake George Rd., Oxford
Time :: 10:00 a.m. – 5:00 p.m.
Cost :: $10.00 per person for admission

Hard Cider and Donuts

Location :: Michigan By the Bottle Tasting Room – Auburn Hills, Royal Oak and Shelby Township locations!
Time :: 12:00 – 2:00 p.m. OR 3:00 – 5:00 p.m.
Cost :: $12.00 admission. CALL NOW to reserve your spot.

Fall Festival at Kensington

Location :: Kensington Metropark Farm Center, 4570 Huron River Pkwy., Milford
Time :: 11:00 a.m.
Cost :: $10 entrance fee into the metropark, free to attend

St. Clair Shores Fire Station Open House

Location :: St. Clair Shores Fire Station, 26700 Harper Ave., St. Clair Shores
Time :: 12:00 – 3:00 p.m.
Cost :: Free to attend

HarvestFEST

Location :: Ray Wiegand’s Nursery and Garden Center, 47747 Romeo Plank Rd., Macomb
Time :: 11:00 a.m.
Cost :: See website for details

Trick or Feet! 5K/10K walk/run

Location :: Mayburn State Park, 49575 8 Mile Rd., Northville
Time :: 9:00 a.m.
Cost :: State park entry fee applies – see website for registration details for the race itself

MSU Tollgate Center Pumpkinfest 2017

Location :: MSU Tollgate Farm and Education Center, 28115 Meadowbrook, Novi
Time :: 11:00 a.m. – 5:00 p.m.
Cost :: Parking is $5.00, entry is free, fee for additional attractions

Johnny Appleseed Festival

Location :: Wolcott Mills Metropark, 65775 Wolcott Rd., Ray Township
Time :: 12:00 – 3:00 p.m.
Cost :: $5.00 admission

Family Fall Fest

Location :: The Troy Farm, 3325 South Blvd., Troy
Time :: 12:00 – 4:00 p.m.
Cost :: $5.00 per child. Parents and children under 3 are free

October 10, 2017

Family Fun Night

Location :: Hazel Park Memorial District Library, 123 E 9 Mile Rd., Hazel Park
Time :: 6:00 – 7:30 p.m.
Cost :: Free to attend, registration requested

October 11, 2017

Halloween Harvest Magic Show

Location :: Northville Public Library, 212 West Cady, Northville
Time :: 4:15 p.m.
Cost :: Free to attend, registration is required

Smashing Pumpkins!

Location :: The Detroit Zoo, 8450 W. 10 Mile Rd., Royal Oak
Time :: 11:00 a.m. – 3:30 p.m.
Cost :: Free with zoo admission

October 13, 2014

Public Planetarium Show

Location :: Wayne State University Planetarium, 4841 Cass Ave., Detroit
Time :: 7:00 p.m.
Cost :: Free

Brandenburg Boo Bash

Location :: Brandenburg Park, 50050 Jefferson Ave., Chesterfield
Time :: 6:00 – 7:30 p.m.
Cost :: $5.00 entry fee per car

Zoo Boo!

Location :: The Detroit Zoo, 8450 10 Mile Rd., Royal Oak
Time :: 5:00 – 8:00 p.m. time slots
Cost :: $10.00

Harvest Moon Hayrides

Location :: Upland Hills Farm, 481 Lake George Rd., Oxford
Time :: 7:00 – 10:00 p.m.
Cost :: $9.00 per person

October 14, 2017

Detroit Free Press/Chemical Bank Marathon

Location :: Downtown Detroit
Time :: See registration page for details – as there are several different categories to run in!
Cost :: See website for details

Kids Night Out Halloween Party

Location :: Franklin Athletic Club, 29350 Northwestern Hwy., Southfield
Time :: 5:30 – 10:30 p.m.
Cost :: $25.00 per person

Huntington Woods Hay Day and Public Safety Open House!

Location :: Huntington Woods Parks and Recreation, 26325 Scotia, Huntington Woods
Time :: 4:30 p.m. – 6:00 p.m.
Cost :: Free to attend

The Great Pumpkin Festival

Location :: Maybury Farm, 50165 8 Mile Rd., Northville
Time :: 10:00 a.m. – 5:00 p.m.
Cost :: $5.00 per person

Spooky Movie Night – Nightmare on Elm Street

Location :: The Marquis Theater, 135 E Main St., Northville
Time :: 7:00 p.m.
Cost :: $5.00 per ticket

Zoo Boo!

Location :: The Detroit Zoo, 8450 10 Mile Rd., Royal Oak
Time :: 5:00 – 8:00 p.m. time slots
Cost :: $10.00

Fall Harvest Festival

Location :: Upland Hills Farm, 481 Lake George Rd., Oxford
Time :: 10:00 a.m. – 5:00 p.m.
Cost :: $10.00 per person for admission

Harvest Moon Hayrides

Location :: Upland Hills Farm, 481 Lake George Rd., Oxford
Time :: 7:00 – 10:00 p.m.
Cost :: $9.00 per person

HarvestFEST

Location :: Ray Wiegand’s Nursery and Garden Center, 47747 Romeo Plank Rd., Macomb
Time :: 11:00 a.m.
Cost :: See website for details

Waterford Fire Department Open House

Location :: The Waterford Fire Department, 2495 Crecent Lake Rd., Waterford
Time :: 10:00 a.m. – 2:00 p.m.
Cost :: Free to attend

Shelby Township Fire Department Open House

Location :: Shelby Township Fire Department, 6345 23 Mile Rd., Shelby Township
Time :: 10:00 a.m. – 2:00 p.m.
Cost :: Free to attend

Romeo Harvest Day

Location :: Downtown Romeo
Time :: 10:00 a.m. – 4:30 p.m.
Cost :: Free to attend

Downtown Oxford’s Scarecrow Festival

Location :: Downtown Oxford
Time :: 10:00 a.m. – 4:00 p.m.
Cost :: Free to attend

Riverbends Park Halloween Spooktacular

Location :: River Bends Park, 5700 22 Mile Rd., Shelby Township
Time :: 12:00 – 2:00 p.m.
Cost :: Free to attend

Fall Fest West Bloomfield

Location :: Marshbank Park, 2805 Hiller Rd., West Bloomfield Township
Time :: 12:00 – 4:00 p.m.
Cost :: Free to attend, but fees apply for certain activities

Harvest Hike and Hunt

Location :: Rotary Park Livonia Nature Trails
Time :: 3:00 – 5:00 p.m.
Cost :: $6.00 per resident and $9.00 per non-resident

Sanders Grand Re-Opening

Location :: Sanders/Morley Candy Factory, 23770 Hall Rd., Clinton Township
Time :: 9:00 a.m. – 9:00 p.m.
Cost :: Free to attend

October 15th - 21st

October 15, 2017

Detroit Free Press/Chemical Bank Marathon

Location :: Downtown Detroit
Time :: See registration page for details – as there are several different categories to run in!
Cost :: See website for details

Wally’s Halloween Spooktacular Trunk or Treat!

Location :: Wally’s Frozen Custard, 22501 Harper Ave., St. Clair Shores
Time :: 3:00 – 5:00 p.m.
Cost :: Free to attend – a portion of sales will go to Mike Wells Hockey Scholarship Fund

Storytime Adventure – If you’re a monster and you know it

Location :: The Painted Pot, 421 Walnut Blvd., Rochester
Time :: 11:00 a.m. – 12:00 p.m.
Cost :: $20.00 per project, registration required

Zoo Boo!

Location :: The Detroit Zoo, 8450 10 Mile Rd., Royal Oak
Time :: 5:00 – 8:00 p.m. time slots
Cost :: $10.00

Fall Harvest Festival

Location :: Upland Hills Farm, 481 Lake George Rd., Oxford
Time :: 10:00 a.m. – 5:00 p.m.
Cost :: $10.00 per person for admission

Hard Cider and Donuts

Location :: Michigan By the Bottle Tasting Room – Auburn Hills, Royal Oak and Shelby Township locations!
Time :: 12:00 – 2:00 p.m. OR 3:00 – 5:00 p.m.
Cost :: $12.00 admission. CALL NOW to reserve your spot

HarvestFEST

Location :: Ray Wiegand’s Nursery and Garden Center, 47747 Romeo Plank Rd., Macomb
Time :: 11:00 a.m.
Cost :: See website for details

October 18, 2017

Seasonal Sensations: Fall Color Walk

Location :: Marshbank Park, 2805 Hiller Rd., West Bloomfield Township
Time :: 2:00 – 3:30 p.m.
Cost :: $5.00 per person, Registration required

October 20, 2017

Public Planetarium Show

Location :: Wayne State University Planetarium, 4841 Cass Ave., Detroit
Time :: 7:00 p.m.
Cost :: Free

Howl-a-Ween at the Nature Center!

Location :: The Howell Nature Center, 1005 Triangle Lake Rd., Howell
Time :: 4:00 p.m.
Cost :: $5.00 per adult and $10.00 per child

Halloween Hoot

Location :: Dinosaur Hill Nature Preserve, 333 N Hill Cir., Rochester
Time :: 6:00 p.m.
Cost :: $7.00 per person

Zoo Boo!

Location :: The Detroit Zoo, 8450 10 Mile Rd., Royal Oak
Time :: 5:00 – 8:00 p.m. time slots
Cost :: $10.00

Harvest Moon Hayrides

Location :: Upland Hills Farm, 481 Lake George Rd., Oxford
Time :: 7:00 – 10:00 p.m.
Cost :: $9.00 per person

Women’s Self-Protection Seminar

Location :: Krav Maga Detroit, 950 W Maple Rd., Troy
Time :: 6:00 – 9:00 p.m.
Cost :: $25.00 per person

October 21, 2017

Hangin’ with Heroes!

Location :: Plymouth Fire Station, 201 S. Main St., Plymouth
Time :: 9:00 – 11:00 a.m.
Cost ::

Fallin’ for Halloween

Location :: Marysville City Park, 143 Gratiot Blvd., Marysville
Time :: 11:00 a.m. – 1:00 p.m.
Cost :: Free to attend

Friendly Forest 2017

Location :: Clintonwood Park, 6000 Clarkston Rd., Clarkston
Time :: 2:00 – 6:00 p.m.
Cost :: $7.00 for residents, $10.00 for non-residents

Family Friendly Halloween Party with Dinner by Slow’s

Location :: Northville Winery and Brewing Co., 630 Baseline Rd., Northville
Time :: 6:00 – 10:00 p.m.
Cost :: Contact the Northville Winery and Brewing Co. for pricing information

Pizza Palooza

Location :: William Costick Center, 28600 Eleven Mile Rd., Farmington Hills
Time :: 6:00 – 8:00 p.m.
Cost :: $7.00 per person

Boo Bash

Location :: Heritage Park, 24725 Farmington Rd., Farmington Hills
Time :: 12:00 – 2:30 p.m.
Cost :: $9.00 for residents and $14.00 for non-residents

Mother-Daughter Tea!

Location :: Longacre House, 24705 Farmington Rd., Farmington Hills
Time :: 10:00 – 11:30 a.m. OR 1:00 – 2:30 p.m.
Cost :: $15.00 per person

Howl-a-Ween at the Nature Center!

Location :: The Howell Nature Center, 1005 Triangle Lake Rd., Howell
Time :: 4:00 p.m.
Cost :: $5.00 per adult and $10.00 per child

Halloween Hoot

Location :: Dinosaur Hill Nature Preserve, 333 N Hill Cir., Rochester
Time :: 4:00 p.m.
Cost :: $7.00 per person

Zoo Boo!

Location :: The Detroit Zoo, 8450 10 Mile Rd., Royal Oak
Time :: 5:00 – 8:00 p.m. time slots
Cost :: $10.00

Fall Harvest Festival

Location :: Upland Hills Farm, 481 Lake George Rd., Oxford
Time :: 10:00 a.m. – 5:00 p.m.
Cost :: $10.00 per person for admission

Harvest Moon Hayrides

Location :: Upland Hills Farm, 481 Lake George Rd., Oxford
Time :: 7:00 – 10:00 p.m.
Cost :: $9.00 per person

HarvestFEST

Location :: Ray Wiegand’s Nursery and Garden Center, 47747 Romeo Plank Rd., Macomb
Time :: 11:00 a.m.
Cost :: See website for details

Smashing Pumpkins!

Location :: The Detroit Zoo, 8450 W. 10 Mile Rd., Royal Oak
Time :: 11:00 a.m. – 3:30 p.m.
Cost :: Free with zoo admission

Spooky Movie Night – Beetlejuice

Location :: The Marquis Theater, 135 E Main St., Northville
Time :: 7:00 p.m.
Cost :: $5.00 per ticket

October 22nd - 28th

October 22, 2017

Halloween Fun on the Farm

Location :: Carousel Acres, 12749 9 Mile Rd., South Lyon
Time :: 2:00 – 4:00 p.m.
Cost :: $5.00 per person

Pumpkin Palooza

Location :: Downtown Plymouth
Time :: 12:00 – 3:00 p.m.
Cost :: Free to attend

Halloween Hoot

Location :: Dinosaur Hill Nature Preserve, 333 N Hill Cir., Rochester
Time :: 3:30 p.m.
Cost :: $7.00 per person

Zoo Boo!

Location :: The Detroit Zoo, 8450 10 Mile Rd., Royal Oak
Time :: 5:00 – 8:00 p.m. time slots
Cost :: $10.00

Fall Harvest Festival

Location :: Upland Hills Farm, 481 Lake George Rd., Oxford
Time :: 10:00 a.m. – 5:00 p.m.
Cost :: $10.00 per person for admission

Hard Cider and Donuts

Location :: Michigan By the Bottle Tasting Room – Auburn Hills, Royal Oak and Shelby Township locations!
Time :: 12:00 – 2:00 p.m. OR 3:00 – 5:00 p.m.
Cost :: $12.00 admission. CALL NOW to reserve your spot.

HarvestFEST

Location :: Ray Wiegand’s Nursery and Garden Center, 47747 Romeo Plank Rd., Macomb
Time :: 11:00 a.m.
Cost :: See website for details

October 24, 2017

Tiny Pumpkins – ages 5 and under

Location :: Northville Parks and Recreation, 700 Baseline Rd., Northville
Time :: 4:00 – 5:00 p.m.
Cost :: $10.00 per child

October 25, 2017

Monsters on Main

Location :: Main Street in Novi
Time :: 6:00 – 7:30 p.m.
Cost :: $5.00 per resident and $7.00 per non-resident. Registration required!

October 26, 2017

Hocus Pocus!

Location :: The Henry Ford, 20900 Oakwood Blvd., Dearborn
Time :: 7:00 p.m.
Cost :: $6.25 – $10.00 per person

October 27, 2017

Public Planetarium Show

Location :: Wayne State University Planetarium, 4841 Cass Ave., Detroit
Time :: 7:00 p.m.
Cost :: Free

RP’s Annual Monster Mash

Location :: Rochester Play, 380 E. 2nd Street, Rochester
Time :: 6:00 – 8:00 p.m.
Cost :: $12.00 per child and $5.00 for siblings ($5.00 for members)

Zombie Roll

Location :: Lincoln Park Skating Center, 1419 Southfield Rd., Lincoln Park
Time :: 8:00 p.m.
Cost :: $6.50 plus skate rental

Harvest Moon Hayrides

Location :: Upland Hills Farm, 481 Lake George Rd., Oxford
Time :: 7:00 – 10:00 p.m.
Cost :: $9.00 per person

October 28, 2017

Halloween Yoga and Dance Party

Location :: Born Yoga, 2121 Cole St. Birmingham
Time :: 6:00 – 8:00 p.m.
Cost :: $35.00 per person

Circus Spooktacular

Location :: Ferndale Area District Library, 222 E. 9 Mile Rd., Ferndale
Time :: 5:00 – 7:00 p.m.
Cost :: Free to attend

Boo! At the Nature Center

Location :: Belle Isle Nature Center, 176 Lakeside Drive, Detroit
Time :: 10:00 a.m. – 4:00 p.m.
Cost :: Free to attend

15th Annual Legend of Sleepy Howell

Location :: Downtown Howell
Time :: 6:00 – 9:00 p.m.
Cost :: Free to attend

Peppa Pig Live!

Location :: The Fox Theater, Detroit
Time :: 5:00 p.m.
Cost :: $29.50 – $46.00

Halloween Skate Party

Location :: Lincoln Park Skating Center, 1419 Southfield Rd., Lincoln Park
Time :: 3:00 – 6:00 p.m.
Cost :: $5.00 admission

Fall Harvest Festival

Location :: Upland Hills Farm, 481 Lake George Rd., Oxford
Time :: 10:00 a.m. – 5:00 p.m.
Cost :: $10.00 per person for admission

Harvest Moon Hayrides

Location :: Upland Hills Farm, 481 Lake George Rd., Oxford
Time :: 7:00 – 10:00 p.m.
Cost :: $9.00 per person

Spooky Movie Night – Hocus Pocus

Location :: The Marquis Theater, 135 E Main St., Northville
Time :: 7:00 p.m.
Cost :: $5.00 per ticket

October 29th - November 4th

October 29, 2017

Meadow “Boo” Hall

Location :: Meadowbrook Hall and Gardens, 350 Estate Drive., Rochester
Time :: 5:00 – 8:30 p.m.
Cost :: $12.50 ($11.25 members) for ages 15 & up and $15 ($13.50 members) for ages 3-14. Children under 3 are free

2017 Halloween Funfest

Location :: Veterans Memorial Park, 32400 Jefferson Ave., St. Clair Shores
Time :: 12:00 – 5:00 p.m.
Cost :: $3.00 per person entrance fee

Halloween at the Village

Location :: The Village of Rochester Hills, 104 N. Adams Rd., Rochester Hills
Time :: 5:00 – 7:00 p.m.
Cost :: $5.00 per child

Fall Harvest Festival

Location :: Upland Hills Farm, 481 Lake George Rd., Oxford
Time :: 10:00 a.m. – 5:00 p.m.
Cost :: $10.00 per person for admission

October 30, 2017

Monster Mash Glow Bash

Location :: Lincoln Park Skating Center, 1419 Southfield Rd., Lincoln Park
Time :: 6:00 – 8:00 p.m.
Cost :: $.50!!! Plus skate rental

October 31, 2017

Oak Park Halloween Boo Bash

Location :: David H. Shepherd Park, Oak Park
Time :: 5:00 – 8:00 p.m.
Cost :: Free to attend

DMB’s Guide to Cider Mills

By

Danielle S

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September 28, 2017

Looking to get your fall fix of apple cider and donuts but don’t have an entire afternoon to devote to the full orchard experience? Check out our great list of our stand alone cider mills where there are still lots of yummy treats and fun activities, but you can make the trip a quick one if the you just need to satisfy your sweet tooth. Did we miss your favorite quick stop cider mill? Leave us a message in the comments and we will add it to our list!

Oakland

Ashtons Orchard
(248)627-6671
3925 E. Seymore Lake
Ortonville
Opens August-December
Monday-Tuesday: 11:00am-10:00pm
Wednesday-Saturday: 11:00am-9:00pm
Sunday: 11:00am-11:00pm

At Ashton’s you can get apple cider, donuts, baked goods, and a variety of produce.

Franklin Cider Mill
(248)626-8261
7450 Franklin Rd.
Bloomfield Hills
Open Saturday before Labor Day- Sunday after Thanksgiving
Weekdays 7:00am-6:30pm
Weekends 8:00am-6:30pm

Visit the Franklin Cider Mill if you are looking for a simple, family friendly atmosphere. Built by a river, you can sit and relax while feeding the ducks. The Franklin Cider Mill presses and bottles their own cider right at the mill. The donuts sold are made by an old German recipe. You can also find different baked goods, apple products, honey, and more.

Goodison Cider Mill
(248)652-8450
4295 Orion Rd.
Rochester
Opened Labor Day-Christmas
Daily 9:00am-6:00pm

At Goodison Cider Mill, cider is pressed with a century-old press. They also make a famous pistachio nut bread, along with fresh donuts. They carry a variety of pies, donuts, jams, and other treats as well.

Paint Creek
(248)656-3400
4480 Orion Road
Oakland Twp.
Open Year Round
Daily 11am-9:00pm

Although more of an eatery, at Paint Creek Cider Mill, you can get a donut or cider anytime during the year! They also offer sandwiches,coney dogs, ice cream and more.

Rochester Cider Mill
(248)651-4224
5125 N. Rochester Road
Call to confirm hours

Head to Rochester Cider Mill to eat a variety of tasty donuts, and enjoy some sweet apple cider. You can also purchase a variety of Michigan made items as well as fall decorations for your home (suck as straw, hay and cornstalks).

Additional activities
Petting farm, giant hay pyramid and antique wall all for free

Yate’s Cider Mill
(248)651-4224
1990 E. Avon Rd.
Rochester Hills
Monday-Thursday 11:00am-9:00pm
Friday and Saturday 9:00am-9:00pm
Sundays 1:00-9:00pm

At Yates a water powered double table press produces the cider. You can watch this process most fall Wednesdays-Sundays. While there be sure to pick up some fresh donuts or other baked good. You can also visit the apple tent, or go on a relaxing river walk.

Additional Activities
Pony rides for $5.00/person.

Macomb

Middleton Farms Cider Mill
(586)731-6699
46462 Dequindre Rd.
Utica
Opens September 8th
Sunday-Saturday 9:00am-5:00pm

Looking for something fun and simple? Then check out Middleton Farms. They make their own cider on an old fashion press and make donuts fresh daily.

Washtenaw

Dexter Cider Mill
(734)426-8531
3685 Central St.
Dexter
Opens until Mid November
Wednesday-Sunday 9:00am-5:00pm

The Dexter Cider Mill is the oldest continuously operating cider mill in Michigan. Besides cider they offer donuts, a variety of baked goods, and other apple related products. Check out the website for fun weekend events.

Lesser Farms and Orchard
(734)426-8009
12651 Island Lake Rd.
Dexter
Wednesday-Saturday 9:00am-6:00pm
Sunday 1:00pm-6:00pm

Lesser farms offers apples, cider (no donuts), along with jams, jellies, and pumpkins. You can also purchase pre-picked Michigan apples (no you pick available).

Wayne

Parmenter’s Northville Cider Mill
(248)349-3181
714 Baseline Rd.
Northville
Monday-Sunday 10:00am-8:00pm

At Parmenter’s you can enjoy apple cider, an assortment of apple products, donuts, cheese and more! They have a variety of outdoor equipment for the kids to play on. When you go don’t forget to ask for “duck donuts”, they are free, and head to the river behind the mill to feed the ducks. There is also a winery/brewery at Parmenter’s, so be sure to check out the website to see the beer, hard cider, and wine available.

Plymouth Orchards
(734)455-2290
10685 Warren Road
Plymouth
Sunday-Saturday 9:00am-7:00pm

At Plymouth Orchards and Cider Mill you can watch and learn how cider is made. While not a you pick orchard, there are still many apples, donuts, pies and more available for purchase.

Additional activities
For $3/person(3 and under free) you can take a wagon ride through the orchard.

Three Cedars Farm
(248)437-8200
7897 Six Mile
Northville Twp.
Sunday-Thursday 10:00am-8:00pm
Friday-Saturday 10:00am-10:00pm

If you are looking for a cider mill with lots for the kids to do, then check out Three Cedars Farm. Besides being able to munch on donuts and sip on cider (inside, which means bees are a minimum), there are a variety of other activities to choose from. You can check out the Barn Yard Play land where kids can play on the wooden train, or in the corn box.

Additional activities
For $5/person (3 and under free) see if you can find your way though the corn maze.
Train rides are also available for $3/person.

What We are Watching: Will & Grace

By

jennifermcgruther

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September 28, 2017

Are you in need of a laugh? Does the world feel like it’s too much right now? Do you feel like you just really need a break? Good news- Will & Grace is back on Thursday night Must See TV! We here at DMB are super excited for it’s highly-anticipated premiere and can’t wait to cozy up on the couch with our blanket, popcorn, and glass of our favorite beverage to watch all the hilariousness commence!

A little background: Will & Grace began in 1998 and ended its run in 2006. It was a ground-breaking sitcom that brought humor into our living rooms and understanding to our hearts, and left a bit of a void behind when the Emmy award-winning series went off the air.

Still unsure as to why you need to set your DVR for Thursday at 9PM? We bring you a list of reasons WE are excited for the comeback of this amazing show with an incredibly talented cast:

Karen Walker: This woman made it acceptable to say and do whatever you please so long as you called your subject “honey.” Her quick-wit and snappy zingers are hands-down unbeatable. We can’t wait to see what she’s up to now!
Celebrity guest stars: The first time around we saw so many celebrities make cameos: Britney Spears, Matt Lauer, Madonna, Demi Moore, and James Earl Jones, to name a few; All very relevant and fitting for the time. We cannot wait to see who stops by to visit, or shake things up, this time around.
Grace Adler: She is ALL OF US! Perfectly imperfect in her flaws and owning every minute of it. Her name truly embodies the character she is.
Will Truman: Will is the best friend we all should have. His love for Grace throughout the series was unconditional. He said what she always needed to hear, but picked up the pieces when she didn’t listen. We’re anxious to see if they’re still as close in 2017.
Jack McFarland: “Just Jack” is just funny! He’s our spirit animal; From his spontaneous dancing, to his one-liners, and his brilliant narcissism, he nails it EVERY TIME!
Karen & Jack (the dynamic duo): Although individually mentioned, they must be said as a pair. The comedic brilliance these characters brought was highly anticipated and never underwhelming. They, by far, have been one of the most entertaining and unpredictable duos ever (can we say that!?) on television.
Rosario: What is she doing?
The fashion, especially Grace’s (hair included), was always fun to see. Sometimes the outfits worked, while other times they were deflated . . . literally!
Friendship: Last but definitely not least, Will & Grace came down to friendship at the end of the day. They loved one another despite their differences, and always were there to cheer (or cheers!) each other on. No matter the storyline, at the end of each episode the bonds ALWAYS remained intact. Isn’t that what we all want . . . great friends, great laughs, and sometimes, a great drink?! We can’t wait to see where this charismatic and energizing foursome picks up in the reboot!!

Don’t forget to set your DVRs (although back then it was our VCRs!), and tune in to Will & Grace for the season premiere this Thursday, September 28th at 9:00 pm on NBC!

What was your favorite episode? Are you excited for the premiere?

No Means NO

By

Candice Ilene

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September 27, 2017

It was seemingly innocent, Grandma was leaving after a long weekend at our house. She knelt down to my little girl and uttered the words, “Give grammy a kiss goodbye or grammy will be sad.”

I felt my skin get hot and my blood start to boil. Yes, this is my mother. I love her dearly. In this instance, I may have gone a little nutso in the eyes of my family. However, my immediate reaction was one of “NOOOOOOOO!”

I firmly believe in educating my daughter about body autonomy. Her body belongs to her, even if she is only a toddler. She has the right to feel safe and in control of her personal boundaries. I refuse to force her to engage in physical contact with anyone—even our closest relatives.

I will not teach my daughter to use her body to make someone else happy. I am perfectly content with grandma’s (or anyone else’s!) feelings being a tad hurt in this situation. Sorry, mom. Hugs. I immediately fast forward to my sweet daughter’s dreaded teenage and college years, where some stupidly handsome boy expects some sexual favor because he really, really loves her and if she really, really loves him, then naturally she will cave. I have witnessed countless women—friends, family, students, acquaintances who have described similar situations. I, myself, have been guilty of going on one too many dates with someone who was clearly Mr. Wrong, solely for the fear of hurting his feelings.
Another incident occurred with a well-intentioned, septuagenarian relative shortly thereafter. “If you give me a hug, I will give you a lollipop.” Now, this is a bit more obvious and I’m sure you can see where my line of thinking is headed. My daughter looked up at me, with those giant green eyes and looked back to her auntie she admires so. She clearly did not want to hug her yet the lure of that brightly colored candy had her thinking. I interjected and said, “You don’t have to give huggies if you don’t want to, baby. Mama will make us a treat after dinner.” My darling aunt, who is the absolute sweetest, seemed taken aback. I explained that I don’t believe in setting the tone that a girl has to give up something to gain something that she wants. I’m pretty sure that auntie thought I was being rude, but that’s okay. I refuse to instruct my child that it is “polite” to hug, kiss, sit on laps, allow herself to be tickled when she doesn’t want to be touched. Forced affection is not love, nor is it good manners! Everyone should have the right to control and protect their own bodies, children included.

With startling statistics showing that ninety percent of child sexual abuse is inflicted by someone the child closely knows and twenty percent of those victims are under the age of eight (naasca.org), I don’t think that there is any such thing as being too safe. It is my obligation to educate and to guide my daughter about body autonomy.

Our bodies are not tools to be bargained for affection or material gain. I will not teach my daughter to use her body to get things that she wants . . . whether it is a lollipop from auntie or smiles from grammy. I will empower her with the knowledge that her body belongs solely to her. My daughter may only be a toddler, but her body is her body.

I want her to have a voice that is loud and clear. There are times that I want to smother those rosy cheeks with kisses. There are times that she will put her chubby little hand out to stop me and say, “no, kisses, mama.” I immediately stop myself. That’s right, baby girl. No means no.

Kindness Rocks: Spreading Love One Rock at a Time

By

Erica Owens

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September 25, 2017

Our painted rock obsession started with Kindness Rocks when we stumbled upon this rock in the notch of a Detroit Zoo fence.

We spend a lot of time with Eye Spy eyes peeled, looking for the unexpected and extraordinary. No surprise my little guy found this! I flipped it over to discover an inscription.

I found the group on Facebook and I couldn’t believe it has over 30,000 members! The About section explains it’s a group who decorates rocks and hides for others, in order to brighten one’s day. We posted the picture of our rock and lost ourselves looking at discovered rocks in unusual places.

I had to know more about this rock thing. I quickly learned Kindness Rocks are a major global movement. A message of love, happiness, encouragement, silliness…can totally brighten someone’s day one rock at a time.

I read tons of testimonials of families unplugging and rediscovering a love of the outdoors. There were stories of adults finding their love of creating and painting; people coping with depression by busying their hands and putting joy out into the world. It was incredible! I joined Downriver Rocks, plus Berkley Rocks and Clawson Rocks. I also joined Kalamazoo Rocks for when we travel to see family. We were hooked!

In a couple of months we discovered rocks at parks, libraries, museums, doctor’s offices, schools, businesses, and events.

This was part of a group of rocks traveling around Woodward Dream Cruise, memorializing a loved one.

We took pictures for posting, and re-hid them.

Soon we started painting our own rocks to share the love.

I keep them in the car or my purse to tuck away in special locations. We’ve painted rocks for family and friends and hid them in nooks inside their house, signing our names on the back. We love getting texts later about their discovery! So if you’re not into posting rocks on social media, you and your kids could enjoy painting and giving rocks to special people – family, teachers, classmates, doctors. This ladybug was hidden in our garden by our neighbor. So sweet!

Over and over people tell me, “How do you start?” or “I love that you do this, but I couldn’t paint rocks because I have no artistic ability.” Here are a few tips:

Grab rocks from your yard and get started. Don’t have any? Go to your local landscaping supply store and purchase some rocks. This is a super fun outing for kids because they love digging for special shapes and colors to paint later. You can also buy small bags of rocks at hardware stores, craft stores, and dollar stores. Depending on where you find them, the rocks can be dirty. Wash them in dish soap and let dry thoroughly.
Purchase brushes and favorite colors of small acrylic paint bottles. Use an old muffin tin as a painter’s palette. Or skip paint and brushes and use Sharpie Oil Base paint pens. Super easy! We loved finding rocks covered in paint pen polka dots.

3. Write down a short list of pictures or words that make you happy. This way when you sit down to paint you aren’t flabbergasted as what to draw. Search social media sites with #thekindnessrocksproject #kindnessrocks #paintedrocks #rockpainting for loads of inspiration.

4. If you feel painting isn’t your jam, clip out small pictures, words or quotes from newspapers, magazines, store fliers or junk mail. Those Scholastic Book order forms would be great for kids to clip. Stickers make decorating easy too. Then you can Modge Podge your stickers or clippings to rocks!

5. Purchase a good sealer for the rocks (apply after the paint job is dry) to prevent chipping or if you want your artwork to last in outdoor weather. Most people use Modge Podge Outdoor or a spray UV-Resistant clear acrylic coating.

6. Search for a local Facebook group by typing your area/town and rocks to find groups. Join one. This is a great place to find painting inspiration. Plus you can see what tag to write on the back. Most groups ( such as Berkley Rocks) have a file of printable tags you can download, print and attach.

7. Start painting! Do this at home with your family. Host a party with some of your neighbors. Search for local events – there are local rock painting parties (both adult-only and family-friendly) at libraries or craft stores. We went to a Saturday afternoon event at Michael’s and it was fabulous. ALL the materials were there (including rocks) and we left the mess at the store!

I hope you enjoy the adventure of paying it forward and spreading a little kindness in the world. We absolutely love being part of this movement and creating art is beyond therapeutic.

Things to remember – please don’t snitch naked rocks from private property or national parks. It is illegal. When hiding painted rocks, keep them close to public walkways to avoid trespassing and away from grassy areas so they don’t get caught in mowers or tossed by trimmers. Also, your own painted rocks may not end up posted on social media.

An Open Letter To My Running Shoes

By

jennifermcgruther

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September 25, 2017

Dear ASICS GEL-Nimbus,

I know they’re sick of our PDA. They’re tired of the social media posts. I’m sure they’re over my sweaty face and hearing how far we went. I know to some extent even those that are rooting for us are done hearing about it. No one can ever really comprehend how much you mean to me.

When I think back to when you came into my life, I never thought we would still be together. I was a mom in my late 30s with three young boys, squeezing in an occasional power-walk in my cross-trainers. I’d enjoy walks with friends, but nothing really stuck. Growing up as non-athletic as you can, it was a bit of a shock to everyone when we made our commitment to one another.

Sometimes, it still is.

Remember when we began our journey with walk/run intervals, but then my BFF suggested we set a race goal and sign up to run a Halloween-themed 5K in Howell? That seemed very official. I had to be prepared. Although intimidated, I went into Running Fit and tried a few on for size; one too big, one too tight, and one just not quite right. But then, there was you. I felt like Cinderella in her glass slippers. The salesperson called you, “The Cadillac of Running Shoes.” To me, however, you were simply a perfect fit . . . a fit that gave this mom a confidence no stiletto ever would.

So we trained. And we ran.

With my BFF/cousin Theresa before my first 5K!

Then you and I trained again for a 10K in Novi, and with some more friends we trained for the Detroit Free Press Relay-Marathon, followed the next year by the Detroit Free Press International Half-Marathon. This past Spring we also ran the Martian 10K in Dearborn.

We did all of this in freezing cold temps and in the blistering sun on our own accord while Adam and the boys were sleeping, working, and at school. Somehow it happened in between grocery shopping, volunteering at school, and soccer practices. Then there was making time for you around my Dad’s chemotherapy treatments . . . then, his funeral. It was a constant challenge, but we did it. When I looked down, you were always there to lift me back up.

We’ve been slower than many, but unstoppable. For the first time ever, I’d found a way to make it stick. Regardless of the mountains I faced, I could always count on you to be there just waiting by the door at a moment’s notice. Some days I felt like we could fly, while other days my legs felt like they were fighting through cement. With your support, I also ugly-cried my way down Six Mile, because sometimes, that’s all we could do. Bottom line Asics, we’ve shared the good, the bad, and the ugly, but I’ve never regretted a moment we’ve spent together.

You see, you changed my life. You gave me hope. There’s this one story I never told you. What began as a back injury on a trampoline, became a diagnosis of Multiple Sclerosis. Yes, it’s true. It was terrifying. I was unable to walk. Tingling and numbness slowly but steadily took over my lower half, leaving me scared and uncertain about what this meant for my potentially bleak long-term-picture. I had MRIs and other tests were done, and endured the horror of steroids, yet got back on my feet . . . more than once.

With my cousin Sarah in Detroit VERY early in the morning before my first half-marathon!

Who would have thought these same, timid (still slightly numb) feet 20 years later would eventually land in a pair of running shoes? Everything was different after you, and the others that followed suit. When placed together next to one another you could easily make a colorful Asics rainbow. This mom has learned so much from you along the way.

You made me feel strong. You taught me how to sweat. You’ve made me a more patient mother and wife. You taught me to make a plan and stick with it. You’ve allowed me to grieve. You’ve taken me further on foot than I ever thought I could go. You don’t judge. You taught me therapy doesn’t have to be on the couch. You’ve (sometimes) convinced me my body is beautiful. You’ve helped me focus in a way nothing else ever could. You taught me it’s OK to be vulnerable.

And, of course, you taught me how to run.

Oh, and my boys. When I ponder the lessons being passed on to them, I am forever grateful that I found you. When I come home, and we’re both drenched in sweat with legs like jello and their first question is, “How many miles today?,” I know it’s all worth it, because they’re worth it. No excuses boys, just get it done.

If you can dream it, you can do it. –Walt Disney

As moms, we spend our lives putting others before ourselves. In our DNA somewhere, it must be laid out that once a tiny human is placed in our arms, we just accept we are no longer first. It’s all a part of the understood package. But you Asics, you helped me to make myself a priority again. Through you, I’ve learned that I may be a mom, but I’m still a woman, and I matter.

I hope those that see us together understand a little more. I hope they, too, can find their perfect pair, or that one thing to make it all stick. Either way, I’m thankful you’re still with me. I need you. This isn’t a good-bye and we’ve-had-a-good-run letter but, rather a let’s-keep-moving-forward and thanks-for-being-faithful to me letter. You’ve really made me a better, stronger person.

Enough with the mushy stuff though, it’s crunch time. We have to finish training to run back up that Ambassador Bridge to Canada, and somehow make it through that sweaty, stinky tunnel on the way back. Yep, I’m scared!

Just keep doing what you’re doing, and I’ll keep doing what I’m doing, and all will be good.

Sincerely,
Your Mother Runner