To my Mom, The One I Don’t Thank Enough

Dear Mom:

Often when we talk I say “Thanks!” or “I appreciate that!”, but it’s usually because you’ve found something baby related that I’ve been searching for, or recommended a book. I don’t think I thank you enough for the values you’ve instilled in me.

I value your…

Strength 

If you asked anyone who knows my mom about her strength, I know they would tell you that she is strong and doesn’t take much from anybody. My dad is retired military and when I complain about my husband working late I always ask “How did you do this with dad gone for months at a time?” Her response is “I had a house to run and kids to raise, I just did it.” And that’s what I remember when growing up, she never dwelled on it. She just kept going. 

Realness

When I call her with a problem or question, I prepare myself because she’s a “don’t ask if you don’t want to know the truth” kind of woman. The sugar coated version of things doesn’t get you anywhere and she makes sure of that. Sometimes I find myself saying “Alright let me down easy!” With my personality I don’t need to be let down easy. I need my mom to still be my mother at times and bring my back to reality. 

Selflessness (to a point)

My mom gives a lot to her family first and then to herself. Now I know a lot of moms do this, but goodness I have a family and live 14 hours away and she still puts me in that first category. I said “Selflessness (to a point)” because she also reminds me everyday to take care of myself as a wife and mom. She lets me know that you can give and give to your family, but if you aren’t happy or healthy then you can’t give 100%. 

Thank you Mom. Thank you for not only catching me up on a TV show I missed and talking to Clari on FaceTime so that I can start cooking dinner, but for guiding and teaching me. I cherish our mother-daughter relationship and friendship more than you’ll ever know. I’m thankful that our children have you to look up to.

If I’m half the mom she has been to me, I will be a happy mom.