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Date Night In and Around the “D”

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So the holidays are over and you’re back to the grind. Work and school, playdates and basketball games, there doesn’t seem like much time at all to cozy up next to your significant other at the end of the day. I think most people recognize that this often happens when kids come along, but there’s no better time than the present to start scheduling those date nights and making them a recurring appointment. 

Date night doesn’t have to be fancy; Sometimes you just need comfort food or a great beer. When your favorite restaurant books up for Valentine’s Day, why not try one of these Metro Detroit favorites and head out for a date night with your love? In no particular order:

1. Townhouse (Detroit, Birmingham)

Voted “The Best of Detroit” by Hour Magazine, Townhouse has menus that differ by location and by meal (lunch, brunch and dinner). You can’t go wrong with their award-winning burgers or if you’re in the mood for greens, I’d recommend the Power Salad. Yum.


2. Big Rock (Birmingham)

Several friends have recommended Big Rock to me. “The filet is hands down my favorite steak in Metro Detroit, and the service is great. Their wine selection and prices can’t be beat, and they have a cigar and martini bar upstairs that’s fun for a nightcap after dinner. It’s a splurge for sure, but the tasting menu is one of a kind.”

3. Social Kitchen (Birmingham)

Who doesn’t love a great rooftop spot in the middle of summer (so what if it’s mid-winter right now, I’m always thinking sunshine and 75 degrees). Social is a great spot for brunch and the Social Skillet is fantastic – create a custom skillet with your choice of veggies, protein, eggs, compliments, etc. Add a cocktail to make it a true day-date. 

4. Clawson Steak House (Clawson)

Another restaurant voted as “The Best of Detroit” by Hour Magazine, the Clawson Steak House’s menu is what you might consider traditional steak house food: steaks, chops and seafood. Try the Baked French Onion Soup before cutting into that filet.

5. Ronin (Royal Oak)

If you love sushi, you have to try Ronin. The contemporary atmosphere is perfect for a date night and their menu has a great mix of specialty and signature rolls. Be sure to try the Mountain Dew roll – which is also featured on their happy hour menu.

6. One Eyed Betty’s (Ferndale)

If you’re looking for a casual night out filled with craft beer (44+ on tap, 61+ bottles) and fried food, OEB’s is the place to go. You can’t make reservations or call ahead, and it’s guaranteed to be busy on the weekend but it is so worth it. The Pork Belly Cuban is sinful and the side of fries is good enough to eat completely before you even take a bite into your “handwich.”

7. Kruse and Muer (Rochester Hills, Rochester, Troy, Lake Orion, Troy, Clarkston)

A Metro Detroit favorite, Kruse and Muer restaurants are a great choice for any type of date night. Their menus offer a variety ranging from traditional steakhouse entrees (steak, pasta, seafood, etc.) to handmade pizzas and the always-delicious poppyseed bread to match perfectly with your Charley’s Chowder. Kruse and Muer also offers a gluten free menu for those in need of other options.

8. The Meeting House (Rochester)

If you’re looking for a seasonal menu, The Meeting House is a great option. Their dishes are always changing and the presentation is superb. Like the name says, it truly is a great place to meet up for dinner with friends or grab cocktails after dinner.

9. Rock City Eatery (Hamtramck en route to Detroit – Midtown)

Rock City Eatery locally sources most of the ingredients on their menu which means it’s always changing and handmade. Save room for dessert as they’re known for their pies. The chocolate caramel pie comes highly recommended so cross your fingers that it’s on the menu for your next visit.

10. Roma Cafe (Detroit – Eastern Market)

This gem, in the heart of Eastern Market, is Detroit’s oldest Italian restaurant, dating back to 1890 (the building was built in 1888!) You can expect authentic Italian food along with decor that will remind you of something you’d see in The Godfather. Be prepared for at least four courses; You can’t go wrong with anything on the menu. My personal favorite is the veal parmigiana. 

11. Small Plates (Detroit – Downtown)

One of my favorite places to frequent when downtown for a game or show is Small Plates. The menu has something for every craving and taste and the plates are obviously perfect for sharing. Try new things and chances are you’ll like it enough to want to order it again.

12. Union Street (Detroit – Midtown)

You know a restaurant is true Detroit when it serves a J.L. Hudson Maurice Salad – just one of the many signature dishes they offer. If you’re looking for a casual night out in the D with a wide menu and a lively crowd, this is the spot to hit.

14. J. Baldwin’s (Clinton Twp.)

A local favorite for many reasons, J. Baldwin’s offers a fantastic mix of shareable dishes, seafood, steak & chops and hand-tossed pizzas. A must-have when visiting is the award-winning calamari that is unlike anything you’ve ever had. 

15. Bad Brad’s BBQ (Shelby Twp., New Baltimore)

Hungry for BBQ? Bad Brad’s is the only place we’ll go. You can get your traditional favorites on a platter with delicious sides, or opt for a pizza in their wood-fire oven. I’m not one to often get appetizers before my meal, however, we can’t come here without getting the BBQ chicken nachos. Ahh-mazing!

16. Marine City Fish Company (Marine City)

Gotta show some love to my hometown favorite! According to me (and the Detroit Free Press) MC Fish Co. is worth the drive to along the St. Clair River. They specialize in local fresh fish, homemade pasta, smoked meats & fish (ribs, jerky and salmon), gourmet sandwiches, steak burgers and homemade desserts. This is one of those places where you’ll develop a favorite dish that you want to get every time you go but will still have a hard time deciding because everything that is brought out looks absolutely delicious. 

Do you have a favorite spot in or around Detroit that I missed? I’d love to hear in the comments below — we’re always looking for a new, fun date night spot.

Homeroom Thoughts: Supporting Your Child’s Education

 
Recently, a neighbor of mine asked a simple question on our neighborhood social media forum: “What are your thoughts on Common Core Curriculum?”  

He had just read an article titled “Massachusetts Dumps Common Core” and wanted to find out more.  He is a parent of small children who will not enter the public school system for a few years yet, but I think his question was really this:  “How do I start preparing my children to succeed in school?”  He was asking his neighbors, and several of us are teachers.  We weighed in:

  • One neighbor teaches fourth grade in our public school, and she spoke in favor of the standards; she felt that the approach to math gave a more realistic education that will better prepare students for real-world problem-solving.  She says she was initially against it, but with training and practice, she now backs it. 
  • Another neighbor teaches second grade in a nearby parochial school and spoke against the new movement.  She feels that, like other “new methods” of the recent past, this too will be deemed ineffectual.
  • I teach in a private school, so we don’t have to deal with Common Core. And, we choose not to. We have a similar but simpler concept, but even that has been problematic. Creating a baseline of uniformity is a practical idea when you are manufacturing ‘stuff,’ like cars or computers; it’s quite a bit trickier when dealing with people.

My Take

My current role is in a high school, working in a learning support capacity. We offer individual tutoring, test for learning disabilities, mentor students on how to use their own strengths to balance their weaknesses, and run professional development on how to differentiate instruction.

I do agree that one theory or another has attempted to “baseline” education. I’m a child of the 80’s; back then the theory was E.D. Hirsch’s “Core Knowledge”. By the time I got to grad school, my education program essentially ripped that theory to shreds. During my first job on the South Side of Chicago, the “No Child Left Behind” legislation ruled, and “ACT readiness standards” was the catchphrase. We all agreed as teachers that the program did not have a desirable result.

I do agree with my pro-Core neighbor that there is a better way to approach education than what we do now. The number one thing I hear from students is: “Why do I ever need to know this in real life?” To some extent, it’s just students complaining and it’s easily mitigated. We require all students to be in athletics, so I use a sports analogy: Your basketball coach requires you to do some weight training; are you ever going to be lifting weights in an actual game? No. Your coach is training your muscles; we are training your brain. The bigger issue, though, is if that basketball coach never had students set foot on an actual court before a game.  The fact that students draw such a distinct line between school and reality is, in and of itself, somewhat troubling to me.  I believe we do need more “court-time” in our classroom.

The Politics of Education

Like any “science,” the theories are constantly evolving. In that vein, change is good. To some extent, however, reform risks becoming a platform that serves political agendas more than it does children.

As a teacher and a parent, I would say the best thing you can do is trust your teachers; I promise, none of us are in this for the money. While I hope we follow Massachusetts’ lead and jump ship sooner rather than later, I believe that if Common Core does weather the storm of educational politics, it will be because of your teachers, not your politicians.

What Can Parents Do To Support Their Students’ Learning?

IMAG8053_BURST015For parents, I think what we need to do is the same regardless of the popular rhetoric of the time. Teachers will handle Common Core, or whatever may come next, and hopefully will have the support and training to do so in the ways that best serves our students. 

This is what I told my neighbor:

  • Get lovingly and appropriately involved as early on as you can. Being involved certainly means different things at different grade levels, but I think the underlying ideas are the same.  Not sure how?  Ask your child’s teacher.  When I was in high school, my pre-calculus teacher told us that when people ask him what he teaches he doesn’t say ‘math’, he says ‘students’. Several of my other teachers saw me in a way that my parents never did.  At home, I was shy, quiet, reserved.  At school, my teachers encouraged me to push my comfort zone and lead. My mom actually told one teacher, “Nicole is not a leader.  It’s just not who she is.”  His response was, “We can wear different hats.  We just want her to try it on.”  
    • My neighbor who teaches 4th grade said this: I would love parents to support their kids at home- check their child’s agenda, online grade book, and do the best they can to stay in the loop. Ask questions, show up to conferences, be present and follow through with what you say at home.”  In high school, I think students who have seen this modeled learn to do it for themselves.  We have an online grade book as well; keep yourself informed, and if you see a grade that concerns you, ask your child about it before asking the teacher.  
  • Especially as your students get older, always keep them involved in their educational plans. The most successful parent meetings I’ve had are when the student is present and involved. There are special circumstances when this might not be appropriate, but for the most part, I think it’s important that students own their goals and not ever feel like there are separate sides between family and the school.
  • Help foster a sense of intellectual curiosity.  We’re still in the “Why” phase right now with my preschooler, and believe me — I know how tough it can be.  My husband had a resume come across his desk in which the person wrote under special skills: “Can successfully answer upwards of ten rounds of ‘Why’ with my three-year-old.”  He almost hired him on the spot!IMAG6604_BURST010
  • Take an interest in what your kids do in school. For example, read as a family. When your kids get old enough to read independently, continue to read with them (my sister just bought herself her 12 year old’s favorite book and he was so excited that she took his recommendation!). My son is in Pre-K and brings home weekly assignments that are meant to be completed together with parents.  I’m beyond embarrassed by the number of them we’ve buried underneath excuses.  The truth is, we’re busy.  We’re always going to be busy.  If we don’t make the time to do this now, I don’t see that changing as the stakes get higher.
  • Praise success as a product of their efforts, not their natural ability (see MindShift for great articles on “Growth Mindset” for students as young as pre-schoolers). I recently re-connected with a student who graduated several years ago.  He remembered with some embarrassment how difficult math was for him.  I recall his struggle, but I mostly remember how hard he worked.  “You put more hard work into something you hated than some people put into what they love,” I told him.  He is doing quite well now, and I have no doubt that he will continue to succeed.
  • Embrace failure as a learning opportunity. I know this is easier with a four-year-old; failure at this stage is mostly not making it to the potty in time, or getting beat in a game of Crazy 8s.  Our high-schoolers seem to have such a narrow view of success, as if any failure will result in a cacophony of slamming doors in their future.  They have a hard time seeing that there is more than one way to achieve a goal, and that what they learn from their mistakes might be the most valuable part of their education.
  • Be responsive when your children’s teacher contacts you.  I’ve heard many teachers talk about phone calls or emails that were never returned.  Again, I’m a parent, too, and I know we are beyond busy.  But we reach out because we care about your student and we want to work with you.
  • Foster Creativity.  The most disturbing aspect of any attempt to standardize education, to me, is the effect it has oIMAG8532n creativity.  I have read many articles on the importance of creativity in the classroom and commentary on our school’s inefficiencies in nurturing it in our children.  As an English teacher, it is both the trait I admire the most and the skill I feel least equipped to teach.  
    • First of all, there seems to be an inherent irony in any approach that attempts to instruct uniqueness (“Here, Junior, let me show you how to be original”).
    • Second, we have trained students to be point-based rubric-followers.  Did you follow the directions?  Have you answered the question?  Is this what we asked for? And, invariably, the biggest obstacles in diverging from these questions are the students themselves. On the whole, they want to be evaluated and assessed.  

I recently read an article on “Unschooling” in which a father justified his decision to homeschool based on the effect he felt school has on creativity.  While I don’t agree with the conclusion (that we need to pull our students out of school), I do appreciate his dedication to inspiring a sense of freedom and wonder in his children.  I recently took my son on an impromptu nature walk and allowed him to choose the directions at each fork in the road.  We got lost for hours.  I teach Ralph Waldo Emerson’s “Nature,” and yet to actually experience it with a four-year-old is a totally different level of education.  As Emerson says, “To speak truly, few adult persons can see nature.  Most persons do not see the sun.  At least they have a very superficial seeing.  The sun illuminates only the eye of the man, but shines into the eye and the heart of the child.”  

At the end of the day, today’s rhetoric of education might be totally different than tomorrow’s.  Regardless, your children will spend more time with you than any one teacher will ever have with them.  Teach them the things that can never be standardized.

Workout Confessions of a New Mom

I’ve always longed to be more than average, but my relationship to working out (and let’s be honest, many aspects of self-discipline, such as  flossing or sending holiday greeting cards) is the typical story of motivational boom and bust. run-750466_960_720

I also want to be clear. I did not enjoy being pregnant. I am not afraid to say this to you because it is likely that you have already been there. It sucks. Beyond the physical discomfort, the thought of ‘losing myself’ in my new role terrified me. We all hear stories about how having children changes your body, leaving dough-like tummies and sapping you of energy for an undetermined amount of years. So, early in pregnancy I just piled the fear of losing control of my physical body on with all the others.

Scared, though I was, I tried to be proactive. This is how it went:

12 weeks pregnant: Yay, I’m pregnant! This pre-natal yoga DVD is so easy… Maybe I should see if they have a more ‘advanced’ version.

20 weeks: I don’t know when I am supposed to exercise when all I have time to do after work is take a nap.

30 weeks: At the pool I am the hippo, slowly lumbering up the stairs and onto dry land. I didn’t realize how much weight the water took off until It was put back on! 

35 weeks: Is this the same yoga DVD I did 5 months ago? If I could breathe, I would complain about how putting my feet up isn’t helping the swelling, or the heartburn. 

Childbirth: Enough said.

1 month post postpartum: “Simple” YouTube exercise video? I’m glad I tried this in my living room and just hope no one could see in the window. 

2 months: Hey, I just had a baby; I earned these stripes! I am losing weight pretty quickly, maybe I should be eating more!

3 months: If I don’t see it, it isn’t there. “Honey, let’s get rid of the scale… and all the mirrors!” What was I thinking?

4 months: I should get a gym membership. (Does not buy gym membership).

5 months:  I know, I’ll sneak a workout into our nap routine and do a plank every time she goes down. (Routine lasts approximately two naps). 

6 months: Ooh! A baby-and-me exercise DVD for $.25 at a yard sale. I’m in! (pops in the DVD a total of one time).

7 months: How did this baby get so big? I think I pulled a muscle picking her up from a nap, or was it from swinging her into the middle of the back seat? Safer for whom? 

8 months: You know what, I love my baby-body. I just need to buy a new wardrobe to fit the new me! (Sticker shock stopped that thought in its tracks).

8.5 months: Nothing is working. Maybe it really is time to get a gym membership. Babysitting is a must so we can go during the day.

9 months: This baby’s been out as long as she’s been in. How come I am still so squishy?!

10 months: So I am not quite making my goal of 5 visits per week. The babysitters know us by name, that must mean we’re here enough!

11 months: You know what, I think I really am getting stronger every day. 

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Dear reader, I don’t know what will happen when my baby is 1 year old, because it hasn’t happened yet.  What you just read is the true exercise diary of a new, stay-at-home-mom of one. All of it is true, especially the last entry.

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Even though I’m now a mom working out, some things have not changed: Zumba can always take my mind off of things and lifting weights makes me feel powerful, but there is one new thing– I really  love those babysitters.

What has gotten you back on track when it seems like everything is standing between you and good healthy habits?

Mom Challenges: Single-Married Life

single-married lifeMom Rant.

We’ve all been there. Hopes for something personal, something to put a little spring  back in our step – as this Michigan grey is starting to DRAG ON AND ON…at least snow, please?  

Me personally, I am a mom to 2 boys and wife of a husband who spends his weeks away and weekends playing catch up. I have my own small business which I love! I am a woman who doesn’t spend a great deal of time making the time to have some self-pampering.  Yes, I shower, mostly every day. Yes, I even shave my legs, well, on occasion – but let’s be real, it’s winter and my husband travels for weeks at a time… anyway. I put on makeup, albeit a little lite.  I feel good {enough} about myself when I take that shower, dry my hair, put on a little mascara and a fresh, clean outfit and go out into the world.  And if I’m really on point, I get my nails done! Granted it’s sometimes in the car pick up line and takes a few days to complete. Woah, look out – It’s the simple things for me.

That changed today.

Today, I am sad. I am frustrated. I am disappointed.  It’s one thing not to be listened to when dealing with responsibilities around the house; it’s another when I find the time, save the money, choose who I want to spend that time and money on only to be really let down. And I will be reminded of this moment for the next several MONTHS while I wait for my hair to grow back.

My let down, as petty and insignificant as it seems, was in the form of a haircut. A haircut that was supposed to bring me joy. Bring my self-worth level up just a little. I’ve been feeling low, this single-married mom life is hard. Mom life in general is hard. This haircut, it was supposed to be a step in a direction for taking ‘a more aware care of me’ approach. But no, not today.

I met the woman I chose to spend the aforementioned time and money on when my sons finally agreed to haircuts – we hit it off, her and I.  She seemed to understand my dilemma with my current ‘growing it out from a previous bad cut’ head of hair status. So today, I came armed with photos inspiration, and trusted her talents to help me find that inner hair peace.

I can tell you it went wrong when she asked if I was ready to add in some highlights, this was more or less the first question asked when I sat in her chair – and went downhill from there. I have never colored my hair at the salon. Just once, from a box, a long time ago. I kept my chin up and kindly suggested sticking to just a hair style that allows it to grow back easily. We can discuss hair color at another visit… moving on. {For the record, I really do like my hair color. I’m fortunate that it’s healthy, great tone, and no grays!}

So now what – the hair is cut, swept and thrown away. I’ve re-washed it in hopes of some ability of my own to make it salvageable. At least make it livable.  Let it grow.

I’m still upset to see the silver lining of this experience, but would like to offer a few suggestions in hopes of coming to peace.

  1. I DID get my me time
  2. I DID get an awesome hair wash (by far the best part, right!?)
  3. My sons DID notice – though the comment was ‘Mom, what happened to your hair?’ #honest
  4. It is winter (so I am told), wearing a hat is A-Okay!
  5. It Will Grow.

That last point, it will grow, it resonates. It’s the truth. And not just for hair; it’s also the truth for being a mom.

We grow, we experience intense challenges, we get cut off, and experience many hiccups in our days (and night).  Being a mom brings such joy and heart ache. I am taking this disappointment and aiming to channel it into opportunity to be at peace with challenge.

It’s only hair. It will grow. Let it grow. Let me grow.

xo

Kate

PS: of course – this song is stuck in my head! With a catchy tune and great message, my outlook has already changed.  Thanks for reading.

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Mom Brain: The Struggle is Real.

Have you ever searched frantically for your phone, only to discover that you’re actually talking on it?

Have you put something in a “special place” in order to remember its whereabouts, only to tear up your house from top to bottom searching for that very item a mere few days (or hours!) later?

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Do you sometimes forget why you entered the room, even though you’re sure you had a very specific purpose only moments prior?

Perhaps you’re guilty of occasionally mixing up your children’s names, or even forgetting them at all. You might be a little unclear as to what day it is, or you may discover mid-morning that you’ve once again put your underwear on backwards or your pants (ok, leggings!) on inside out.

Does any of this sound familiar? If any of the above criteria apply, welcome to the club.

You, my friend, have Mom Brain.

Yes, it’s really a thing….at least according to the lovely ladies of Metro Detroit. And it’s something that we are all plagued by, whether we like to admit to it, or not!

I had a horrible Mom Brain moment just this week: I thought I’d be the nice mom and take my son’s forgotten library book to school. I know how much he loves getting a new book each week, and how bummed he’d be to realize that he’d left last week’s book at home. So I zipped up to school (as much as anyone carting two little kids in full snow gear can actually zip) to deliver his book. I was feeling pretty great about our little errand….until I realized that the book I brought wasn’t actually a library book. Nope. I had my son summoned out of class by the school secretary only to deliver a random book from our home book shelf. Yeah…..if that doesn’t scream EMBARRASSING, or GET IT TOGETHER MOM, I’m not sure what does. Thankfully, my son took it in stride. I don’t even want to know what the school secretary thought. She was nice enough to chuckle “with me” as I attempted to apologize while simultaneously making a hasty exit. Mom Brain strikes again!

Have you ever had a mortifying moment like this? After beating myself up about it for all of five minutes, I decided to have some fun with my faux pas by reaching out to my friends, my MOPS group, and my fellow Detroit Moms Blog Contributors: all women I highly esteem. Surely there was safety in numbers!

My girls didn’t let me down, here’s what they had to say & share:

I’ve put a baby in the tub wearing a diaper, double diapered another baby, put food in the microwave that I never ate, then wondered why I was hungry only to find it hours later, forgotten every item needed at daycare at one time or another, and more!  -Erin

I went to Target and found some major deals. I bought tubs for storage, the next stage car seat for the baby and more. I now drive a smaller car that has two car seats in the back, and my trunk was already filled with a stroller and more! As I was loading the car I realized that ‘yes I can get this junk stuffed in now, but when I pick the kids up from daycare there will be no room for them!’. Since I was only a mile from daycare and my kids needed to be picked up in 10 minutes before they closed, I had to ask the daycare to store my large purchased items. What was I thinking!!!! -Danielle

Oh and I can’t tell you how many times I’ve searched everywhere looking for my car keys and they are in my hand along with all the other items I’m carrying to the car. I can’t help but laugh every time! -Danielle

I have one of those keyless entry cars. On a trip running errands, I got out of the car and all the way into the store until it dawned on me that I never turned off the car. -Jessica

Right after my first was born, we took him to his first doctors visit and I forgot an extra outfit. He then proceeded to have a blowout all over the place. Thank God my mom was at our house and could rush us at new outfit. Who forgets extra clothes?? -Amber

I also put my son’s coat on yesterday and didn’t realize it until I had it half zipped. I though I just gained wayyyyy too much weight. Nope. Just in my kid’s (size 4/5) coat. -Amber

I once drove to Lexington for the day on a family outing with no formula or bottles. Had to stop at a small town grocery store and buy everything! -Kimberly

I can’t remember a lot of the first year of my kids’ lives. It’s just a sleep-deprived haze…. -Rebecca

Today I took off baby’s bunting with her sitting on top of a table and then walked away to do something else…with baby sitting upright by herself (luckily not right at the edge) -Emilie

I have (on two separate occasions) been so focused on bringing everything to the gym that I 1) locked the car keys in the house 2) got most of the way there before remembering that I forgot my gym shoes! -Emilie

How about 3 out of the 4 days this week my underwear have been inside out? Does that count as “mom brain”, lol?!?! -Elizabeth

For me – the more kids I have the worse it gets. -Elizabeth

When my daughter was about 1.5 months old, we were at a birthday party and one of the kids there asked me what her name was. It took me a good minute to remember. -Kelly

Forgetting about Preschool yoga (which is held at the library) and going to the library at the same time just to play. Oops! -Kelly

Somedays I feel like I am queen of Mom Brain -Kelly

I’m sure have had plenty of these moments but my mom brain can’t recall a single one at the moment! -Erica

Because of Mom Brain, I can’t remember anything. Aaaahhhh!!!! -Kathy

Talking to a friend on the phone while frantically searching for where the heck my phone was!! -Heather

Because of my mom/pregnancy brain I can only think of a few, although I know there are a million stories! A few that I can recall are:

  • having a really hard time telling someone my son’s birth-date when asked, for the first whole year of his life! 
  • Almost leaving the coney island restaurant without paying the bill (a pay at the cashier type place).
  • Leaving the house and not realizing I didn’t put my contacts in until I’m driving down the street and can’t see a thing! -Melissa

 

Have you had Mom Brain? Share you story!

 

 

 

 

 

The Ultimate Library Guide: In + Around Detroit

Local Library Guide

Winter blues setting in? Cold weather got you down? Our Ultimate Library Guide has you covered!

Now that another Michigan winter is officially upon us, we thought you might like some ideas for free indoor activities to keep you and your kids hopping into spring!

Many local libraries and book stores offer programs that encourage reading, writing, gaming (think LEGO and Minecraft) and even music and movement. This is not the quiet library we knew! These varied programs are available for ages 0 – 18 and often include events for the whole family like movie nights, crafting and festivals!

Your local library is a wealth of educational entertainment right around the corner!

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*Please check individual library calendars for specific times and additional programs available.

Ann Arbor District Library:

  • Downtown: 343 South Fifth Avenue, Ann Arbor, Michigan 48104
  • Malletts Creek: 3090 E. Eisenhower Parkway, Ann Arbor, MI 48108
  • Traverwood: 3333 Traverwood Drive, Ann Arbor, MI 48105
  • West Branch: 2503 Jackson Ave, Ann Arbor, MI 48103
  • Pittsfield: 2359 Oak Valley Dr., Ann Arbor, MI 48103

PROGRAMS: Pre-school Story Time, Baby Playgroups, Dancing Babies, Just Babies, Sensation Stations, Friends in Song and Story, Twinkletoes, Pre-school Art Start, Emerging Writers, Crafting Activities, Minecraft, Young Rembrandts

Auburn Hills Public Library:

  • 3400 East Seyburn Drive, Auburn Hills, Michigan 48326

PROGRAMS: Help Me Grow Development Activity, Baby and Toddler Lap-sit, Pre-school Story Time, Wordplay: Rhymes and Pre-school Activities, Little Explorers, LEGO Club, Family Movie Day, Young Artists, Crafting Activities

Barnes and Noble:

  • Please check website for location and times.

PROGRAMS: Story Time, Book Fairs, Musical Performances, Author Signings

Birmingham, Baldwin Public Library:

  • 300 W. Merrill St., Birmingham, MI 48009

PROGRAMS: Mother Goose Story Time, Baby Time, Just Me Stories, Kindergarten – 1St, Pizza and Pages (Teen), Mother Daughter Book Club, Ruff Readers, Sing and Tell, Family Carnival

Canton Public Library:

  • 1200 S. Canton Center Rd., Canton, MI 48188

PROGRAMS: ABC Activity Time, Baby Story Time, Pre-school Story Time, Family Story Time, Minecraft, Family Movies/Activities

Clinton Macomb Public Library:

  • Main Branch: 40900 Romeo Plank, Clinton Twp., MI 48038
  • South Branch: 35679 South Gratiot, Clinton Twp., MI 48035
  • North Branch: 16800 24 Mile, Macomb Twp., MI 48042

PROGRAMS: Baby time, Tot Times, Tot plus, Little Listeners, Little Listeners Plus, Preschool, Music and Movement, Family Movies, Pop-up Play Times, Kids Zumba, PAWS for Reading

Dearborn Public Library:

  • Henry Ford Centennial Library: 16301 Michigan Ave., Dearborn, MI 48126
  • Bryant Branch: 22100 Michigan Ave., Dearborn, MI 48126
  • Esper Branch: 12929 West Warren, Dearborn, MI 48126

PROGRAMS: Tumble Books, Babies Story time, Toddler, Pre-school, School aged +, Busy Bags, Craft Activities, LEGO club

Detroit Public Library:

  • Main: 5201 Woodward Ave., Detroit, MI
  • 22 Other locations to serve you!

PROGRAMS: Baby Story Time, Toddler, Pre-school, Nursery Rhyme Time, Music and Play Activities

Ferndale Library:

  • 222 E. Nine Mile Rd., Ferndale, MI 48220

PROGRAMS: Tree buds, Tree Sprouts, Family Trees, Elementary/Middle School Grades Book Club, Crafting Activities

Farmington Community Library:

  • Main Branch: 32737 W. Twelve Mile Rd., Farmington Hills, MI 48334  
  • Farmington Branch:  23500 Liberty St., Farmington, MI 48335

PROGRAMS: Baby Time, Little Me, Terrific Twos, Preschool, Musical Movement, Play Dates, Family movies, Family Concerts, Read it – Rate it – Make it, Homeschool Exploration

Flint Public Library:

  • 1026 E. Kearsley St., Flint, MI 48503

PROGRAMS: Rhymes & Reading, Saturday Story Time, Walk-in Crafts, Family Concert with Storytellers

Grosse Pointe Public Library:

  • Central: 10 Kercheval Avenue, Grosse Pointe Farms, MI 48236
  • Ewald: 15175 E. Jefferson, Grosse Pointe Park, MI 48230
  • Woods: 20680 Mack Ave, Grosse Pointe Woods, MI 48236

PROGRAMS: Mommy Pop-ins, Family Movies, LEGO club, Mother-Daughter Book Club, Baby Time, Toddler, Pre-school, Reader Dog

Independence Township Library:

  • 6495 Clarkson Td., Clarkston, MI 48346

PROGRAMS: Little Gigglers Story Time, Pre-school Story Time, Wee wigglers, Parent/Tween book Club, Baby and Me Story Time, Saturday Morning Live!, Pajama Story Time, LEGO Club, Minecraft Monday, Little Explorers

Lapeer District Library:

  • 201 Village West Dr. S., Lapeer, MI 48446
  • 7 Locations to Serve you!

PROGRAMS: Baby Time, Toddler Tales, Wake Up & Wiggle, Family Story Time, Family Fun Nights

Livonia Public Library:

  • Civic Center Library: 32777 Five Mile Rd., Livonia, MI 48154
  • Carl Sandberg Library: 30100 Seven Mile Rd., Livonia, MI 48152
  • Alfred Noble Library: 32901 Plymouth Rd., Livonia, MI 48150
  • Vest Pocket Library: 33000 Civic Center Dr., Livonia, MI 48154

PROGRAMS: Baby Story time, Toddler, Pre-school, Family, Drop In, Musical Mayhem, Saturday Cinema, Craft Activities Families & Jammies,

Lyon Township Public Library:

  • 27005 Milford rd., Couth Lyon, MI 48178

PROGRAMS: Pre-school Story Time, LEGO Club, Craft Open House

Mount Clemens Public Library:

  • 150 Cass Ave., Mount Clemens, MI 48043

PROGRAMS: Family Story Time, Crafting Activities, Kid-Friendly Jam Session, Youth Talent Show

Novi Library:

  • 45255 W. 10 Mile Road, Novi, MI 48375

PROGRAMS: Baby Time, Tot Time, The Two of us, Three’s Company, On My Own, Snack Tales, Musical Story Time for babies and tots, Crafting Activities

Orion Township Public Library:

  • 825 Joslyn Rd., Lake Orion, MI 48362

PROGRAMS: Baby Time, Mother Goose, Pre-school Pals, Game On!, LEGO Club, Teen Geek Club, Doggone Readers, Music and Movement, Math Gone Wild, Sleepover, Crafting Activities

Oxford Public Library:

  • 530 Pontiac St., Oxford, MI 48371 

PROGRAMS: Bitty Bops, Toddler Time, Pre-school Time, Wee Wednesday, After School Adventures, Teddy Tales (Bed Time), LEGO Club, Saturday Movies, Craft Activities

Plymouth District Library:

  • 223 South Main St., Plymouth, MI 48170

PROGRAMS: Baby Time, Toddler, Pre-school, Family Story Time, R.E.A.D., LEGO Club, Family Fun Nights, Pizza and Pages, Family Festivals

Pontiac Public Library:

  • 60 E. Pike St., Pontiac, MI  48342

PROGRAMS: Evening Story Time, Come Play with Me, LEGO and Roblox Club, Family Events, Family Movies

Rochester Hills Public Library:

  • 500 Olde Towne Rd, Rochester, MI 48307

PROGRAMS: Preschool, Silly Sensory, Mother Goose, Music & Me, Family Fun, Tot Time, Hop Skip & Jump, Babies Play, Little Scientists, Crafting Activities

Romeo District Library:

  • Graubner: 65821 Van Dyke Rd., Washington, MI  48095 
  • Kezar Library: 107 Church St., Romeo, MI 48065

PROGRAMS: Toddler Time, Pre-school Prep, Battle of the Books

Royal Oak Public Library:

  • 222 E. Eleven Mile Rd., Royal oak, MI 48067

PROGRAMS: Toddler Story Time, 4 and 5 Year Old Story Time, Family Story Time, Family Science Workshop, Sci Fi to Sci Fact!, Puppet Show, Music Time, LEGO Time, Video Games for Tweens

Shelby Township Library:

  • 51680 Van Dyke, Shelby Twp, MI 48316

PROGRAMS: Toddler Tales, Preschool Pages, Baby Bears, Jammies and Books, Afterschool Games

Southfield Public Library:

  • 26300 Evergreen Rd., Southfield, MI 48076

PROGRAMS: Baby Bounce, Toddler, Pre-school, Pop-Up Movie Night, Kids Yoga

Springfield Township Library:

  • 12000 Davisburg Rd., Davisburg, MI 48350

PROGRAMS: Toddler Time, Little Me, On My Own Story Time

St. Clair Shores Public Library:

  • 22500 Eleven Mile Road, St. Clair Chores, MI 48081

PROGRAMS: Tot play, Tot Story Time, Family Story Time, Preschool, Lego Block Parties, Crafts, Family Movie Matinee,

Sterling Heights Library:

  • 40255 Dodge Park Road, Sterling Heights, MI 48313

PROGRAMS: Shake Rattle & Roll, Family Film, Lap-sit, Talk & Play, Stories & Such, Toddler Time, PAWS for Reading, Family Gaming Day

 **Adaptive Story time for Children with Special needs

Troy Public Library:

  • 510 W. Big Beaver Troy, MI 48084

PROGRAMS: Preschool, Toddler, Lap-sit, Bouncing Babies, Pajama Family, Crafting Activities

Warren Public Library:

  • Civic Center Library: 1 City Sq. Ste. 100, warren, MI 48093 
  • Arthur Miller Branch: 5460 Arden, Suite 303, Warren, MI 48092
  • Maybelle Burnette Branch Library: 22005 Van Dyke, Warren, MI 48089

PROGRAMS: Baby Lap-sit, Book Tots, Toddler Time, Preschool, Play and Learn, PAWS to Read, Craft Activities, Special Exhibits

Waterford Township Public Library:

  • 5168 Civic Center Drive, Waterford, Michigan 48329

PROGRAMS: Baby Time, Toddler Time, 2 Year Old, 3 Year Old, Saturday Story Time, LEGO Club, Tail Wagging Tutors, Tumble Books

West Bloomfield Township Public Library:

  • Main Branch: 4600 Walnut Lake Road, West Bloomfield, MI 48323
  • Westacres Branch: 7321 Commerce Road, West Bloomfield, MI 48324

PROGRAMS: Baby Time, Little Scientists, PJ Story Time, Time for Tots, Bi-Lingual (Spanish) Story Time, Family Group, Saturday Morning Live!, Read to Dog

Westland, William P. Faust Public Library:

  • 6123 Central City Pkwy, Westland, MI 48185

PROGRAMS: Baby Time, Toddler tales, Preschool, Sleepy Time, K-2, Gaming, Homework Help, Art Time, Minecraft, Adventures in Non-fiction

Wyandotte, Bacon Memorial Library:

  • 45 Vinewood St., Wyandotte, MI 48192

PROGRAMS: Baby Time, Toddler, Pre-school, Family Fun Night, LEGO Club, Read to Therapy Dogs, Crafting Activities

 

Have you taken advantage of YOUR local library? What programs do you and your family enjoy?

 

 

 

Making Resolutions Meaningful

whyAt the beginning of the month, many of us made resolutions to help us be thinner, happier, more organized, or whatever perceived shortcoming we felt that we needed to “fix”. Well, to that I say BAH.

It’s time to reclaim our resolutions that we made for 2016 and make them meaningful, attainable, and even fun.

Give them Meaning

Let’s be honest for a second. When you make resolutions that aren’t meaningful to you, you only stick to them for a few days. Right? Sure, you think you want to exercise everyday, but if you’re not a workout fanatic, exercising just to exercise isn’t going to be enough for you. You’ll have to dig in and find some deeper motivation for the resolution—not just the guilt or “should” factor. Think about your why. Why do you want to exercise regularly? How does it make you feel? What are the benefits for you on a daily basis? Maybe it’s the joy that comes from multitasking exercise and getting time with your friends!

Set Up a System

It’s more than just setting a goal, you have to make it attainable by getting a system into place. For example, let’s say your goal is to get 7 hours of sleep most nights. Think about your barriers to making that a reality. What are you doing that’s taking time away from sleep? Is it your phone or iPad in your bed with you? Mindless TV shows? Laundry or housekeeping chores? Instead of just winging it every night, make a routine and set a time to start it. “At 9pm every night, I’ll tidy up the kitchen. I’m going to leave my phone on a charger in there. Then I’ll go to my room with a book, get ready for bed, and read until 10pm. Then it’s lights out!” 

The other part of this system is getting someone on your team: a cheerleader or accountability partner. It’s probably not your husband or domestic partner. Though they can be important for support—generally you’ll take feedback and check-ins a little more seriously if they come from outside your house. 

Hopefully these two tips will help you make and keep some resolutions that matter! May I recommend something that involves self-care? Could be more coffee dates with friends, more dates with your spouse, more dates with yourself. Something that fills up your cup and helps you feel ready to tackle the days and weeks ahead. That should make it easier for you to keep, and stay on track as the month and year progress.

How are your New Year’s Resolutions going? Have you stuck with, or revised your 2016 goals?

The Sport of Resale Shopping

Do you have baby clothes and baby gear coming out your ears? I personally have to maneuver a labyrinth of plastic bins and precariously stacked toys to get though my garage. Are you ready to get rid of some or all of your gently used items, but reluctant to toss or give them away?

Maybe you are the polar opposite and live clutter-free, but have just discovered 3 days after Christmas that you need a whole new set of toddler clothes because your child hit a growth spurt and went from a 2T to a 3T overnight?

Maybe, like me, you are just a shopaholic and need a more economical way to continue your habit? Whatever your shopping conundrum, resale and consignments may be for you!

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I’ll admit I was reluctant at first. When I was pregnant I wanted everything new and shiny for this precious baby. Despite the constant reminders that “Kids outgrow things before they outwear them!” and “she’ll only wear that Christmas dress once” I could not be deterred. Soon after she was born, and thus soon after she had spit up on everything we owned, I came to the realization that we spent a lot of hard earned money (and so did our dear friends and family) on vomit receptacles. It was like a college dorm room. Yea, that’s gross. Welcome to parenthood.

One day while I was shopping with a friend, we came across a resale shop where my world was changed. Imagine my surprise when we found perfectly good, not stained, not torn, not worn out clothes at very discounted prices! Not only that, there was some really cute stuff!

It was like the heavens opened and the angels sang. I bought $200 worth of clothes for $37!! I mean really, why had I resisted? I not only stopped resisting, it became a sport.

I love finding the cutest clothes in mint condition because ironically, they actually do out grow them before they out-wear them! I started attending mom to mom sales and looking for my favorite resale shops.

Here are a few things I have come to realize:

  1. There is no shame in the resale game. Saving money is a universal language! It’s also a real life saver to many families so selling to consignments is a win-win for everyone!
  2. Less wanton waste. I don’t care if you sell it, donate it or raffle it off; if someone is reusing something you can’t use anymore, that means less in a landfill and less resources to produce more.
  3. No one knows the difference. I say that with caution because I truly believe there is no shame in it. I tout it. I tell people who don’t ask, “Look at this great jacket I got her. For $9!”
  4. When it comes to the Mom to Mom sales, the early bird gets the best big ticket items!
  5. Take your kids with you to the shops. It’s an easy way to see what they like. Sure they fall in love with red cowboy boots that match nothing you own and are a terrible idea for winter, but you know what they are great for… dress up and Halloween! And they were $3! NOTE: I would NOT recommend that for mom to mom sales where a lot of booty is at the floor level for little ones to grab and fall in love with.

So if you are so inclined to take up a new sport,

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try this competitive shopping where saving more of your own money is the prize!

Below is a list of some great places that the DMB moms love to shop. Happy hunting!

The Funky Frog Children’s Resale Boutique (Rochester)

Restyle Child (Birmingham)

Children’s Orchard (Sterling Heights)

Lollipop Kids Children’s Resale (Shelby Township)

All Saints Episcopal Church (Pontiac)

Mom to Mom Sales

Another Child (St. Clair Shores)

Little Rascals resale and Boutique (Fraser)

Noni’s Kids Cupboard (Riverview)

Nine Month Bump (Trenton)

Baby Baby Plus More (Northville)

Grow With Me (Ann Arbor)

Once Upon a Child (Ann Arbor, Canton, Southfield, Troy)

Mommy Must Haves (Farmington)

Our Blessing’s Consignment (Milford)

 

Do YOU love to resale shop for your children?

What venue would you add to our list?

Why My One-Year-Old Has Instagram

Not long after my son was born, I set up a Gmail account in his name and also started him an Instagram. I suppose this would classify me as a “basic” Millennial Mom but growing up in this day and age, most of our days {whether or not you fully support it} are based around technology and social media. I figured, ‘why not start him now before someone else takes his handle.’

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I’ve come to learn that people have very strong opinions about sharing children’s photos online. Maybe I’m naive about cyber predators and other Internet crazies, but what’s the difference if I share an occasional photo on my personal page {without his permission} or create his own that he can one day delete if he doesn’t want it?

You might think, ‘a child should have a choice of whether or not he wants a social media presence.’ To that, I say: do you let your kid decide if/when he’s going to bathe or if you’re enrolling him in swim lessons at 1 year old? No. You do it because you’re the parent and parents make decisions with the betterment of the child in mind. I would never do something that intentionally places my son in harm’s way.

 

 
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I may not be a Kardashian, but I do have a personal brand that I’ve worked hard to establish and maintain. My son is a major part of that now but I am still me: a wife, mom, daughter, sister, cousin, friend, and everything in between. My social media accounts reflect who I am in each facet of my life, including my social life, beliefs and work. I don’t need to be bogging down family and friends’ timelines and threads everyday with new photos and videos of my son’s “firsts,” his adorable belly laugh {ok, maybe that one should be shared with the masses}, or his newest trick. That’s why he has his own account; Family and friends that are approved to {yes, his account is private} and choose to see photos and videos can, by simply following him.

 

The best part of my day is being able to capture the fun {and many times the craziness} that I have with my little man. I want to be able to share that with the people in his life that aren’t there everyday while trying to figure out from what perspective he is coming. The Instagram captions are written by my husband or me based on what we believe our son would say. It’s fun to be able to think like a toddler for a minute and realize that nothing else in the world truly matters. Life is easy, humorous and simple. Plus, iPhones and computers only have so much storage — these accounts are ways to preserve a lifetime of memories. 

 

When my son is old enough to use social media on his own, email might be a thing of the past. But right now, it’s one of the most popular forms of communication. By giving his email address to family and friends, I’ve been able to create a digital scrapbook for him to look back on and place a date and time to a particular event. People have emailed him {I promise I have not read them} sharing photos or funny stories from earlier in the day, or to simply remind him how much they love him. When he’s a teenager I plan to give him the password so that he can go back on his own time and read at these memories over and over again.

 

If, one day, my son chooses to delete these accounts I created for him that’s fine. It’s his prerogative. But today they’re there, and here to stay.

 

Do your kids have social media accounts? What is your opinion on this topic? Share in the comment box below!

Promise to Empower, Not Judge

 

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In a society obsessed in keeping up with the Jones’, this month is the perfect opportunity to reflect on all of the great things we’re thankful for and take the time to make a simple promise to yourself: empower those around you and leave the judgement behind.

 

It’s so easy sometimes to get wrapped up in the drama that surrounds our lives. It’s on Facebook, it’s at the gym, it’s even at family gatherings. The hard part, though, is stepping back from the gossip and using that moment to teach those participating how impactful judgement can be. 

 

My husband and I were featured on House Hunters back in 2012 when we moved back to Detroit from Chicago. The filming experience was pretty neat and we enjoyed getting to learn a little more about how “reality TV” works. Once our episode aired, we quickly learned how easily it is for people to judge you based on nothing more than a quick 20 minute glimpse into your home-buying experience. We made the mistake (and still do whenever the episode reairs) of following along with #HouseHunters on Twitter to see what people had to say. 

“#HouseHunters She doesn’t want dark countertops/stainless because they need to be cleaned? WTF?
Newsflash: houses need 2b cleaned, SLOB!”

 

Even if you’re not a fan of the Kardashians, you have to admit that receiving millions of Tweets (much worse than that) on a daily basis is unkind and unnecessary. Online judgement (AKA cyber bullying) has even garnered the attention of Jimmy Kimmel so much that he has an ongoing segment called Mean Tweets where celebrities have to read statements sent to them from people online. While some of the Tweets are so ridiculous they’re comical, our children – unfortunately – aren’t as emotionally stable as some celebrities today. It’s important that we share with them the importance of being kind to others and that anything less than that won’t be tolerated. 

 

The most important thing I’ve learned when it comes to trying to live positively, is to surround myself with an empowering community of people with the same values. Does this mean that I’m always on my best behavior? No, we all make mistakes but acknowledging those pitfalls and striving to be a better person each day is really what life is all about. 

Hopefully our kids will see that there’s no place for judgement in the world today and it all starts with us. We need to set the example for which our children should follow. After all, if we don’t teach them now, who will?

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