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A Mom’s Guide to Shredder Livonia

Detroit Mom partnered with the amazing people at Shredder Livonia to bring you this post. All opinions are our own.

Are you thinking of getting your kids involved in winter sports? Now is the perfect time to check out the indoor ski and snowboard lessons offered at Shredder Livonia. Yep, skiing and snowboarding–indoors!

Year-round lessons at Shredder are an incredible way to introduce your kids to the world of winter sports. It allows them the opportunity to practice their skills in a controlled environment where fun and safety are the number one priorities. Oh, and did we mention that the lessons are convenient, too? You won’t have to lug around all that gear or have your kids learning out in the snow!

Shredder Livonia is a truly unique opportunity for your kids to build confidence, make friends, learn new skills, and have fun. With a variety of lessons for ages 1-10 (and private lessons, too!), your kids will find that this is the place to be all year long so they can keep their skills sharp before heading out each winter. Keep reading for your ultimate guide to all things Shredder Livonia, and then get your kids registered before the fall session begins on September 9!

What lessons are offered at Shredder, and for what ages?

Shredder Livonia offers multiple classes and lessons, based on age. And, all gear is provided for children up to age 10. The classes are as follows:

  • Yeti School: for kids ages 1-3. This parent-child class introduces kids to skiing and snowboarding. It is a great opportunity for kids to discover there’s more to winter than just playing in the snow!
  • Little Shredders (Ski or Snowboard): for kids ages 3-5. This class offers tailored lessons in skiing or snowboarding to build foundational skills while improving balance and coordination.
  • Ski School or Snowboard School: for kids ages 5-10. This class provides more advanced instruction to develop and refine skiing or snowboarding techniques while working on athletic development and coordination.
  • Private lessons: available for any age. Private lessons at Shredder offer personalized, one-on-one instruction tailored to individual needs and skill progression.

What is a typical ski or snowboard lesson like at Shredder?

A ski or snowboard lesson at Shredder is not just constant runs up and down the slopes. We provide a structured curriculum for the classes, with a different theme and focus each week that progresses on itself. However, we also educate students about mountain safety, teach independence to get their own gear on and carry their own equipment, and work through flat ground movements to improve balance and coordination.

A typical lesson has around 20-30% of the first portion of class focusing on those basic fundamentals that help build a solid foundation before heading up the ramps to work on specific drills and exercises that build on that foundation to improve the child’s knowledge and confidence. All while making it fun, safe, and engaging for the kiddos!

What makes Shredder unique in its approach to teaching kids how to ski or snowboard?

When kids attend ski or snowboard lessons, they’re receiving the best possible education while having fun! There are some special aspects to learning at Shredder Livonia, including:

  • being in a controlled environment: teaching indoors eliminates unpredictable and harsh winter elements, such as extreme cold, wind, and snow. This creates a more comfortable learning experience for young children.
  • having year-round accessibility: the indoor setting allows for skiing and snowboarding lessons year-round. This provides consistent opportunities for skill development without being limited by seasonal weather conditions.
  • ensuring safety and focus: without the distractions of outdoor weather, children can concentrate fully on learning the techniques of skiing and snowboarding in a safe and controlled environment.
  • being ideal for beginners: indoor lessons are particularly beneficial for beginners who may be intimidated by the outdoor elements. The indoor environment makes it easier for them to get started and build confidence before transitioning to the outdoor slopes.
  • being beneficial for all levels: indoor lessons are also a great place for kiddos with some experience to come and practice their skills and progress their riding without the elements, so they are ready to conquer the slopes more confidently!
  • convenience for parents: parents can rest assured that their children are learning in a warm, dry, and comfortable space, making it more convenient and enjoyable for families to participate in lessons. Parents also have a warm, dry lobby they can watch their child’s lesson from!

What safety features are in place to ensure kids are safe during lessons?

The safety of our students is of the utmost importance to us here at Shredder Livonia. Here are some of the ways we ensure your kids are safe during their ski or snowboard lessons:

  • padded surfaces: the indoor facility is equipped with padded walls and floors to minimize the risk of injury from falls or collisions.
  • parental involvement: For the Yeti School (ages 1-3), parental involvement is required. This not only helps the child feel more secure but also adds an extra layer of supervision. The Little Shredder (ages 3-5) and Ski/Snowboard School (ages 5-10) do not require parental involvement and are drop-off style classes; however, parents are encouraged to watch the lesson from our comfortable lobby to observe their child’s development.
  • progressive learning: lessons are designed to progress at a pace suitable for each child’s ability level. Doing so reduces the likelihood of pushing them into situations beyond their skill set. This approach helps prevent accidents that could occur from taking on too much, too soon.
  • properly sized equipment: all ski and snowboard gear is appropriately sized for each child. This ensures better control and reduces the risk of accidents. And, the gear provided is regularly inspected and maintained to ensure safety.
  • safety gear: all children are required to wear helmets during their lessons, providing head protection in case of falls or bumps.
  • small class sizes: class sizes are kept small to allow for more individualized attention. This ensures that each child is closely monitored and guided throughout the lesson.

Do my kids need to have their own equipment in order to participate?

We provide all gear (skis/boots, snowboards/boots, and helmets) for up to approximately age 10. Depending on the child’s shoe size, we can accommodate older than 10 years old.

Aside from lessons, what else does Shredder offer?

We’re more than just ski or snowboard lessons! We also offer birthday parties (standard parties and ski/snowboard parties), summer camps, Parents Night Out, holiday camps, and open gyms!

How do indoor lessons correlate with outdoor skiing or snowboarding experiences?

Indoor lessons can offer a smooth transition to outdoor skiing or snowboarding. Once kids have a solid foundation indoors, transitioning to outdoor skiing or snowboarding becomes easier and more enjoyable. The familiarity with techniques and equipment gained indoors helps them adapt more quickly to the different surfaces and conditions they’ll encounter outdoors. Here are a few things kids work on indoors, to improve their experience outdoors:

  • confidence building: the indoor lessons help build confidence as children practice and refine their skills. By the time they move outdoors, they are more likely to feel prepared and capable, reducing anxiety and enhancing their overall enjoyment of the sport.
  • controlled environment: Shredder Livonia provides a safe, controlled setting that is free from weather-related challenges. This ensures that kids can focus on mastering their skills without the distractions or difficulties of varying outdoor conditions.
  • familiarization with equipment: the indoor environment allows kids to become comfortable with ski and snowboard equipment, making the transition to outdoor settings smoother. Since all gear is provided up to age 10, they become accustomed to wearing and using the equipment before they face the added variables of outdoor conditions.
  • skill development: indoor lessons focus on the same techniques and fundamentals used in outdoor skiing and snowboarding. Kids learn to balance, control their speed, turn, and stop, all of which are essential for outdoor terrains.

Overall, Shredder Livonia’s indoor ski and snowboard lessons are an effective stepping stone to outdoor ski experiences, ensuring that kids are well-prepared and confident when they hit the slopes. Shredder’s mission is to develop confident and knowledgeable skiers and riders in a fun and safe environment, and our goal is for families to have more enjoyable, quality time together on the slopes!

Shredder’s fall session begins September 9, 2024. For more information and to register for lessons, visit their website today!

How to Cultivate Gratitude in Your Kids

“Mom, why is that guy holding a sign by the side of the road?” asked my seven-year-old daughter from the back seat of the car. I explained, “He’s asking for money because he might not have enough food to eat or a place to stay.” This recent conversation, which involved both of my kids, sparked a profound lesson on gratitude.

While my kids are still in the early stages of learning life’s lessons, this encounter served as an eye-opening experience, reminding them of the importance of gratitude and appreciating their blessings. Seeing someone less fortunate firsthand made them realize how much they have to be thankful for, sparking a deeper sense of gratitude in their young hearts. It also raised awareness about the abundance of material possessions they’ve accumulated.

My kids, like many others, have their fair share of toys and tech. However, that experience with the homeless man allowed us to reflect on the value of those things and what truly matters. Surprisingly, they’re not as attached to worldly possessions as I thought. I’ve learned that they value meaningful moments over material items.

I’ve been making a conscious effort lately to spend more quality time with my dynamic duo. Through these experiences, I hope to teach them to appreciate life’s simple pleasures and cultivate a spirit of gratitude. Being grateful isn’t just about saying “thank you” though. It’s about acknowledging the kindness, generosity, and blessings we give and receive. That’s why cultivating an attitude of gratitude in children from a young age is crucial–it lays the foundation for a lifetime of appreciation and fulfillment.

Here are some approaches I’ve taken to nurture this mindset in my children:

Donating toys and clothes.

Though we’re still working on reducing our material possessions, I consistently encourage my kids to donate toys and clothes they no longer use. I involve them in the decision-making process, allowing them to choose which items to give away and fostering a sense of detachment from excess belongings.

We undertake this decluttering process about twice a year, emphasizing the importance of not immediately replacing the donated items with new ones. It’s an ongoing journey toward minimalism in our household.

Expressing appreciation and politeness.

This has been a fundamental aspect of my parenting journey. Teaching my children to value their health has been one of the most crucial lessons. We often hear the adage “health is wealth,” and this rings true in our daily lives. While material possessions may come and go, our health remains a priceless asset deserving of our utmost care and attention.

Each day, we’re surrounded by numerous blessings that contribute to our overall well-being. Whether it’s the ability to take in a lungful of fresh air or the freedom to move our bodies as we please, these seemingly ordinary moments are actually profound gifts that enrich our lives in countless ways.

I’m also proud to say that my efforts in instilling gratitude and politeness in my children haven’t gone unnoticed. Strangers often commend me on how polite my kids are. From the time they could speak, I’ve emphasized the importance of using “please” and “thank you” in our interactions. This simple practice has not only cultivated good manners, but it has also nurtured a genuine sense of empathy and respect for others.

Leading by example.

When it comes to cultivating gratitude in my kids, it starts with me. Children often learn by observing their parents, so I make it a point to express my own gratitude regularly. Whether it’s thanking them for their help around the house or appreciating the beauty of a sunset, I try to show them that gratitude is a daily practice. When your kids see you appreciating the small joys, they’re more likely to develop a similar mindset.

Offering random acts of kindness.

My kids have grown accustomed to seeing me do simple things like giving some spare change to a homeless person or holding the door for an elderly citizen. It’s all about those small acts of kindness. From sharing a smile with a passing stranger to offering a listening ear to a friend in need, these simple acts echo the profound importance of kindness and compassion in our daily lives.

Reflecting on the past.

I often take the opportunity to reflect with my children on the differences between their lives now and my own upbringing. It’s a chance to share stories from my past and highlight the contrasts between then and now. It’s pretty enlightening for them to hear about my childhood and compare it to theirs.

As a parent, I strive to teach them to distinguish between needs and wants. This way, they develop a deeper appreciation for the privileges and blessings in their lives.

Repeating positive affirmations.

Through the practice of positive affirmations, I guide them in understanding how their thoughts shape their emotions and actions. Together, we explore simple phrases they can repeat to themselves to boost their confidence and overall happiness. This habit not only helps them develop an optimistic outlook on life but also equips them with the resilience to face challenges head-on.

Requesting less.

When holidays and special occasions approach, I often advise family members to consider gifts that nurture creativity, such as arts and crafts supplies or engaging board games. Instead of adding to the pile of material items, these gifts encourage imaginative play and quality time spent together as a family.

Spending time in nature.

Immersing ourselves in nature has become an essential part of our daily routine. Whether it’s a walk to the park or free play in the backyard, these moments outdoors provide an opportunity to appreciate the beauty and wonder of the natural world. By disconnecting from screens and distractions, we not only stay grounded but also forge a deeper connection with nature.

Using a gratitude jar.

A gratitude jar is a fun, interactive way to help kids focus on positive experiences. Each day, my kids and I write down something we are grateful for on a slip of paper and place it in the jar. At the end of each week, we revisit our notes and reflect on the positive aspects of our lives. This simple ritual has a magical way of smoothing over difficult days or weeks.

By instilling gratitude in our children from an early age, we pave the way for them to grow into resilient, content individuals who can make a positive difference in the world. This foundation empowers them to spread kindness and contribute meaningfully to society as they journey through life.

Gratitude can carry over into our friendships and those around us. Our recent Parenting Post offers tips for how to help your kids navigate their friendships!

A Mom’s Guide to Broadway in Detroit

Detroit Mom partnered with the amazing people at Broadway in Detroit to bring you this post. All opinions are our own.

Seven incredible shows, seven incredible experiences, and endless memories. Is a Broadway show at the Fisher Theatre on your must-do list this year? The 2024-2025 season for Broadway in Detroit is literally around the corner (the first show opens on September 17!) and we want to make sure you know all about it, because the lineup for this season is so good!

With a wide variety of show options, you’re in for an unforgettable experience with Broadway in Detroit. They’re proud to present award-winning shows that you’re definitely going to want to be in the audience for. Oh, and as a Season Subscriber, you get additional exclusives that make each show even better!

Photo by Ferdinando Photography

Whether you’re planning for date nights, girls night outs, or you’ve never seen a Broadway show before and you’re ready for the experience–this is the post for you. Keep reading for your complete guide to Broadway in Detroit’s 2024-2025 season!

What makes a Broadway show different?

There is something truly magical about being in the audience of a Broadway show. The lights, music, and performers all work together to put on a truly memorable performance. These types of shows are ones that you’ll remember for a lifetime. A live show allows you to really feel the energy of the performers, to really become invested in the story, and to walk away feeling forever changed.

Whether through hard times or the best times, there’s usually a song or two we can relate to. Well, with a Broadway in Detroit show, you’ll find a performance that speaks to your soul and will stick with you for years to come. You’ll find yourself singing along with the audience, feeling emotional at all the right spots, and realizing that there really is nothing quite like a live performance.

What is the schedule for the 2024-2025 season?

The Broadway in Detroit 2024-2025 season includes seven incredible shows at two venues. Unless otherwise noted, plan to see the shows at the Fisher Theatre.

What are the benefits of being a Season Subscription subscriber?

The Season Subscription includes some pretty amazing exclusives that you definitely will not want to miss out on. And the best part is that you can expect these exclusives with all seven shows this season!

The Subscriber Exclusives include:

  • Consistent seats: rest assured you’ll always have the same seat for the Fisher Theatre shows (and a similar seat for the show at the Detroit Opera House)
  • Customer service: well, it’s just outstanding!
  • Discounted tickets: if you want to purchase extra tickets for friends or family, you can do so while paying subscriber prices
  • Exceptional value: choose the ticket package that best aligns with your budget
  • Priority access: for purchasing those additional discounted show tickets
  • Ticket flexibility: if you can’t make it to a show, you can exchange your tickets for FREE and choose from a number of other performances to better fit your busy schedule

How does Broadway in Detroit ensure each experience is inclusive?

Broadway in Detroit offers quite a few services to best fit the needs of anyone who is attending a production at the Fisher Theatre to make sure they have the best time.

These include:

  • accessible seating
  • accessible parking
  • barrier-free entrance
  • hearing impaired accommodations
  • interpreted show (must request at least 40 days prior to show opening)
  • pre-visit social story
  • sensory bags

How can I make each show a night to remember?

Catching a Broadway show is such a unique idea for a date night or even a night out with your best friends. Who doesn’t love dressing up for a night on the town? Whether you go on a weeknight or a weekend, you’re sure to have an incredible experience. But, your night out doesn’t have to only include a Broadway show. The food scene downtown is so, so good and Broadway in Detroit has quite a few restaurant partners so you can stop in before your show and enjoy a delicious bite to eat while you’re out!

Broadway in Detroit Restaurant Partners include:

The upcoming Broadway in Detroit season looks amazing and we can’t wait for the performances to start. You can trust that when you go to a show with Broadway in Detroit, it’s going to be a complete experience that will leave you counting down the days until the next show. There are so many benefits to having a Season Subscription, and it will definitely help you to get the most out of the season. We can’t wait to hear about the shows you see and which one ends up being your favorite!

The new season begins this month. For more information and to order your tickets, head on over to the Broadway in Detroit website!

Utilizing a Donor to Grow Your Family

DISCLAIMER: The following post is not intended to act as medical advice. As always, please consult your doctor with any questions about fertility.

There are many ways to start or grow a family. Sometimes, your journey may involve outside support. This can be in the form of a donor–for sperm, an egg, or an embryo. Utilizing a donor is a great way for families to grow. There are a few different paths to take, depending on your situation and needs. It’s important to be knowledgeable about your options. If your doctor has mentioned a donor, or you simply want to know more, this is the post for you.

Our friends from Michigan Center for Fertility and Women’s Health are here to support you on your fertility journey. You might have caught their Fertility Friday series over on our IG page–quick videos to answer common questions and provide information. Below, they’re sharing about donor sperm, donor eggs, donor embryos, and how to navigate the emotions surrounding utilizing a donor.

Donor Sperm

Donor sperm can be an option for a few different reasons. One reason may be for patients that have severe male factor infertility. For example, a patient with very low or no sperm may utilize a donor sperm sample. In addition, if a patient has a low sperm sample that is suitable for IVF, but does not want to proceed with IVF, they may also opt to use donor sperm.

Another indication for donor sperm is for individuals desiring pregnancy who do not have a male partner. Whether they haven’t met the right person yet or are getting older and now is the time that they’re feeling comfortable with starting a family, donor sperm may be an option for them.

Lastly, same-sex female couples may also use donor sperm to start their family building journey.

Options for Donor Sperm

There are two options for donor sperm: anonymous donor sperm banks as well as known donors. Anonymous sperm banks will screen donors for infectious disease, mental health issues, family history, etc. You do not know these donors, but are able to read over all of their information before choosing one. After selecting a donor, you purchase the sample, and then have it shipped to your facility prior to treatment starting.

The other option would be to use a known donor–someone you know and who would need to be screened by our office following FDA guidelines. The first step is getting a semen analysis to make sure they are an appropriate candidate. If you do proceed with the known donor, there’s a checklist to go through requiring specific labs, a physical, and typically some legal involvement.

Donor Egg

A donor egg may be an option for patients who have exhausted their egg supply due to advanced maternal age, for patients with premature ovarian insufficiency, or for those who had medical treatment that may have caused a reduction in ovarian reserve.

Options for Donor Eggs

Similar to donor sperm, there are anonymous and known donor egg options. Anonymous donors are already pre-screened and have a profile available for review with all their information. It includes medical and social history, family history, appearance, etc. If using a known donor egg, the individual would need to be screened just like with a known sperm donor.

Whether stimulating and retrieving the eggs and doing a fresh cycle or purchasing a frozen egg lot (which would then be thawed and fertilized in the laboratory), using a donor egg does require IVF.

Donor Embryo

A donor embryo may be an option for patients if there is a concern with the egg source as well as the sperm source. For example, if a patient is older and has a sub-optimal egg supply and quality, and their partner also has significant male factor, then a donor embryo can be considered.

Donor embryo may be considered in other scenarios as well. For example, donor embryo may be appealing to someone who doesn’t have a partner. If a patient is planning on considering donor egg due to their reserve, and they also need donor sperm, they may be interested in exploring donor embryos as an option.

Navigating the Emotions of Utilizing a Donor

For a lot of people, initially, utilizing a donor is not something they planned to consider. There can be emotions and feelings that come along with the process. It’s a very important part of the journey to make sure it’s an option you are comfortable with before considering moving forward.

We have resources and criteria in our process to make sure any questions or emotions are answered and addressed. Patients who are planning on utilizing a donor in any capacity are required to have a consultation with our therapist. She’s professionally trained in this field and has also had personal experience that can help relate to our patients, which has been tremendously beneficial.

We may recommend setting up a consultation with our team and counselor if you are considering the donor process. Doing so will help you navigate your journey and answer your questions. 

It is normal to have questions, thoughts, feelings, and concerns about the processes involved with donor sperm, donor egg, or donor embryo. It’s important to discuss these topics with your medical team, and we are here to help you along the way. Whether you are single, in a same-sex relationship, or have other factors impacting your fertility, utilizing a donor is one way to grow your family.

Just starting out at a fertility clinic? Read about what you can expect at your initial and follow-up fertility visits.

10 Day Dates in Detroit for You + Your Gal Pals

I recently heard a cute quote about female friendships from Gina Barecca: “It’s not that diamonds are a girl’s best friend, but it’s your best friends are your diamonds.”

Wherever we are in our parenting journey, time spent with our girlfriends is so important to our well-being. Whether you want to try something new, or are inviting a new friend to do something, give this list of day dates in Detroit a go with your girls!

Here are 10 day dates in Detroit that you definitely need to plan with friends:

Bike the Dequindre Cut.

Have you ever tried MoGo bikes? If not, give them a spin on the Dequindre Cut. Hop on at Eastern Market or in Rivertown. It’s a beautiful ride that gives a whole new perspective on the city!

Catch a show at the Fisher Theatre.

Into the arts? The Fisher Theatre is home to Broadway in Detroit’s incredible season lineup (with one show at the Detroit Opera House). Their new season has so many shows to choose from that are perfect for a girls night out! Plan to head to a restaurant downtown before the show for a late lunch/early dinner.

Grab a fancy drink at Highlands.

Sometimes, you need to treat yourself to a good cocktail. Check out Highlands, located at the top of the Ren Cen, for fancy cocktails and even better views.

Head to the DIA.

Rainy day? Check out the Detroit Institute of Arts. With rotating exhibits, there’s always something new to see and explore. And, admission is free for residents of Macomb, Oakland, and Wayne counties!

Hit a 1-2 punch at BreadlessThe Red Hook.

Some strip mall plazas feel like relics of the past–but not the one in Rivertown that has both Breadless and The Red Hook. My perfect day would be two dates in Detroit built into one: grab a delicious, gluten-free lunch at Breadless, and then sit with a friend for coffee a few doors down at The Red Hook. It’s all of the fun with none of the hassle of driving between locations!

Kayak the canals near Coriander.

Ever wonder where you can kayak in Detroit? Wonder no more. The canals near Coriander on Detroit’s east side offer a great opportunity to do this. Pop in to Coriander for a farm-fresh bite afterwards to cap off a great day!

Pick up some produce at Eastern Market.

Eastern Market strolls are some of my favorites, especially because it’s a 2-for-1 activity. Hang out with a friend and buy local groceries? Sign me up.

Stop in for Taco Tuesday in Mexicantown.

One of my favorite meals to grab with friends is tacos. We are so lucky to have Mexicantown right here in Detroit to enjoy the good stuff. One of my favorites is Mexican Village Restaurant

Test out your swing at Belle Isle Golf.

I’ve been on a big golf kick recently and have been doing my darndest to bring other women into the sport! The driving range is a great, non-intimidating place to start. Come as you are, no fancy clothes needed, rent some clubs, and just hit some balls. It feels great–especially after a long day at work!

Walk the Riverwalk.

The Riverwalk has become an absolutely stunning staple of the downtown area. Stroll the riverfront with your gal pals. Walking, I’m convinced, is not just good for the bod–it’s truly good for the soul.

Whatever you decide to do with your girlfriends, the key to it all is to just soak in the time together. As moms and moms-to-be, time with friends is precious. Enjoy it while you have it–and be sure to bring your planners to schedule the next one!

Looking for more to do in the Great Lakes State? Check out DeAndrea’s ideas for where to go for a Michigan day trip!

Gyms Offering Childcare In + Around Detroit

One of the biggest struggles in motherhood is finding time for ourselves–especially time to take care of our physical health. It’s not easy to find the time and space for a consistent workout, especially when our kids are not school-aged yet. It can also be really hard to find gyms offering childcare, and this makes it so hard to find time for ourselves.

But, it’s so important to find the time to take care of you. This is especially important so that our kids see us making healthy choices for our mental and physical health.

Trust me, I know it’s hard to take the time for yourself. But, it’s so beyond worth it. So, I’ve searched the area in + around Detroit for gyms that offer childcare, so that having some self-care time is a little easier!

Here are 15 gyms offering childcare in + around Detroit:

The Barre Code | Birmingham, Northville, + Rochester Hills

This studio is mom-owned, so they definitely know what’s up! They offer many classes daily with a kids room. Not every class time offers childcare, but there are plenty of options. The kids room does need an additional membership.

Beverly Hills Club | Beverly Hills

Another great place for the entire family. The Beverly Hills Club offers tennis, swimming, martial arts, pilates, yoga, spinning, and the list goes on! Plus, the “kidz world” is free for all members, up to 90 minutes per session.

Burn Boot Camp | Canton, New Hudson, Northville, + Troy

If you’re into a structured class, this is the perfect place for you. All of their unlimited memberships offer childcare, which makes it so convenient for moms. Not all of their classes have childcare, but most do.

Detroit Body Garage | Detroit

This gym is just so cool, and it’s owned by a mom! While this gym doesn’t offer “childcare,” they do have a class called Firebirds every Monday and Wednesday that allows you to bring your child to class. This is a great way to get your workout in, and let your kids see you doing it!

Lifetime Fitness | Various Locations

Lifetime Fitness is another great option for the entire family. They have everything you’d want to do and more, like yoga, spin class, swimming, tennis, and a spa. The best part of Lifetime is the number of locations they have–there’s so many! The childcare membership ranges from $20-$50 per child each month, which includes two hours of care per day.

TRV|FIT | Various Locations

The kids room at TRV|FIT may be just the thing you need to get your workout in! Some locations will require you to sign your child up ahead of time. Not all locations offer a kids room, so be sure to check with your specific location before you go.

YMCA | Various Locations

Youth sports, swimming, group classes, and free childcare are all included in your membership. The YMCA is a budget-friendly option with plenty of area locations to choose from. Plus, if you’re a member, you get discounted pricing on their swim and sports programs for the littles!

Other Notable Mentions

Here are some other options that offer some form of childcare either part-time, for certain classes, or have full-blown kids areas. Some of the options below have pools and offer swim lessons for kids, at a cost. Others offer tennis lessons, rock climbing walls, gymnastics, or a cafe on-site.

Whether you want a more intimate boutique experience or an all-encompassing facility, there’s truly something here for everyone!

At the end of the day, it’s so important to take care of ourselves so we’re healthy and happy. You can’t pour from an empty cup! I hope you’re able to check out some of these gyms offering childcare in and around Detroit, and find a way to make a little more time for yourself.

When you put yourself first, everyone wins. Natasha shares tips to prioritize yourself on a daily basis!

The Best Nature Centers In + Around Detroit

Welcome to the heart of our community’s natural wonderland–nestled within the Detroit area, nature centers are vital hubs of environmental education and community engagement, offering visitors interactive exhibits, guided trails, and engagement in outdoor activities that foster a deep connection with nature.

Nature centers are crucial for the community by providing educational experiences, environmental awareness, and creating spaces for outdoor recreation and social interactions.

Free Gateway Path photo and picture

The centers listed below invite you to discover the beauty and significance of their local environment while fostering a strong connection to the world around us. You definitely won’t want to miss these amazing places!

Nature Centers In + Around Detroit

Belle Isle Nature Center | Detroit

Address: 176 Lakeside, Detroit, 48207
Cost: recreation passport for vehicles: $13; Michigan drivers: $14/annual pass; non-resident drivers: $11/day pass, $40/annual pass; walking, biking, or public transportation onto the island: free
Hours: 5:00 a.m.-10:00 p.m. daily
Indoor/Outdoor: Both

Located in the Detroit River just off of East Jefferson, Belle Isle Park is a hidden gem in the city of Detroit. As you cross over the MacArthur Bridge, you will find many things to do–including Belle Isle Nature Center. The facility offers a variety of programs, including Nature Tots, hikes, discovering what lives over and under the pond, Nature at Night, Nature Art Hikes, and visiting honeybee hives.

All programs are free, but registration is required. It is the perfect place for children to see amphibians, reptiles, and other animals that call Belle Isle home. After finishing at the nature center, check out the park that is located across the street.

Burgess-Shadbush Nature Center | Shelby Township

Address: 4101 River Bends Dr., Shelby Township, 48317
Cost: Free; donations welcomed
Hours: Mondays and Tuesdays: closed
Wednesday through Saturday: 10:00 a.m.-6:00 p.m.
Sundays: 12:00-5:00 p.m.
Indoor/Outdoor: Both

Burgess-Shadbush Nature Center has may walking trails and an indoor building with various reptiles, amphibians, and Lily the opossum. They conduct Summer Nature Academies, which include activities for ages 4-12 like archery, puddle jumpers, survival 101, and stem in nature.

Make sure to check out their Facebook page to see upcoming events, such as bat hikes, guided hikes, story time, and Dutch oven cooking classes.

Detroit River International Wildlife Refuge | Trenton

Address: 5437 West Jefferson Ave, Trenton, 48183
Cost: Free; donations welcomed
Hours: Thursday through Sunday: 10:00 a.m.-4:00 p.m.; grounds are open 7 days a week during daylight hours
Indoor/Outdoor: Both

The refuge consists of 6,200 acres. It’s made up of 30 different parcels–including Mud Island Unit, Grassy Island Unit, Refuge Gateway, Humbug Marsh, and many more. The Refuge Gateway is the perfect place to begin your adventure beginning at the visitor center. The public can visit the center to explore the displays about local nature, learn about the refuge, and purchase merchandise.

Outdoors, you could walk the nature trails, take a lunch break at the picnic tables, paddle board downstream through the Humbug Marsh, fish on the 700-foot fishing pier, or hunt. Check all regulations in the refuge BEFORE setting out to hunt. If you didn’t bring the right equipment for your trip, you can borrow binoculars and fishing equipment, too!

DNR Outdoor Adventure Center | Detroit

Address: 1801 Atwater Street, Detroit, 48207
Cost: Adults (13-61): $5, Seniors (62 and older): $3, Children (2-12): $3, Children under 2: free, Annual Family Membership $50. Parking: $5 (10:00 a.m.-4:00 p.m.) or $10 (4:00-10:00 p.m.)
Hours (June-August): Sunday-Tuesday: closed
Wednesday: 10:00 a.m.-3:00 p.m.
Thursday: groups by reservation only
Friday: 10:00 a.m.-3:00 p.m.
Saturday: 12:00-3:00 p.m.
Hours (October-May): Sunday: 12:00-3:00 p.m.
Monday-Tuesday: closed
Wednesday: 10:00 a.m.-3:00 p.m.
Thursday: groups by reservation only
Friday: 10:00 a.m.-3:00 p.m.
Saturday: 10:00 a.m.-5:00 p.m.
Indoor/Outdoor: Both

Located on Detroit’s riverfront, the Outdoor Adventure Center provides exciting outdoor adventures for all its visitors, right downtown. There are over 20 interactive experiences including hand-on activities, exhibits and simulators, climbing an oak tree, hopping aboard an airplane, and visiting an aquarium. The DNR also provides an archery skills introductory course for children 8 years and older.

Check out their website for events that are offered, such as guided nature walks, archery classes, Science Saturdays, and more.

Farmington Hills Nature Center | Farmington Hills

Address: 24915 Farmington Rd., Farmington Hills, 48336
Cost: FREE!
Hours: Monday-Saturday: 10:00 a.m.-4:00 p.m.
Sunday: 12:00 p.m.-4:00 p.m.
The Nature Center is closed on city holidays and on Mondays (December through March).
Indoor/Outdoor: Outdoor

Farmington Hills Nature Center provides a space for inquiring young minds to learn while exploring life-sized animal habitats, backyard habitat bird viewing, nature fish aquariums, nature libraries, and a hands-on touch table. Heritage Park hosts a large variety of nature opportunities from trails to wildlife.

Nature programs are provided year-round and change seasonally. Programs for children include Nature Preschool, the Farmington-Area Outdoor Xplorers (F.O.X.) Club, Kid’s Fishing Day, and the Junior Naturalist Club.

Howell Nature Center | Howell

Address: 1005 Triangle Lake Rd, Howell, 48843
Cost: Adults: $8, Youth (3-17): $6, Children 2 and under: free
Hours: open seven days a week
Wild Wonders Wildlife Park: Monday–Sunday: 10:00 a.m.-5:00 p.m.
Wildlife Rehabilitation Clinic: Mondays: closed, Tuesday–Sunday: 10:00 a.m.-3:00 p.m.
Indoor/Outdoor: Outdoor

The Howell Nature Center is nestled around Pleasant Lake among 230 acres of woods and wetlands. You can explore the Wild Wonders Wildlife Park (which is a teaching zoo), see the beautiful birds of Livingston County, listen to a story and complete a nature activity in Alexandria’s Nature Scape, enjoy the natural play area, or brave the Sky Tykes rope course. Driving from far away? Howell Nature Center provides lodges for year-round retreats and overnight accommodations.

Pre-registration is required for all events. Want to do something as a family? Join the archery challenge and learn how to use a bow and arrow!

Johnson Nature Center | Bloomfield Hills

Address: 3325 Franklin Rd, Bloomfield Hills, 48302
Cost: FREE!
Hours: Visitor Center is open on the first Sunday of the month from 10:00 a.m.-4:00 p.m., then Saturdays for the rest of the month; trails are open 8:00 a.m.-dusk
Indoor/Outdoor: Both

The Johnson Nature Center features forty acres of learning opportunities, including a four-acre inland pond and two miles of trials. The visitor center features interactive education exhibits and seasonal displays. Children ages 3-5 can register for Treeschool, which is an early childhood drop-off program where children develop lifelong skills and engage in meaningful play within the 40 acres of the center!

Nankin Mills Nature Center | Westland

Address: 33175 Ann Arbor Trail, Westland, 48185
Cost: FREE!
Hours: Monday–Friday: 1:00 p.m.-4:00 p.m.
Indoor/Outdoor: Both

The Nankin Mills Nature Center allows children space to explore in their indoor Interpretive Center, and the grounds to explore outdoor living. Learn about native species like turtles, snakes, and fish up close, and see how Henry Ford used mechanical innovations to improve farm work-life. Grab a net and join Bugtopia to learn to identify bugs by sound and go on a bug hunt!

Pre-registration is required for all programs.

Red Oaks Nature Center | Madison Heights

Address: 30300 Hales St., Madison Heights, 48071
Cost: Visitors need a parking pass, but admission is FREE!
Hours: Monday: closed
Tuesday-Saturday: 10:00 a.m.-5:00 p.m.
Sunday: 12:00-5:00 p.m.
Indoor/Outdoor: Both

The Red Oaks Nature Center hosts 37 acres of natural habitat. The park includes Storybook Trails, which feature different stories throughout the seasons for children to read. Inside the nature center’s log cabin, there are many seasonal displays that children can learn about and observe. There’s even a sensory area and dramatic play puppets! Scout Badge Day programs are offered, and even Wild Birthday Parties are available for children ages 4-12.

Stage Nature Center | Troy

Address: 6685 Coolidge Hwy, Troy, 48098
Cost: FREE
Trail Hours: Trails are open every day from dawn-dusk
Building Hours: Tuesday–Friday: 9:00 a.m.­-3:00 p.m. (except holidays)
Saturday: 10:00 a.m.­-4:00 p.m. (except holiday weekends)
Sunday-Monday: closed
Indoor/Outdoor: Both

Outside of the visitor center, children can start their adventure by climbing the external rock wall. Inside the nature center, there is a dinosaur dig pit, a play area with toys and puzzles, touch stations, a toad tank, and stuffed animals for children to look at.

After exploring the indoor exhibits, head outdoors to over two miles of trails to explore. They host special programs including summer day camps and the Junior Naturalist Club. Registration is required for all programs.

Sterling Heights Nature Center | Sterling Heights

Address: 42700 Utica Rd., Sterling Heights, 48313
Cost: FREE!
Hours: Tuesday-Friday: 1:00-5:00 p.m.
Saturday: 10:00 a.m.-5:00 p.m.
Sunday-Monday: closed
Indoor/Outdoor: Both

Begin your exploration inside the nature center with up close views of the still-life exhibits, living reptiles and amphibians, and an aquarium with local fish. There is an exhibit room with magnifying glasses and binoculars, with plenty of learning opportunities for children.

Pre-registration is required for all programs.

Stoney Creek Metropark Nature Center | Shelby Township

Address: 4300 Main Park Road, Shelby Township, 48316
Cost: $10 daily vehicle pass OR $40 annual pass ($45 for non-residents)
Hours: June 19-August 31: 10:00 a.m.-5:00 p.m.
September 1-June 18: Monday–Friday, 1:00 p.m.-5:00 p.m.; Saturday-Sunday, 10:00 a.m.-5:00 p.m
Indoor/Outdoor: Both

The nature center is located along Stony Creek. Children can see exhibits on landforms, the first settlers, and native animals. There are self-guided nature trails, programs led by interpreters, Voyager canoe paddling, animal encounters, and more.

Since the Nature Center is located within the Metropark system, there are over 4,435 scenic acres for recreational fun, including baseball diamonds, fishing, playgrounds, picnicking areas, camping areas, and a beach with a waterslide.

West Bloomfield Parks Nature Center + Nature Reserve | West Bloomfield

Address: 4640 Walnut Lake Rd, West Bloomfield, 48323
Cost: FREE!
Hours: 8:00 a.m.-dusk
Indoor/Outdoor: Both

Here you’ll find nature trails, the Nature Room, and the Natural Outdoor Play Area. Within the Nature Room children will find a variety of educational and hands-on stations, and animals such as a box turtle, tree frog, albino garter snake, dessert millipedes, and more. (You’ll want to check their website for their hours.) Afterwards explore outside in a sensory-rich environment with dirt to dig in, stepping stones to hop on, bugs to hunt for, or a masterpiece to create with sticks.

The naturalist team hosts a hiking series which include Little Hikers, Hero Hike, and Seasonal Family Hikes. There are year-round programs that are led by naturalists on staff, including summer camp experiences, live animal shows, astronomy, fishing, archery, beekeeping, and native planting. Pre-registration for hikes and programs is required.

Nature centers offer a fantastic learning experience for children. These nature centers in and around Detroit provide hands-on and interactive environments where kids can explore and discover the wonders of nature. By engaging with the natural world, children develop a sense of curiosity, empathy, and appreciation for the environment, fostering a lifelong connection with nature.

For more outdoor inspiration, Elizabeth shares how she encourages her family to play outside for National Play Outside Day!

Breast Isn’t Always Best

A few weeks ago, I set upon the task of cleaning out my family’s front closet. Behind the coats and old boots, I found something that immediately caused a pit in my stomach and nearly brought tears to my eyes. Just the sight of this seemingly innocuous black nylon tote reminded me of all of the physical and emotional pain it represented. This was the bag I used to cart around my breast pump during one of the hardest periods in my life: my breastfeeding journey.

woman breastfeeding her baby

We are all familiar with the adage “breast is best,” but I am here to argue that maybe breast isn’t always best. While I think we should aim for a world where every mother has the support and resources needed to be able to choose breastfeeding, I also dream that those same mothers would be free to decide not to breastfeed, or to quit without fear of pressure or judgment.

Nothing But the Best

I have two children and breastfed both of them; however, the two experiences were vastly different. The American Academy of Pediatrics recommends exclusively breastfeeding for six months. When I was pregnant with my first son, I remember this coming up in conversation very early in my prenatal care.

Soon after hearing the baby’s heartbeat, I was hearing “breast is best” for the first of many times throughout my pregnancy. I committed to breastfeeding then and there. If it was best, then that is what I would do, because I wanted the best for my baby.

Quickly after our introduction, both exhausted but happy to be together, my son latched and nursed for the first time. Our first few weeks of breastfeeding were an adjustment, but he was eating. I felt good that I was giving him the best thing I could.

Switching From Breastfeeding to Exclusive Pumping

About a month into breastfeeding, I developed an infection on one of my nipples. When my son nursed, his sweet little mouth felt like the jagged edges of a can opener. It was incredibly painful, but I would not be deterred and insisted on continuing to nurse. Despite my best efforts, at two months old, my son just stopped nursing one day and refused to do it any longer. We consulted with his doctor, my doctor, and a lactation specialist, but there was nothing anyone could do.

At that point, my husband could see that I was distressed and exhausted. He suggested that we switch to formula, but I couldn’t give up. Breast was best and that was what I wanted for our baby. I couldn’t nurse, but I could still give the baby breast milk. For seven months, I exclusively pumped. When I say exclusively, I mean that I fed him only with milk that I pumped and that I don’t think I did anything but pump during that time.

I pumped at home, sitting next to a baby that had rejected my breast. I pumped in my office with the door closed, terrified that I had forgotten to lock the door, and someone would walk in to find me exposed, wearing my ridiculous hands-free pumping bra. I pumped in public restrooms, hidden in stalls or huddled in a corner when there was no other privacy.

Milk was on my mind constantly. Would I keep on schedule that day? Did I have all the parts to the pump? Was there somewhere I could store the milk? Did I have enough for tomorrow? I was anxious and miserable. Finally, when my son was nine months old, I reluctantly stopped breastfeeding–only because I physically could not produce enough milk.

Mother Knows Best

My experience is not uncommon. The Centers for Disease Control and Prevention reports that there are a variety of reasons women may not want, or be able, to breastfeed. Some may not produce milk or enough milk. Certain medications make it inadvisable for women to breastfeed while taking them. Work schedules or other obligations may make it impossible for someone to commit to the full-time job that is breastfeeding.

I have nothing against breastfeeding. With my second baby, I breastfed without any issue for almost two years. It was a beautiful experience, and if I had another baby, I would try breastfeeding again. But what I wouldn’t do is succumb to the feelings of pressure and judgment that made me continue breastfeeding even when it was damaging my physical and mental health.

So instead of breast is best, I believe that breast is great. And, as a society, we should support any mother that chooses to do it. What is truly best can only be decided by each individual mother based on her circumstances. While the old adage “breast is best” may work for some, we must remind ourselves that, at the end of the day, “mother knows best.”

Looking for more breastfeeding support? Shereena shares tips she wishes she knew before she started breastfeeding.

Detroit Mom’s Local Love Spotlight: Annamarie Green Co

Detroit Mom’s Local Love series highlights local women and the businesses they have built. We love supporting small business! Today’s Local Love Spotlight belongs to Annamarie Green, owner of Annamarie Green Co.

To start, we asked Annamarie to share a few fun facts about herself with us!

  • She grew up in Pennsylvania and she and her daughter have only been in Michigan since 2020.
  • She’s always had a desire to make living life easier/better for people. Growing up, she served as the youth spokesperson for the Epilepsy Foundation of Central PA (she’s had Epilepsy since she was four years old).
  • She loves getting her feet wet whenever she is close to a body of water. No matter the temperature, she’s known to roll up her pants and dip her toes in!

We asked Annamarie to share a little bit more about her business with us, too. Get to know her and her business, Annamarie Green Co, below!

Photo by Savannah Pool Photography

How did you come up with the idea of your business, and how did you start?

“I was in therapy after the death of my partner and I wasn’t making any progress–I realized I never felt better after sessions and it left me feeling unfixable, lost, and like I would always feel this way. My friend encouraged me to go get an intuitive reading. It was life-changing and gave me all the results I had hoped to get from therapy. I was already a therapist at the time when I realized that energy work was a missing piece to making mental health treatment more effective and successful.

“After taking classes and becoming a certified professional intuitive my unique approach naturally unfolded with my therapy clients, and I began understanding the energetics behind different mental health conditions.

“(My business) was inspired by the therapeutic work I was doing with clients and what I was learning and doing within my own emotional/mental health healing journey. I started my business in early 2023 after working for different clinics and within the community for years. I started offering Intuitive Therapy Sessions and Mental Health Clarity Readings to a few people and realized how revolutionary they were (as) clients were experiencing being symptom-free, happier, and empowered in only three months.

“After seeing the results for my clients and for myself I knew this was something I needed to share–and something the industry needed. So my Intuitive Therapy Sessions were born and I began talking about Intuitive Mental Health. And now I not only offer these services but I am beginning to teach other therapists, coaches, and intuitives this work as well.”

Knowing what you know now, is there anything you would have done differently when you were first starting out?

“I would have focused more on my personal healing earlier and been more open to solutions that were ‘outside the box.’ I coped by overworking and I would (have) made space for me to slow down more–leaned on community. I was obsessed with trying to do everything by myself (which was my anxiety and trauma response). If I would (have) been willing to slow down, I think I would have started my journey a lot earlier.

“Other than that no, I wouldn’t have changed anything. Each trial and hardship I experienced taught me more about myself and really led me to uncovering this beautiful, deep, magical part of myself.”

What is the best business advice you’ve ever been given?

“Don’t be afraid to share. Share what you’re doing with your community no matter how different or unique your idea/goal is. Share the hard things you’re going through, share the wins, just share. Put it out there and let others show up for you. It help connect you with people who need your idea or with people that can help. (And), it also shows you how supported you are when you honor what your heart and soul desire. It’s what will help you get through the hard early stages of business.”

Have you faced adversity in business due to being a woman? How did you navigate that?

“Of course, I think most women–especially mothers–feel this all the time. Being a single mom and a business owner was hard/is hard. You’re taking a risk especially in the beginning. You have no idea how it will land but it’s not just you–you’re responsible for your child as well. My family especially was not supportive of this and just wanted to see me settled in a regular 9-5 job that was predictable. There was a lot of guilt and shame around that. Not to mention sometimes the business required putting in odd hours.

“I navigated through it by allowing myself to face some hard truths and sit in temporary discomfort. I worked at places that drained me and part-time jobs while my daughter was at school. In the summers I took a full-time position around my parents’ house so I didn’t have to pay for child care. I found safe places to land. And, (I) also faced my pride–it’s okay if this doesn’t work out. I started to let go of how I thought it needed to happen, asked for help, was honest about what I was struggling with, and explored financial resources to help supplement the income I needed to survive.

“I feel like when you’re a single mom and business owner you have to be willing to be vulnerable and really understand what’s motivating you–what’s the vision you have for yourself and your child/family? Serving people and being mission driven is great. But if you don’t have a vision that makes you feel lit up and cared for, it’ll be hard to push through. You can be left feeling guilty as a parent. Also make room for play–it helps with creativity and just letting go. My favorite are dance and singing parties with my daughter.”

How do you persevere in challenging times?

“I fall back on my vision for my family, myself, and the world. I also lean into taking care of myself, making sure I move, am well-fed, and (am) talking to my friends. When I am anxious or really down I tend to overbook myself and jump from one thing to the next, (so) I also force myself to slow down. The best way for me to navigate and make sure I am mentally healthy is slowing down.”

What impact do you want your business to have?

“I want my business, services, and teaching to revolutionize the mental health industry. To make it more effective and less stigmatized. To make it easier for people to know themselves and feel empowered to navigate life’s ups and downs. My goal is that it will allow individuals to stop experiencing their lives through trauma, mental illness, or fear. I want to make life and happiness easier.

“I also hope that through this work intuitive mental health becomes an official type of therapy in the sector and a specialization that therapists can train in and offer clients.”

What are the pros and cons of being a woman business owner in 2024?

“Pros: there is a lot more freedom in how you operate, it’s fulfilling, and you can make a greater impact by being yourself. There’s also limitless potential in what you can create in your life being a business owner and wonderful opportunities to connect with other people and be seen on a soul level, which is the most amazing feeling.”

Photo by Savannah Pool Photography

What knowledge would you share with someone who wants to become an entrepreneur?

“Get really comfortable being messy. Part of this journey is exploring the depths of your soul and who you are. The parts of you that maybe you hid away all come up to surface. There’s a lot of play required in the creation of a business and it’ll help you with flexibility. Also, your community is one of your biggest assets for growth. (They are) also holding you during the difficult beginning parts or transition. They will help ground you in your dream and mission.”

What do you do for personal and professional development?

“My personal and professional development is usually one in the same for the most part. Personally, I do a lot of nervous system work in the form of exercise so running, weight lifting, and my personal favorite dance classes–things that feel fun and playful and get me into my body. I also am always learning. Part of what I do being ethical and (a) leader with integrity is knowing that there’s always more to learn. That’s the really fun part about living life and the work I do. I am always taking new classes that help improve my skillset or teach me a new way of doing things both in the psychological/social work field and (the) intuitive/energy work field.

“I also listen to podcasts during walks. My personal favorites are Nikki Novo’s Soul Led Living, What’s the Juice with Olivie Amitrano, The Psychology Podcast, and The Social Work Podcast among many others.

“I also have a group of soul sisters that all own businesses and we keep each other accountable. It’s just a safe space to process life and being a spiritual entrepreneur. I work with two different mentors: one for social work/clinical therapy, (and) one (for) the spiritual side of my business/personal life.

“I have found that to hold so much space for others it’s important that I take care of myself physically, emotionally, and energetically. In addition to all those things I also have a healer who completes energy healings on me two times a month. Especially because the things I am helping people navigate can be heavy and intense, investing in my personal and professional development has been an important lesson for me on this journey.”

What mantra or quote do you live by?

“What a life I am making.”

What’s your favorite place in Detroit or Michigan?

“My favorite place is Booth Park in Birmingham because my daughter and I love to run up and down the rolling hills and pretend they are waves. It’s also a great place to do a nature walk and have a picnic. Outside of Detroit I love South Haven, on the western side of the state.”

Where can our readers find you on social media?

You can follow Annamarie Green Co on Instagram and on their website!

We hope you loved getting to know more about Annamarie + Annamarie Green Co. Be sure to check out our previous Local Love Spotlight featuring Elise + Birth Humanity!

The Advice I Wish I Had When My Oldest Started Middle School

My house will have a high school senior, a sophomore, and a seventh grader in a few weeks. Even as I put it in writing, I find my current reality hard to wrap my head around.  It’s a perfect example of “the years are short but the days are long!”

I find myself nostalgic as the first day of school creeps closer and closer. I’m also reflecting on all that I’ve learned ushering three very different kids through that first day of middle school.

Middle schooler standing on the driveway with a backpack waiting for the bus.

Below is the advice I wish I had when my oldest started middle school many years ago.

The Biggest Myth About The Middle School Transition

The myth: Switching classes and having multiple teachers is always a difficult change.

The reality: Getting up and moving your body periodically during school can help to increase focus and attention. Therefore, students with shorter attention spans may benefit from physically moving classrooms for each subject. Even students with strong focus and attention skills may enjoy learning from a variety of teachers with different styles.

Sometimes a teacher is not a good fit for a student’s learning style. As a trained teacher myself, I know how hard our educators work to meet the various needs in their classrooms. However, even with a hard-working student and a hard-working teacher, sometimes personalities clash. This can lead to a long and frustrating school year in elementary school.

While these personality clashes happen in middle school as well, students aren’t typically with a teacher for more than a subject or two. The opportunity to connect to multiple teachers daily means a much higher likelihood for our preteens to connect with a teacher they truly enjoy.

The Middle School Transition Advice I Wish I Had

Avoid the power struggle.

There is a reason that middle schoolers are often referred to as preteens or tweens. Much like teenagers, our middle schoolers are starting to exert their independence. Even our “big kids” don’t have much choice in their day. They have to go to school, wake up early, go to classes that don’t always interest them . . . and the list goes on. Therefore, our tweens will try to regain some control in other, often annoying ways.

With my oldest child, I remember approaching “the battle of the winter coat” in what I felt was a sound and logical way. I unilaterally mandated that a coat be worn when the temperature hit a certain degree. Unfortunately, this parenting technique led to many morning battles and more coat-throwing than coat-wearing.

One day I had had enough and decided to try a different approach. I finally asked myself how I would approach this as a professional working with a parent. I realized that I would ask the parent if this was an opportunity to allow their child to safely make their own decision. Sometimes, learning through logical consequences can be most powerful. 

The truth was, my sixth grader spent most of her day indoors. She didn’t have outside recess and was lucky enough to have the bus stop yards away from our home. Yes, Michigan winter temperatures are often uncomfortably cold–but they’re not always “risk of frostbite” cold. Therefore, I stopped begging her to wear a coat. I made suggestions, but avoided power struggles. Over time, she realized that at least packing a fleece in her backpack would keep her from needlessly being uncomfortable if the bus was late.

Prep for homework now.

As a therapist and ADHD Coach, I work with many middle schoolers. The main struggle that comes up in my office again and again is homework. Homework battles tend to be one of the biggest sources of friction between tweens and their parents.

Many students are required to use an assignment notebook in elementary school. Many schools even provide them. Teachers often guide them through how and when to use this useful tool.

An unfortunate reality of most middle school schedules is that there isn’t a dedicated time in each class for this important life skill to continue to be taught. There is an upside, however, to the fact that the school no longer mandates a uniform assignment notebook:  your new middle schooler now gets a chance to experiment with what works best for them! Remember: tweens love choices and autonomy!

I suggest taking your middle schooler with you to browse through all of the options for planners/assignment notebooks at the store. Do they want a planner that shows the whole week at a time or do they need more space and would do best with each page representing just one day? Maybe they would prefer a blank notebook so that they can format it any way they’d like. Maybe they’d rather find a template online and then print copies as needed to go in a folder or binder.

Don’t forget to enjoy your tween.

Yes, raising a middle schooler can be tough! However, some major positives come along with this phase of parenthood. I remember realizing for the first time that my oldest could make her siblings dinner all by herself. Now by “dinner”, I mean Easy Mac or a bowl of cereal, but it still counts. Some middle schoolers are mature enough to stay home alone or even babysit their younger siblings at this age as well. This was a huge milestone and money saver for us.

Another special thing about middle schoolers is that they begin to figure out who they are and what they are good at. They can be so passionate about their interests. I have loved seeing my tweens light up as they talk about their sports, performances, and clubs.

As a busy family of five, time alone with each child is rare and most often happens in the car on the way to an activity or appointment. As each of my kids became old enough to sit next to me in the front seat, it has opened up an opportunity for so many great conversations and interactions.

Sometimes I’d let them play car DJ and share their favorite new music. I may not always like it, but, I did enjoy our conversations about pop culture and their interests. Other times that sacred window of uninterrupted time was when we had the “big talks” about complicated social situations or current events. Either way, I remember a distinct change with each of my kids somewhere in the tween years as our conversations became more complex and I got a sneak peek into who they were becoming.

The Biggest Lesson I Have Learned

The biggest parenting lesson I have learned, and continue to learn over and over again, is quite simple: every child is different! I know it sounds terribly cliché, yet it’s easy to forget. For one child middle school can be a tough transition and for the next, it can be a welcomed blessing. So instead of getting caught in a cycle of anxious thoughts about the worst that could happen, I try my best to take it one day at a time and one kid at a time. I remind myself to do smart things to prepare (like my assignment notebook advice above).

I also remind myself that even with the best preparation, I can’t avoid all of the tough things that come along with change. This takes the pressure off me to meet some unrealistic standard of perfect parenting and instead, it allows me to follow my tween’s lead.

A new school year means new papers being brought home almost daily. Orna shares tips for managing the schoolwork that makes its way home!

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