Join us for an exclusive event withBoard & Brush in Northvilleon August 6th. We are so excited to welcome this DIY studio to the Detroit Area. They’re opening to the public on August 7th… so, this is your only chance to check out their brand new location before they officially open their doors! At Board & Brush, you can create your own unique, wall-worthy wood decor projects from scratch all while enjoying a fun time with your girlfriends. They welcome everyone and encourage you to let your creative side out. If you’re not creative, don’t worry! Enjoy instructions from creative leaders waiting to help you make a beautiful piece custom to your home.
On August 6th, you can choose between two amazing pieces: the popular 18×24 Monogram Established Sign or the 8×48 Long board Established Sign. Plus, you can choose your stain and paint colors in the studio to make a piece that perfectly matches your decor!
Now that you have an idea of what Board & Brush is, are you ready for a night of creativity with a glass of wine and a delicious dessert bar?! Browndog Creamery & Dessert Bar of Northville will be waiting to spoil you with one of their amazing dessert bars!
But, don’t wait! We only have 15 spots available for this pre-grand opening event! Invite your friends, or come solo and make some new friends! This is a Moms Night Out that you definitely don’t want to miss! Follow the link here for more information and to purchase your tickets.
The thought of selling your home while you have multiple small children may seem like an impossible feat. And honestly – it sucks…it really, truly sucks. I speak from experience because this is what I am currently trying to do. Between all the toys and sticky fingers, keeping a clean home is already difficult let alone having it clean enough for strangers to walk in, see it and judge it. But that is exactly what I am currently doing right now and with three toddlers. I can verify that while it is hard to do and quite the pain in the ass, it is not impossible. While it may seem easier to purchase a home first and then sell your existing home, many of us are counting on the sale of our existing home to help get us into the home that we want. Also, double mortgages are typically not fiscally ideal for most families. So we are left of the only option of having to sell our home while we are living in it and just pray that we haven’t left a dirty diaper somewhere when someone wants to come view our home.
Here are some tips and tricks I have learned to make showing your home with little ones a bit easier:
Do a Deep Clean of your Home First. Before you put it on the market, do a good deep clean of your home. This requires someone to help watch your kids. My husband and I have been pretty lucky to have fabulous parents who are either willing to help clean and fix up the house or help watch our kids. If you don’t have someone available it may be worth it to hire a babysitter for a weekend to watch your kids while you deep clean your house. You will want to focus on decluttering and simplifying your home. Start packing and storing as much things as you can. The less items in your home, the less items you have to clean. Once this is all done, the goal now is to maintain it.
The Toys… oh so many freakin’ Toys! If your home has been invaded by Thomas the train, Duplo blocks and matchbox cars like ours then it is time to declutter and start packing them away. I spent a lot of time trying to sell the toys that the kids no longer use or storing away at least over half of what was left. I was surprised to find that with less than half of the toys left, they don’t miss any of the ones I packed away and never bring it up. They probably wouldn’t even notice if they never appeared again. I let them keep their favorite toys but now the new rule is that toys are no longer allowed outside their playroom. This helps contain daily messes into one place which makes it easier to clean up for a last minute showing.
Have a Plan B. When you start showing your home, you will need to think of a plan of what to do with the kids when someone comes by to see your home. You may have plans to take your kids to the park during a showing but it may rain so you will need a plan B. Having wonderful family and friends that will allow you to hang out at their home for a bit is a great option. Another option is buying a month pass or multiple visit pass to a kid’s center that is close. You never know when you may need to leave the house without notice so having this option is great to have.
Get up Early. While this may not seem ideal to most, getting up before the kids wake up to do a quick wipe down of the house every day is a great way to maintain a clean home. You can quickly do a bit of cleaning without your kids following behind you to undo what you have just done. I usually first wipe down the kitchen and bathroom. When I need to vacuum, I save it for when the kids need to start to wake up. I make sure the main rooms are show ready so that all I have to worry about is breakfast clean up. If it is a nice morning, I usually have everyone eat outside. That way the mess is easier to clean.
Stay out of the house as often as you can. If I know of a showing a day in advance I try to plan as much outside activities as I can. Whether it is spending the day at the zoo or running a lot of errands, the less the kids and I are at home the less I have to clean. I will make it back for lunch and nap time but then when they wake up, it is to a park or a visit with the grandparents if someone is looking to see our home later in the day.
Find your hiding places. I have many of these throughout our house and makes a quick cleanup pretty easy. Our family room has a storage coffee table so I can just throw any junk lying around in it. I also keep a bit of space in the linen closet so that I can just quickly put all of our toiletries in a box and put it right in there during a showing. My children’s toddler beds have a drawer on the bottom so this is where they shove all their blankies and small stuffed animals in. I also make sure I keep empty space in one of the kitchen cabinets so that I can just quickly put anything that’s on the counters there so everything thing looks picked up and clean.
I also like to keep fresh flowers around which are in high places that toddlers can’t reach during the day but put down throughout the house before a house showing. I also have a handy checklist on my phone that I do real quickly to make sure I haven’t forgotten anything like making sure all the lights are on, deck umbrella is open with table cloth, blankies are all hidden, etc… When juggling lots of little ones it is quite easy to forget some things! But having this checklist helps me make sure that our home is “show ready” every time.
I homeschool. This post is not meant for only homeschool families, it’s meant for every parent and child out there. This is definately a choice that felt right for our family and I wouldn’t change it for ANYTHING. The bond, the time and the love that I have shared with my family is irreplaceable.
There is a lot of homeschool stigma out there. I hear all the time, “aren’t you worried about socialization?” The answer to this question is simple. NO. 100% NO. Here is why. It is perfectly OK for us, their mom and dad, to be 100% responsible for teaching and to guiding our children to be responsible for their own actions: to make friends, to be kind to others, to behave around other people, and to always be respectful. Our babes are only 4 + 6! They are still learning and let me tell you….. they have A LOT to learn!. They are not perfect, just as I am not perfect. Nobody is perfect.
Yes, I can often be found, either in public or with people we know, stunned by an action or comment elicited by one of my own children. Embarrassed, shocked, sometimes my heart will even skip a beat! I also know in my heart that it’s just part of the learning puzzle that will help them grow into great people. After all, boundaries need to be created somewhere.
It’s important that we, as their parents, take the time to teach them how to behave respectfully around others so that they can build relationships outside of the family. I am responsible for teaching them manners, how to wait patiently in line, how to be quiet when other people talk, how to stick with a group and not get lost! Not a classroom. And I need them to LISTEN to me while I teach them these skills. Listening is the first skill on this list, one of the biggest road blocks we often face as parents. Wouldn’t it be great if kids were naturally great listeners and listened instead of interrupting to try and negotiate a better plan that better suits their needs?!
Below is a poster I am printing and framing for our school room. Every time I review this list, I come up with a DOZEN examples of how my kids have bombed most of these skills in one way or another and why we need to work on them daily. My kids have voices, they are loud and they are compassionate. I don’t want them to loose their fire, or be afraid of talking to others. If they see an opportunity to help someone I want them to not be afraid to step up and help.
It is our job as parents to create boundaries and guide our children to communicate with the world. This list will also help remind me to be more thoughtful and understanding of them when they do make mistakes during their journey of learning how to navigate the world.
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master their social skills?
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It was a Friday afternoon at 3:00 and I realized we still haven’t made it outside to play and we’ve been trying since this morning. I was feeling defeated. Where did the day go! How did we fail to simply get outside to play. We started the process around 9:00 this morning and between the random baby cries, feedings, snacks, diaper changes, melt downs, water spills, and much needed naps it was 3:00 and we were still stuck inside. Things were going down hill quickly! It was clear that we were in desperate need of some fresh air and Vitamin D. Time was ticking. I quickly put the baby in my boba wrap and looked for my two year old sons shoes and together we darted for the door.
The sun was bright and it was the warmest part of the day. I took a deep breathe and sighed in relief that we did it…we made it outside! It was right then that it struck me. It was Friday Happy Hour and many are enjoying adult beverages on this weather perfect afternoon as they unwind from a busy work week. My mind began to wander as I reflected back on my Happy Hour Days sitting on a patio at Rosie’s in Ferndale. It was the perfect start to the weekend. Now look at me. I’m not showered and I’m lucky to have brushed my teeth. I can’t imagine going to Happy Hour looking like this.
As I continued to reflect on my past and feel saddened because I was missing my “Happy Hour days” I stopped and found the “Happy” in the moment that I had in front of me. Look at how lucky I am! I have two healthy and beautiful children that are a true joy to be around. Just then a plane flew over and my little guy was fascinated by this. It was the cutest thing to watch as he looked up to the sky and pointed. He was experiencing something new and exciting and best of all I was there to witness it. How awesome!
A switch went off in my head and I realized…yes many people are at Happy Hour mingling after a long work week, but today my Happy Hour is that we got outside after a long day cooped up inside. This was our version of Friday Happy Hour and I wouldn’t change a thing.
Salads make great quick light meals that are perfect for busy summer days. This one has some great southwestern style flavors and is very customizable to picky palettes. Never given your little one salad as a meal before? Give it a shot, they just might surprise you (and at the least, if they pick everything off and eat it without the lettuce, it is still pretty well rounded!)
I grilled 2 chicken breasts, one plain for my kids and one with barbeque sauce for my husband and I , the BBQ sauce gives it a great flavor but my crazy kids won’t touch it. Everything else was the same for all 4 of us. Alternatively you could just pour some BBQ sauce right on the salad with the dressing.
[yumprint-recipe id=’4′] For a fantastic, quick and easy homemade Buttermilk Ranch, see the bottom of this post.
Hello “stressed out” mom. Relax “worried you are making the right choices” mom. Breathe “guilt ridden about working outside the home” mom. There is no perfect way to do this job. Yep, I said it. Make no mistake about it, it is a job. It is a rewarding, amazing, joyful job. It is also hard. There is also no advancement, no career path, little recognition and no retirement plan. So why do we keep judging ourselves by some imaginary standards? Or worse, we judge other moms on their performance.
The kicker is; I was guilty too. I have wanted the crying kid at the restaurant to be quieted, as if I had the ability to control my own child’s emotions. I have thought “really?” when I see a mom giving her toddler some sugary juice. I have looked sideways at the unprepared mom at the park. No snack, no anti-bacterial wipes and a crying toddler. Doesn’t she know? Maybe, I should have just walked over with the anti-bacterial wipes I had and offered a wipe for the gunk on her poor screaming child’s hand. For the record, I finally did.
I am guilty of all these things now. Tantrums in public? Check. Sugary Juice? Check. Unprepared for outings? Check. Check. Check. I once drove 2 hours from home for an afternoon on the lake and brought no bottles or formula. Then, another mom scorned me for letting my daughter watch TV before she was two after she heard her singing a movie theme song. You know the one. For three days I was alternately angry and questioning myself. Then I finally took my daughters wise words and let it go. I also decided I would make every effort NOT to judge any other mom again. Who am I to say what is right for your family. Yes, my daughter sang along with Frozen early. She knows how to get to the PBS App on my phone to watch Elmo and is fond of yelling, “I Love Kung Fu!” at inopportune moments too. However, my child has developed a very active imagination on her own; her vocabulary amazes me every day. She’s perfectly healthy. She is kind and smart and affectionate and she loves me more than anything. She is everything I want our little human to be despite my mistakes and regrets.
So I can save you some time. I can save you some self-depreciating energy. I have good news, none of us is perfect. None of us will raise our children without mistakes or regret. If you are trying; if you are doing your best; if you sometimes just show up with McDonalds because you are so tired you could cry, IT IS OK. If the shaming happens to you, don’t give in. If the judgment weighs on you, rise above it. Feel sorry for the unenlightened person throwing shade. It’s likely they are so consumed by their own need to be right; their own need to be best that they just might be missing out on the point of it all.
You are raising humans and it is a hard job. You are doing just fine.
“Never get tired of doing little things for others. Sometimes those little things occupy the biggest part of their hearts.”
Coming home with a new baby can be stressful and overwhelming; especially as visitors seem to arrive minutes after you walk through the door. It wasn’t until I had a child myself that I truly understood what the chaos of bringing home a baby was all about. While everyone knows you’re visiting to snuggle that new baby, here are 10 ways you can help the new mom in your life.
Cook for her & her new family
It probably goes without saying that New Mom doesn’t have time to whip up a three-course meal. Cooking is one of the easiest ways to help her. Supplying dinners that can serve a few meals are ideal. A few of my favorites are lasagna, chicken and dressing, and enchilada soup. Leftovers are easily accessible and can be reheated at a moment’s notice. Don’t forget about bringing the meal in a throwaway container so she doesn’t have to deal with tons of extra dishes or worry about getting them back to their proper owners. If she truly is an independent woman and insists on cooking her own meals, try preparing a sauce that can be frozen so she can use for a dish of her own later.
Grocery shop
Gather a list of items she needs from the grocery store and go shopping for her. It may be just a gallon of milk or some fresh produce to keep the fruit basket full, but saving her a trip to a germ-filled store with a newborn will be a lifesaver. I mean, do you remember how long it takes to get a newborn ready for a ‘quick’ outing?
Do a load (or two) of laundry
New babies mean significantly more laundry. And if the New Mom is washing baby’s clothes separately from the rest of the family’s, it can mean even more. Take it upon yourself to offer to do a load of laundry while she’s busy attending to the baby’s needs. Make sure to ask if she has any specific directions so clothes don’t shrink and colors don’t bleed. Stay just long enough to throw them in the dryer and fold them when they’re done.
Clean – Vacuum, Dust & Scrub
Cleaning is the last thing on new mom’s mind and even the cleanest of moms can’t keep up with everything. The doctor probably instructed her not to pick up anything heavier than the new baby, so start by vacuuming carpeted areas or sweeping the wood floors (scrubbing the kitchen floor would be awesome, too!). Don’t forget to dust the living room tables since guests will likely gather here, and wash dishes or place them in the dishwasher and hit ‘run!’ Ask if there’s something else you can do that would save her 10 minutes later that day.
Take care of big brother/sister
Older sibling(s) are probably not used to sharing the limelight with the new baby yet. Offer to take the new big brother or sister for an afternoon of undivided attention and fun. Go see a movie, take a trip to the park, or even visit the Detroit Zoo for a great day-trip. Anything to show the big kids some love would go a long way for New Mom.
Let her nap
The whole ‘sleep while the baby sleeps’ is a great in theory, but in reality never seems to work… there are too many other things that can be done during that time. Even if it’s just for 30 minutes, a quick nap can do wonders for a new mom, so let her lay down and rest while you tend to the baby’s needs for a brief period.
Take the dog for a walk
New Mom’s ‘first child’ is probably feeling neglected and could use some TLC. Offer to take the dog for a walk around the neighborhood or venture to dog-friendly Partridge Creek Mall. While you’re there, don’t forget to grab a treat at Three Dog Bakery.
Don’t bombard her with advice
Do you remember your first week home with a newborn? You were probably exhausted and running on fumes but you loved every minute because it was time with your baby. New moms definitely don’t have all of the answers, and as a veteran, you know a thing or two, but let the new mom figure it out on her own. Don’t offer up too much advice unless she asks for it.
Capture the moment
She’s probably not expecting someone else to catch all of the ‘firsts’ on camera, so help her out by doing so. Plus, by having a family member or friend snap a few photos, there’s a better chance that she’ll actually be in the photos rather than the one behind the camera.
Just do something
There’s nothing more frustrating as a new mom than to feel the need to entertain your guests. Letting New Mom go to the bathroom in peace, because, let’s face it, it can take 10 minutes for the first week or two, can be just what she needs. Don’t come to her house, expect to eat and drink and leave a mess for her to clean up after you’re long gone. Be respectful of her time (don’t overstay your welcome) and her home.
Do you have other tips for family and friends that will be visiting the new mom in their life soon? What do you wish someone would have done for you within the first few weeks of being home with your newborn?
I moved to the Detroit Metro area in May 2015. Yep, you read that right, I am the new girl in town. I moved for my husband’s career and while it is hard to pause my dreams to support his career, it is a decision we made together. I couldn’t be happier with his new placement.
We have always lived in the Midwest, but have been in a rural city for the past two years. When I found out that we were moving to the Detroit area, I went right to the internet to learn as much as I could. On Instagram I started following restaurants, bakeries, public personalities and accounts devoted entirely to showing off Southeast Michigan. My three month old, husband and I now call Downriver home, and let me tell you, Detroit does not disappoint! I love the diversity, arts, culture and most of all cuisine. As the new girl in town, I was impressed by the kindness shown by random strangers, and an amazing energy every time I travel into the city.
{My Life}
In the three years since graduating from college, my life has undergone a lot of changes. Initially, I expected to be a high school English teacher in my home state of Wisconsin. {My passion is people, first and foremost, and second, the written word} But, soon after our wedding, my husband began professional school and our adventure began to move in a different direction. We moved from Wisconsin to rural Missouri. There, I got a dog, then a job in a new field, and finally we had a little girl, Linnea, in March of 2015. I am planning on being a stay at home mom, but a little worried about life away from adults.
I was determined (terrified) not to ‘lose myself’ when I became a wife, and again when I became a mother. I don’t know what the future holds as far as a career, but I am determined to make life better for others one way or another. For now I am focusing on being a full-time mom to a smiley girl who is so full of potential. I’m looking forward to experiencing the world through her eyes as she grows. Meanwhile I will continue to work at becoming a mom who she will be proud of. Wow, I never imagined this job would be so hard!
It is hard to explain who I am as a mom because I am so new at it. In a lot of ways, I am still figuring out what I want out of this crazy life, but there are a few things that I am sure of. I aim to be a lifelong learner, and my greatest passions are reading and anything related to food (cooking, growing, eating, etc.) and I love to laugh! I also enjoy travel, anything French (my beloved grandmother was Parisian), and attending arts or cultural events. I believe that anything shared with others is instantly better, and I can’t wait to share my discoveries on Detroit Mom’s Blog!
{Baby and Beyond}
I had a textbook pregnancy– every symptom in the book, one right after the other, and often overlapping. I did not enjoy much about being pregnant, but I did love feeling every single kick from my baby. While I was working alone in a quiet office (a difficult job for an extrovert like me), it was so special to know that there was someone right there with me each day. I worked right up to my daughter’s birth. I benefited from the expertise of a doula during my in-hospital birth, though I did not use any pain killers because, this is going to sound crazy, “I just thought I’d see how it went”. I am going to be honest, I am not sure if I will do it that way again! Overall it was an amazing experience, with my husband (a medical student) catching our baby and placing her on my chest.
My philosophy for childbirth continues as my philosophy for motherhood, I will give anything a try. By keeping an open mind and a loving heart, it is a lot easier to roll with the unexpected turns. I use cloth diapers (most of the time) and breastfeed (all of the time). None of it is easy, and I am eternally in awe of every other mother because the right answer is rarely clear. As a brand new mom and the new girl in town, I need the support and wisdom of other moms. I am grateful to be a part of the conversation.
It all dawned on me one afternoon while my husband and I were driving home from brunch. This baby has to come out! The fear sunk in and I began visualizing child birth as a painful, bloody, war like experience. A few days later, I came across an informational meeting being held at the Rochester Whole Foods. It said ” Relaxation for Childbirth-How Hypnobirthing Works”. I marked my calendar and on a Thursday evening my husband and I showed up for this class. Little did we know, our view on childbirth and future birthing experiences would be forever changed because we attended this free class and found out about Hypnobirthing.
I wasn’t sure what to think after our first encounter with Janice at Whole Foods Market. The word “Hypnobirthing” sounded hokey pokey. Could I truly have a peaceful childbirth without fear!?! We came home and I began my Hypnobirthing research and I dug into the theory behind the practice. Everything I read was positive and made sense. I even found that many hospitals offer Hypnobirthing classes including Troy, Beaumont where I planned to deliver my baby. The next big discussion was, should we take Hypnobirthing classes to prepare for the birth of our baby? We quickly looked at our options and a few weeks later my husband and I attended our first class at Peaceful Birthing in downtown Rochester. We attended for 5 weeks and I can’t tell you how much confidence I gained in my body and its ability to labor. My husband also gained confidence as a birthing partner and together we were both more educated and prepared for delivery.
My first delivery went better than expected. I delivered our son naturally without any medications or IV’s and best of all without any fear. The delivery went by quickly because I was in a relaxed state and was focused on my breathing.
Fast forward two years and I’m back in the delivery room. It was this delivery that made me an extreme advocate for Hypnobirthing. I had the most peaceful birth you can imagine. Throughout my entire labor I didn’t make a peep. I mastered each surge (contraction) with the various breathing and visualization techniques taught during class. I went deeper and deeper into relaxation as I soaked in a hot tub. My husband prepped me for each surge as we were on a calming 3 minute off, 1 minute on cycle for about an hour. I had a rhythm going and was in tune with my body as minutes later we greeted our sweet baby girl. Wow we were speechless! Who ever thought giving birth could be so beautiful! Thanks to our experience with practicing Hypnobirthing.
My Hypnobabies!
Hypnobirthing changed my entire view on childbirth. It also made my birthing experiences both memorable and special. I am so thankful I stumbled across that free class at Whole Foods. It was that evening that I decided to stand up to my fears and conquer them through Hypnobirthing. I’m not one who likes to give advice unless someone asks for it. I know that we all have our own special birthing stories and in the end, it’s a healthy baby we all hope and pray for. But if you fear childbirth and would like to gain more confidence for your delivery, I highly recommend looking into Hypnobirthing. It’s an amazing practice and can truly change the way you view childbirth.
Have you practiced Hypnobirthing or had success with something similar? If so, how was your experience? Please share below.
Okay Detroit Mamas … we’ve all been here, now what? Every ‘sick’ season I somehow luck out and even when my kids catch things – I am usually the strong one that doesn’t get it! But this time It’s been a whole S E V E N days since I got this bug and it’s still not going away!
To make it worse, I have an ear infection (Yes, I think I was about 5 years old the last time I had an ear infection – way more painful then I remember!) I actually finished my last dosage of antibiotics TODAY and I’m not better so I call the doctor and of course – have to be seen again? What mom has time for that? I barely made it in the first time for myself because my baby was sick too! Can’t you just switch up my dosage and call it in for me?
I’m not sure how it is in your homes but when my husband gets sick, he gets to rest as much as he needs until he gets better! For me – I’m still doing laundry, making to eat, homework… the list goes on! So when does mom have time to be sick? The real answer is never but you have to remember that if you don’t take time for yourself to refuel, you will be crabbier, even more tired and probably not enjoyable to your kids anyways! So, the number one thing to do (I hate this but I am going to say it …) CALL FOR HELP. Whether it’s your husband, your mother in law, mom, aunt, ANY ONE give yourself a couple hours AT LEAST to just SLEEP. I am very guilty of this because I hate to ask for help but I knew that if I didn’t this time, I would not get better!
Don’t worry about the house chores or if the kids are watching their 10th episode of SpongeBob … Cereal for dinner – why not?
At the end of the day you have to take care of YOU – after all, all awesome superheroes need rest sometimes!
*updated 11/14/2024
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