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Spotting the Early Warning Signs of Pediatric Sleep Apnea

DISCLAIMER: The following post outlines the writer’s personal opinion on pediatric sleep apnea. It is not intended to act as medical advice. As always, please consult your doctor with any questions about pediatric sleep apnea.

Choking, gasping, snoring, and frequent nighttime awakenings–these were the first major indicators that my six-year-old daughter grappled with significant sleep issues. And to top it off, these symptoms worsened during seasonal illnesses.

I decided to take action when I realized that my concerns for her were keeping me up at night. It was about a year ago when I first talked to her pediatrician about my worries. At the time, the doctor didn’t seem too bothered, attributing her condition to the viruses she’d been dealing with. But it wasn’t until she got better and those symptoms stuck around that I realized we needed to do something more substantial.

After multiple trips to the doctor’s office to voice my concerns, I finally convinced them to order a sleep study to take a closer look at her sleep patterns.

The Sleep Study

In May, she went in for the sleep study, and it turned out to be a breeze. I really didn’t know what to expect, but the information from the doctors put my mind at ease. I purposely avoided diving into the endless sea of Google searches and videos related to the procedure. Instead, I decided to trust the process as it unfolded.

When we got to the facility, we were pretty surprised by how comfy it was, even if it didn’t quite match a fancy five-star hotel. It was more than enough for a good night’s sleep. For the study, they hooked her up to all sorts of monitors to check her breathing, oxygen levels, heart rate, and other sleep-related key areas. They placed wires and sensors on her head, face, and chest to gather the necessary data.

Despite feeling a little nervous at first, she ended up sleeping quite well during the study. Now, it’s a memory we fondly look back on.

The Official Diagnosis

Following the sleep study, the results confirmed my suspicions: she received a diagnosis of moderate obstructive sleep apnea (OSA). This meant she experienced frequent interruptions in her upper airway during sleep, affecting her rest quality and overall health.

According to the National Library of Medicine, pediatric OSA is most common between the ages of two and eight because of the increased growth of childrens’ tonsils and adenoids.  Risk factors for early-onset OSA can include being born prematurely, African American race, attending daycare, and Down syndrome.

Given her condition, her medical team recommended the surgical removal of her tonsils and adenoids–a common remedy for sleep apnea in children.

Tonsillectomy and Adenoidectomy

The Surgical Process

The surgical procedure occurred two months later and included a tonsillectomy and adenoidectomy. My daughter was meticulously prepared for the surgery, which proceeded without a hitch. The surgeon skillfully removed her tonsils and adenoids, effectively alleviating the airway obstruction and addressing the root cause of her sleep apnea. However, her doctor was careful to note that surgery does not always guarantee the resolution of sleep obstruction issues.

Another big part of her journey was having Mr. Monkey by her side. He was a real trooper and even received his very own hospital bracelet and cap!

The Road to Recovery

After the surgery, she had a two-week recovery period. Now, you can imagine that being told to take it easy isn’t the simplest thing for a kid full of energy. Nonetheless, it was a necessary step toward her complete recovery. As the days passed, I noticed substantial improvements in her breathing and sleep patterns.

However, one of the most significant tasks during this process was managing her diet during the recovery phase. She had to consume plenty of water without using a straw, in addition to eating soft foods like mashed potatoes, applesauce, and soups. Oddly enough, the most challenging part for her was that she didn’t have an appetite for the ice cream and popsicles that many kids usually enjoy after this type of surgery!

The initial days were tough to navigate, but her determination to recover quickly kept her going. As her mom, I couldn’t help but feel so proud of her bravery and resilience through it all. Kids can be incredibly strong, and it’s amazing to see.

The Warning Signs

If you suspect your child may be dealing with sleep apnea, here are some initial signs to watch for, according to the sleepfoundation.org, sleepapnea.org, and the Mayo Clinic:

  • Behavioral issues: Children with sleep apnea may exhibit concentration difficulties, irritability, and mood swings.
  • Choking and gasping: Episodes of choking and gasping during sleep can be clear indicators of sleep apnea.
  • Daytime fatigue: Consistent daytime fatigue or excessive sleepiness, especially in children, can be a sign of sleep apnea.
  • Disruptive sleep pattern: Frequent awakenings and restless movements during sleep may suggest a sleep disorder.
  • Exacerbation during illness: Symptoms may worsen during illnesses, linking health conditions with sleep disturbances.
  • Loud snoring: Persistent loud snoring, especially with breathing pauses, can signal sleep apnea.
  • Poor growth: Slow growth or poor weight gain can be linked to pediatric sleep apnea, affecting a child’s appetite and overall health.
  • Restless sleep: Frequent tossing and turning in bed, restless legs, and irregular sleep patterns may indicate sleep disturbances.

If you notice any of these potential red flags, it’s a good idea to reach out to a pediatrician or a sleep specialist. Early diagnosis and intervention can make a significant difference in a child’s well-being, ensuring they get the quality sleep they need for healthy growth. Recognizing these signs played a crucial role in making me aware of the necessity for medical help. Parents should stay watchful and take an active approach to their child’s sleep patterns and overall health.

Did you know that sleep apnea is often linked to airway disorders? Emily shares about her journey in advocacy after her son’s airway disorder diagnosis.

Detroit Mom’s Local Love Spotlight: LovePeaceThreads

Detroit Mom’s Local Love series highlights local women and the businesses they have built. We love supporting small business! Today’s Local Love Spotlight belongs to Lauren Wilson, owner of LovePeaceThreads.

To start, we asked Lauren to tell us a few unique things about herself! She said her personality, her creativity, and her ability to remain positive are all unique. And we love that about her!

We also asked her to share a little bit more about her business with us. Get to know Lauren and her business, LovePeaceThreads, below!

Photo by Raelynn Davy Photography

How did you come up with the idea of your business, and how did you start?

“I came up with the idea during COVID because I was looking for more money to put my children through school. Honestly, the idea just came to me! I did not make apparel for myself or others first before selling. I’ve always loved fashion and design so this kinda came easy to me!

“I decided to start on social media right away because I know how easily you can build an audience and market products. Honestly I didn’t wait, I just started it! I knew it was time to start a website after about a year and after some growth. I wanted my customers to be able to see everything I have to offer and also be able to purchase items from me if they didn’t have social media. The jean jacket parties just came to me too! Like I said, I’ve always loved design and fashion and I am always thinking of new ways to grow my business and keep my customers engaged.”

What is the best business advice you’ve ever been given?

“Be patient and keep going.”

Photo by Raelynn Davy Photography

How do you persevere in challenging times?

“[By] keeping a positive mindset. I have an unwavering commitment to never giving up and a strong determination to overcome any obstacles that come my way. I believe in pushing forward relentlessly, refusing to let anything stand in my path to success.”

What impact do you want your business to have?

“[I hope to] allow women to feel beautiful in what they wear, and also give them the ability to be creative while doing so.”

Photo by Raelynn Davy Photography

What knowledge would you share with someone who wants to become an entrepreneur?

“[I would tell them to] pursue their passions and not allow anything to get in the way. It’s really important to remember that building a successful business takes time and persistence. It’s common to face doubts and distractions along the way, but with determination and a strategic approach, you can overcome these challenges and work toward your entrepreneurial goals.

“I try to do the following:

  • Break down big goals: This makes them feel less overwhelming and easier to tackle.
  • Continuously learn: Invest in your knowledge and skills. The more you learn and gain confidence in your abilities, the better equipped you’ll be to tackle challenges.
  • Have a positive mindset: Cultivate a positive mindset by practicing self-affirmation and focusing on your strengths and achievements.
  • Have time management: Efficiently manage your time by allocating blocks for focused work.
  • Minimize distractions: Identify common distractions in your work environment and take steps to minimize them.
  • Prioritize tasks: Create a daily or weekly to-do list and prioritize tasks based on their importance and urgency. This can help you stay organized and avoid getting sidetracked.
  • Seek support: Surround yourself with a network of mentors, advisors, or peers who can provide guidance and support.
  • Self-reflect: Acknowledge your doubts and insecurities, but don’t let them control your actions. Regularly reflect on your progress, learn from your mistakes, and use them as opportunities for growth.
  • Set clear goals: Having a clear direction can help you stay focused and motivated.
  • Stay adaptable: Understand that setbacks and uncertainties are a part of entrepreneurship. Embrace change and adapt your plans as needed.”
Photo by Raelynn Davy Photography

What do you do for personal and professional development?

“[I like to] workout, [and] stay up-to-date with the latest trends.”

What mantra or quote do you live by?

“Dream big and don’t fear to fail.”

What’s your favorite place in Detroit or Michigan?

“Northern Michigan!”

Where can our readers find you on social media?

You can follow LovePeaceThreads on Facebook, Instagram, and on their website!

We hope you loved getting to know more about Lauren + LovePeaceThreads. Be sure to check out our previous Local Love Spotlight featuring Ashley + Luxury Bounce Detroit!

Trust Me, It’s All Going to Be Fine Someday

School has started and soon, too, will the calls and notes from the classroom about your child. But don’t worry. It’s all going to be fine.

Too many times my phone rang and the conversation went something like this:
“Hello, this is Mrs. Dombey calling from the Smith School office. Your child . . .

Has a rock stuck in their ear.
Was hit by another child.
Sprained an ankle during gym class.
Clotheslined themselves on playground equipment and has a black eye.
Returned from recess too wet and dirty to be allowed in the classroom.
Got in a fight.
Forgot their permission slip.
Forgot their lunch.
Forgot their homework.
Lost their inhaler.
Broke their glasses.”

Are you kidding me?

Yes, all of these situations actually happened to one or another of my offspring at school. Why am I telling you this, mamas? Because you are going to get calls, e-mails, or texts about something that happened at school. And you are going to worry, or wonder, or be angry, or fret that your child is never going to make it through life.

I’m here to tell you that they are going to be fine. And so are you. 

Take 10 (or 20 if you need it!).

So when the call comes–and it will come–take a deep breath. Think of it in tens: will this matter in 10 minutes? In 10 months? In 10 years? 

All of those things that happened to my kids? My kids are fine. And so am I. Oh sure, there were consequences: talks about being a good friend, about appropriate behavior, about remembering important things. Lessons were (eventually) learned. And we survived.

Next time the phone rings, or the note comes, stop for a second. Try to put it in perspective, and help your child learn to make adjustments, correct mistakes, and move on. And then, let it go. Watch it wisp away, out of your mind, and don’t dwell on it.

Because there’s going to be another call. Another forgotten lunch. Another missed homework assignment. And then, whoosh–the school days will be over, and your barely-keeping-it-together child will become a functioning adult and you’ll wonder how that happened.

Did all those small mistakes teach them how to handle life’s bigger situations? Did they learn how to plan and prepare? Be personally responsible?

Learning gets more expensive.

Learning is cheap when you are young. Forgot your lunch? There are some easy solutions for that. Didn’t turn your homework in? You probably lost some points on that assignment. 

The cost of learning gets more expensive as you grow. Didn’t make your car payment on time? Your credit score takes a hit. Missed an important deadline at work? You might not get a raise, or worse, you might be looking for a new job.

So let those calls from the office be an opportunity to learn. Be there for support. And be thankful for growth. It’s not a reflection on your parenting skills–it’s a chance to help your little human prepare for the big human world. 

They’re going to be okay.

Watch their pride and self-confidence grow as they start to figure things out on their own. Maybe they don’t throw pea gravel around at recess and have it get stuck in their ear anymore. Maybe they pack their homework up before they go to bed so it gets turned in. Or maybe, just maybe, they turn out okay after all. 

And maybe, so do you.

Looking for more help navigating the trials and tribulations of the school year? Check out Albiona’s tips for dealing with language learned at school.

A Dying Dad + Finding Forgiveness

My dad was a different kind of father. He was never the dad that changed our diapers, washed our pacis, or sang us to sleep. He never read us books or helped us with homework or science projects. He was gone endless nights, and had a temper. He would show us love by handing us 20 dollar bills and buying us new basketball shoes. He would take us on vacation and buy us lavish gifts when he messed up at home.

I grew up in chaos and thinking fathers were only good for the monetary part of fatherhood. But I was craving a “real” father.

A “Real” Dad

A father that would tuck us in at night instead of coming home at 2:00 a.m.. One that read books to us when we couldn’t sleep. Or kissed us softly on the head when we had a nightmare. But that wasn’t him. He never was that father or grandfather.

He is now in heaven and I needed to forgive him for not being that father. I needed to forgive him for me, not for him. Letting go of the anger, hurt, and loss is very freeing.

There were years when I was hurt that he was the “Tony Soprano” of all dads. Upset that he never showed me how a husband should treat his wife. Mad that he never congratulated me on getting an MBA or never came to my son’s Kindergarten graduation. Hurt that he never recognized my four siblings’ unbelievable accomplishments among all the adversity we were raised in.

Years that I would ponder if he would change, and finally realize that he’s missing out on his children’s lives.

Finding Forgiveness

Then, I came to the realization that he’s not changing; this is him, and will always be him. So I chose to love him through all the hurt and pain. I chose to understand the wounds he was carrying around as well. I chose to be with him as he fought cancer.

Making the decision to forgive and love him did not come without angst or lots of money spent on therapy. I reflected on the man he had to become at a very young age (they had my brother at 16), the fact that he did significantly better than his dad, and that Jesus taught, “If you forgive others of their transgressions, your heavenly Father will forgive you.”

Our relationship significantly changed for the better once I made this decision to accept him for who he was and to let go of the pain. I was an adult when I made this decision and now that he’s gone, I’d do anything to go back to when I was a little girl and forgive him sooner.

When someone passes you remember all the good in that person. I remember all the times he was my protector. I remember everyone at his funeral telling me what a “legend” my dad was and what a generous and forgiving man he was to everyone he met. That’s the legacy of my dad that I want to leave to my child: the generous legend that truly loved his kids and the Lord.

Weakness in His Last Weeks

Being with him during his last weeks, he was no longer the tough, angry, unpredictable man I grew up with. He was a weak, feeble, and hurting man that was now relying on his children to be the “caregiver” that he never was to us. We had to help him stand up, walk him to the bathroom, and bathe him. It’s incredibly disheartening to watch a hard-headed, tenacious man such as my father lose his ability to function as a grown man.

God never wastes a hurt, and finding the will to forgive has been an extremely humbling experience. I have learned that time is a thief and to not waste precious space in your head on bitterness and suffering. Although I did not have a direct conversation at the end discussing how hurt I was or how mad at him I was in the past, he made it clear that he knew he didn’t live the most Godly life. He knew he could have been a better husband and knew that he needed to believe in our Lord and Savior to be out of pain and live for eternity in heaven.

So as my Dad was now the “child,” I wanted to make sure he never felt alone, or hurt, or unheard the way he may have made me feel as a young girl. I wanted him to feel loved, cared for, and respected, so he knew he would leave this world without the regret of my childhood. I’ll forever be grateful that I was able to be with him, hold his hand, and tell him “I love you” on the day he took his last breath.

Find Forgiveness for Yourself

If you find yourself in a similar position with a loved one, I know how hard it can be to forgive and let go. But do it FOR YOU. I suggest starting by reading some Psalms in the Bible or other books on forgiveness. Also, writing down the hurt was a helpful way for me to push past it as well. And finally, a good therapist is always someone you should have on speed-dial. I know it’s a cliché saying but having gone through it, it’s true. You don’t want to feel guilt for not forgiving that loved one after it’s too late.

So remember to love with all your heart, and forgive with even more of your heart–even when it seems unthinkable.

Finding forgiveness can be a first step in your mental wellness journey. If you’re ready to seek more support, check out our Guide to Therapists In + Around Detroit.

Your Guide to Pre- + Postnatal Care with Trinity Health IHA Medical Group

Detroit Mom partnered with the amazing people from Trinity Health IHA Medical Group to bring you this post. All opinions are our own.

Bringing a new life into this world is an incredible journey. This journey comes filled with excitement, joy, wonder, and a touch of anxiety. The nurse midwives at Trinity Health IHA Medical Group have the unique privilege of supporting expectant moms through the miraculous process of pregnancy, birth, and beyond.

To help navigate this new adventure, the nurse midwives have some valuable insights for soon-to-be parents. 

Choose the right care provider for yourself.

You have options for care during pregnancy, and it is important to find a healthcare provider who you trust and feel comfortable with. This could be an obstetrician or a certified nurse midwife. At Trinity Health IHA Medical Group, we are proud to have amazing practitioners to serve patients across the Southeastern Michigan area.

It is important to attend all of your prenatal appointments as scheduled.

Prenatal and postnatal care are both essential for the health and well-being of both mom and baby. These appointments are an opportunity for your provider to monitor your baby’s growth, as well as your own health, through all stages of pregnancy. 

As your pregnancy progresses, the frequency of your visits will increase.

At approximately 8 weeks, you will begin seeing your provider monthly, then twice each month at 28 weeks. Once you hit the 36-week mark, you will be seen weekly. 

A series of ultrasounds will take place throughout your pregnancy.

The first will take place during the first trimester: this ultrasound will confirm your due date. At 20 weeks, an anatomy scan will take place where your provider will be able to look at your baby in detail. The final ultrasound will take place at 36 weeks. This ultrasound will make sure that your baby is in an ideal position for a vaginal birth.

If you have a high-risk pregnancy or other risk factors, your provider may recommend additional scans to monitor your health and the health of your growing baby. 

Blood tests are part of routine care throughout pregnancy.

These blood tests will include a full STI (sexually transmitted infection) panel as well as testing for diabetes and anemia. 

Nutrition will be key; it is the cornerstone for a healthy pregnancy.

At Trinity Health IHA Medical Group, we recommend that you take a prenatal vitamin throughout your pregnancy. Your individual provider may recommend additional supplements, such as iron if it is needed. 

Pregnancy can bring on a whirlwind of emotions.

It is vitally important to take care of your mental health just as you care for your physical health. If you have had a history of anxiety and/or depression prior to or during pregnancy, your provider may recommend an early postpartum visit to check in with you.

Be curious! Seek out reliable sources of information, attend prenatal classes, and read books.

Knowledge empowers you to make informed decisions throughout your pregnancy. Extended appointments are offered by the Trinity Health IHA Medical Group Nurse Midwives to ensure you have time to ask all your questions, so bring them with you! We want to hear your concerns and fears so we can help and reassure you throughout this journey. 

Trinity Health IHA Medical Group Nurse Midwives have the privilege of being a part of countless beautiful beginnings. Remember, every pregnancy journey is different, and your journey will have its own twists and turns. Trust your instincts and your healthcare provider. And embrace the joy, challenges, and growth that come with bringing a new life into the world!

Preparing Mind + Body For The Changing Seasons of Motherhood

I never thought I would survive raising two under the age of two until I came across an article explaining the seasons of motherhood. In the trenches of double diaper changes, teething, weaning, and sleepless nights, I recognized this was just a season I needed to get through.

As our children grow, we moms continuously enter and exit phases of motherhood along with them. Infancy, toddlerhood, that weird stage between five and nine, preteen, the teenage years, etc. With every stage our children hit, moms enter a new season of motherhood to endure. Typically, without warning, we prepare our mommy superpowers to develop new skills to help our children grow, and sometimes, just to make it through the day.

Once I got over my trauma in the two under two phase I realized motherhood has many seasons. They are ever-changing, come without notice, linger for what feels like centuries, and take a toll on my mommy brain and body. To be prepared to navigate the continuous change, to be fully present for the good and the bad moments, I needed to invest in the proper artillery. Here are a few battle tactics that keep me on my toes to handle the mental and physical mommy load.

Eating for fuel.

It tastes good, but does it make you feel good? I am no stranger to a sugary treat. In fact, cookies became my reward for keeping the kids alive until nap time. Now I’m not a nutritionist but what I’ve learned from listening to my body wrangling the attitudes of growing humans is that it takes more fuel than the quick satisfaction of a sugary treat. Nine times out of ten, my afternoon fatigue sets in early and it’s hard to get my second wind before dinner if I reach for the cookies.

Start with a solid breakfast. Incorporate leafy greens and complex carbs in your snacks and lunches. “Who has time for breakfast?” you ask. I know it seems like an extra, unnecessary step in the morning, but it’s definitely an undefeated tactic. By not eating, you are more vulnerable to being hangry. Being hangry while managing tantrums, pick-ups, and drop-offs is fun for no one.

When I focus on healthy eating, my day goes smoother. It’s as simple as that. The getting dressed tantrums and running late for drop-off vibes don’t penetrate my armor as deeply. So, listen to your body: how do you feel after you eat? Eat for fuel to get the energy you need to manage the seasons of motherhood. Eat your breakfast, snack on fruits and vegetables, and cut out late night snacking before bed–remember, you’re prioritizing sleep now. Ice cream before bed keeps your body awake for digestion and the sugar will make it harder to fall asleep.

Getting physical.

You don’t have to wake up at 5:00 a.m. to go to the gym. But you do need to move your body to stay sane in the seasons of motherhood. As moms, we need all the endorphins we can get.

Organizing a bit of physical movement in your day will boost your happiness, I promise. Instead of driving to a playdate, schedule something you can walk to. Instead of sitting in the bleachers, walk the perimeter of the field or court while you watch. After sitting at your desk, walk to the farthest restroom in the building or even use the stairs.

We are all busy, all the time, but the more physical movement you give yourself, the more serotonin you’ll have pumping through your body–improving everything from your mood, to your sleep, and even your digestion.

Like anything, it’s going to take some getting used to. I didn’t think my boys would ever make it more than two blocks in our double stroller before fighting to get out. With persistence and a few kid-friendly bribes, morning walks became a valuable routine that gave me the energy to stay on my toes to battle the mental and physical mommy load.

Having patience, grace, + faith.

You aren’t going to get it right every time, show yourself a little bit of patience when adjusting to the seasons of motherhood. We practice patience with our children; it’s a right of passage in parenting, but we hardly ever use that same patience on ourselves. If you want to get through the seasons, be patient with YOU first.

Sprinkle in a little grace from time to time too. The family down the street may look like they have it all together. Your children’s peers may be hitting milestones quicker, or jumping into adulthood more gracefully, but it doesn’t make you any less of a mother. Acknowledging you might be transitioning through seasons, or ending the sweetest season you’ve had as a mother, requires grace.

And stay invested in having faith in yourself. Be assured, even when you feel like you’re failing: you are winning. You’ve won another set of good morning kisses, another chance to teach your children a lesson, another second to reflect. Having faith in yourself will give you the confidence you need to be challenged by any other season of motherhood.

Prioritizing sleep.

This may seem impossible with a newborn or a newly potty-trained toddler. It may even sound improbable as a worrying mother of a preteen or future graduate. But the message isn’t to get good sleep–it is to simply start prioritizing it while moving through seasons of motherhood. Prioritizing your sleep could be anything from not falling asleep with kids in the same bed, setting a bedtime for yourself, cutting out naps to get the kids sleeping through the night, or not falling asleep on your phone in bed.

It’s too often we allow ourselves to “Netflix and chill” as self-care. Yes, it feels good, but the gratification is short-lived. Besides, that extra episode isn’t going to give you the energy you need to battle teething and tweening. And the coffee addiction? It’s cute, but it is not serving your body any good. If we value a good night’s rest, we, as persistent and resilient moms, can make it happen. It may take a few days for your body (and your responsibilities) to adjust, but don’t give up.

My tenacity completely changed when I gave up putting my kids to bed. As a stay-at-home mom I handle everything from wake up to dinner by myself. I enlisted my husband to take over putting the kids to sleep without my help. This has given me time to wind down and get to bed at a reasonable hour; fully rested with clarity and energy to conquer all the mommying through the changing seasons.

Taking breaks.

Planning to see my friends, or to take myself shopping–even if it’s to the grocery store alone–is regularly scheduled into the family’s monthly calendar of activities. It’s not an option. My sanity depends on it like my youngest depended on his pacifier to survive. Without it, there will be no peace.

In order to deal with any season of motherhood you have to mother the mother. When you have something kid-free to look forward to, the chaos of the changing seasons loses its power. Put yourself on the calendar and take a break from your family. Take the time to miss your children and to have them miss you. Love does grow fonder in absence and so will your strength to defeat the overflowing load of mommying.

You don’t even have to leave the house. One of my favorite ways to take a break is to kick everyone out of our home for an afternoon so I can enjoy my space in peace and quiet.

And finally . . .

Mommying is hard and wonderful, and challenging, and glorious all in the same breath. You are going to make mistakes, you are going to feel stuck in a season. You are going to mourn a season’s end or cheer when it’s over. And the change of it all will bring you to your wits end. Have patience, have grace, and have a little faith in yourself.

I once worried if my picky eaters would ever just eat the food I made them. Now I worry how I will ever be able to keep up feeding two growing boys. Just remember, it’s only a season–if you can do this, you can do anything. Stay prepared, prioritize your sleep and your body’s needs, and know we’ve all been there, trading one season for the next. You’ve got this!

Parenting can be tough–we’re here for you! Check out some of Albiona’s Parenting Post topics and allow her to help you navigate the tricky moments.

Teaching Your Children the Art of Organization: A Guide for Parents

Organization is not necessarily an innate trait, but a skill we can acquire through learning, forming habits, and establishing routines. Being organized is a valuable skill that can benefit us at any age!

As my oldest child reached 18 months, I found myself contemplating the most practical approach to clothes and toy storage. Involving her in the process, she eagerly “helped” me organize her clothes. Embracing age-appropriate methods, I let go of my meticulously folded onesies and established a system where she could place items in easily accessible baskets. As she continued to grow, I gradually taught her to roll, fold, and hang her clothes.

Balancing the demands of being a busy working parent, I deeply appreciate the assistance from those little hands. My tailored systems not only enable me to tackle essential chores but also empower my children to take responsibility for managing their belongings. This approach instills a sense of ownership in them when it comes to putting away their items.

Teaching Your Children the Art of Organization: A Guide for ParentsAs parents, it is our responsibility to equip our children with the tools they need to succeed in life, and teaching them organizational skills is a crucial part of that journey. Here are some practical strategies and effective techniques that can help you teach your children the art of organization, fostering habits that will serve them well throughout their lives.

Break Tasks Into Manageable Steps

Help your children tackle larger tasks by breaking them down into smaller, more manageable steps. Teach them to create to-do lists and prioritize tasks based on importance and deadlines. This approach not only prevents overwhelming feelings, but also instills a sense of accomplishment as they complete each step.

Guide them in organizing their schoolwork, including keeping track of assignments, creating study schedules, and utilizing folders or binders for different subjects.

Create a Structured Routine

Establishing a daily routine provides children with a sense of structure and predictability. Help your child develop a schedule that includes designated times for homework, chores, play, and relaxation. Encourage them to use calendars or planners to keep track of their activities. Consistency and routine not only enhance organizational skills, but also promote a sense of responsibility and time management.

Foster Digital Organization

In today’s digital age, teaching your children digital organization skills is just as important as physical organization. Encourage them to organize files, documents, and emails on their computers or tablets using folders and labels. Teach them the significance of creating backups and maintaining a clean digital workspace.

Emphasize the importance of online security and the responsible use of technology, such as managing passwords and being mindful of privacy settings. By imparting these skills, not only are you enhancing their digital literacy, but you’re also equipping them with essential tools for a secure and organized online presence. This preparation will set them up for success in the work place and life in general!

Lead by Example

Children often learn best by observing and imitating their parents’ behavior. By keeping our home environment tidy, managing our time efficiently, and demonstrating systematic approaches to daily tasks, we teach our children the art of living in an organized manner. Through practicing organization in our own lives, we establish a positive model for our children to emulate. 

Organize Physical Spaces

Teaching your children to keep their physical spaces organized is an essential aspect of promoting overall organization. Provide them with age-appropriate storage solutions such as bins, shelves, and labeled boxes for toys, school supplies, and clothing. Teach them the importance of tidying up after play or study sessions. Encourage them to maintain order in their bedrooms, study areas, and playrooms.

Make cleaning and organizing a fun activity by turning it into a game or a race against the clock. We used to love the clean up song–but now, a healthy competition between siblings or reward of screen time works best in our home!

Teaching children to be organized is a valuable life skill that sets them up for success in so many areas of life. By breaking tasks into manageable steps, creating routines, leading by example, and organizing physical and digital spaces, you can empower your children with lifelong organizational skills. 

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Detroit Mom Book Club: Book of the Month for November 2023

Welcome to the Detroit Mom Book Club! To be a part of our discussions, join our Facebook group. For all things book-related, check out our Bookstagram page, Detroit Moms on the Same Page.

Book of the Month: Wellness by Nathan Hill

Synopsis

When Jack and Elizabeth meet as college students in the ’90s, the two quickly join forces and hold on tight, each eager to claim a place in Chicago’s thriving underground art scene with an appreciative kindred spirit. Fast-forward twenty years to married life, and alongside the challenges of parenting, they encounter cults disguised as mindfulness support groups, polyamorous would-be suitors, Facebook wars, and something called Love Potion Number Nine.

For the first time, Jack and Elizabeth struggle to recognize each other, and the no-longer-youthful dreamers are forced to face their demons, from unfulfilled career ambitions to painful childhood memories of their own dysfunctional families. In the process, Jack and Elizabeth must undertake separate, personal excavations, or risk losing the best thing in their lives: each other.

Book Club Reading Discussion Schedule

The dates listed below are the days we will be posting discussion questions in the Facebook group. On those dates, we will be talking about the pages listed.

Monday, November 6: Pages 1-147

Monday, November 13: Pages 148-302

Monday, November 20: Pages 303-452

Monday, November 27: Pages 453-end

We hope you enjoy Wellness and get to discuss with us in our book club this month!

5 Reasons Fall Should Be Your Favorite Season

It must be said: fall is the BEST time of the year! Well, for me it is, at least. Ever since I was a little girl, I can remember feeling the excitement of the first day of school. Not necessarily because I enjoyed it so much, but it was a sense of anticipation.

Picking out my best outfit to wear and waking up to a nutritious meal to help fuel me for the day were just a couple of things that kept me ready to welcome the crisp air and beautiful leaves that come with the season change. 

Personally, there are so many things that I celebrate this season like birthdays, holidays, and anniversaries. These moments I love to hold close, and have heightened my love for the season. I know many of you may not be a believer–so let me give you five reasons why fall should be your favorite season, too.

Cozy Vibes

Who doesn’t love throwing on an oversized hoodie and getting cozy on your couch with your favorite rom-com playing!? Or, if you’re like me, a cooking show is on the TV for new recipes to try out for the upcoming holiday season. If you want to get outside, or sit by a bonfire, the hoodie is the perfect accessory to add to keep you cozy. Indoors or outdoors, you are able to indulge in comfort and not feel bad about it!

Daylight Savings Time

Who doesn’t love more time in their day? I must say, I look forward to the annual “fall back” of our clocks in the fall. Getting that hour back allows me the time to reset, a fall favorite pasttime. I take advantage of that extra hour by getting more sleep, and getting an additional task checked off my list of things. Doing this allows me the space to be more present in my work, with my family, and most importantly–for myself.

Fall Fashion

Having a good hoodie for the season is a fall staple, but we have to highlight the other essentials of fall fashion, too! Fall fashion is all about layering. You can layer crisp button ups with cardigan sweaters. Or, you could pair chunky socks with your favorite pair of boots. Fall fashion is all about cozy, chic, and timeless fashion. 

Michigander Perks

I’ve been adding to my travels, and I must say Michigan in the fall is unmatched. The changes of the trees and the accessibility to the Great Lakes calls you to spend time in nature!

You can take your pick from many pumpkin patches, and apple orchards are the best background for crisp family walks. One of my favorite places to visit during the fall is located in the heart of downtown Detroit. On the weekends, it offers a variety of local fruits, vegetables, flowers, baked goods, and more. 

Tastes of the Season

There are some signature flavors that seem to only come around at the start of the fall season. Some of my fall favorites are savory soups like butternut squash, and seasonal fruits like persimmons. It is also fun to get creative with apple cider by adding caramel, having it warmed, or turning into an adult cocktail. It’s a top tier taste of the season! I must also mention the flavor of the season: pumpkin! Hate it or love it, the options are endless for pumpkin finds to satisfy your appetite.

Fall is a feeling of comfort. It is a season where you can connect with those you love. You can see the beautiful transition of mother nature and explore so many places. I hope you love fall as much as I do!

For cider mills in and around the Metro Detroit area, check out our guide to cider mills!

Why Your Child Should See A Chiropractor at Birth

Detroit Mom partnered with the amazing people at Essential Family Chiropractic to bring you this post. All opinions are our own.

Mama, picture this–your sweet newborn has just entered the world. They are brought to your chest. You look into their eyes for the first time, and they are perfect in this moment. You see a world of possibility for this precious gift. In an instant you see their possible future as a doctor, teacher, mother, father . . . nothing but possibilities before them! We want to believe only smooth sailing is ahead for you and baby. But, many people experience some sort of rough waters. Read on for how visiting a chiropractor can help you navigate those rough waters–and how to avoid them before you even enter them.

Baby’s First Chiropractic Visit

Mom needs to plan ahead to help her body in the early stages of postpartum. There is no doubt that your body went through a lot, from preconception, to pregnancy, then to labor and delivery. Someone else was there step by step with you, though–your baby! Regardless of how smooth your labor went, birth is still the first big event of your baby’s life. We recommend having your baby checked by a pediatric chiropractor as soon as possible after birth, whether they were born vaginally or via C-section.

Our pediatric chiropractors at Essential Family Chiropractic typically find newborn babies have misalignments in their spine due to the birthing process. A misalignment within your baby’s spine skews how their growing brain is understanding the new world around them; this is called a subluxation.

The bright lights, cold air, suddenly loud sounds (in comparison to your womb’s earmuffs), and change from their constant connection with mom will take time to get used to for any baby. This transition becomes much more difficult when there is a roadblock in messages from the brain to their still developing organs, glands, and muscles! Similar to how driving through construction is a stressful process, subluxations within the spine slows down a baby’s smooth transition to functioning as their own person.

Roadblocks in Baby’s Body

These roadblocks (subluxations) may manifest in baby’s body in a few different ways. 

Chronic Ear Infections

Those all-important upper neck bones can put pressure on the nerves that branch out to the eustachian tubes. This can cause muscles around the tube to become spastic, inhibiting proper drainage. In kiddos, the tubes are more horizontal and narrow. As we grow, those tubes become more vertical and widen, allowing for easier drainage. If the fluid is stuck in the middle ear and is stagnant for too long, this invites “bugs” to prosper, whether bacterial or viral. Correcting the subluxation allows the muscles to relax around the eustachian tube, leading to better drainage. 

Colic

Colic is often a sign that an upper neck subluxation has put pressure on the vagus nerve. If you haven’t heard about this one, it is the biggest parasympathetic nerve in your body. Its messages branch out to most organs in your body! We find that when a baby does not have proper tone of muscles lining their digestive tract, this leads to the common symptoms of colic and reflux. Common, yet not normal function. 

Constipation

Your baby should be able to have a bowel movement without much strain or rigidity in their body. Listen to your instincts here, mama. Some information out there claims breastfed babies may not poop as often as those who are formula-fed. While this may be the case, if your baby is inconsistent in when they perform this important detox–or go only once per week–this is the time to see a Doctor of Chiropractic. Subluxations in the neck, mid-back, or sacrum and pelvis are where we focus with symptoms related to the bladder and bowel.

Poor or Painful Latch

Nerves in the upper neck branch out into the muscles of the jaw and neck. Misalignment from either the upper neck (specifically C1 or C2) or even in the bones of the skull can cause muscles of the jaw to tighten down or become weak, prohibiting proper latch.

Preference in Head Position or Rotation to One Side

You guessed it–the nerves of the upper neck area control the muscles of the neck. With upper cervical subluxation, muscles can tighten to become spastic on one side of the neck, creating something called “torticollis.” This is a common problem, but it certainly is not normal for a baby to have. Chiropractic care at Essential Family Chiropractic can help!

“But my child doesn’t have any of those things. Why should they receive chiropractic care?”

Benefits of a balanced nervous system (read as: specific and consistent chiropractic care) early in life go far beyond correcting the symptoms listed above. It also leads to:

  • a robust immune system, leading to a calmer and healthier baby
  • the ability for baby to turn their head and latch in both directions
  • better sleep (for baby and mama!)
  • meeting important motor milestones in order
  • a more focused connection to family members, and
  • priming the nervous system for a fulfilled, balanced life!

When we have a healthy nervous system balance and have been able to meet milestones in the appropriate order early in life, we see how it can have an impact for LIFE!

For example, if an infant skips cross-crawling, their brain has missed out on learning the ability to move the opposite arm and leg in sync. We may think, “My child skipped crawling and went right to walking. They are more advanced!” But truly, skipping this important milestone can impede the balance of your child in the future. Do they seem more clumsy or accident prone than your other children who did crawl? Maybe as they grow, they seem less coordinated than the other kids on the sports team? We all (even adults!) need to continue this ability of cross-crawl. It helps with core activation, balance, and even improves the cognitive function of the brain.

A Simple Milestone With Long-Term Effects

Who would have thought that such a simple milestone could have such long-term effects? Our doctors at Essential Family Chiropractic certainly have. This is precisely why they have spent many weekends doing extra training to become EXPERTS at caring for your little one, at all stages of life. What few people are aware of is that these conditions or delays, which show up early in life, are not necessarily something we merely grow out of.

We hear, “Oh, they’re just fussy, it’s just colic. Our pediatrician says they will grow out of it.” Many of our parents who seek out chiropractic care innately can feel that this is not the full story, though. While that child may stop the high-pitched crying after a few months, they may become the kiddos with constant belly-aches and a fear to poop because, “it hurts!Down the road, they may become teenagers with acne due to hormonal imbalances, on top of their poor digestion. During hormonal changes, since their body cannot properly rid of waste, their body senses an increase in toxicity. Therefore, hormone imbalance becomes more likely.

Another infant who starts life with torticollis may become the toddler who is constantly ear-tugging due to chronic ear infections. They may grow into the school-aged child with behavioral issues. Unless this underlying imbalance is corrected through gentle and specific chiropractic adjustments, the child will often grow into a new diagnosis that is simply a progressive sign of the same neurological imbalance. Every person’s path through life looks a little different. We are here to listen and understand where you are at now, to help you and your family grow into better health for the future. 

At Essential Family Chiropractic, our goal as neurologically-based chiropractors is to find the root cause of your health issues. Mama, you have poured hours into learning about pregnancy, birth, and the early stages of your child’s life. Our doctors have poured hundreds of hours into how to best care for their nervous system. You can find our office in downtown Farmington, just off of Grand River Avenue. Let our team know you found us through Detroit Mom for a gift just for you!

If you are outside of our area, www.ICPA4kids.com is a helpful resource for finding other pediatric trained chiropractors. 

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