A Mom’s Guide to Stillwater Stables & Stays

June 25, 2024

Detroit Mom partnered with the amazing people at Stillwater Stables & Stays to bring you this post. All opinions are our own.

Looking for a unique spot for your next getaway or event? Look no further than the incredible Stillwater Stables & Stays. Whether you want to visit for a weekend, take a mid-week break to unplug (or not–you can definitely bring your work and relax while you check items off your task list), or get together with loved ones for a special event, they are just the venue you’re looking for. Oh, and they have horses. Need we say more?!

As soon as you make your way up the driveway, you might catch a glimpse of the horses that stay on-site. If you’re staying overnight they have a cabin for that–and if you’re hosting an event, they have a space for that above the horses. They’ve truly thought of everything here.

Stillwater Stables & Stays offers experiences for visitors that want a hands-on, photo-friendly, fun, and safe encounter with the horses. Feeling the pull to plan your next day date or overnight trip? Read on below as the owners of Stillwater Stables & Stays answer some frequently asked questions about their venue and share how to book your next stay!

Where is Stillwater Stables & Stays located?

Stillwater Stables & Stays is located in the middle of nowhere, but close to everything. It’s 60 minutes from DTW, 30 minutes from Flint Bishop Airport, and 14 minutes to Pine Knob (you could book a stay after a concert or show!). We are in Brandon Township/Ortonville, in North Oakland County.

We’re on a 60-acre historical property located on Perry Lake with the most breathtaking views. There’s also a private 100-acre natural reservoir that is great for paddling, fishing, and birdwatching. It’s so serene out here!

How do I book my stay?

Stillwater Stables & Stays welcomes 1-night bookings and same-day arrivals, which is an unusual departure from the 2-3 night minimums typically required in the “glamping” space. Perfect for a quick overnight weekday getaway, without having to travel too far! We’re open all year, so you can come anytime you’d like. While the summer months seem ideal, you can’t beat the beauty of the freshly fallen snow on our property in the winter.

You can also come any day of the week. If you want to slip away for a couple of days during the week, weekday rentals are perfect for that. It doesn’t have to be just during the weekend!

Do I have to stay overnight?

If you don’t want to come for the night, you can stay just for the day! Pack a picnic, visit the horses, and paddle the lake with a $60 Day Pass. To reserve your day pass, send us an email or use the Contact form on our website.

Can my kids come, too?

Stillwater Stables & Stays is an adults-only venue, with the exception of a few “Family Weeks” throughout the year. “Family Week” dates can be found on our website, and reservations for those dates open up to 90 days in advance.

What amenities are available?

We have four cabins that sleep up to four people each, plus a vintage “Scamp” camper that was recently featured on HGTV! Each cabin offers its own incredible, unique view of the property. And, each one has a hot tub for use year round!

We also have super fast, reliable WiFi and an outlet every five feet. Take your workweek into the woods for a day, and escape the usual work-from-home distractions. You’ll be so glad you did.

Our horses are such a big draw for visitors too, and for good reason! While you are able to interact with and pet the horses (perfect for a mid-day work break!), please note that we do not offer horse back riding.

Stillwater Stables & Stays is also host to the horses and clients of Therapy Ranch, a 501(c)(3) providing equine-assisted mental health services to clients throughout Southeast Michigan.

Where do you host events on the property?

The Pony Up Loft & Lounge is our indoor event space located above the horse stables. It’s a miniature ballroom complete with air-conditioning, a wood burning fireplace, a full bathroom, and a wet bar. The Pony Up can accommodate about 50+ people for parties, weddings, showers, and wellness and business retreats.

Why doesn’t your barn smell like . . . well, a barn?

We’re so glad you asked! The barn was newly constructed in 2021. The stalls are designed with special, permeable flooring that prevents odors. And, it’s situated for maximum ventilation and light. Even when you’re upstairs in The Pony Up, you’ll forget you’re above the barn and horses!

What kinds of events have you hosted?

Aside from weddings and showers, we can host many other unique events. Detroit Mom hosted their Writers Retreat here this past January–it was so beautiful with the winter snow! Retreat to Reclaim has hosted day retreats, their CEO mastermind weekend kickoff retreat, and a couples retreat that included staying in the cabins.

Stillwater Stables & Stays is perfect for your next getaway or event. We take pride in our attention to detail and look forward to seeing you on the property soon.

Enjoy 15% off your stay at Stillwater when you book with the code DETROITMOMS. Click here for more!

Let Go of Perfection, + 4 Other Summer Break Tips

Faten

June 25, 2024

Summer break can be a challenging time for moms, with kids home all day and various responsibilities to juggle. I still remember feeling stuck inside; hours would turn into days, days would turn into weeks, and I still had not enjoyed a single day of summer! I learned quickly that I needed a plan.

As a stay-at-home mom, I was determined to find the perfect balance of fun and relaxation not only for my kids, but for myself as well. Here are five summer break tips that will keep your kids active (and keep you sane!) through the summer!

Explore the outdoors.

Being outdoors definitely helps us get through summer break. Make the most out of the nice weather by visiting local parks, going on nature walks, or exploring bike trails. When my kids were under five, I would turn on the sprinklers and that would entertain them for hours!

As my kids get older (hence, easier to get out the house), we love walking to our local park, bike riding, and having beach days! Outdoor activities offer opportunities for exercise, quality family time, and socialization. Whether it’s engaging in playground activities or organizing a beach day, connecting with nature and enjoying the outdoors can be therapeutic for moms and kids alike.

Let go of perfection.

Stay-at-home moms have very high expectations of themselves, and this comes from societal pressures to be perfect. During the summer you can definitely let go of these ideals. Our home is made to live in and enjoy; being able to enjoy the summer also means we have to let go of the expectation of perfection.

Let’s face it: the house will not be perfect with the kids wanting to be involved in crafts and activities and be in and out of the house all day long. Take a deep breath, pause, and try to remember that this summer is short and soon things will go back to a regularly scheduled routine. For now, give yourself the permission to let go of perfection and be more present!

Plan play dates.

Let’s face it: coffee dates are probably not going to happen very often during summer vacation. My way of still having my coffee dates with my girlfriends is by scheduling play dates. This helps me look forward to meeting up with my friends, as well as having our children engaged and enjoying themselves. Double whammy!

Now, I know that play dates are not an ideal form of self-care–but they definitely help ease the nerves as you catch up with a friend and are able to engage with another adult using adult language (whew)! Either way, it gets you out of the house and keeps the kids occupied and happy!

Reduce the noise.

Trust me on this: invest in some really good wireless headphones or noise reducers to survive summer break. You will need them! Being at home 24 hours a day with littles can definitely become overstimulating for us moms. One way to tackle this is by plugging in some headphones or noise reducers.

I suggest putting on some meditation music during those high-traffic times, like during dinner prep or while the kids have their technology on. This gives you a moment to unwind and stay sane in order to push through!

Don’t wait until you’re burned out to take action, though! If you find little moments throughout your day to regulate, you will be more likely to stay out of “fight or flight” and be able to bring yourself to a state of calm instead.

Schedule some summer camps.

Summer camps are a great option to keep the kids entertained and give you a break. Struggling with sending your kids off to summer camp? The way I resolve this is by opting into summer programs that offer shorter times. I enrolled all three of my kids (ages ten, seven, and six) in a three-day soccer camp that runs for a few hours each morning.

Shorter summer camps are the perfect amount of time for the kids to be out of the house and get all their energy out! It also gives me time to take a walk, run errands, and prepare for my day.

These summer break tips have helped my family and I stay connected and enjoy the summer! Although there will always be some challenges, remember to take lots of pictures to have memories of the good days. I hope these tips will help you get through summer break on those challenging days!

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Metro Detroit Summer Activities from A to Z

LaurenDalton

June 22, 2024

The weather’s warm, school’s out for the summer, and your kids are home and bored. If you don’t feel like being an entertainment director all summer, look no further! Our team put together a list of Metro Detroit summer activities from A to Z that are sure to keep you busy all summer long.

We wanted to make this as fun and easy for you as possible, so you’ll find all of our Metro Detroit summer activities in the list below. You can choose one activity per day, a few per week, or choose a letter out of a hat to decide!

Whatever you choose to do, remember to have FUN and share with us on social media! We can’t wait to see all the fun things you do this summer!

Metro Detroit Summer Activities from A to Z: Summer Bucket List

A: Aquarium at Belle Isle | Detroit

Check out the aquarium at Belle Isle. It’s been open since 1904 and is FULL of history. And, it was recently renovated! Snap a selfie with your favorite fish while you’re there!

Bonus: Check out the Ann Arbor Art Fair taking place July 18th through the 20th. Stop by Zingerman’s on your way home for a sweet treat!

B: Booth Park | Birmingham

Located in Birmingham, Booth Park is home to a playscape and turf hill. Bring a blanket and picnic lunch to enjoy after playing. Or, stop in to the Dairy Mat for a cold mid-day dessert.

Bonus: Bauervic Woods Park will have you second guessing whether you are really in Southfield. It has a wonderful playground but the wooded nature trail is what really sells this park. The last time we were there, we saw deer and many other animals!

C: Cook’s Farm Dairy | Ortonville

I first visited Cook’s two years ago with my daughters and they LOVED it. Plan to pet the baby cows and then enjoy some of their delicious ice cream under the covered pavilion (or on a blanket on the grass, if it’s not too sunny out!).

Bonus: Stop in to Cooking with Que and pickup a tasty meal for lunch or dinner.

D: Detroit Abloom | Detroit

A wellness garden, cut flower farm, and native plants–plan to spend most of your day surrounded by beautiful nature. Plan to check out the butterfly nursery, too!

Bonus: Stop in to Detroit vs. Everybody in Eastern Market to pick up some new shirts for the whole family, then walk the Dequindre Cut and pose for some family photos in your new outfits.

E: Eminem’s pop-up: Mom’s Spaghetti | Detroit

Bring your appetite and get in line for dinner!

Bonus: Stop by Eastern Market’s Saturday Market first for some beautiful fresh flowers, then go grab dinner.

F: Funland at Blake’s | Armada

Funland just opened up again for the season last month. Make sure to go on the goat walk, and then play in the giant tire sandbox!

Bonus: Spend a rainy day at Fascination Factory in Birmingham. They’re open Tuesday through Saturday for tons of fun, with a focus on educating, entertaining, and enriching!

G: Greenfield Village | Dearborn

Check out the glassblowing in the glass shop, and then take the time to enjoy a walk on the grounds.

Bonus: Stock up on sweets from Good Cakes and Bakes!

H: Hines Park Trail | Connecting Dearborn + Northville

If you’re planning for a full day of fun, plan to walk or bike the trail before/after visiting Greenfield Village.

Bonus: After playing at the new Tattan Park in Westland, cool down at the H2O Zone Spray Park.

I: Innovation Hills | Rochester Hills

This is a relatively new park. It definitely gets busy, so plan to get there early. Bring cardboard so your kids can slide down the turf hills in style! And bring a lunch to enjoy under the shelter. And, maybe some extra clothes if your kids decide to play in the water feature!

Bonus: Stop in to Ima Noodles for a bite to eat!

J: Joe Louis Monument | Detroit

Drive downtown for the perfect photo ops–including the iconic arm and fist. Make sure to read the tribute to Joe Louis that is inscribed on the arm.

K: Kensington Metropark | Milford

Start at the beach, then head to the splash pad. When everyone is too tired and way too hot, find a shady spot and enjoy a picnic lunch or afternoon snack.

Bonus: Take a public kayak tour along the Detroit River and take in the beautiful scenery with Detroit River Sports.

L: Lily Pad Springs | West Bloomfield

The largest splash pad in Michigan! Lily Pad Springs is ADA and universally accessible. They have 3 sessions to choose from each day, and twilight sessions on Tuesdays through August 30th. And, their sensory-friendly sessions are on Mondays at 11:00 a.m. through August 19th.

Bonus: Play on the playgrounds then head over to the baseball-themed Lamarand Splash Pad in Taylor.

M: Music on the Lake | St. Clair Shores

Enjoy your Wednesday nights with music on the lake and eat dinner from a variety of food trucks as you listen to the tunes from some local bands.

Bonus: Marshbank Music takes place in July, so plan for a fun family evening enjoying some great music.

Bonus #2: Maybury Farm in Northville has so many fun options–shop for some Michigan-made items in the General Store and then check out the chickens and goats!

N: Nature Center Hop | Various Locations

Pick a rainy day, put on some rain boots, and make your way to as many nature centers as you can. Some have outdoor walking trails, and others let you get up close and personal with the animals.

Bonus: Fuel your nature center hop with a fresh coffee from The Narrow Way Cafe!

O: Outdoor Adventure Center | Detroit

Start at the Fire Circle, then head to the Overnight Lodging exhibit. Walk along the Pine Forest and Trails and end at the Underwater Michigan exhibit!

Bonus: Enjoy riverfront dining at Octopus’ Beer Garden in Mt. Clemens.

P: Paddleboarding at Stoney Creek Metropark | Shelby Township

Stop by Eastwood Beach for some paddleboarding and water fun!

Bonus: Beat the heat at the Palmer Park Waterpark.

Q: Qahwah House | Dearborn

Stop in for the best spiced Yemeni Adani tea and purchase some coffee beans to take home.

R: Romeo Lavender Farm | Romeo

Lavender, sunflowers, wildflowers . . . need I say more?! Bring your scissors and have each person in your family cut some lavender to take home. Make sure your phone is fully charged to snap some informal family pics while you’re there! (Closed on Mondays)

Bonus: Red Oaks Waterpark has attractions for every summer . . . from a wave pool and a triple flume slide, to the new Splashtown for the younger swimmers.

S: Spirit of Detroit Statue | Detroit

After stopping by the Joe Louis monument, make this your second stop for another family photo op!

Bonus: Stop in to Supino Pizzeria for a bite to eat after taking photos. Grab some pizza by the slice and walk around town while you eat.

Bonus #2: Make a rainy day reservation for play at Stemville in Northville. Or, head to the movies for AMC Sensory Friendly Films (on the second and fourth Saturday and Wednesday of each month).

T: Tiger’s Game | Detroit

Let your kids ride the ferris wheel and the carousel, then enjoy fresh squeezed lemonade from the Big Cat Food Court. Oh, and watch the baseball game!

Bonus: Head over to Troy Gym on a rainy day!

U: Urban Air Adventure Park | Various Locations

This will be perfect for a rainy day. Have your kids start on a ropes course, then head to the tubes playground. Last but not least, check out the warrior course.

Bonus: Head underwater, literally, and take the Detroit-Windsor tunnel over to Canada for the day.

V: Valade Park | Detroit

Bring some food to grill on the community grills, and then give the kids some time to play on the playscapes. Make sure to check out Bob’s Barge and The Shed Bar for refreshments!

W: Woodward Avenue

Hop in the car, roll the windows down, and cruise Woodward on a Friday or Saturday night after dinner. Stop at Custard and Company and get some ice cream, or go to the zoo before your Woodward cruise.

Bonus: Cool down at Webber Splash Pad at Brandenburg Park in Chesterfield.

X: X-Golf | Various Locations

Spend an afternoon playing golf without going to the golf course. Stay for a bite to eat after!

Y: Yates Cider Mill | Rochester Hills

Honestly, Yates could take up multiple days this summer. There are so many fun things to do! Walk the trails, then stop and see the farm animals. Grab some ice cream and walk near the river. Stop in to the bake shop, and then make time for some pony rides. But every time you go–get donuts and cider!

Bonus: Grab dinner from Yum Village in Detroit!

Z: Z Lot Rooftop | Detroit

The final stop for photo ops in the city–the Z Lot rooftop! Dress in coordinating outfits (or don’t!) and smile for some fun, festive pictures with our beautiful city in the background.

Bonus: Spend the morning at the Zoo before the day heats up.

It’s fun to explore in summer, but make sure you’re prepared! Read over our Mom’s Guide to Ticks so you know just what to do if you see one.

This post was originally written by Whitney Cornelli and was updated by Lauren Dalton in 2024.

Celebrating Pride: An Open Letter to My Son

Evol Gazzarato

June 22, 2024

This month we celebrate Pride, a time for bringing awareness and love to those who do not fit gender norms. This month we celebrate you.

We call you our sparkle boy. Not solely because you love everything sparkly, but because you share a special sparkle with the world.

Many people can learn so much from you; I know I have. You wear your fuzzy pink vest like it’s no one’s business. You rock your rainbow leggings without a care in the world. Being true to yourself is the best part of you, and I am here to support you along the way.

We Love You Just the Way You Are

We’ve fought some battles as we’ve ventured this path. I’m sure there will be more to come. Our number one goal is to shield you from those battles. Mama Bear and Papa Bear will happily step in and squash any negativity thrown your way. I will not allow someone to dull your sparkle.

Raising a child who’s “different” is a blessing. It’s a special gift bestowed upon the luckiest of parents. You and your twin brother have been one of those blessings since the moment you were conceived via IVF, since you were born prematurely at 31 weeks, since your brother was diagnosed with Sensory Processing Disorder, since we discovered your heart issue that led to your first surgery at five months old, to the moment we noticed your sparkle. We have championed for you both along the way, and this will never stop.

Your differences make you awesome. You love princesses and crafts. Your sweet soul has a passion for animals and the great outdoors. You love to dance, and you love soccer even more. You’re not always crazy about schoolwork, and the same goes for chocolate. You’re blazing your own path and defining who you are at the tender age of six. You amaze me.

Find Your Community; Find Your Pride

The world is still a cruel place. There is a lot of good, and there are a lot of people working to make it better. I hope as you grow the world grows better with you. I’m happy there is the month of June, dedicated to Pride, to show the love and support in our community and across the country that is out there.

We do not know what the future holds for you. It’s obviously too early to know which direction your spirit will take you in life and whether or not you will identify as LGBTQ+ or simply continue to be gender non-conforming. Whichever path you take, know you’ll always have a home, a safe spot, and a champion in your father and me. Continue shining, my sparkle boy.

2024 Pride Update

The LGBTQ+ community is facing a tumultuous political backslide. Raising children who identify in one of these categories can be scary. My children look to me for reassurance and safety. Whatever the world says, I will continue to provide a place for all children to feel welcome, loved, and embraced for who they are.

My sparkle boy is now a passionate soccer player, ponytail and all. He still loves bright colors, clothes, and jewelry. I see the way the world has changed him as he grows. But, I am so proud of the way he, and his twin brother, embrace LGBTQ+ norms and know that it doesn’t matter what they wear, who they love, or what their pronouns are, it matters who they are and how they treat those around them.

For more on Pride Month, check out the books for all ages that Katie recommends!

Disney Do’s and Don’ts For The Most Memorable Trip

primadailey

June 19, 2024

Two years ago was our first family Disney trip with my then six-year-old daughter. In my opinion, it is the perfect age to do Disney. She was old enough to remember, yet young enough to still buy into all the Disney magic. During this trip I refused to do things like Genie+ because just the thought of it stressed me out. So we did things, as I like to call it, “1991 style.” We waited in line and did the things we could and the rest, we tabled until our next trip.

This past spring break was our second family Disney trip with my now eight-year-old. This trip, however, we dipped our toe into Genie+ and used our three “free” lightning lanes that came with signing up for it. I have to admit, skipping most of the line for Space Mountain was pretty cool.

So which trip was better? Both were great and a lot of memories were made! With social media these days, we are inundated with ways to do Disney and feel all sorts of pressure to do it “right” or the worst will happen . . . their childhood will be ruined. Obviously I’m kidding! When I think back on my childhood Disney trips, I don’t remember my parents losing their minds trying to make everything perfect for us. They took us on trips, we did what we did, and because it was out of the ordinary, it was fun and exciting and I have a lot of great memories.

But, we have resources now that didn’t exist back then, and they can elevate the experience by making things more efficient. So, inspired by my family’s top and bottom ten lists that we do after every vacation (like our recent trip to Mackinac Island!), here are some Disney do’s and don’ts–both 1991 and 2024 style.

Do . . . the end-of-night park tradition.

Whether it’s the fireworks at Magic Kingdom or Hollywood Studio’s Fantasmic, it’s well worth the time to close up the day with a heartwarming–and yes, magical–experience with your loved ones. Whether my daughter was six or eight, she was mesmerized by the shows. She even shouted out during the fireworks on her first visit, “This place really is magical!” Her revelation was in and of itself a core memory for me! So do whatever you have to do to make it to these shows.

Pro tip: Leave the park midday so the kids can take a rest, nap, swim, and return to the park later on. I promise you, it’s worth it.

Do . . . the things you want to do most, first (and get there at park open).

Unless you are going to get a Lightning Lane via Genie+, do the ride your kids (or you!) want to do most, first. AND if you are staying at a resort, you get into the parks a half an hour sooner than other patrons, which gives you a leg up. You will still most likely have a wait, but it will cut it down by a lot. Your stress level will lift a little knowing that their favorite thing is done!

And while we’re at it, get the pictures you want to cherish for years to come first, too. We all want the big family picture in front of Cinderella’s castle, so get that as soon as you get to Main Street when you are all fresh and together. It’s not fun maintaining an overtired three-year-old or rounding up grandpa at Casey’s Tavern after lunch and then Aunt Mary perusing all the shops. Just thinking about it stresses me out!

Pro tip: Make a plan with your kids the night before; this includes figuring out what lightning lanes you might purchase, and planning out your day. It makes the flow of a very intense, highly stimulating day much easier.

Don’t . . . do Hollywood Studio’s Tower of Terror.

. . . if your child doesn’t know exactly what they are in for. I guess the same can be said for any rides that aren’t exposed; this is just the one that dinged us. Our daughter loves roller coasters and scary things like haunted mansions and ghosts. So we thought Tower of Terror was a no brainer. Yeah, use your brain for this one (see what I did there?!).

If there are any rides that you are unsure of, find out exactly how it goes and explain that to your child. Let them make the decision or if your gut is speaking to you, listen to it and decide accordingly. After that fail, we made the decision to not let her ride Tron at Magic Kingdom.

Do . . . the Hoop Di Do Revue at Wilderness Lodge.

This is a western-inspired interactive dinner theater experience. You’ll enjoy barbecue cuisine family style that is also all you can eat, so come hungry! The actors and dancers get the audience involved, but not too much so if the idea of being in the spotlight makes you cringe, no worries. It’s a fun atmosphere and the whole crowd is into it.

Pro tip: Get there early to grab an adult beverage and take in the views before dinner!

Do . . . eat at Cinderella’s Castle

It is pricey, but of course it is: you are eating in Cinderella’s Castle! In my opinion, it is worth it. From the moment you check in to the time you leave, you are treated like royalty. After meeting Cinderella and taking a picture with her upon entrance, you wait to be called to your table. You ascend the winding staircase to the dining room where you are called by royal names all throughout dinner. You also get to meet princesses as they come through–my daughter met four of them! They stopped, had a meaningful chat, and took a picture with her.

Don’t/Do . . . Genie+. That is the question . . .

So, we’ve done both. I may be biased, but I think we did it right. The first trip my daughter was younger and didn’t know any different. She just had a ball being with family and going on her first roller coaster. Then we did Genie+ for the second trip when she was older and had opinions on what she wanted to do, like Space Mountain. And now she would add Slinky Dog Dash!

So in my humble opinion, I don’t think you need to do Genie+ if it’s your first time. In fact, a lot of the memories we made were standing in line with family (see pro tip below). However, Disney is expensive and if this is going to be your one and only time, it might be worth it. Do what makes sense for your family.

Pro tip: Here’s the thing if you don’t get Genie+ (and I’m going to get preachy here): when you’re in line, TALK to each other–don’t just start scrolling on your phone. This is a sure fire way your kid(s) will lose their minds. Or, play a game. “Would You Rather” is a fun one, especially with all the new sights and sounds. We also played a game called Headbands to pass the time. It’s an app you can download, but the whole family plays. You’ll be amazed at the other families who follow your lead!

Do . . . go to a waterpark.

We went to Typhoon Lagoon and what a blast we had. Most people think that a waterpark is a waste of time because you can do those where you live. But if you have the time, it’s worth a day of your trip. The lines are short (or non-existent) so you can do everything over and over again. There is also something for everyone. My pregnant sister couldn’t do many things at the parks, but she could relax on the lazy river! If you’re looking for a beach-y day in Orlando, this place is for you.

Don’t . . . stress about doing it “the right way.”

Just do it your way. Whatever makes sense to you–whether it’s leaning into Genie+ 100% or not. Remember that at the end of the day, no matter how you do Disney, your kids will remember time spent with you and that is all that matters!

Planning some other fun family vacations? Stacy shares 6 tips for taking your kids on a cruise!

What Juneteenth Means and How to Celebrate in Detroit

Erica Saville

June 18, 2024

“What to the Slave is the Fourth of July?”

It’s the title of a speech given by Frederick Douglass in 1852, and is unfortunately still so salient today.

In his speech, Mr. Douglass addresses a crowd of White onlookers. He does not speak ill of this nation or of its Founding Fathers; instead he is very complimentary and expresses how beautiful America’s independence is. He does, though, challenge White Americans to extend that same liberty to their Black neighbors.

Many of my White friends and family joyfully celebrate the 4th as America’s Independence Day, but I’ve always had trouble connecting with that idea. In 1776, America won freedom from the British, but this country did not offer that same freedom to enslaved Africans. In 1863, the Emancipation Proclamation granted freedom to some (not all) enslaved people and the 13th Amendment in 1865 abolished slavery officially; but that freedom still found its limits.

Voting restrictions, Jim Crow laws, the Tulsa Race Massacre, redlining, and an unjust justice system have continued to limit African Americans to this day. As a Black American, commemorating Independence Day feels empty, knowing that I myself would not have been free at all on that day in 1776. It’s difficult to don red, white, and blue and shout hooray for a remembrance that specifically—and intentionally—excluded anyone who looked like me.

(I also invite all of you to consider the implications of Independence Day for our Indigenous brothers and sisters.)

Enter: Juneteenth.

What is Juneteenth?

Juneteenth is a holiday for Black Americans to celebrate an independence that included us. Juneteenth commemorates June 19th, 1865, when news arrived in Texas that enslaved Blacks would be emancipated. Note that this is more than two years after the Emancipation Proclamation. (Here, I challenge you to do the work—learn more about the basis of Juneteenth.)

Did all enslaved folks become free on that June 19th? Absolutely not. However, this was a day that directly impacted them, and a day that provided a central point for Black Americans to rally around. So now every June 19th, many Black Americans look back to celebrate and look forward to a brighter future.

Many White Americans have never heard of, or have only recently heard of, Juneteenth. That’s okay sis, we don’t need White endorsement in order to celebrate! This is an opportunity for us to recognize each other and recognize that our journey has not been the White American journey.

Juneteenth is about being seen.
Being heard.
Celebrating our full humanity.
Celebrating the beauty of Blackness.

I wish a happy Juneteenth to you and yours, here in this land of the free!

What can I do about it?

Ask your Black friends and family if they celebrate Juneteenth. If they do, wish them a happy one!
Learn. Look up more history about the holiday (including its other names!).
Hold space for your BIPOC neighbors no matter what holidays they do or don’t celebrate.
Attend an event.

To read another perspective, check out Se’Fana’s post here. Enjoy the celebration!

Mastering Your Money: Building a Small Business Financial Workflow

Charmaine

June 17, 2024

I love managing money; playing with numbers puts me in my happy space. But I know it’s not that way for everyone. Managing money can be hard, especially when it’s tied to old money stories and beliefs. I can’t tell you how hard those stories come out to play, even for someone like me, when it comes to business.

It’s not easy to look at numbers when they aren’t matching the amount of work you know you’re putting in. It’s so easy to say, “I’ll review my business books when my business really starts making money.” But let me tell you: the time is now.

The best time to create a financial workflow for your business is when things are slow. If you don’t build a system now then when the money does start to flow in, it will flow out just as fast without a plan and a system. So how does a small business owner build a system for their business finances that doesn’t require hours at YouTube University? I’m sharing some simple steps to help you get–and keep–your business finances in line.

To start, you need a budget.

Just like for your personal life, you need a budget for your business too. I know it feels pointless when your business is new or small because it seems like you don’t have a lot of expenses. I can’t tell you how many times I’ve purchased apps, workshops, books, and supplies because the money was in my account, only to later discover I’d forgotten all about my monthly Canva subscription.

Having a budget in and for your business will keep you focused and keep you from having to constantly infuse your small business with personal funds. Your budget will allow you to make one large capital contribution or owners investment, versus winging it based on whatever you happen to purchase that month.

You can create a budget in a spreadsheet or in a notebook. Simply write out your projected income and subtract from your projected expenses for the month. This will allow you to see when you might have slower months, so you can plan accordingly.

You also need to pick a software–and learn it.

Pick an accounting software–they all do the same thing, and they are all pretty much the same price. There are free accounting software plans, but free still comes at a price. Think about what you need to report and measure and what software feels easy to use. If you need to track inventory or accounts receivable, not all free options have those capabilities, plus if it’s not easy for you to use then no matter how free it is, you won’t use it.

All of the major accounting software companies have extensive YouTube tutorials that are quick and helpful. Whatever software you pick, give yourself 90 days to learn it–there is no plug and play accounting software. It will take time. Be willing to learn and give yourself grace.

If you already have a software that you’ve been paying for but haven’t used because it’s too intimidating, you have three choices: learn how to use it, find another software that is more user-friendly, or hire a bookkeeper. (Just a note here: hiring a bookkeeper doesn’t replace you creating a budget and learning how to manage your books. A bookkeeper keeps your books; they are not a replacement for you doing the work to become engaged with your money.)

I can’t tell you the number of clients I’ve fired because they refused to engage with their money. I had one tell me, “I don’t know what’s in my bank account, that’s what I hired you for.” Needless to say, her business was hemorrhaging cash and even though her profit and loss showed a profit, her balance sheet and statement of cash flows told the full story.

Finally, create your financial workflow.

When will you review your transactions, run reports, pay taxes, etc.? Now that you have your software of choice, you need to have a system of getting things done. No longer will you work on your business finances when you have a moment, or only when you get a sale or run a campaign. This is to be part of your business cadence.

Add it to your calendar and make it official. I work on my business finances along with my personal finances–that way it doesn’t feel like I’m doing extra work. Because I keep things pretty neat and tidy, I’m able to check my business finances in about 30 minutes a week.

My financial workflow cadence includes:

Checking my transactions, seeing what has cleared and what hasn’t
Weekly checking of my numbers to ensure I’m in alignment with my income and marketing goals
Monthly reconciling
Monthly reporting
Monthly meetings to go over my reports and see how my numbers align with my marketing goals
Quarterly and annual budget adjustments

Your financial workflow will vary based on your business needs, but having a workflow will help you stay focused and will help you get back on track when life and business gets full.

Managing your business finances and building a financial workflow doesn’t have to be overwhelming and you don’t need to make it complex. Remember to ask for help and give yourself grace. If you have any questions feel free to comment below!

Our community is full of some really incredible businesses. Check out our Guide to Women-Owned Businesses in + around Detroit the next time you need something local!

Where to Watch Fireworks In + Around Detroit

Laura Herr

June 17, 2024

If you want to catch a fireworks show this summer, but aren’t sure where to watch, this post is for you! We’ve rounded up a great list of summer fireworks in and around Detroit that you’re going to love watching. Grab a blanket and some lawn chairs, and get ready to be dazzled by the beauty in the sky! There are so many opportunities to catch a fireworks show this summer.

June Fireworks in + around Detroit

Monday, June 24th

Ford Fireworks | Detroit

One of the best fireworks shows in America! This event is hosted by the Parade Company. Information on road closures, parking, and transportation will be posted by the City of Detroit in mid-June.

Wednesday, June 26th

Festival of the Hills | Rochester Hills

Activities begin at 6:00 p.m. and fireworks begin at 10:00 p.m. Limited parking is available inside Borden Park.

Thursday, June 27th

Lite the Night Fireworks | Wixom

Come to Sibley Square Park for a night of family fun! This event includes live music, inflatables, and food trucks. Fireworks begin at 10:00 p.m.

Friday, June 28th

St. Clair Shores

Purchase wrist bands and parking passes ahead of time! They’re available at the Civic Ice Arena. Rain date is June 29th.

Stony Creek Metropark | Shelby Township

Fireworks begin at dusk, and will take place over the lake at Eastwood Beach. A daily or annual vehicle pass is required for entry to the Metropark.

Saturday, June 29th

Crossroads Kids Carnival & Fireworks | Howell

This family-friendly event features a kid’s carnival, inflatables, pony rides, and more. Fireworks begin at dusk.

Independence Fest | Clarkston

Bring the family to Clintonwood Park for a day of fun including kids activities, a dog show, and live entertainment. Fireworks begin at dusk. Clarkston High School and Everest Academy will be available for parking, with a shuttle service running to Clintonwood Park.

Taylor Summer Festival

Fireworks will begin at dusk during a summer festival including concerts and a free drone show.

Sunday, June 30th

Livonia Spree

This popular 30-minute fireworks show ends with a spectacular grand finale! A shuttle service will be available, running between the Spree grounds and parking facilities at Livonia City Hall.

July Fireworks in + around Detroit

Monday, July 1st

Willow Metropark | New Boston

Enjoy the amenities of the Metropark before the fireworks show! Daily or annual pass required to enter the park.

Tuesday, July 2nd

Greenfield Village: Salute to America | July 2nd-5th

Enjoy food trucks, presenters in period clothing, and a musical performance by the Detroit Symphony Orchestra along with the fireworks. It is recommended to purchase tickets online in advance.

Kensington Metropark | Milford

Plan to arrive early, because gates will close once the park is full. Entry to Metropark requires a daily or annual pass.

Wednesday, July 3rd

Fireworks and Food Trucks | Ortonville

Enjoy food trucks, bounce houses, and more family fun before the fireworks!

Lake Erie Metropark | Brownstown

The fun begins at 6:00 p.m. with live entertainment by the Rick Lieder Trio, and the fireworks begin at 10:00 p.m. A daily or annual vehicle pass is required for entry to the Metropark.

Sylvan Lake

Parking and viewing will be available at the Community Center. Viewing will also be available at Ferndale Park.

Whitmore Lake

Free parking is available at Northfield Community Park. Rain date is July 4th.

Thursday, July 4th

Red, White,and Boom | Clawson

Enjoy fun activities all day at Clawson Park, including midway rides and games, music, and an art fair. Fireworks begin at dusk.

St. Clair

Parking is available on Riverside Avenue and in the parking lot of St. Clair Riverview Plaza. Several local restaurants will be open, as well as lots of vendors and concessions!

Friday, July 5th

Algonac

The fireworks show will take place during the annual Algonac Lions Pickerel Festival. Enjoy a carnival, car show, and live entertainment before the fireworks.

Cass Lake

The fireworks will be shot off from a barge on Cass Lake. The show begins at dusk.

The Oakland County Fair | Davisburg

Fireworks at the fair kick off at dusk!

Wednesday, July 10th

Clinton Township

Enjoy festivities before the fireworks show including inflatables, face painting, and food vendors.

Saturday, July 13th

Red Hot + Blue Festival | Village of New Haven

Food, fun, and fireworks at New Haven High School.

Looking for more family-friendly fun this summer? Check out Lauren’s Summer A to Z guide!

This post was originally written by Whitney Cornelli and was updated in 2024 by Laura Herr.

A Mom’s Guide to Taking Action Against Gun Violence

Detroit Mom

June 16, 2024

The tragedy that took place in Rochester Hills has left us heartbroken. It also brought back memories of what happened in Oxford and East Lansing, not that long ago. It’s time for change. We won’t forget what happened. Together, we’ll fight for a different future for our children. We are taking action against gun violence.

We have seen so many posts on social media imploring us to use our voices to make a difference. There is so much that we can do, and it goes beyond sharing a post on social media. Let’s share–but then, let’s act.

So many moms in our community–and across social media–are wondering what more they could do. How else can they be taking action against gun violence? Who can they contact, and what can they say? So, we’ve put together a list of things that you can do right now, to make a difference.

Here is a list of ways you can take action, right now:

Contact your local state reps (and encourage family and friends to do the same).

Make your voice heard, loud and clear. You can find your State Representative based on your address. You can also see committees they’ve served on, and bills they’ve introduced. Or, compose an e-mail and send it to your senator (you can also find your specific senator based on your address).

Debbie Stabenow: (202) 224-4822
- Southeast MI office: (313) 961-4330
- Or, send an e-mail using her contact form
Gary Peters: (202) 224-6221
- Detroit office: (313) 226-6020
- Or, send an e-mail using his contact form
The US Capitol switchboard: (202) 224-3121

A quick search online will result in scripts for making phone calls (see this script from Jamie Golden) and templates for e-mails that you can send. You do not need to recreate the wheel here. Sandy Hook Promise also has a pre-filled e-mail form for you to use, and all you need to do is type in your personal information for them to send the e-mail to your Senator.

From what we’ve read online, your best bet is to start with a phone call and then send an e-mail. You can also e-mail your elected official by texting RESIST to 50409. Join the other parents who are already voicing their concerns, asking state reps about their stance on issues, and pressing for change. Do some research and find out how your candidates stand on gun laws.

Inquire about safety.

Reach out to your child’s school. If you aren’t familiar with the security procedures, ask about them. Chances are, you won’t be the first person who wants to know this information. Find out what procedures are in place.

Additionally, you can contact your local police station. Let them know what kind of information you are looking for. Are they sharing information with the community about free gun locks? Do they offer educational opportunities for concerned citizens to learn more? How are they addressing these things at their local level?

Become involved with organizations.

There are so many organizations out there, and it can be hard to know where to start. So, here’s a list to help you build some momentum:

Brady United is one of the oldest gun violence prevention groups. You can donate, join a chapter, or listen to their podcast.
Everytown for Gun Safety is the biggest organization focusing on gun violence prevention in America. Their website has tons of ways to help, like through donating, contacting senators, or attending events. They also encourage you to join Moms Demand Action–and, your students can join Students Demand Action.
- You can text ACT to 644-33 for updates.
- Additionally, you can text CHECKS to 644-33 to let your Senators know you’d like them to take action on background checks.
Giffords is another organization working to end gun violence in America and is led by former Congresswoman Gabrielle Giffords. You can help by supporting their work, calling on Congress to make changes, and making donations.
March For Our Lives helps those impacted by gun violence and their communities. You can also make a donation to support the work they are doing.
Moms Demand Action works to keep families safe and pass stronger gun laws. They have more than 8 million supporters and also have volunteer chapters for each state; there is a chapter in Michigan. The local Facebook page for the chapter in Michigan is full of information and encourages you to contact your Senator.
- South Oakland County: you can follow @gunsense_somi on IG
Newtown Action Alliance was started after the devastating events in Sandy Hook. They push for cultural changes and safer and smarter gun laws. They encourage website visitors to share on social media, attend events, and volunteer.
Sandy Hook Promise focuses on taking meaningful action to prevent gun violence. You can make a donation, host a fundraiser, or volunteer. More information can be found on their website.
Stop Handgun Violence is a non-profit working to prevent gun violence in a number of ways. They encourage donating and volunteering, among other things.
The Coalition to Stop Gun Violence works to find solutions to reduce gun injury and death. You can donate to their organization or send a tweet directly to your Senator using the form on their website.
Together Rising raises money to help individuals and families. The link in their Instagram bio will take you directly to a donation form.
VictimsFirst helps victims of mass casualty crimes. According to their website, they worked as rapid responders in Oxford. On their website, you can donate funds to help victims and survivors.
Violence Policy Center is a wealth of knowledge, hosting many resources right on its website.
WoMen Against Gun Violence is another organization which educates the public about the consequences of gun violence. You can support them through donations and by becoming a member of WAGV.

Attend events.

Moms Demand Action will be hosting many in-person and virtual events; search on their website for your specific state.
Additionally, there are some marches that may take place through March For Our Lives.
Moms Demand Action hosts virtual Be SMART presentations to help adults learn more about the importance of safe gun storage.

Make a donation.

Many of the organizations listed above also have the option to donate. If you choose to donate to a GoFundMe, make sure it’s a verified and true GoFundMe and not a scam.

Individually, we are one voice, but together, our voices will be heard. And our actions will be seen. So, let’s all stand together and do whatever it takes to protect our children, our families, and our fellow community membeers. Your voice–and actions–matter. It’s time for change.

If you’re needing additional support in talking with your children about what happened, we have a guide of resources to help you. You can also find a therapist for yourself if you’re needing additional mental health support.

How to Talk with Kids About Traumatic Events: A Resource Guide

Detroit Mom

June 16, 2024

Our hearts are broken as we are faced with yet another tragedy, this time in Rochester Hills. After the tragedies in Oxford and East Lansing, this again is so close to home for so many of us. As mothers, we can’t even begin to imagine what the families and everyone involved are going through. There are no words that could convey how heartbroken we are. We want to offer support however we can. Below, you will find links to resources on how to talk with kids about traumatic events.

We hope these resources will be beneficial to you and your family. If you know of resources that we can add to our list, please let us know. Plan to bookmark this post; we will update as more resources come in.

How to Talk with Kids About Traumatic Events

National Association of School Psychologists

Talking to Children About Violence: Tips for Parents and Teachers
You will find tips for talking with children about violence, including how to be sure your discussions are developmentally appropriate. You can also find suggested points to be sure to touch on when talking with children.

Mitigating Psychological Effects of Lockdowns
This details what happens before, during, and after a lockdown. It may be beneficial to read as a parent to familiarize yourself with the procedures.

School Safety and Crisis
This is a list of additional resources on a variety of traumatic events, including natural disasters and a health crisis. While these resources were developed for schools and educators, they are available to the public.

Translated Safety and Crisis Resources
A comprehensive list of various safety and crisis resources, translated into many languages. Please reach out to them via e-mail at [email protected] if there is a resource you’d like to be translated.

The National Child Traumatic Stress Network

Child Trauma Toolkit for Educators
This is an abundance of information for educators and it also has a section for parents and caregivers. This aims to help parents understand child traumatic stress and childhood traumatic grief.

Talking to Children About the Shooting
You will also learn about reactions your children may have, and other ways to find help if you need it.

School Shooting Resources
This is a complete list of resources for talking about school shootings with children, including trauma and violence. Parents can search for resources based on specific keywords or topics.

Child Mind Institute

Anxiety Over School Shootings
While this article touches on what to say to your child about a school shooting, it also mentions what you can do for yourself to manage your anxiety about the situation.

Caring for Kids After a School Shooting
This is a short video you can view to learn about helping children after traumatic events within a school.

Helping Children Cope with Frightening News
These are helpful tips for talking with your children, including how to start the conversation and how to help them express how they are feeling.

Going Back to School After a Tragedy
These are tips for helping your child to feel ready to return to school after a traumatic event has taken place.

American Academy of Child and Adolescent Psychiatry

AACAP Resource Library on Guns and Violence
This is a list of resources to browse, many of which focus on these topics and how to help children. You will also find advocacy opportunities and additional resources from peer organizations.

American Psychological Association

Talking to Your Children About the Recent Spate of School Shootings
This is a quick read on how to speak with your children on school shootings. It also includes an important note on recognizing the warning signs that your child may need more help understanding.

Various Other Organizations

Common Ground | Common Ground is a local organization with the motto of “helping people move from crisis to hope”. They can be reached 24/7 by phone at 1 (800) 231-1127. On their website, you can find residential treatment centers (for children and adults) and safe shelters to go to, as well as support groups.

North Oakland Community Coalition | Community Resources for Mental Health
Through the NOCC website, you will find a list of community resources that are focused specifically on mental health services. The list includes counseling agencies and crisis hotlines.

Mental Health America | Talking to Kids About Fear and Violence
These conversations can be difficult. MHA offers many helpful suggestions for how to navigate these difficult conversations with your children.

youth.gov | Federal Resources for Helping Youth Cope after a School Shooting
This is a link to a list of various resources from many organizations, including some U.S. Departments.

JW.org | Help Your Children Deal with Disturbing News Reports
This offers a look into how children may be affected by this kind of news, news anxiety, and what to do if your child witnesses a tragic event.

common sense media | How to Talk to Kids About School Shootings
This guide contains a breakdown of different age groups and how best to talk with children of that age, including what to say and what to do.

It is our hope that these resources will be beneficial to you in navigating these difficult, important conversations with your children. If you feel that your child is in need of additional support or resources, please check out our guide to where to find mental health support for kids.

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