Inauthenticity in Motherhood

January 11, 2025

Like most moms, I spend a lot of time on social media. Whether it’s Instragram, Facebook, or Tik Tok, it plays a huge role in how I perceive myself as a mom, as well as other moms around me. One thing that I am growing tired of is the inauthenticity of motherhood.

The highlight reels, the showcases of perfection, the edited and filtered photos. I am over it. This is not only on social media, but in real life too. We, as moms, feel the need to sugarcoat everything, which really isn’t doing anyone any favors.

Don’t get me wrong, I love to share our greatest adventures from a vacation and that one snapshot when both my kids were looking at the camera. But I also share the not-so-perfect moments, too. If my kids make a giant mess or say something inappropriate but I still get a laugh out of it, I share it. Because maybe, someone else might get a laugh out of it too. I do this not only for comedic purposes, but I think other moms need to know that it isn’t all sunshine and rainbows over here all the time.

Tips for Being More Authentic in Motherhood

Stop using fanciful language.

This is when you’re describing certain things that have a tendency to be challenging and difficult in order to make them sound more “magical.” For example, describing nursing as your “breastfeeding journey” makes it sound like you took a really long flight instead of dealt with sore nipples and constantly washing pump parts.

You didn’t go on a trip, you fed your baby. I want to know how hard it was to be the only one who could get up with the baby at night. I want to know how your milk production stalled in the beginning. By not sharing the not-so-glamorous parts, it sets up false expectations for other moms.

Show the mess.

We have all taken a photo and then upon inspection, retaken it because the background wasn’t just right, whether it was a laundry basket full of clothes or a messy table full of dishes. Don’t get me wrong, I love a clean counter more than anything. But I am also a working mom of two small children. They are constantly making messes and leaving trails of clutter in their wake. When I see a mom friend post a photo of an immaculately clean kitchen or a color-coordinated playroom, it makes me feel like I need to get my life together.

Share your fails!

No one deserves a win more than moms. But children are unpredictable and sometimes, you can’t win no matter how hard you try. Whether it is a full-blown temper tantrum in Target or being thrown up on during a four-hour flight, sometimes being a mom is hard. Really hard. Maybe the saying “misery loves company” is especially true during the trying season of mothering small children.

It makes me laugh and also feel like so much less of failure when I hear that other moms are going through the same struggles as me. “Your kid won’t sleep through the night, mine neither! Your kid will only eat brown things? Mine only eats things that are covered in ketchup!” It helps to commiserate with each other and not feel so alone.

While we all want to share our perfect children and our perfect home, keep in mind that someone might benefit from you sharing the not-so-perfect parts. By sharing the good, the bad, and the ugly, I have gleaned some really great advice and ideas from moms who have gone through this challenging phase already. You never know what you can learn–or what someone can learn from you, if you are true to yourself and remain authentic in motherhood.

We are all about sharing the REAL parts of motherhood here. Read what some of our team had to share about their own journeys with mental health and how they found support!

Making New Year’s Resolutions Is Way Too Stressful

RanaMakki

January 6, 2025

I’m a mom who has always found making New Year’s resolutions to be way too stressful. This is because I don’t like setting myself up for things I might possibly fail at. Call this an insecurity, a mental health struggle, the fear of failure, etc. . . . but I just don’t make them.

Unless it’s a major life decision such as a move or adding a new family member, I try to avoid making any decisions for myself for the entire year that I might not have the chance to complete, because as we moms know: it’s hard to get things done sometimes. It gets harder as the years go by in fact and we get busier and busier.

Life as a mom is so unpredictable and I don’t like making plans for things when I
don’t know how the year is going to turn out.

Here’s why I find New Year’s resolutions stressful.

After the daily juggle of completing all the motherhood tasks, I don’t like feeling as if my to-do list is never ending. Like I have even more to do than I initially realized.

For me, New Year’s resolutions feel like never-ending checkboxes. Except, these aren’t necessarily daily tasks that I can check off at the end of the day or carry over to the next day to be completed—they’re yearly ones. So in my mind, the checkbox remains empty and waiting for that check mark until December 31st—for 364 days. That’s a long time to keep an empty checkbox, in my opinion.

Plus, for me–a hyper-organized planner and the type of person who loves nothing more than to check off task boxes–there was nothing more stressful than not accomplishing a resolution I’d made for myself at the end of the year. I would feel “incomplete,” and I don’t like that feeling.

I knew that going forward in my motherhood journey this had to change, because it was making me feel even more stressed out and not as on-top-of-things as I liked. So I developed a completely new attitude and system for the new year going forward.

I started making yearly goals on my birthday instead of on New Year’s Eve.

One birthday, as I started taking a mental tally of all the goals I had made for myself that year, I had a thought: why do we make “resolutions” on New Year’s Eve, and not on our birthdays? New Year’s Eve is simply the end of one calendar year and the beginning of another. But it’s not the beginning or end of our personal year in age, or even necessarily our personal goals. Does anybody actually feel any differently when that ball drops at midnight?

The excitement and trepidation of the new millennium aside (for those of us old enough to remember the transfer over to the year 2000 from 1999), is there any “spark” or lightning bolt that magically happens when that clock strikes 12:01 a.m. on New Year’s Day? Nope.

New Year’s Eve just wasn’t the goal-setting day for me.

Personally, on my birthday, I do feel a mental shift from one year to the next. I’m one year older. One year wiser. I spend it reflecting on all the things I did during the previous year of my life, and where I’d like to see myself going forward.

Even though I might not physically feel the shift of time, I know that I will have a lot of health and mental wellness tasks to complete if I’m wanting to evolve and thrive in the upcoming year. Thus, my goal setting for my personal upcoming year begins every year on my birthday.

In doing it this way I wasn’t completely dropping the growth mindset that comes with each year. I was applying it to my own personal timeline, thus taking off the added societal pressure to complete it all in a calendar year–as defined by everyone else’s standards. Since only I knew what my personal goals for myself were, the added fear of failure didn’t entail because I didn’t have to answer to anybody but myself.

I began tracking “goals” for myself rather than “resolutions.”

When I transitioned my thought process from “resolution” to “goal setting,” I felt much better about making them. This is because I wasn’t so stressed about making sure I was accomplishing them.

To be honest, it’s the word “resolution” itself that makes me nervous. It denotes a sense of finality, resoluteness, and firmness. To me it gives an idea that if I didn’t accomplish all my goals of the year I was somehow “less than” on my evolution journey. Whereas if I set goals for myself and didn’t accomplish them, there wasn’t a sense of failure, since goals are just tasks I have a desire to achieve instead of being a task that was set in stone like a “resolution.”

I dropped the “new year, new me” mentality.

While under the realization that my goals should be set on my birthday rather than on New Year’s Eve, I also came to terms with the idea that the new year does not offer a “rebirth” of myself, but rather an evolution. So even though there’s a pop culture reference to “new year, new me,” I let it go and began thinking of it as “new year, growth of current me.”

Over time I realized that it was also the concept of “new year, new me” that was adding to the stress I felt when making New Year’s resolutions. I felt as if suddenly I had to change myself and my current self wasn’t already good enough, as opposed to adding to the current self I already was.

I started doing mid-year goal check follow-ups.

Every few months or so, I take a look at all the facets of my life: health and personal goals, mental wellness goals, work and motherhood goals, etc. and I do a “goal check” to see how I’m doing in regards to possibly meeting that goal. I use the word “possibly” strongly, because again, the goal is not to stress myself out about accomplishing it. But, I check to see how I’m doing with that goal in regards to the rest of my life.

What I’m checking for is to see if that goal aligns with the season I’m currently in and the season I’m about to enter. Are there other goals I want to accomplish, or do I feel like the goal I’d originally set does not align with my life anymore?

If I’d set original New Year’s resolutions, to me they would have seemed so set in stone and I wouldn’t be able to do these goal-checks so often. In my mind, I’d have to wait until the following New Year’s Eve to check on, and possibly modify, them.

Maybe I’m being delusional and tricking myself?

I am aware that many of these ideas sound like a more basic way of saying “set resolutions” but doing all of these things has helped me feel less stressed and more accomplished in my goals and tracking them. So if they help me be a better mom and woman, and feel more accomplished and less stressed, then I’m calling that a win!

I know that this isn’t for everyone, and many people still do make New Year’s resolutions. That’s absolutely and totally fine! To borrow another pop culture phrase such as “new year, new me”: “You do you, Boo!” Do whatever works for you and your family to be the best mom and version of yourself that you can be.

Setting goals can take work, but it’s so worth it. Natasha shares about some types of goals you can set for a better year ahead!

12 Spots to Check Out for A Dry January Date

danaabraham

January 5, 2025

It’s all over our social media feeds and the news this month more than ever–and we’re certainly interested. You guessed it: we’re talking about Dry January dates in this post!

Dry January is in full swing, which can throw a wrench into date night plans if you’re used to dinners out with your partner washed down with some cocktails or wine. Detroit does food and bev so well, so what’s a girl to do if she’s practicing an ABV-free month?

Luckily, we’re right there with you here at Detroit Mom. Whether you’ve been sober for years, days, or are even just curious about it, we’re sharing some of the best ideas for a date night with your partner that don’t include alcohol. Happy dating!

Dry January Date Ideas In + Around Detroit

Channel Your Nerdy Side at Cranbrook Institute of Science | Bloomfield Hills

If you’re a museum person, this one’s a must-see. Discover the natural world around you with exciting exhibits like standing beneath a T. Rex or even the opportunity to touch a meteorite!

Climb at DYNO Detroit | Detroit

DYNO Detroit is hands-down one of the coolest climbing gyms I’ve been to. Located in Eastern Market, this one’s sure to be an adventure for your relationship. Beginners and experts alike are welcome, so don’t let experience hold you back from trying your hand!

Coffee + Pastries at Cannelle | Ann Arbor, Birmingham, Detroit, + Farmington

Cannelle offers a wide variety of both sweet and savory pastries, as well as coffee. With four locations around Metro Detroit, it’s an easy and sweet Dry January date (literally!). We suggest even grabbing a few treats to go!

Enjoy a “Snack Along” Movie Date | Your Home

Have you ever considered using Chat GPT for a date night? Same, until I heard about a “Snack Along.” Simply ask AI to pull the foods and drinks in a movie of your choice, get them, and enjoy! Lemonade, pop, and seltzer water make great subs for alcoholic drinks.

Experience Marvin’s Marvelous Mechanical Museum | West Bloomfield

Recommended by one of our writers, this place is also a journey back in time! With free admission, you can check out a plethora of “coin-operated animatronic dummies, mechanical games, and other curiosities.” Sounds like a blast to me!

Get It All Out at Rage Room | Sterling Heights

Tough day? Rage Room is the perfect scene for you and your boo to get it all out. With the opportunity to destroy all kinds of objects with sledgehammers, you get to smash as much stuff as you want. You know it sounds fun . . .

Get Messy at Splatter Room | Ann Arbor

Splatter Room in Ann Arbor allows you to make a mess (and not have to clean it up!). Their $99 date package comes with a private room, two canvases, a few beverages (skip these for Dry January!), and chocolates. You’re sure to remember this one for a long time, especially because you can bring the canvas home!

Ignite Your Senses at Scent Science Candle Bar | Auburn Hills

Have you ever wanted to make a candle that’s personalized to you? Scent Science Candle Bar allows you to do just that. Trying different scents that play together (in your mind, no one else’s), you’ll create a masterpiece that you get to bring home and enjoy for days to come.

Jazz + Mocktails at Cliff Bell’s | Detroit

Just when I thought Detroit couldn’t get any cooler . . . it does. Cliff Bell’s in Detroit offers a unique jazz scene with a great mocktail menu to boot. This is one Dry January date night you’ll want to live over and over again!

Start Cooking with Zingerman’s Baking Classes | Your Home/Virtual

Have you always wanted to get better at baking? Try a virtual class together; this one can even be done once the kids are in bed. It can be so fun to learn new skills together. Zingerman’s baking classes are a great option for you to grow together–and eat sweet treats while you’re at it!

Take the Plunge at The Schvitz | Detroit

Look, this is on the top of my must-do list in Detroit. Our neighbors are so obsessed, they have the merch from this place! If spas and hot tubs are your thing, The Schivtz is for you. With a historic bathhouse, you can go back in time and experience a truly relaxing time together.

Try Your Hand at Top Golf | Auburn Hills

Top Golf is also one of those dates that shouldn’t scare you–even if you’ve never picked up a club. Unlike fancy golf courses, Top Golf’s first priority for you is fun. I’ve always had a great time at Top Golf, no matter how well I play! Their food and drinks are also worth a try.

If you’re feeling like you’re the only one taking part in Dry January, you’re so not! We hope this list of unique Dry January date night ideas inspires you to get creative and build that relationship with your partner, even when you’re not drinking. There are so many fun things to do around Detroit with your partner, so quit reading and plan your next night out!

Looking for more date ideas? Check out one of these local restaurants offering igloo dining!

Not All Friendships Are Meant to Last Forever

Faten

January 5, 2025

I learned the hard way that not all friendships are meant to last forever. There was a time when I held onto a relationship that no longer served me, convincing myself it would get better. But as I grew and changed, the tension only deepened. Conversations became strained, and I felt more judged than supported.

Walking away was one of the hardest decisions I’ve ever made—painful and bittersweet—but it was also the most freeing. Letting go allowed me to fully embrace who I was becoming, even if it meant saying goodbye to someone I once cherished.

When It’s Time to Say Goodbye

Sometimes, friendships don’t survive the changes of motherhood—or the changes in us—and that’s okay. Growth often brings clarity, helping us see what aligns with who we’re becoming. While it’s painful to outgrow a friendship, it’s also a necessary part of honoring ourselves.

As we evolve, our needs, boundaries, and priorities shift. This isn’t always easy for others to accept. Friends who once fit perfectly into our lives may struggle to understand the new version of us, clinging to how things “used to be.” They may resist our growth or even make us feel guilty for changing. While this resistance often stems from their own fears or insecurities, it can create tension and even resentment.

Why Growth Can Strain Friendships

Growth disrupts the comfort of the familiar. When you start prioritizing your boundaries, mental health, or values, it can feel threatening to someone who’s accustomed to the old dynamics. For instance:

Setting new boundaries: If you’ve learned to say no or protect your time, a friend who thrived on your availability may feel shut out.
Shifting priorities: As motherhood redefines your focus, some friends might feel sidelined when they’re no longer your top priority.
Evolving values: What you once bonded over may no longer resonate. This can leave both of you feeling disconnected.

While these changes aren’t wrong, they may reveal cracks in a friendship that was never built to weather this level of growth.

Knowing When It’s Time to Walk Away

Walking away from a friendship is never an easy decision, but sometimes it’s the healthiest one. A friendship should feel like a safe space—a source of encouragement and support, not judgment or friction. If a relationship becomes draining, toxic, or stifling, it might be time to let go.

Here are some signs it’s time to re-evaluate a friendship:

You feel criticized or judged for your choices, especially as they relate to your growth.
Interactions leave you feeling exhausted, not energized.
They dismiss or downplay your new boundaries or priorities.
The relationship feels one-sided, with you doing all the giving.
There’s a lack of respect for who you’re becoming.

Letting Go with Peace

Letting go doesn’t mean the friendship wasn’t valuable. It simply means its season has ended. You can honor the good memories and still recognize that holding onto the relationship may hinder your growth. Walking away without resentment is a powerful act of self-care—it’s choosing your well-being over holding onto something that no longer serves you.

When you let go with peace, you give yourself the freedom to grow without limits. You also leave space for relationships that will align with this new chapter in your life.

The Beauty of Growth

As painful as it can be to lose a friend, growth opens the door to relationships that truly celebrate who you’re becoming. These new connections often feel more aligned and nourishing, affirming that you’re on the right path. It’s about creating space for friendships that support your journey while honoring the ones that have run their course. The friendships that remain are the ones that embrace your evolution, celebrate your successes, and respect your boundaries.

Letting go doesn’t diminish the value of the past—it simply means that holding on may no longer serve who you’re meant to be. By releasing what no longer aligns, you invite deeper, more fulfilling connections that honor the season of life you’re in now.

Growth isn’t about leaving others behind—it’s about moving forward in a way that honors your most authentic self. And sometimes, the bravest thing you can do is walk away.

Sometimes, friendships weather every storm they meet. Check out our team post where our team of writers share how they nurture their friendships!

Where to Find Igloo Dining In + Around Detroit

Laura Herr

January 5, 2025

*updated 1/5/24

If you’re looking for something to do this week, head for a restaurant with outdoor dining. Yes, it’s winter in Michigan, and that phrase is mind-boggling to say the least. But there are so many benefits to getting out of the house and heading for one of these great establishments:

You’re supporting a local business.
It’s great for your mental health.
Fresh air is always a good idea.
You don’t have to cook!

So bundle up, grab a blanket, and enjoy a meal with your family or a best gal pal at some of our favorite local places this winter.

Where to Find Igloo Dining In + Around Detroit

Ale Mary’s | Royal Oak

Outdoor igloos. Accommodates 6 guests. No reservation required.

Blake’s Tasting Room | Armada

Heated outdoor igloos. Reservation and deposit required. Accommodates up to 10 guests.

Bobcat Bonnie’s | Various Locations

Igloos for up to 6 guests. Reservations required, but they have no deposit.

Buck Shots Bar and Grill | Clarkston

$25 rental fee for heated igloos that seat up to 6 people.

Deadwood Bar + Grill | Northville

Outdoor heated igloos. There is a $10 non-refundable booking fee and a $250 minimum food and drink requirement. Accommodates up to 10 guests.

Decked Out Detroit | Detroit

Multiple downtown restaurants are offering cozy and safe outdoor dining areas! Click the link above to see participating eateries and plan your al fresco experience!

Detroit Shipping Company | Detroit

Heated outdoor seating with space heaters.

Downtown Northville Social District | Northville

Many restaurants have heated outdoor seating. The downtown areas between Main and Center Streets are closed and will have new pods and stands with overhead heating.

Four Star Grille | Marysville

Call the restaurant at (810) 364-6950 to reserve your igloo!

Honcho | Clarkston

Heated outdoor tents. Reservations required. Accommodates up to 6 guests.

HomeGrown Brewing Company | Oxford

Heated outdoor igloos that hold 8. A $50 deposit is required for reservation, which will be deducted from the final bill.

Lumen | Detroit

Private chalets. Reservations required. Accommodates up to 10 guests.

On the Bay | New Baltimore

Heated gazebos, fully enclosed. Parties of 6 or more. Reservations required.

TAQ | Ann Arbor

Outdoor dining “cubes” available, each complete with custom sound, lighting, and a digital fireplace!

The Tavern at Tina’s Country House | Macomb

Outdoor igloos. Accommodates 6-10 guests. Reservation recommended.

The White Horse Inn | Metamora

Themed outdoor igloos that hold up to 10 guests. Reservations are required.

While you’re doing some outdoor dining, perhaps you’d like to do some shopping at one of our favorite local businesses, too!

*This post was originally written by Katie Purcell and was updated in 2024 by Laura Herr.

The Weight of Food Allergies + How You Can Help

Karli McNeill

January 4, 2025

In the Dark by Karli McNeill

With rainbow lights rolling
And white noise humming
A request to snuggle will be made

Blankie wrapped loosely
And Ellie tucked closely
Together we sing, a sweet serenade

His skin tacky to the touch
Am I doing enough? Or too much?
I pray rashes from today will fade

Sleep well. Dream well.
Rest well. Please . . . be well.
Please don’t take my sunshine away.

The Weight of Food Allergies

I wrote this poem after a tough skin day with my son. We went through our bedtime routine, which involves layers of skin products. I was debating if I needed to give him a dose of Benadryl to help with him scratching at his legs. I’m always weary of over-medicating, but also don’t want him to be in any discomfort.

I hardly made it through singing our normal bedtime song You Are My Sunshine before the tears started flowing and the weight of the mental load of his allergies and skin issues became just a bit too heavy for me at that moment. Getting my feelings out through poetry helps me cope.

He is my youngest of two sons and at the time of writing, will be turning three in June. He has seven food allergies, eczema, sensitive skin, and asthma. We have had countless doctor’s visits, ER visits, and pokes and prods. He has become a professional patient and honestly handles blood draws better than I do. He self-soothes with deep breathing when things get tough, and he knows what his EpiPen is for.

This little boy also has the most infectious laugh. He will brighten up any room with his loud singing and phenomenal dance moves. He goes with the flow and is happy to chill as long as he has a good snack and someone to share it with. My son is so much more than his allergies. We try our hardest to build a life and systems that allow him to move through life with as few barriers as possible.

Moving Through the World with Food Allergies

Taking a two-year-old into the world with multiple food allergies is scary. He can’t tell me when he feels a symptom coming on. We don’t let him eat certain things, and he doesn’t quite understand why. He can’t speak up for himself when an allergen is nearby. His big brother is quick to ask, “Will that hurt Mayer’s belly?” when a new food or treat comes along, but my span of control does not cover every situation he could encounter.

Food allergies can be life-threatening. According to Food Allergy Research and Education, there are 200,000 people in the United States each year who require emergency medical care for allergic reactions to food.

I notice every scratch, every new rash, every heavy eye blink, and every cough. I also notice every belly laugh, every new word and phrase, and every smile gifted to us. The constant body scan my mind runs on him collects every piece of information–the goodness of my son, and also the potential red flags of a life-threatening allergic reaction.

As a family, we make hard decisions of what events to attend or what restaurants to eat at. Each decision, we evaluate if we have the mental resources at the time to ask enough questions to feel “safe enough” to go somewhere, or if our own tanks are so empty that it’s just safer to skip the evaluation and stay home. As he gets older (and outgrows more allergens–in 2021 we were working with ten food allergies) and we get more seasoned with this lifestyle, I hope things will be a little easier. For now I will always have two EpiPens, a day’s worth of snacks, and a Mayer-safe cupcake and pizza slice in tow for every birthday party we attend!

How You can Foster Allergy-Informed Visits

We are lucky enough that our close friends and family take a couple extra steps to think about our son when they are hosting us, whether for a birthday party or just a play date. Each allergy parent handles situations differently–the best way to be prepared is to offer information to the parent up front. Here are some examples of what friends and family have done to lighten my mental load when Mayer is invited:

Asked about allergies when the invite was extended. This lets me know that the parent is open to conversation and at least conscious of allergies, and lowers my anxiety levels when I go to ask them questions about the event. I try to do this when I plan events for work as well.
Informed me of the food, drinks, and treats that will be served ahead of time. This lightens my mental load of wondering what to pack for my son. I can prepare safe food that matches what you’re serving. Or if it’s safe food, then I can pack a little less stuff than normal. I don’t expect everything to be free of all his allergens. But simply knowing what will be there helps my risk evaluation. It’s a huge bonus if the original packaging is available for me to look at the ingredients label!
Made a goodie bag without food, or asked ahead of time what his favorite snacks and treats are. I know that sometimes the small trinkets can be annoying or seem like a waste, but both my kids love them and it’s great to not have to “take away” a gift because my son is allergic to it. If it is a treat-based goodie bag, it was so nice when my friends reached out to see what safe swaps they could make for him.
Be open and pleasant during conversations. I hate feeling like a burden or an inconvenience, but I really do ask questions to ensure my son will be safe during our visit. Please don’t get defensive or offended with my questions–I’m not doing it to make you feel bad, I legit just have to weigh out the risks before we go anywhere!

As an allergy parent it is my responsibility to seek out information and evaluate the safety of my son at any location and I do not expect accommodations everywhere, but these are simply small steps you can take to make it a little easier for your friends with allergy kiddos in tow. Even just knowing that my friends care about the safety of my son helps so much, and I hope these prompts can help you foster an inclusive environment for the allergy kids in your life too.

Looking for more resources on food allergies? Check out Julie’s list of allergy-friendly restaurants in + around Detroit!

How to Set New Year’s Goals You’ll Actually Stick To

natashakearney

January 2, 2025

Setting new year’s goals you’ll actually stick to does not need to be about drastic change overnight. Yes, another year is here and with that, so is the pressure to become a better version of ourselves–but let’s stop the same patterns from the past.

For many of us, the start of the new year is also the start of a frustrating cycle. A cycle of using self-shame to motivate ourselves to create massive change overnight, becoming exhausted, burning out, giving up, and then trying again. Often this cycle is repeated all year long until we finally get to another new year and think, “Now is the time! New year, NEW me! I’ll be able to stick to it this time!” . . . only to repeat the cycle again or give up on trying anymore. Sound familiar?

Introducing: The Four Pillars

If you’ve found yourself in this cycle, I have good news! It’s not you, it’s the way you’ve been trying to go about creating change. Trying to drastically change our habits overnight is not only unrealistic but it is not sustainable long term. So, give yourself some credit! If it was as easy as waking up one day and being able to stick to those new habits, you’d already be doing it.

Change is hard; setting goals you’ll stick to involves much more than waking up one day and choosing differently. Throughout my own personal growth journey and even more now as a life coach, I rely on several tools to assist myself and others with change.

I call them The Four Pillars to long-lasting change, growth, and healing. I’ve found that in order to create a solid foundation for change, we need a strong sense of self-love, personal growth, habits that support our goals, tools to overcome the challenges, and an ability to prioritize more rest + recharge. When we’re able to give time and attention to all four of these pillars, it becomes much easier to create the changes we seek. Change is still hard, and it takes time, but if we fuel our mind and body in the proper ways it becomes much easier to stick to our goals.

Pillar 1: Self-Love + Self-Acceptance

How often have you attempted to create change based on what you currently don’t like about yourself or your circumstances? We criticize and judge the present and hope that frustration we feel will motivate us to change. But attempting to create change from a place of hate or negativity only fuels more negativity along the way. When we struggle, the criticism and judgement will continue and we’ll eventually give up because it doesn’t feel good to try anymore.

We must be able to create a vision for change based on a love for ourselves in the present and how we want to feel in the future. Then, allow that excitement for our future to pull us forward.

When we struggle and make mistakes along the way, self-love must be there to catch us and give ourselves grace in order to not give up. A more loving perspective of ourselves helps us let go of perfectionism and rest assured knowing we’re always doing our best. When change seems to take a long time, self-love will tell us to keep going–because we deserve to live differently in the future.

This is one of the hardest pillars to embrace because most of us are not taught to celebrate ourselves. We are not taught to see what is amazing within us already and speak about that. We’ve usually been taught to look for areas of improvement and focus on that as well as the next goal we want to reach. So if this seems hard for you, know you’re not alone.

BONUS journal prompts to support Pillar 1: Write down three things you love about yourself every day, or three things you’re celebrating from the day.

Pillar 2: Mindset + Personal Growth

Thanks to Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, we know that our thoughts impact our feelings and our feelings impact our behavior. So our life experience itself is determined by the value of our thoughts. Once we have the tools to help our mindset, we have more control over how we show up in our lives.

Without a strong mindset, it is hard to continue to show up for new actions and habits. We must grow into who we need to be in order to show up for the life we would like to have. My favorite tools for mindset and personal growth are journaling, gratitude practices, life coaching/therapy, accountability partners, and personal development books or podcasts. Once you know your biggest struggle areas, you can tailor the tools to support you in those areas.

Journal prompts to support Pillar 2: What is my biggest struggle when it comes to staying consistent long-term, and what tools can I use to better support myself in that area? How can I plan ahead to overcome these obstacles?

Pillar 3: Actions + Habits

Once you have a goal, it’s time to create actions and habits to support that goal. You are the only one who gets to determine what success looks like for you in this area–try not to compare your actions or success to anyone else. You are the only one with your specific life and lifestyle, so your actions and habits will look different from others. Once you have a goal and your definition of success, start small and stay consistent. Choose actions that are easy to maintain over a long period of time. Consistency is more important than being drastic in the grand scheme of things.

We usually know what actions and habits will take us to our goals but the issue we have with sticking to these actions and habits is usually that we’re not supporting them with the rest of the three pillars. That is why it is key to create goals from a place of love for ourselves and our future: to grow into who we need to be to consistently show up for these habits, as well as making sure we get enough rest and recharge to keep going.

Journal prompts to support Pillar 3: What is my definition of success? What actions and habits will take me towards those goals? How can I support myself from the other pillars to ensure I stay consistent?

Pillar 4: Rest + Recharge

Any energy output must also be balanced by energy input. The number one reason I’ve found that people give up on their goals is burnout. Not having enough energy to care about your goals is a quick path to giving up. This is why rest and recharge is crucial in achieving long-term success–and I don’t just mean sleep! There are several recharge activities that you can do, in even just 10 minutes a day, that will help you fill your cup and keep going.

As a mom, it is definitely hard to find time to prioritize ourselves and most of us have become used to putting everyone else’s needs before our own. It can feel weird or even wrong to start taking time for ourselves, but it’s so important for us to create the time to slow down, get present, and practice self-care. In fact, it helps us show up better for those around us in addition to supporting our own goals. Choose an activity that allows you to feel like yourself again, even if it is just for 10 minutes a day.

Types of recharge activities + some examples:

Energy movement activities: singing, walking, exercising, stretching, sound bowls, chakra clearing, and music
Restful activities: reading, watching TV, journaling, massage, coloring/painting, and crafting
Social activities: catching up with a friend or family member and/or going out to social gatherings
Solitude activities: spending time alone, sitting outside in nature, and disconnecting from electronics

A good consistent sleep schedule is going to help, too!

Journal prompts for Pillar 4: What makes me feel like me? What activities help me feel like I’m recharging and gaining energy? How can I create more time for these activities?

BONUS Pillar: Community!

Accountability and support are a game changer on your journey to change. Pick someone, or even multiple people, who provide a safe space where you can talk about your accomplishments as well as your struggles. This will help you stay committed to your journey. Detroit Mom’s community groups on Facebook are a great place to start if you don’t have anyone already. And remember: there is nothing wrong with asking for help or even enlisting a coach to help you if needed!

When it comes to setting new year’s goals you’ll actually stick to, it’s not as simple as “new year, new me” but with the support of these four pillars, I hope you’ll find success this year!

Need help getting the ball rolling? Check out Natasha’s Guide To Prioritizing Yourself Again and remember, you got this!

Indoor Cold Weather Ideas for Kids In + Around Detroit

LaurenDalton

January 1, 2025

*updated 1/1/2025

If you feel stuck coming up with new ideas on where to take your littles when you just cannot think of another “at home” indoor cold weather activity . . . let our team at Detroit Mom help fill up your calendar with a variety of indoor activities for kids of all ages to help get your family out of the house!

Indoor Cold Weather Ideas for Kids in + around Detroit, by type:

ANIMAL ENCOUNTERS

Belle Isle Nature Center | Detroit

Check out the Belle Isle Nature Center where children can check out frogs, turtles, and a living bee habitat.

The Creature Conservancy | Ann Arbor

This nonprofit organization offers open hours Saturdays and Sundays from 12:00-5:00 p.m. and offers programs throughout the day to learn about the featured animal that day.

GP Zoology and Lou’s Pet Shop | Grosse Pointe

Need to fill some time during the day? Head into Lou’s Pet Shop and say “Hiiiiii!” to their tortoise that roams the store. Their sister company, GP Zoology, also hosts animal events throughout the year.

The Reptarium | Utica

Let your kids get up close and personal to several reptiles!

Sea Life Aquarium | Auburn Hills

Take a break from shopping at Great Lakes Crossing and explore the sea animals. They have a touch tank and offer many close-up viewing areas for kids. Detroit Zoo members also get 50% off tickets.

ART LESSONS

Abrakadoodle | Canton

Abrakadoodle offers a variety of classes and specialty workshops in a variety of mediums.

The Art Shack | St. Clair Shores

The Art Shack offers classes, camps, and events throughout the week.

The Bees Knees Pottery | Northville

The Bees Knees offers everything from canvas painting to jewelry making and every art medium in between. Please note that they are closed on Mondays!

Creative Arts Studio | Royal Oak

Walk-in projects include pottery, mosaics, and glass fusing. They also offer art camps and classes.

Mini Picassos | St. Clair Shores

With drop-in art days and class series, Mini Picassos has something for kids of all ages and abilities.

The Painted Pot | Rochester

A paint-it-yourself pottery studio with the coolest selection of items to create! You can also book your child’s birthday party to take place in their downstairs space.

INDOOR PLAY PLACES

Boogie Babies | Rochester Hills

Boogie Babies is for young children and offers different play stations such as a kitchen area, art center, climbing area, and much more.

Chelsea Tree House | Chelsea

The tree house-themed indoor play place offers many slides and play features as well as a gated area for little ones.

Dinoland | Dearborn Heights

A play place for the true dino lovers in your life!

Go Grow Playrooms | Canton

Go Grow offers open play in 2- or 3- hour increments. You’ll love how clean and unique their location is, plus the fact that you can sit back and relax while your kids have fun!

Kidcadia | Dearborn

Possibly one of the cleanest play places I have ever visited! Kidcadia offers a safe and calming play environment.

Rochester Play | Rochester

The outdoor-themed play place offers a two-story climbing playscape as well as a smaller area for toddlers.

T & B Play | Clawson

This brand-new indoor playground offers one-time passes and memberships! Kids can play on slides or in a sand pit, and enjoy character visits from time to time.

Yoyo’s Fun Center | Clinton Township + Westland

Another new playplace in our area! Yoyo’s has general admission pricing at both locations and memberships in Westland. You’ll find a trampoline, slides, and a toddler area.

INDOOR WATERPARKS

Canton Aquatic Center | Canton

The Canton Aquatic Center offers Parent/Tot times on Mondays, Wednesdays, and Fridays from 9:30-11:30 a.m. This is more for children under age five. Family open swim is offered Tuesdays and Thursdays from 6:00-8:00 p.m., and Saturdays and Sundays from 1:00-4:00 p.m.

Farmington Hills Hawk Aquatics Center | Farmington Hills

With two different pools to choose from, you can see the schedules online for when you can swim at Hawk Pool and/or Costick Center Pool.

Livonia Recreation Center | Livonia

Full open swim is offered various days and times each week. They also offer a modified open swim throughout the week during the day.

Macomb Township Aquatics Center | Macomb

Open swim is offered Mondays through Thursdays from 6:00-8:00 p.m., Fridays from 4:00-8:00 p.m., and Saturdays and Sundays from 12:00–4:00 p.m.

Troy Aquatics Center | Troy

Kiddie swim for ages six and under is offered Mondays, Wednesdays, and Fridays from 1:00-2:00 p.m. and Tuesdays and Thursdays from 4:00-5:00 p.m. Open swim is available on Fridays from 4:00-7:00 p.m., and Saturdays and Sundays from 12:45-4:30 p.m.

LIBRARIES

Clinton-Macomb Public Library | Clinton Township

This library offers many interactive features for kids such as a train, puppet show theater, and many toy bins.

Farmington Hills Community Library | Farmington Hills

This library is full of bright primary colors and is sure to brighten a gloomy winter day. The kids will love playing up on the stage that is set up as a little house and kitchen stage set.

Southfield Public Library | Southfield

Your children will be transported into a library fantasy land when they step into the Southfield Youth Library. With life-size trees, larger than life books, and a sleeping dragon in a nook, your kids will surely find a cozy spot to read a good book.

Warren Public Library | Warren

Such a fun community library for children with play kitchens, train sets, checkers, and many other interactive areas to explore!

West Bloomfield Township Public Library | West Bloomfield

The youth library is definitely for children. With magnetic walls to practice letters and vocabulary, to the reading house where children can create their own puppet shows, and the activity center and LearningScape filled with many educational toys, this library is sure to keep your little one busy on those long winter days.

MUSEUMS

Cranbrook Institute of Science | Bloomfield Hills

Planetariums, dinosaurs, and mastodons . . . OH MY! The museum also host many events and programs for families to enjoy.

Flint Children’s Museum | Flint

This museum is more for children under ten. The museum is filled with many stations for kids to learn and explore for hours.

Marvin’s Marvelous Mechanical Museum | Farmington Hills

With over 5,000 sq ft, your children will be in awe looking at and interacting with all the mechanical features in this museum. From coin-operated pinball to neon signs, this museum has a little bit of everything. Please note: their last day being open will be January 5th to prepare to move to the new location at Orchard Mall!

Museum of Natural History | Ann Arbor

Be sure to check out this FREE museum this winter. Tuesday through Sunday from 10:00 a.m.–4:00 p.m., visitors can head to the investigate labs where children can use scientific equipment to explore the natural world.

Outdoor Adventure Center | Detroit

Bring the outdoors inside and explore all Michigan has to offer without having to brave the cold temps!

OPEN GYMNASTICS

Downriver Gymnastics | Monroe + Southgate

Toddler Time is offered on Mondays, Thursdays, and Fridays from 10:00 a.m-12:00 p.m.

Extreme Gymnastics | Warren

Preschool open play is offered on Mondays from 9:30-10:30 a.m., Tuesdays from 11:00-12:00 p.m., and Fridays from 10:30-11:30 a.m. for $10 per child. They also offer school-age open play for ages 6-17 on Fridays from 8:00-9:30 p.m. and Sundays from 4:00-5:30 p.m. for $15/child!

Hunt’s Gymnastics | Clinton Township

Hunt’s offers parent-tot and preschool classes!

Mills Gymnastics | Southgate

Preschool open gym is Fridays from 10:30 a.m.-12:00 p.m. for $10 per child. School-age open gym is on Fridays from 7:15-9:15 p.m. for $14 per child. They also host a sensory/special needs open gym on Sundays from 1:30-2:30 p.m. for $10 per child.

Troy Gym | Troy

With four locations, Troy Gym offers open play and gym seven days a week at a variety of times.

STEM LOCATIONS

Ann Arbor Hands-On Museum | Ann Arbor

This museum offers four levels of fun and interactive exhibits. The bottom floor is for little ones preschool-age and under.

Fascination Factory | Birmingham

Fascination Factory is a play-based learning center that your kids will love! Open play time slots are available Tuesdays through Fridays from 9:30 a.m.-1:00 p.m. and 3:00-5:30 p.m., and Saturdays and Sundays from 9:30 a.m.-12:00 p.m.

Legoland | Auburn Hills

Practice those engineering skills and start building at Legoland inside Great Lakes Crossing. Build and test your own race cars, test your building stability on the earthquake tables, and take a peek behind the scenes and see how Legos are made. Be sure to check their calendar for toddler times and homeschool day discounts throughout the week!

Michigan Science Center | Detroit

The science center has galleries for your little scientist to explore. It also has five theaters to further explore science concepts. Your family can also continue your learning at home by catching EchoLive online, where their educators present science experiments!

Stemville | Howell + Northville

Stemville offers open play Mondays through Saturdays from 9:00 a.m.-6:00 p.m. (both locations) plus Sundays from 11:00 a.m.-6:00 p.m. (Howell only) to allow children to imagine, design, explore, and create.

The Robot Garage | Birmingham

The Robot Garage offers classes and workshops for children ages four and up. They also offer subscriptions to bring that learning into the home! Projects can also be mailed to your children to do alongside 24/7 video classes.

TRAMPOLINE PARKS + BOUNCE CENTERS

Airtime Trampoline | Various Locations

Burn off that winter built-up energy at Airtime with over 10,000 sq ft of trampolines, foam pits, Ninja courses, and so much more.

Bounce It Up | Livonia

For $15, your child gets open play for the whole day which includes bounce houses, arcade games, and a tri-level playground adventure. There is also a designated area for children under three. Memberships are also available!

Pump It Up | Various Locations

With three locations in Metro Detroit, Pump It Up offers a variety of open jump times as well as times set aside for toddler-only jumps.

Sky Zone | Canton, Commerce Township, + Shelby

SkyZone offers Little Leapers times for the smallest of jumpers, sensory hours, and glow nights for older kids. Check specific location websites to see what’s happening!

Urban Air Adventure Park | Various Locations

With four locations in Metro Detroit, Urban Air offers a variety of activities such as Jumparoo time for little ones, sensory-friendly play, Parents Night Out, Teen Night, and Family Night.

After your indoor play day, you might be hungry. Check out our list of restaurants offering igloo dining in + around Detroit!

2024 Detroit Mom-Approved Holiday Gift Guide

Detroit Mom

December 18, 2024

There’s something so incredible about shopping local and supporting businesses within our community. It’s something we’re extremely passionate about here at Detroit Mom. Buying local gives back to our community and, I don’t know about you, but that’s something I want to be a part of.

This year, we wanted to try something different + unique with our holiday gift guide. We turned to our Detroit Mom community and asked our readers who they wanted to see in our holiday gift guide this year. What businesses were they going to be supporting, who did they want to shout out, and what gift items did they have their eyes on? We wanted to know it ALL so we could put this guide together knowing it was full of personally-recommended businesses submitted by moms in and around Detroit.

For our Detroit Mom-Approved Holiday Gift Guide, we’ve made it super simple for you to shop. The majority of these businesses have the option to purchase online and ship anywhere. Read through the list below!

BLACK-OWNED

Lettering By Kenisha | Calligraphy, Chalk Menus, Apparel, + More

WHAT OUR READERS HAVE TO SAY: Kenisha’s calligraphy and hand lettering services are the perfect way to add a personal, artistic touch to holiday gifting. Offering everything from calligraphy services and chalk menu designs to wedding invitations, signage, apparel, cards, and home décor, Kenisha creates bespoke pieces tailored to your needs. Her handcrafted designs elevate everyday items into one-of-a-kind treasures that show thoughtfulness and care. Whether you’re celebrating special events or spreading holiday cheer, her versatile creations make for meaningful, memorable gifts!

The Lip Bar | Makeup + Skincare

WHAT OUR READERS HAVE TO SAY: Black-owned, women-owned, located in downtown Detroit but also available at Target, Walmart, and CVS. Quality makeup and skincare products with natural ingredients. Reasonably priced!

EXPERIENCES

The Art Shack | Art Classes

WHAT OUR READERS HAVE TO SAY: Art classes for kids and adults! This location even offers summer camps. Owned by a wonderful woman who cares about her students and the community.

Broadway in Detroit | Broadway Show

WHAT OUR READERS HAVE TO SAY: Not only is the Fisher Theater the most amazing venue, but a night out isn’t complete without stopping in for dinner first at one of the incredible restaurants downtown. Tickets to a show would be the *perfect* date night or night out with friends!

Detroit Dye House | Dye Classes + Clothes

WHAT OUR READERS HAVE TO SAY: Detroit Dye House provides dye classes and lessons. They also have a great collection of expert dye clothes for purchase. This is a fun outing with friends and families. We have even been here for a two-year-old’s birthday party!

Detroit Zoo | Zoo Membership

WHAT OUR READERS HAVE TO SAY: When in doubt . . . we go to the zoo! A membership to the Detroit Zoo is a wonderful family gift that can be used year round.

House of Reclamation | Retreats

WHAT OUR READERS HAVE TO SAY: These retreats are truly life-changing. Lauryn + Elizabeth are doing so much work locally and internationally in order to make sure that women are walking through life together, as their highest selves, feeling supported 100% of the way. Their annual Traverse City Homecoming Retreat looks absolutely amazing!

Serenity at Home | Home Organizing

WHAT OUR READERS HAVE TO SAY: A gift certificate for home organizing is the perfect gift for that special person on your list. Available in any dollar amount, the gift of organizing can be a life-changing experience for anyone looking for some help getting their home in order in the new year.

Sidetrack Bookshop | Books

WHAT OUR READERS HAVE TO SAY: This is my favorite cozy bookstore with the best owner and staff. It is an experience just walking in the door. From books, to candles, to paper products and bags, there is something for everyone here. My family visits almost every Saturday just to stop in and say “Hi!”

FASHION + ACCSSORIES

Chaos Collection | Custom + Unique Apparel

WHAT OUR READERS HAVE TO SAY: They create customs designs and really cute gameday attire as well as unique, edgy designs and sayings. Bringing joy to your closet one shirt at a time!

Clara’s Craft Boutique | Custom Handmade Gifts

WHAT OUR READERS HAVE TO SAY: Clara’s Craft Boutique has something for everyone. Customize a gift for a friend, teacher, relative, or yourself. Everything is handmade with love and has a quick turnaround time!

George Gregory | Men’s Clothing + Accessories

WHAT OUR READERS HAVE TO SAY: George Gregory has men’s clothing and accessories that you are not going to find at the mall. The owner is always helpful in finding the perfect gift too!

Kiloh + Co. | Corded Crew Sweatshirts

WHAT OUR READERS HAVE TO SAY: The Corded Crews from Kiloh + Co are so comfortable! Since it’s one of their most popular styles, there’s bound to be a team or phrase your gift receiver will love. It’s designed to be a loose fit, and I practically live in mine!

LovePeaceThreads | Jean Jackets

WHAT OUR READERS HAVE TO SAY: I made a jean jacket with Lauren and I wear it constantly!! It’s so comfy, stylish, and really adds nicely to my outfit. I love styling it with a comfy sweater underneath and some leggings!

Maisie Mae Boutique | Baby Bows

WHAT OUR READERS HAVE TO SAY: My girls LOVE their bows from here. They’re made with so much love and are so cute!

Mend on the Move | Handcrafted Art, Jewelry, + Bags

WHAT OUR READERS HAVE TO SAY: Beautiful art that reuses materials that would otherwise be scrapped, and a beautiful cause local to Detroit to employ women survivors of abuse.

The Little Design Co | Purses + Other Leather Goods

WHAT OUR READERS HAVE TO SAY: I cannot choose just one purse, they’re all so gorgeous! You can see how much attention to detail goes into every product made here.

FOR FOODIES

Clementines | Baked Goods

WHAT OUR READERS HAVE TO SAY: The macaroons are always fresh. The service there makes you feel like you are family!

Sabbath Coffee Roasters | Coffee + Coffee Merchandise

WHAT OUR READERS HAVE TO SAY: For all the coffee lovers and moms in your life! Sabbath is a tiny shop (no seating area) that has the coziest monthly specials and comfiest shirts. They also have a delicious frozen oat latte that’s perfect for any season, in my opinion!

FOR KIDS

Cookie Cutters Haircuts for Kids | Children’s Haircuts

WHAT OUR READERS HAVE TO SAY: When children step into the salon, they’re greeted by a fun-filled waiting area complete with an indoor slide and a coloring table. During their haircuts, they can unwind in whimsical fantasy chairs while watching their favorite TV shows. Afterward, they leave with big smiles, a balloon, and a sucker in hand! The stylists are highly trained to work with adults, children of all ages, and those with unique or special needs, ensuring a comfortable and enjoyable experience for everyone.

Fascination Factory | Toys + Play Place Experience

WHAT OUR READERS HAVE TO SAY: Fascination Factory has a huge play area with wooden and educational toys for kids newborn to six years old. This place is equipped with coffee and snacks and great for meeting up with friends. They also offer summer camps and parent night outs. There are also toys for purchase for last minute shopping!

Go Grow Playrooms | Open Play

WHAT OUR READERS HAVE TO SAY: This is the perfect spot to sit back and relax while your kiddos play and have fun! Parents can rest easy and actually sit for a bit knowing their kids are having so much fun!

Goldfish Swim School | Swim Lessons

WHAT OUR READERS HAVE TO SAY: Goldfish Swim School offers swim lessons for all ages at all different levels of swim experience. The staff is knowledgeable, helpful, and always friendly. The water is warm, and showers and changing rooms are available!

Hank a Roo Readings | Children’s Books

WHAT OUR READERS HAVE TO SAY: Quality and fun picture books for kids ages 3-8. The stories are engaging, with beautiful illustrations. The board book, To the Moon and Back, is perfect for new or expecting moms. A great baby shower gift!

Main St. Rocks | Crystals + Gems

WHAT OUR READERS HAVE TO SAY: If you’re looking for a good energy, thoughtful gift that maybe no one else has thought of, this is the spot. Shopping for someone who may need some grounding, positive thoughts, or even a Michigan gem ring? Main St. Rocks has it all.

Modern Natural Baby | Baby + Kids Toys and Essentials

WHAT OUR READERS HAVE TO SAY: This is our go-to for baby products and toys for birthdays and holiday presents (free wrapping!). The staff always has great recommendations based on age for gifts and their toy section is always fun to play in!

No Fear Cafe | STEAM+ Kit

WHAT OUR READERS HAVE TO SAY: The STEAM+ kits for kids are a fantastic holiday gift because they spark curiosity and foster a love for learning in science, technology, engineering, and mathematics. Each kit is designed to be engaging and hands-on, encouraging creativity and critical thinking while allowing kids to explore real-world concepts. By providing a fun and educational experience, these kits not only entertain but also help children develop essential skills that will benefit them in their future studies and careers. Give the gift of discovery this holiday season and inspire the next generation of innovators!

RNB Press: Children’s Book Imprint | Children’s Picture Books

WHAT OUR READERS HAVE TO SAY: This holiday season, gift your child the joy of imagination with author Renee’s highly recommended picture books, Finding Bunny, Imagine That, and The Truth About Stepmoms. Each story sparks creativity, fosters a love for reading, and creates lifelong memories that you can cherish together. With glowing reviews highlighting their heartwarming narratives, these books are not just gifts—they’re experiences. Plus, by choosing her books, you’re supporting a local mom and author dedicated to nurturing young minds through the magic of storytelling.

Stemville | STEM Open Play Session

WHAT OUR READERS HAVE TO SAY: Stemville is a children’s activity center with all play focused in STEM. They offer open play, monthly memberships, and birthday parties. There are two locations in Northville and Howell, and a pop up location in Detroit that is open until December 28th. Best for children ages 3 to 8 years old. It is their hope to stimulate the minds of all who visit so they too can imagine, explore, design, and create!

Toyology Toys | All Toys For All Ages

WHAT OUR READERS HAVE TO SAY: Your local toy store that has everything you need! Fun toys for everyone on your shopping list, from babies to adults. They also gift wrap!

HOME DECOR + GIFTS

Applewood Candle Co | Clean, Luxury Candles

WHAT OUR READERS HAVE TO SAY: Applewood Candle Co offers a clean home fragrance collection that invites indulgence, without sacrificing wellness. The owner, Allison, believes you should never have to choose between beauty + quality, especially when it comes to the comforts of home. Free from toxins found in traditional candles, their artfully-inspired scents transform raw ingredients into refined elegance. Experience pure, luxury fragrance–sustainably sourced + consciously crafted from wax to wick. Applewood Candles are hand-poured in small batches in Michigan and they offer a wide variety, from individual candles to ready-to-gift boxes to their quarterly subscription. They have the perfect gift for anyone on your list!

Bloom Honeybee Florals | Flowers

WHAT OUR READERS HAVE TO SAY: The absolute best floral arrangements! A woman-owned business who works directly with her customers to create gorgeous arrangements. She offers personal delivery as well. I’ve ordered florals for Mother’s Day and birthdays through her–and they last!!

Catching Fireflies | Gift Shop

WHAT OUR READERS HAVE TO SAY: Catching Fireflies is my go-to for cards and gifts for my mother-in-law. This is a small gift shop with fun and unique gifts with lots of Michigan love products too!

City Bird | Gift Shop

WHAT OUR READERS HAVE TO SAY: City Bird is a gift shop in Detroit where you can find home goods, local stickers, greeting cards, and unique gifts for everyone on your list!

Four808 | Unique Decor, Jewelry, + So Much More

WHAT OUR READERS HAVE TO SAY: All made by local artists! A wide variety of options including Detroit sports apparel not found anywhere else, and also unique home decor (door hangers, wood signs, crystals, etc.). I have custom ordered many items if I see something in the store that I want to slightly change, like a quote or colors. The staff is great and will help you find the perfect gift!

Kelz Creates | Art + Art Experiences

WHAT OUR READERS HAVE TO SAY: It’s so important to support local art! With Kelz, you can buy art or gift an Art Experience! Kelz is a local value-based and social justice-focused artist, social worker, and educator who can curate a one-of-a-kind art experience to meet your wishes: group bonding, healing, identity exploration, mindfulness, the list is endless!

Panek Artistry | Home + Floral Portraits

WHAT OUR READERS HAVE TO SAY: Each portrait is drawn or painted by hand. There is no shortage when it comes to detail. Every single one is personal and created from the heart!

Rail and Anchor | Unique Home Gifts

WHAT OUR READERS HAVE TO SAY: Rail and Anchor is my go-to store for unique gifts. There is something for everyone on your list here. They also gift wrap!

Riverside Vintage Market | Home Goods

WHAT OUR READERS HAVE TO SAY: Super cute place to shop for unique decor for your home! All of the items sold here are either vintage finds or handmade items.

Soul Roots | Soy Candles

WHAT OUR READERS HAVE TO SAY: Soul Root’s candles are perfect for gifting to your loved ones: clean burning, non-toxic, hand-poured, and ready to make their spirits brighter!

SELF-CARE + BEAUTY

ArtiSun Soap | Bath + Body Products

WHAT OUR READERS HAVE TO SAY: Amazing, natural bath and body products! Sue Finley has a unique line of quality products that smell amazing. Customer service is top notch!

Citizen Yoga | Yoga

WHAT OUR READERS HAVE TO SAY: There is no better gift than something that serves the soul. Citizen Yoga offers multiple yoga classes a day in three locations, along with retreats, workshops, and wellness services.

Regeily | Essentials Collection Minimalist Duo

WHAT OUR READERS HAVE TO SAY: Regeily’s Essentials Collection Minimalist Duo is the perfect holiday gift for anyone who deserves a little self-care. This clean beauty set, featuring their luxurious body cleanser and deeply hydrating lotion, is designed to nourish the 97% of skin often overlooked. Created by a Black, female, veteran-owned brand, it reflects their mission to inspire others to prioritize their well-being. Give the gift of radiant, healthy skin while supporting a brand rooted in resilience and empowerment!

Sculpt Pilates | Pilates Classes

WHAT OUR READERS HAVE TO SAY: A women-owned Pilates studio in midtown Detroit. Wonderful facility with passionate instructors and fun classes! I’ve taken several Pilates classes but the ones here are my fave!

Sirona Wellness Spa | Massage/Float Therapy

WHAT OUR READERS HAVE TO SAY: Sirona is a place that allows for whole body peace and self-care. Owned by a fellow mama, Sirona has been curated to allow you to fully release your stress when you step foot in the door. After your service, there is a small lounge area where you can sit and continue relaxing with a cup of tea or water. Such an amazing spot!

Sisu Mobile Sauna | Mobile Sauna Rental or Gift Card

WHAT OUR READERS HAVE TO SAY: Treat your loved one to a unique experience to unwind in the 8×12 traditional Finnish mobile barrel sauna. Book a specific date, or buy a gift card!

TRV|FIT Berkley | Workout Session

WHAT OUR READERS HAVE TO SAY: TRV|FIT Berkley, located in Oak Park, is dedicated to fostering a vibrant and supportive fitness community focused on total wellness. They offer dynamic group workouts, personal training, and semi-private programs like Peach City, League, Perform Camp, and many more designed to help you achieve your fitness goals. Their unique approach combines quality coaching with an inclusive environment, ensuring a fun and approachable path to health for all fitness levels. With a passionate team committed to positively impacting you, they strive to empower you to feel stronger and more confident after every session!

Walking Lightly | Eye Cream with Cucumber, Hyaluronic Acid, + Coffee

WHAT OUR READERS HAVE TO SAY: I love this eye cream. When I had my son, it was the only thing that made me feel alive after a long night of feeding/crying. Helps brightens my eyes and from a great woman-owned shop right in Ferndale focused on reducing waste!

We hope you love these local businesses in our holiday gift guide as much as we do! They are truly some of the best gems in Detroit. You’ll find something special for everyone on your list. 2024 is the year to shop local, shop small, and support our community. We know just how much our favorite small businesses appreciate you! Stop by or shop online, and tell them Detroit Mom sent you!

Wishing you and yours the happiest of holiday seasons!

Celebrating Kwanzaa This Holiday Season

Kenisha Coon

December 16, 2024

Next week, we are celebrating Kwanzaa! Although I am a mixed-race, BIPOC woman, I grew up in a predominately white home and area. I have spent a large part of my adulthood learning about my culture, who I am, and who I want to be as a person.

For the last few years, I have spent time building my capacity, especially around Kwanzaa, in preparation to celebrate with my family and make sure that I am teaching my children about my culture. I am very excited to share some information that I have taken in, so I can be ready to teach my kids about our culture and embrace how important this holiday is in the African American community. We have been celebrating for several years now.

What is Kwanzaa?

Kwanzaa is a meaningful cultural holiday that celebrates African American heritage and traditional values. It was founded in the 1960s during the Black National Movement as a way to honor and reconnect with African roots while fostering a sense of community and cultural pride. Observed annually from December 26th to January 1st, Kwanzaa is a seven-day celebration, with each day focusing on a specific principle or social value, such as unity, self-determination, collective work, and responsibility.

This time of year highlights important themes like unity, creativity, faith, and gift-giving, all of which hold a special place in my life. These values not only serve as guiding principles for the celebration but also as a foundation for everyday living. For me, Kwanzaa represents an opportunity to reflect on these ideals and to teach my children their significance. I strive to instill in them a sense of pride, purpose, and community, encouraging them to embrace these values in their actions and interactions throughout the year. Celebrating Kwanzaa is not just about tradition; it is about cultivating a legacy of cultural awareness and shared responsibility that strengthens both family and community bonds.

The Seven Key Principles

During the seven-day celebration, there are seven key principles that are focused on–one each day.

Umoja focuses on maintaining the unity of the family, the nation, race, and the community around us.
Kujichagulia focuses on the self-determination to create and do things for ourselves.
Ujima focuses on collective work and the responsibility to build each other’s community and help our friends and families.
Ujamaa focuses on economics and supporting Black-owned businesses, shops, and stores.
Nia focuses on the vocation of building and developing communities to restore them.
Kuumba is the day of creativity.
Imani is the day of faith.

The focus of each of these days is to bring together the Black community as a family and learn about the traditions of those before us, and focus on learning and appreciating one’s culture.

Symbolism + Decorations

The traditional colors of Kwanzaa are black, green, and red. On our table, you will find traditional African cloth patterns. You will also find a Kwanzaa kinara with the seven candles–one representing every celebration day.

I felt it was essential to create a festive atmosphere and ensure my children were exposed to the meaningful symbolism of Kwanzaa. By engaging them with the daily discussions about the seven key principles and allowing them to observe the symbolic decorations, their curious minds are encouraged to ask questions and explore deeper meanings. They also notice the Christmas tree across the room, naturally drawing comparisons between the two celebrations, allowing them to appreciate both their similarities and unique qualities.

Books to Check Out

There are so many books that you can share with your children to read about Kwanzaa or introduce them to the holiday. Here are just a few that I recommend:

Kwanzaa: How to Celebrate It In your Home by Kathleen M. Taylor
My First Kwanzaa by Karen Katz
Kwanzaa by Lisa J Amstutz

I view this as a time to continue to have conversations with my children and my family about my African roots of heritage. This is as a week of vocal gratitude. I view this as a time when others can learn about the traditions as I share our journey of learning and celebrating. It is a celebration of unity, family, and gratitude. I am looking forward to sharing it with my boys and experiencing it again this year.

We love sharing about the different ways families celebrate the holidays. Be sure to check out Ronit’s post about how her family celebrates Hanukkah!

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