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My Favorite Way to be Celebrated on Stepmother’s Day

By
shereenaduncan
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Mother’s Day can be a complicated day on the calendar for a blended family. For stepmoms, it often comes with a side of calendar dread. We want to be seen, we want to be appreciated, but we also want to protect the hearts of the children we are helping to raise.

If you’ve ever felt a wave of anxiety as May approaches, you aren’t alone. I’ve spent a lot of time reflecting on my own journey, from the first year of marriage to finding a rhythm that actually works. I’ve realized that for me, the most fulfilling way to celebrate isn’t what I originally expected.

Here is how I discovered my favorite way to be celebrated on Stepmother’s Day.

The First Year Anxiety

I remember the first Mother’s Day after we were married. The kids were scheduled to be with us, and instead of excitement, I felt a massive weight of anxiety. I wasn’t worried about whether I’d get a card. What worried me was wondering if the kids would feel uncomfortable.

I didn’t want them to feel like they had to tell me, “Happy Mother’s Day.” I didn’t want them to feel pressured to acknowledge me at all. As an adult, I’m happy to wish every mom I know a happy day, but for a child, I often wonder if it’s different. I was terrified that by recognizing me, they would feel a sense of betrayal toward their biological mom.

Was I overthinking it? Probably. But in the world of blended families, overthinking is practically a survival skill. That feeling of being an additional figure rather than a replacement figure is a delicate line to walk, and I never wanted my presence to feel like a burden to their loyalty.

The Perfect Compromise

When I first heard about Stepmother’s Day, it felt like the ultimate solution. The kids can focus entirely on their mom on Mother’s Day without any “bonus mom” guilt. The stepmom gets a dedicated day where her unique role is the star of the show.

It sounds perfect on paper. But as the day actually drew closer, I realized I still felt a lingering discomfort. There was something about the idea of instructing someone else to recognize me that didn’t sit right.

Why My Biological Son Feels Different

I think it’s important to be honest about the different hats we wear. Stepmoms can say all day long that they love their stepchildren like their own but there are still boundaries or invisible lines that exist that just don’t with a biological child.

I have a biological son, and when it comes to him, I want all the mommy things. I want the messy handmade cards, the breakfast in bed, and the over-the-top Mother’s Day recognition. That connection is different; there’s no loyalty bind or betrayal narrative to navigate.

But being a stepmom is a different beast entirely. It’s a role that is earned through showing up, day after day, often in the quiet spaces where no one is watching. Because that role is unique, I realized my recognition should be unique, too.

The Shift

Here is the realization that changed everything for me: My husband is the one who brought these children into my life. He is the person who asked me to take on the mental and emotional load of step-parenting. He is the one who sees the behind-the-scenes work. The navigating of schedules, the emotional labor, and the “roller coaster” of finding my place in the family.

Instead of my husband taking the kids to the store to pick out a card for me, I prefer that he be the one to recognize me. If there’s a nice meal or a thoughtful gift, it’s from him. The recognition feels much more authentic and comfortable when it comes from the man who knows exactly how much heart I pour into this family.

Every Blended Family is Different

If there is one thing I’ve learned on this journey, it’s that there is no “one size fits all” for step-parenting. Some stepmoms have been there since infancy and feel exactly like a primary parent. Some are in a more “mentor” or “bonus” role.

In our house, the door is always open. When the kids are older, if they choose to recognize me on Mother’s Day or Stepmother’s Day, I will receive that with so much love. But I’ve decided to take the pressure off them, and off myself. By shifting the focus to partner-led appreciation, I can actually enjoy the day. I can enjoy the meal and the gift without that nagging voice in my head wondering if the kids feel caught in the middle.

The Beautiful, Exhausting Roller Coaster

Being a stepmom is more of an emotional and mental roller coaster than I ever could have imagined. It is incredibly fulfilling to watch these kids grow and to know you’re a part of their village. It is also equally exhausting to constantly navigate the invisible boundaries of my role.

If you are a stepmom struggling with how to handle these holidays, give yourself permission to do what feels comfortable, not just what feels expected–whether that means celebrating Stepmother’s Day, ignoring it entirely, or asking your partner to step up and lead the appreciation. Regardless, I hope you discover how you prefer to be celebrated on Stepmother’s Day.

You are doing the work. You are navigating the roller coaster. And whether or not there’s a card on the table, the impact you’re making is real.

Looking for a Mother’s Day gift for yourself or someone else? Check out the Detroit Mom approved Mother’s Day gift guide.

A National Nurses Week Reflection (+ Some Nurses Week Discounts!)

By
Megan Jalbert
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As moms, we spend a lot of time in waiting rooms. And almost always, the first person who meets us there is a nurse. Having been a pediatric cath lab nurse when I became a mother, I was that first person, greeting a family when they were bringing their child in for a procedure. I knew what that mother handing over her child felt and I made sure to let each one know that I would take care of their child like they were my own.

I have met thousands of parents over the course of my career thus far. Some you remember because of what happened to their child; others because of something they said to you.

The First Bath, First Feed, + First Moments

I will never forget the mom of Baby B during Covid. She was not allowed to come down to the NICU with her baby as she was Covid + during delivery. This meant she was going to miss her baby’s first feed, bath, smiles, etc.

I asked her if I could have her telephone number and send her pictures and videos of all the things I would do with her baby while taking care of him for the next two shifts. I sent her a video of his bath, getting him dressed, feeding him, and creating his first footprints.

It may not seem like much, but to her, that was everything because she was looking forward to those moments that were essentially stolen from her experience as a first time mom. Sometimes I think this is why I was chosen to be a boy mom x2.

More Than the Thank You Posts

During National Nurses Week it’s easy to focus on gratitude posts, free coffee, and thank-you banners. And those things matter. But they barely scratch the surface of what nurses truly carry. It’s the nurse who double-checks everything when something doesn’t feel right. The one who notices the subtle change no one else sees. The one who sits down—not because they have time, but because someone needs them to.

You don’t forget the nurse who made your child smile when they were scared. The one who made you feel like you weren’t overreacting. Or the one who reminded you—without saying it directly—that you’re doing a good job.

Instinct as a Nurse + a Mother

One very similar trait that both a mom and a nurse have is instinct. As a mother we have that intuition that something might be off. As a nurse, we are trained to pick up on the subtle cues a child may give during our 12 hours with them. After having my boys, I remind mothers to listen to their intuition and advocate for their child. If something feels off, it generally means something is wrong.

In the fall, my youngest developed a skin infection from one of those play gyms. It was a seasoned nurse practitioner and fellow mom friend who helped me realize that we are not overreacting when we get upset with someone who will not listen to us.

I had been on a video call with telehealth and he continued to get worse so I took him to Urgent Care. Urgent Care dismissed the concern as well, and that is when I called my friend to see if I was overreacting. She urged me to go to the Emergency Department and I did, where we ended up admitted to the infectious disease unit for three days. If it were not for her, I would have continued to doubt myself and potentially have had a negative outcome with my son’s health.

Nursing Looks Different Right Now

After becoming a mother of two, my career shifted from in the hospital to working remotely. The beauty of nursing is there are so many avenues that we can pursue. Being present and not missing these years where their personality is developing and they are learning so much is a blessing.

One day when they do not rely on me as much, I will find my way right back to 3901 Beaubien, where I will pick back up working as a pediatric nurse. Working from home is not my favorite nursing job I have held and while I miss my patients and coworkers tremendously, right now I have to be Mom First, Nurse Second.

Nurses Week Freebies + Discounts

Naitonal Nurses Week isn’t all about the freebies–but if there’s a special nurse in your life (maybe it’s you!), here are some local spots where they can feel the love.

Food + Dining

  • Biggby: special pricing for drinks with valid nurses ID
  • Buffalo Wild Wings: 20% off dine-in orders (check with restaurant before dining)
  • Chipotle: enter to win one of 100,000 free burritos
  • Insomnia Cookies: free cookie and entry to win a catering package May 6-12
  • Honeygrow (Rochester Hills): enter to win one of ten $250 gift cards for your nursing unit (I linked this but can’t find the page to verify yet)
  • MOD Pizza: BOGO pizza or salad in restaurant when you show your badge at the register
  • Outback Steakhouse: 10% off with valid nursing ID
  • Texas de Brazil: 10% off for nurses and their guests

Retail + Jewelry

  • Adidas: discount when verified through id.me
  • Asics: discount available on up to two purchases per month
  • Brooks: 25% off eligible items
  • Crocs: 15% off online
  • Nike: 10% off
  • Puma: 20% off your order
  • Lululemon: 15% off order
  • Pandora: verify your status and receive a code to use at checkout
  • Samsung: up to 30% off
  • Stanley: discount after signing up on their website
  • Yeti: discount after signing up on their website

To every nurse: Thank you for caring for our kids. Thank you for calming our fears. Thank you for showing up, over and over again, with compassion that goes far beyond your job description.

From one mom who happens to be a pediatric nurse: We see you. We appreciate you. And we won’t forget you.

Sometimes, motherhood + career are hard to separate. Megan shares how being a nurse impacted her motherhood journey.

“Mommy, Why Are You Pink?”

By
ChristinaReinhardt
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“Mommy, why are you pink?” you asked me one day.

“Well, I’m pink and dad is brown,” I answered. “You are a mix of both and your skin reflects that. So it’s brown, not as dark as dad’s, and not as light as mine, just somewhere in the middle. Just perfectly you.”

My little innocent boy with extra melanocytes, brown curls bouncing with a tinge of my blonde highlights around your face, and sparkling brown eyes resting in light-brown skin. Sometimes I look at you and think, I wish your dad was more involved. I think it often but never say it aloud. There’s a lot I don’t say. I’ve tried everything to foster that relationship, but I’m finally reaching a point where I have to stop trying to fix something I didn’t break.

And then come the questions from you–questions that crack me open every time. “Mommy, is he coming to see me?” “Why was Daddy mean on the phone?” “No, I don’t want to talk to him.” “No, I don’t want to go unless you go.” And I have to say, “I can’t go, honey. I’m sorry,” even when my heart feels like it’s splintering inside my chest.

Preparing You for a World I Don’t Fully Understand

What breaks me the most is trying to prepare you, my Black biracial son, for the world you’re stepping into. I panic because I am not Black, and I am not your father, and sometimes I feel so ill-equipped. Thoughts rush in like a hot flood: What do I do? How do I guide him? At school, one Black friend tells you your skin is “too light,” while a white friend insists your light skin is “the best.” My insides burn hearing that.

“You are the best,” I tell you without even thinking. But inside I’m screaming, What are we doing to our kids? You’re four. Why are we already here? You’re stuck in the middle but deeply and beautifully both—and that is your right. I tell you that different parents teach their kids different things, but every skin color is beautiful, and that I think yours is magical. Your heart is pure. That’s what I want you to know.

Then the questions come faster, bigger, heavier. Suddenly I’m explaining slavery. I don’t want to scare you away from people, but I also won’t pretend nothing happened. It’s just us. You need awareness. I’m crying as I explain in the most straightforward way I can what happened and what the Underground Railroad was. “Mommy, how come the pink people were bad to the brown people? How come some pink people helped? Will I have to do that?” you ask. “Over my dead body,” I say. “Never.”

A Family You Deserve, But Rarely See

Three whole phone calls from your father this year. It’s November now, and you’re five. Nana and Papa never call. TT visits when we meet halfway—she’s been incredible—but it’s far, and that’s the only real connection you have to your dad’s side. Paw Paw, your father’s dad, died so young. COVID took him. You would’ve loved him. He would’ve adored you: your sense of humor, your little jokes, the way you light up a room.

Nana Patti never misses your birthday or Christmas; she checks in on us often. Great-Grandma Doletta and Great-Grandpa Jeremiah passed when you were a baby. I show you photos of them holding you, and I can’t stop thinking about the love you would have felt from them.

The Woman Who Saw Me

Grandma Doletta kept beautiful brown-skinned figurines all over her home. One day, I noticed a single blonde figurine with long hair—an exact replica of me—among all the others. “Is that supposed to be me?” I asked your dad. “I don’t know, ask her,” he said.

When I did, she just smiled that sweet, sassy, knowing smile and said, “You see anybody else here like that?” Tears poured down my face. I was always welcomed in their world in a way the world itself still struggles to do. Why can’t society be the same? Why are we still here?

Grief, Love, + a Five-Year-Old’s Wisdom

We talk about them, and your face lights up even though you never knew them. “Mama, why are you crying?” you ask. “I miss them,” I say. And you tell me, “Well at least they are in our hearts forever. They are in mine and I love them.” The wisdom you carry at five terrifies me. I’m afraid the world doesn’t deserve a child like you. They aren’t ready for you.

The Panic That Lives in the Background

Then I panic again. We have no one close by. You need your Black culture, your roots, your family. I cannot replicate that. We read books about your hair, your eyes, your ancestors, your royalty. But here, in real life, you will sometimes be seen as the enemy. And these books, while important, piss me off. The fact that a child needs a book to remind them of their worth because the world will try to take it from them? It hurts. You won’t understand it. I don’t understand it.

I carry fear with me everywhere. What school do I put you in? Are there Black students? Black teachers? Is it diverse? Is it safe? How do they discipline? How do they speak to you? Right now, at five, you are harmless. But one day, you will grow into a strong, tall, handsome Black man. And because of that, people will misjudge you. They will mess with you. It’s inevitable. The thought destroys me. I don’t even want you to date—just the idea of you getting hurt in any way twists my stomach.

The Page That Stopped Me

A few days later, I walk into your school, and they hand me a book of your art. I flip to a page where the prompt asks the kids to draw their favorite thing about themselves. You outlined a brown face, brown eyes, and your curls. You know exactly who you are. You are proud. And in that moment, I knew: despite all of my fear, all of my worry, all of the things I can’t fix or give or replace—you know your worth.

And even on the days I feel unprepared, I know this: I will raise my biracial son with truth, pride, and unwavering love, because he deserves a world that sees the magic I see in him every day.

Raising kids can leave us questioning so much. Karissa reflects on what it means to raise a strong, independent daughter.

2026 Detroit Mom-Approved Mother’s Day Gift Guide

By
Whitney Cornelli
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It’s one of our favorite times of the year–when we get to celebrate moms! Here at Detroit Mom, we love showing appreciation and gratitude for every type of mom in the world. We want to make things easier for you, so we made it super simple to shop using our Detroit Mom-Approved Mother’s Day Gift Guide!

All of the businesses listed here are some of our favorite places to get fun, unique, and practical gifts for mom this year. There might even be something you’d like to add to your own personal Mother’s Day wish list!

Plush Laser is a boutique laser experience led by medical professionals, offering a forever solution to unwanted hair–no more razors, waxing, or shaving! It’s the perfect Mother’s Day treat to give moms the confidence boost they deserve and the time back in their day by taking one thing off their plate for good.

Imagine waking up smooth, glowing, and always ready to go. Located in Birmingham, Plush delivers results moms can count on and an elevated experience they’ll truly enjoy!

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Give the gift of time together this Mothers’ Day! There’s nothing quite like discovering a love of the outdoors together at Camp Newaygo’s Mom, Grandma, Auntie, and Me Weekends. Relax and unwind in nature with your kids and enjoy intentional time together! With kid-friendly meals, comfortable lodging, and all activities led by enthusiastic staff, the whole weekend is planned for you–just pack the car and head to Camp!

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This Mother’s Day, treat yourself to a nurturing experience at Fourth Tri Sanctuary, the nation’s only mom-and-baby spa. Designed specifically for new and expecting mothers, their sanctuary offers a range of services including acupuncture, massage, and reflexology, all tailored to support your postpartum journey. Their tranquil environment provides private nap rooms, nourishing meals, and opportunities to connect with other mothers, ensuring you feel supported and rejuvenated.

Whether you’re seeking relaxation, community, or expert guidance, Fourth Tri Sanctuary is here to help you thrive during this transformative time. Explore their exclusive Mother’s Day specials on their website and discover the perfect way to celebrate you!

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Who doesn’t love a gorgeous arrangement of fresh flowers? Sage Green offers the most incredible bouquets that are lovingly put together and sure to brighten up whichever room they’re displayed in.

Looking for flowers more often? Join their Bouquet Club and receive a seasonal bouquet weekly, bi-weekly, or monthly. The gift that keeps on giving!

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Modern Supply, located at 12 Mile and Woodward in Royal Oak, offers a beautifully curated selection of home goods and self-care items perfect for celebrating the mother figures in your life. From handmade ceramic mugs to moisturizing milk baths, all-natural botanical perfume oils, flower bouquets, and their special Tea Bento Box Gift Set, they’ve thoughtfully selected gifts to make her feel cherished. They also offer complimentary gift wrapping to make your shopping experience easy and stress-free. Stop in to find something meaningful and memorable this Mother’s Day!
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Oh, and check out some of these other incredible ideas for a Mother’s Day gift!

 

  • Adorn Permanent Jewelry: get that jewelry you’ve been dreaming about!
  • Blackbird by Dear Prudence: shop in store for a unique collection of gifts
  • ATG Detroit: grab tickets to an upcoming show for an unforgettable night out
  • The Blonde Mom: closet services, personal styling, a mini session, and more options–you can’t go wrong here
  • Citizen Yoga: choose the yoga package that feels best for YOU!
  • City Bird Detroit: jewelry, sweet treats, + more that you’ll love
  • Ferne Boutique: grab a cute outfit for your next day date or night out or . . . just because you deserve it!
  • The Jones Photo Co.: book a session that truly tells + captures your family’s story
  • The Lip Bar: grab a lipstick in your favorite shade!
  • The Little Design Co.: the most gorgeous hand-crafted leather + ceramic goods that you’ll cherish for years to come
  • Love & Other Books: grab a giftcard for a new book you’ve had your eye on!
  • Mend on the Move: the most beautiful, unique, empowering pieces of jewelry
  • Thyme & Honey: grab a gift certificate to use towards a future purchase
  • Urbanum: home decor for the mom who knows a thing or two about style

We hope you love these businesses as much as we do! They are truly some of the best gems in Detroit. You’re sure to find something special for every mom on your list and she will feel so loved receiving your gift!

Happy Mother’s Day!

If Moms Were Honest About Their Mental Health

By
Faten
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On World Maternal Mental Health Day, it’s important to move beyond surface-level conversations and take a closer look at what maternal mental health really looks like. Moms carry an immense amount of societal pressure that often leads to stress, anxiety, depression, burnout, and an overwhelming mental load. There is this unspoken expectation to do it all (and do it perfectly); so much so that society has romanticized the woman who “handles it all.” And quite frankly, it is exhausting.

Moms need more than just one day to honor their mental health. After all, moms are the foundation of their families. From the moment she becomes pregnant, her body changes in ways that are both visible and invisible. She then gives birth, which is often compared to the physical trauma of breaking multiple bones at once. Then, she enters a phase of deep sleep deprivation, recovering physically while simultaneously caring for a newborn who depends on her for everything.

It’s no surprise that many women experience postpartum depression and anxiety. In fact, about 1 in 5 women experience postpartum depression (and there are other perinatal mood or anxiety disorders as well). This is often due to a combination of hormonal shifts, physical recovery, sleep deprivation, identity changes, and the overwhelming responsibility of caring for a new life. Moreover, this is often without the level of support that moms truly need. 

Being a mom is more than just a title—it is a complete adjustment to your entire way of life. It is a responsibility we carry not just physically, but deeply within our hearts and minds. Moms hold everything together. They carry the invisible load. And when they drop something, it feels like everything around them falls apart. And yet, despite all of this, society still expects moms to keep going—to show up, to manage it all, and to do it with a smile.

But if moms were honest about their mental health, the conversation would sound very different.

If Moms Were Honest About Their Mental Health: 5 Things We Would Say

1.“I didn’t forget myself. I just don’t recognize who I am anymore.”

She may look like she’s stopped taking care of herself. But the truth is, her identity has shifted in ways she’s still trying to understand.

Her body has changed. Her priorities have changed. And her sense of self has been reshaped by motherhood. Somewhere in the middle of caring for everyone else, she’s trying to find her way back to herself.

2. “I’m not angry. I’m carrying too much.”

She may look irritated or short-tempered on the outside. But what you don’t see is the constant mental checklist running in her mind. The scheduling, the anticipating, the emotional labor of holding everything together.

When there’s no space to put that weight down, it doesn’t disappear. It shows up as frustration.

3. “I’m not yelling. I’m overwhelmed.”

What looks like yelling is often a nervous system that has reached its limit. She’s overstimulated. Constantly needed. Rarely given the space to reset.

Without time to regulate, the pressure builds until it spills over in moments she later wishes she could take back.

4. “I’m not resentful. I just can’t catch a break.”

She may seem distant or disconnected. But the truth is, she hasn’t had a real break in a long time. Not one where she can fully exhale without thinking about what comes next.

Many moms struggle to ask for help—or feel like they can’t. So instead, they keep going, even when they’re running on empty.

5. “I’m not controlling. I feel out of control.”

She may try to manage every detail, every routine, every outcome. But underneath that is a deeper fear: that if she lets go, everything will fall apart.

When moms don’t feel supported or able to rely on others, control becomes a form of protection.

What Burnout in Moms Really Looks Like

Maternal mental health struggles don’t always look obvious. Unlike physical health, where symptoms can be seen, mental and emotional exhaustion often go unnoticed–especially in moms who continue to show up and function.

Burnout doesn’t always look like falling apart. Sometimes it looks like:

  • Constant exhaustion, even after rest
  • Irritability and snapping over small things
  • Feeling overwhelmed by everyday responsibilities
  • Mental fog and difficulty concentrating
  • Losing joy in things that once felt easy
  • Feeling like you’re always “on,” with no real break

Many moms experiencing burnout still appear like they have everything under control. But the effort it takes to maintain that image can be quietly depleting them from the inside.

Check On Your Mom Friends

Moms hold everything together but they also need a support system that checks in on them. We show up, push through, and carry what no one else sees. But honesty around maternal mental health has to move beyond just awareness. It has to be met with real support, real care, and systems that actually show up for moms. 

That support looks like partners who share the mental load, not just the tasks. It looks like friends and family who check in—and mean it—and ask, “How are you really?” and create space for honest answers. It is support systems that show up without being asked, offer help without judgment, and build community so moms don’t have to do it all alone.

True support does more than acknowledge moms, it makes them feel seen. And real community doesn’t just hear moms, it creates space for healing to begin.

If you’re looking for maternal mental health support, you’re not alone. Check out our list of local therapists in + around Detroit.

The Beauty of Raising an Only Child (Even When I Wanted More)

By
Nia
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I always imagined a house full of laughter, siblings bickering over the last cookie, whispered secrets after bedtime, and holiday mornings buzzing with noise and excitement. But life doesn’t always unfold the way we expect.

Today, I’m learning to fully embrace and cherish the beautiful reality I do have: being a mom to one incredible child.

When Life Doesn’t Follow the Plan

Like many moms, I envisioned having more than one child. I pictured a busy kitchen table, shared childhood memories, and a home filled with the energy of multiple kids. However, there was a season when my husband and I were simply out of sync.

He was traveling often, and I was balancing my new normal (stay-at-home) mom life with my career ambitions (which I struggled to see the value in) and leaning into my soft season of the new important job/career path right in front of me: motherhood.

We reassured ourselves that there was still time, that “maybe next year” would come, but those years passed quietly. Before I knew it, the window began to close faster than expected. Now at 48, I still hold a small flicker of hope for a “buzzer-beater” baby; however, I’m also learning to accept where I am in this season of life.

Letting Go, While Holding Gratitude

Coming to terms with having one child has brought a mix of emotions. There’s a unique kind of ache in releasing a vision you once held so closely. Not because your life isn’t full, but because it’s different than you imagined.

There are moments when I still feel that tug seeing a stroller pass by or hearing about a friend’s growing family. But instead of letting that feeling turn into sadness, I try to let it ground me in gratitude. It’s not easy but I definitely try and practice being intentional in the moment, because what I do have is extraordinary.

The Beauty of Raising One Child

My daughter is my world; she is smart, funny, kind, and full of personality. She surprises me daily with her humor and fills me with pride through her compassion. We’ve created our own rhythms and traditions:

  • Cozy skincare nights that feel like a mini spa at home
  • Laughing together over TikTok and Instagram trends
  • Shopping for her soon-to-come 8th grade graduation and “hoco” dresses with her friends
  • Honest, heart-to-heart conversations about school, friendships, and growing up

There’s a closeness we share that feels deeply special. I often wonder if that bond would look different if I were dividing my attention between multiple children.

The Unique Journey of an “Only Mom”

Being an “only mom” comes with its own emotional landscape. There’s joy, but there’s also a heightened sense of responsibility. I’ll admit I can be a bit “helicopter-y” at times, worrying about the small things or wondering what her future will look like without siblings.

But when I step back I see the full picture. She’s confident, socially connected, and surrounded by loving friends, cousins, and community. She isn’t missing out, she’s thriving!

The Gift of Presence + Flexibility

Having one child has allowed for a different kind of motherhood: one rooted in presence and flexibility.

We can travel more easily and take spontaneous day trips. We can spend meaningful one-on-one time together and be fully present in each other’s lives. I get to truly know her: her dreams, her fears, her evolving sense of self. And in turn, she gets a deeply present version of me now as I have fully leaned into my motherhood role.

Redefining Fulfillment in Motherhood

Motherhood has taught me that fulfillment doesn’t always come from the life you imagined. It often comes from appreciating the life you are currently living in “the now.” I still have moments of “what if.” I think most parents do, in one way or another. But I’m learning that two truths can exist at once: I can feel grateful and still a little wistful, and I can love my life and acknowledge a dream that didn’t unfold.

These days, I focus on what truly matters, which is creating memories with the family I have. We fill our time with cooking new recipes together, movie nights and long conversations, and volunteering and giving back. We hang out with cousins, building strong bonds and connections with the family around us. Simple, everyday moments become lasting memories.

This season of life is precious, and I’m learning to be fully present in it.

A Gentle Reminder for Moms

If there’s one thing I’ve learned, it’s this: love doesn’t need to multiply to be enough. Sometimes, it simply deepens. No matter what your family looks like–whether you have one child, many, or are still navigating your path–your motherhood journey is valid, meaningful, and whole.

Maybe having more children wasn’t in the cards for me. But what I was given is something truly beautiful: a daughter who fills my life with laughter, light, and love. And for that, I am endlessly grateful.

Navigating the world of siblings? China shares tips for working your way though sibling squabbles.

The IEP Journey | What to Expect + How to Prepare

By
Detroit Mom
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Imagine you’re planning a vacation to Italy. You do a ton of research, learn a few phrases so you can get around, pack up, and jump on a plane. But when you land, the stewardess says, “Welcome to Holland!” You’d probably be in shock. Holland? What are they talking about? I signed up for Italy! 

Holland is fantastic, but it’s just not what you anticipated. Having a child with autism and other challenges can feel the same way. It’s suddenly essential to learn a whole new language and attempt to understand customs you’re not familiar with.

This is especially true regarding the special education system and Individualized Education Program (IEP) support. Navigating the process will be challenging, but the more fluent you become, the better you will be able to advocate for your child now and in the years to come. 

The good news is that you’re not alone–and there is plenty of help available. The team at Kaufman Children’s Center for Speech, Language, Sensory-Motor, and Autism Treatment in West Bloomfield has extensive experience in this area and can help you navigate from confusion to confidence. Here are some of their best insights and tips:

What is an IEP?

An IEP is a legally binding, personalized plan for kids in public schools who need extra support. It outlines:

  • services, accommodations, and specialized instruction the school will give your child to help them succeed,
  • goals and objectives that will be worked on during the school year, and
  • educational settings based on your child’s individual strengths and needs.

There are two parts to an IEP: a meeting held at least annually between you and the school team to develop, review, or revise your child’s special education plan; and a formal document that details the decisions made in the meeting.

The Individuals with Disability Education Act (IDEA) is the federal law that mandates IEPs. IDEA forms the foundation of your child’s rights, so it’s very important to understand it. It’s also important to know about our local and state policies regarding special education. Below, you’ll find links for both:

How do I start the IEP process?

School enrollment forms typically include a place to indicate if your child may need an IEP.  If your child is already enrolled and you think they may need extra support, reach out to the school for guidance. Contact should be made in the late winter or early spring preceding a new school year to ensure plenty of time for scheduling, gathering data, and observations. The IEP process can take longer than you think.

What should I expect at the meeting?

IEP meetings typically take place at school during the day but may be arranged before or after to meet the parents’ needs. Attendees include the parent(s), general education teacher, special education teacher, evaluating personnel, school administrator, and a translator if needed. Meetings may also include anyone with special knowledge about your child, such as outside treatment providers (ABA team, speech-language pathologists, occupational therapists) and caregivers.

IEP meetings usually include:

  • an introduction of attendees,
  • a review of the child’s strengths and needs,
  • the development of measurable goals tailored to the child’s needs,
  • a discussion of specific services (speech therapy, special education instruction, etc.), along with frequency and location, and
  • a finalization of the plan.

What should I do to prepare?

Your most important role in the IEP meeting is to speak on your child’s behalf. This information drives many of the IEP decisions including goals, programs, services, and supplemental aids. You are the expert on your child, and should be prepared to briefly and succinctly share the following:

  • Your child’s unique gifts and strengths. These can be used to support learning across a wide range of skills and ensure learning is tied to individual interests and motivations whenever possible.
  • The skills they need to learn that they’re not yet able to do.
  • Your concerns about their academic, social, and behavioral needs.
  • Your concerns about their progress, program/placement (classroom), or services (speech, occupational therapy, physical therapy, social work).

The team at Kaufman Children’s Center suggests generating a statement that includes this information and emailing it to the facilitator before the meeting so they can include it in the IEP document.

How can I have input on my child’s IEP goals?

Consider exactly what your child is struggling with, when it happens, and what you’d like to see improve. The more detailed you can be, the easier it will be for the team to create a meaningful, measurable goal that truly addresses your concern.

For example: if your child benefits by being in the presence of other children and is also good at drawing, a possible IEP goal would be that they participate in art class twice a week with general education peers. If you would like them to be more independent in the classroom, a possible goal could be that they transition between activities with verbal prompts at least 80% of the time.

Keep in mind that although school personnel will come to the meeting with some proposed goals, you should understand them and agree before they are finalized. Request a draft of the proposed goals several days before the meeting so you’re not going in blind.

Any other insider tips?

  • Request unfamiliar terminology to be restated in simpler terms.
  • Don’t be afraid to ask questions and be sure to take notes.
  • Speak up if you disagree with the school’s recommendations.
  • If the meeting starts to go long, request to continue it on another day so it doesn’t feel rushed and everyone can give it their full attention.
  • Remember that although labels can be scary, they allow your child to receive additional services and won’t limit their potential.

Keep in mind that school personnel may view your child from a different perspective. Advocate for the child you know best, and remember that you are the most important member of the IEP team.

The team at Kaufman Children’s Center is here to support you, however that looks. Their website is a wealth of knowledge, especially their Family Resources page!

The Sports That Fit *Real* Family Life

By
Whitney Cornelli
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When it comes to the family calendar, we know how stressful it can be when you need to add “just one more thing.” You can’t plan for the tournament weekend until the qualifying games are played; you can’t schedule the one-on-one private lessons until you know when the piano recital will be. With kids’ sports and activities, there can be so much to figure out. And honestly, it’s enough to make you question why you even signed your kids up in the first place.

Real family life usually entails a lot of driving around, planning for practices, scheduling games, coordinating car pools, serving snacks at halftime, fitting in homework, and so much more. Moms are busier now than they’ve ever been before. And while we might sometimes loathe it, we also love it–the duality needs to be recognized here. But it begs the question: is this really how sports are supposed to go?

Whether they’re playing recreationally, competitively, or somewhere in between, it’s a lot. But as it turns out, there’s a solution to all of this. An organization that actually fits seamlessly into your calendar, is inclusive of all skill levels, affords flexibility you won’t find anywhere else, and keeps parents coming back year after year.

NFL Flag prides itself on making it possible for every child to play if they want, and making it as easy on busy parents as possible. Below, we’re sharing the top reasons parents return to NFL Flag, season after season–and why you’ll fall in love with it just as much!

Practices + games occur on the same day.

“We love the ease of the schedule, [with] practices and games being held back to back on the same day (Sundays) each week.” -Katie, a local Detroit Mom

Real family life is busy and doesn’t always leave room to easily fit things in. NFL Flag takes one thing off your plate here with a practice and game on the same day. One of the best things about playing flag football (and soon, street hockey!) with NFL Flag is first and foremost how easy it is to fit the practice and game schedule into a busy family calendar. NFL Flag schedules the practice and game for the same day, and it’s the same day of the week for the entire season.

Flag football takes place on a Sunday, and honestly, it’s a really great way to wrap up your weekend. You’ll come for practice, stay for the game, and then . . . head home (or out for a celebratory meal!). It’s refreshing to be able to make one trip to cover the practice and the game. It’s less time spent in the car, more time spent on the field, and an opportunity to immediately put into place the skills reviewed at practice right before the game!

The focus is on developing skills, not feeling pressured to compete.

“My son has played one season. He loved it and we loved how the league’s non-competitive aspect provided more opportunity to learn the intricacies of the game.” -Erin, an NFL Flag parent

Real family life can feel overwhelming for kids trying to find where they fit in (in so many aspects). NFL Flag lowers the pressure so that kids play confidently, even if they’re brand new to the game. We all remember how scary it was to try something new when we were kids. But knowing that there is zero pressure to compete helps kids remember that sports should be fun–and they can be.

Parents are often left questioning if their kids should try out for travel teams or if they’re already too late to even get a start on that. NFL Flag puts the players first, taking it back to playing for fun, strengthening friendships, and learning a game they may one day grow to love. Don’t get us wrong, there’s nothing wrong with playing sports competitively. But not every kid wants to compete, and it’s important to recognize that and find an organization that is going to support playing for fun.

Kids become well-rounded athletes who don’t feel overscheduled.

“Love that it’s on a Sunday. The boys are in two other sports… during the week and [on] Saturday. So having practices and games on Sunday is great!” -Jessica, a local Detroit Mom

Real family life involves balancing multiple activities within one calendar. NFL Flag adds in some much-needed flexibility. Participating in their program allows kids the opportunity to play other sports as well. Like we mentioned above, the practice and game take place on the same day per week. The once-a-week commitment is easier to add to their schedule than having multiple practices followed by a game on a different day.

This opens up the rest of the week for other sports and activities while still allowing kids to learn sportsmanship, responsibility, and how to be a team player. It’s an easy way for kids to try something new and get a feel for it while still exploring other passions and interests!

Registration Information for NFL Flag + NHL Street

NFL FLAG

  • Registration is open from April 13-May 24, 2026
  • Season dates: June 17-July 29, 2026
  • Ages: girls and boys ages 4-14 and grades pre-k through 8th grade
  • Select locations: Beverly Hills, Brighton, Clarkston, Macomb, and Walled Lake/Huron Valley

NHL STREET

  • Registration is open from April 24-June 7, 2026
  • Season dates: the week of June 15-the week of July 27
    • will be once a week during the weekday, either Tuesday or Thursday
  • Ages: girls and boys ages 5-13 
  • Location: Rochester

Real family life can be unpredictable. Things pop up, events are moved, games are rescheduled, extra practices are added on. NFL Flag is constant, and parents appreciate that. Season after season, parents return to the flag football field because they know exactly what they’ll be getting: a one-day-a-week commitment, confidence instead of competition, and the opportunity to watch their kids explore their favorite interests.

Ready to get signed up? Head to the NFL Flag website and use code 108161 for $20 off!

2026 Detroit Mom-Approved Summer Camp Guide

By
Whitney Cornelli
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*last updated 4/22/2026

After being stuck inside all winter, we couldn’t be more excited that spring is here! And with warmer weather and the anticipation of our children’s last day of school comes summer vacation. Have you had a moment to sit down and solidify your summer plans to keep the kids busy yet? We know it can feel, well, a little overwhelming thinking about *all* of the amazing summer camps in + around Detroit.

But don’t worry–we’ve got you covered! With sunshine and warmer weather quickly approaching, we couldn’t be more excited to launch our annual Detroit Mom-Approved (and personally recommended!) Guide to Summer Camps in + around Detroit!

We’re moms that understand the importance of summer camp to many families in + around Detroit. Detroit Mom’s goal is to make your life a little easier by sharing a list of summer camps that are sure to meet your family’s needs. There are so many incredible and enriching programs just waiting for your child this summer!

You can browse our guide to summer camps in + around Detroit with the peace of mind that comes with knowing that each and every camp in our guide is one that has been intentionally included and personally recommended by a local mom in the area. We’ve also organized the guide into categories base on which type of camp you’re looking for.

But don’t just take our word for it–check out the testimonials local moms sent us to let everyone know why they love the camp so much. Read more below for our 2026 Detroit Mom-Approved Guide to Summer Camps in + around Detroit! And happy planning for summer!

CAMP NEWAYGO

For 100 years, families have discovered adventure, friendship, and confidence at Camp Newaygo. From Girls’ Overnight Camp to Co-Ed Day Camp, plus Mom & Me Weekends and Family Camp, there are so many ways to experience this special place.

Discover the joys of camping together and leave the planning to Camp Newaygo! Sing, canoe, fish, hike, create, and recharge on special family weekends.

Girls’ Overnight Camp is intentionally small, enabling everyone to make their own choices, explore their emerging passions, and build community. Campers select their own classes, enjoy meals and free time together, and explore the outdoors on weekly campouts.

There are even Friends’ Getaways for adults to relive the fun of summer camp but at a more relaxed, retreat-like pace.

Accredited by the American Camp Association (ACA) and sitting on 102 acres along a chain of four lakes, Camp Newaygo is the perfect place to discover a love of the outdoors together.

Check us out for Day Camp, Overnight Camp, Mom + Me Weekends, Family Camp, and Friends’ Getaways for adults!

“I loved Camp Newaygo because it was akin to a sisterhood type of community. The focus was not on being in competition with each other, but working as a group to accomplish tasks. I also really liked the no technology aspect of camp. The counselors and staff also abide by the policy so it fosters sincere engagement by everyone.” -Molly, a local Detroit Mom

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Check out these additional summer camps in + around Detroit, too. They’re some of our community’s favorites!

FOR KIDS WITH SPECIAL NEEDS

Camp A.B.L.E. | Canton

Camp Quality | Boyne City
“Camp Quality is a camp for children with cancer and they also host events for siblings. It’s at no cost for the family. There is a lower and upper Michigan camp each summer as well as a teen camp. I volunteered for this camp and it’s the reason I became a pediatric nurse!” -Megan, a local Detroit Mom

Friendship Circle | West Bloomfield

JCC Day Camp | West Bloomfield Township
“Programs for all ages, even teens and has professional staff including a social worker and educators on site daily. They also have a very comprehensive support program for campers with disabilities from kindergarten through adulthood!” -Franki, a local Detroit Mom

FOR KIDS WHO LOVE TO BE CREATIVE

A Pop of Indie: Picture Book Publishing for Kids | Birmingham; 2 options

A Pop of Indie: Picture Book Publishing | St. Clair Shores

Abrakadoodle | Canton

Bishop Foley | Madison Heights

Cranbrook Summer Camps | Bloomfield Hills

Mini Picassos | St. Clair Shores

Oakland University Summer Camps + Workshops | Rochester

Robot Garage Summer Camps | Birmingham

School of Rock | Ann Arbor, Canton, Farmington, + Rochester Hills

Schoolcraft Kids on Campus | Livonia

Sloan – Longway | Flint

Stepping Stone Summer Camps | Plymouth

FOR KIDS WHO LOVE THE OUTDOORS

Argo River Camps/Gallup Park Canoe Livery | Ann Arbor

Buhr Park Day Camp | Ann Arbor

Camp Copneconic | Fenton

Crystalaire Adventures | Traverse City

Detroit Zoo | Royal Oak

Howell Nature Center | Howell
“They have day and overnight camps. Different themes each week, and tons of games and activities. They play in the lake, explore the woods, and do outdoorsy activities like archery and ziplining!” -Theresa, a local Detroit Mom

Southeast Michigan Forest School

Summer Playground | Sterling Heights

Tollgate Summer Farm Camp | Novi

Upland Hills Farm | Oxford

WB Parks | West Bloomfield
“A well-supervised day camp with a variety of activities for kids ages 6-11. Includes a weekly field trip and a weekly waterpark/splash pad trip!” -Kristen, a local Detroit Mom

FOR KIDS WHO LOVE BEING ACTIVE

Bishop Foley Athletic Camps | Madison Heights

Boll Family YMCA | Detroit
“The kids get to rock climb and swim two days a week (each sport) as well as Friday field trips. Convenience in the heart of the city!” -Karissa, a local Detroit Mom

Born Yoga Studios | Birmingham

Camp Mirage | Farmington Hills
“What I think is cool is that they have flexible before and after care, you pay by the quarter hour so only pay for what you need. Plus, if you’ve gone to camp there even just once over the summer, you can use the aftercare program any time throughout the rest of the summer!” -Amanda, a local Detroit Mom

Extreme Gym | St. Clair Shores + Warren
“Hosts three- or five-day per week camps. The campers will do a variety of activities and open gym time in their brand new facility in St. Clair Shores!” -Lauren, a local Detroit Mom

Franklin Athletic Club | Southfield

GTC Gymnastics | Rochester Hills
“My girls are OBSESSED with all things gymnastics and jumped for joy when I told them GTC had summer camp options. The coaches are incredible and truly care about your child and their progress and safety! My kids are counting down the days until camp starts!” -Whitney, a local Detroit Mom

Joique Bell Summer Program | Detroit
*registration deadline is May 4th

Legacy Center Sports Complex | Brighton

Life Time – Kids Summer Camp | Various Locations
“I love that they include SO much for the price! Swim lessons, pickelball lessons, my kids get to go on field trips (Henry Ford, waterparks, Riverboat tour), and I can register ahead of time or the week before. Plus, the schedule is flexible to just enroll for half the day, but we go full days.” -Whitney, a local Detroit Mom

Livonia Parks & Rec | Livonia

Notre Dame Prep School | Pontiac

Oakland Yard Athletics | Waterford

Planet Rock | Ann Arbor + Madison Heights

Shredder Ski School | Livonia

TOCA Soccer | Farmington

Topgolf Summer Academy | Auburn Hills
“The camp is only a few hours in the morning and ended with a provided lunch which they loved. They liked that it wasn’t all day, they wanted to be able to still get together with friends, go to the beach, etc. and not be at a camp all day. The kids are put into small groups and golf with that group each day, so they get to know each other quickly and walk away with new friends!” -Shereena, a local Detroit Mom

Kids + Big Questions: Homelessness in Detroit

By
jennifer stallings dewey
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One of the many things I found myself unprepared for as a parent was the questions. The varied, numerous, seemingly never-ending questions. “Can I have a treat?” “How does the microwave work?” “Where did great-grandma go when she died?” “Can I have another treat?” “Is great-grandma coming back?”

Some of the questions are what we call small questions and easier to answer: “Yes, you can have a treat . . . no, you cannot have another treat.” But others, like where people go when they die, are what we call big questions.

Small Kids With Big Questions

On one chilly winter morning during our ride to school, my then six-year-old son’s voice squeaked from the back seat. “Why is that man sleeping outside?” I glanced at him in the rear-view mirror to see his tiny face pressed against the window, fogging up the glass. His brow furrowed, and his hazel eyes looked worried.

Whether he knew it or not, my son was asking a big question that couldn’t be answered with a simple “Yes” or “No.” A big question requires conversation, careful thought, and sometimes, even adults don’t know the answer. But in our house, we don’t shy away from big questions. I told him this was a big question, and promised to answer it when he got home.

After school, before we even arrived home, he again asked about the man on the street. I can always count on the kids to remember when I owe them an answer. Many big questions are difficult for me to answer. And while I’m not an expert on homelessness, I have sat on the board of the Pope Francis Center for the past six years and gained some perspective on the subject.

The Pope Francis Center

The Pope Francis Center is a nonprofit based in Detroit. It provides services and resources, including temporary housing, to those in Detroit experiencing homelessness. Most importantly, the organization’s mission is ending chronic homelessness.

Like other big cities, Detroit has a significant population experiencing homelessness. But one of the many reasons why my family chooses to live in the city, rather than one of the surrounding suburbs, is because of the socioeconomic diversity. This includes those among us that face homelessness and that means I am faced with answering big questions about it.

When explaining homelessness to a then four- and six-year-old, I wanted to make sure two points were abundantly clear:

  • First, people that happen to find themselves without a home for whatever reason are no different than us, and are deserving of kindness and respect.
  • Second, although life is unfair and unpredictable, my children will ALWAYS have a safe place in my home.

The Policy Perspective

If I were trying to explain why people experience homelessness to adults, chatting with friends at a dinner party, asking for funding at a presentation, or writing an article . . . I might start with the statistics. I might explain that in Detroit there are around 2,000 people experiencing homelessness, although it’s difficult to get an accurate count. With policies like COVID-era HUD relief ending, these numbers are likely to increase.

From a policy perspective, homelessness in Detroit can be boiled down to a lack of affordable housing mixed with an unsteady job market. Housing costs have raised while wages have stayed the same–and with slow growth in the job market and more layoffs. But my kids don’t care about policy. My son wasn’t asking about the group, he was asking about an individual.

The Personal Perspective

My son wanted to know why the man on the corner near our house was sleeping outside. And the truth is that it’s impossible to know, without asking him, what series of circumstances led to that man sleeping on that corner. There are many different reasons why someone might end up without a place to sleep. He may have had a problem with addiction or lost a job. It’s possible a relationship ended that also meant the end of his housing situation.

Homelessness might be related to issues with mental health or a criminal record that makes it difficult to secure housing. Someone may decide that a situation is so hard, dangerous, or miserable that leaving–even without anywhere to go–seems like their best option.

People experiencing homelessness are not a monolithic population. They may have arrived in that situation by a variety of different avenues. If you set aside the policy issues I mentioned above, a large portion of what causes homelessness is essentially chance. Factors including race, familial financial situation, and mental health status can set a foundation that impact the likelihood they experience homelessness. This is all broadly determined by chance (God, the cosmos, or whatever third party you believe in).

An Opportunity to Give Back

In the same vein, I share with my kids that much of our good fortune is also a gift of chance. Sure, their father and I work hard but at the end of the day, much of life is determined by luck. I’m humble enough to accept that. And I’m grateful to be in a position that I can share any excess.

If chance has similarly been generous with you, you may also feel inclined to give back. Consider donating whatever time, money or talent you have to offer. Some local organizations supporting populations experiencing homelessness, in addition to Pope Francis Center, include: COTS Detroit, Covenant House Michigan, and Detroit Rescue Mission Ministries.

It’s incredibly important to support the community we live in. Laura shares our Local Resource Guide which includes organizations and resources supporting those in + around Detroit.

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