Oral + Injectable Fertility Medications: the What + the Why

September 22, 2024

DISCLAIMER: The following post is not intended to act as medical advice. As always, please consult your doctor with any questions about fertility.

Clomid, letrozole, trigger shots. Are you familiar with these terms? If you’re well into your fertility journey, you probably know exactly what they are. But if you’re new to a fertility journey, you may not know the difference between them or why one would be used over another. They can be an incredibly important part of your fertility journey, and each has its own purpose. It is helpful and important to understand what they are and why they’re used, depending on each person’s situation.

Our friends from Michigan Center for Fertility and Women’s Health are here to support you on your fertility journey. You might have caught their Fertility Friday series over on our IG page–quick videos to answer common questions and provide information. Below, they’re sharing information about the types of medications you may take during your fertility journey, including oral and injectable medications.

Oral Medications

There are typically two common oral medications that are used as part of our fertility treatment that may be used to help induce ovulation. Those two medications are clomid and letrozole (clomid you may also hear called clomiphene citrate, and letrozole is also known as femara). They’re usually relatively cost-effective options. They can be used in multiple situations for patients who may not be ovulating or who may not be ovulating in a predictable manner to try to help induce ovulation.

We also use them for patients who have regular ovulation but may still benefit from the medication to allow us to have better accuracy with timing. How we determine which oral medication and dose is best for you usually comes from our workup and your history. Some patients might be better suited for one versus the other.

Side Effects of Oral Fertility Medications

Clomid does tend to, at times, have a few more side effects than letrozole. You may see a slightly higher incidence of mood swings, hot flashes, and possibly a thin uterine lining. Clomid is an “antiestrogen” which is why it is possible to experience these side effects a bit more. However, each individual experience varies and generally both medications are very well tolerated. There are some less common side effects that we discuss with patients prior to starting medications, and we advise them to let us know if they are experiencing any.

Letrozole tends to have a few less side effects, and it has a shorter half-life. It’s an aromatase inhibitor, which has to do with what happens on a pituitary level to allow the hormones to be altered and induce ovulation.

Both clomid and letrozole are great options and are used commonly in practice. You may also see them being used at your OBGYN office. We will help you determine if they are a good option for you. We can help you figure out which one is best and again, what dose and protocol is most suitable.

These oral medications are typically used for our less aggressive treatment options, like timed intercourse or insemination. They may also be used in conjunction with some specific IVF protocols.

Injectable Medications

Injectable medications are the hormones that our body produces–FSH and LH–in injectable form. They are typically subcutaneous injections given in the abdomen. We typically produce enough of those hormones (if ovulation is happening regularly) to produce one dominant mature follicle each month. We use these medications when the goal is to produce more follicles (for example, with IVF) or if the oral medications are not inducing ovulation on their own. They typically are stronger and do produce more of a response. However, this can vary per patient based on their background, history, age, etc.

Generally speaking, the success rate between using the oral medications and injectables is not statistically significantly higher for injectables when combined with timed intercourse or insemination, assuming a patient is responding appropriately to both options.

We do take a cautious approach when using injectables for timed intercourse or insemination. This is due to a potentially higher risk of multiple pregnancy. Our goal is, of course, to get you pregnant. However, the safety of our patient and their pregnancy is also of utmost importance.

Injectable Medications + IVF

Injectable medications are the primary medications used during IVF. IVF allows us to grow more follicles in a safer manner, of course while always keeping hyperstimulation in mind and taking necessary precautions. We typically use these medications at higher doses during IVF to stimulate more follicles to grow in preparation for the egg retrieval.

Once the eggs are retrieved and embryos are created, we can safely elect to transfer 1-2 embryos based on the patient’s history and background. Typically, a single embryo transfer is advised. However, there are some scenarios where more than one may be recommended; this is determined by your health care provider.

Injectable medications can be a useful tool in your fertility journey and treatment plan. It is important that your provider talks to you about when they are needed, when they are going to benefit your success rate, and what some of the safety aspects are as well.

Trigger Shots

Another medication commonly discussed and used during fertility treatment is the “trigger shot.” The trigger shot helps induce an LH surge. This is what triggers our follicles to get them ready to ovulate or release. We use the trigger shot in almost all of our treatment cycles–whether we are doing timed intercourse, insemination, or IVF. The type of “trigger shot” and specific timing of administration is dependent on your treatment plan.

There are many ways to grow your family. Michigan Center for Fertility & Women’s Health shares information about utilizing donor sperm, a donor egg, or a donor embryo.

Raising Kids + Supporting Aging Parents is a Bittersweet Journey

AntonetteSlobodian

September 21, 2024

This year, our mom turned 80, and it was a beautiful milestone! We tried to surprise her, but how do you keep a secret from a mom who’s always asking so many questions? Looking back, she and my dad threw so many birthday parties for my sisters and me—it felt so good to finally give her a gorgeous garden party!

But, it’s hard not to think about how much time we have left with them. We’re at that stage where we’re nurturing our kids to become better humans for the next generation, while also supporting our parents as they age, helping them to stay happy and healthy. It’s sometimes referred to as the sandwich generation.

So, here are seven ways to keep your stress in check while keeping your elderly parents happy and active and maintaining your household full of joyful messes.

1. Ask for help.

When it comes to raising kids and supporting aging parents, don’t hesitate to reach out to your family or close friends when you need it. Having trustworthy people around to lend a hand or give you a break can really alleviate pressure. My parents are both over 80 and still manage on their own, but my sisters and I step in when needed. They might be stubborn about accepting help, but just do it—they’ll appreciate it!

2. Establish routines.

My husband always says a good routine helps keep you consistent and on task! Whether I was a stay-at-home mom, work-from-home mom, or a freelancer, getting into a routine at home has always been a challenge. But making the effort, even when things get tough, keeps both your parents and your kids on track.

For example, since school has started, waking up at the same time every morning and heading to bed at the same time throughout the week helps me stay on track. Having a certain day to plan what your week will look like (meals, lunches, dinners, or events) helps too, as does going grocery shopping the same day of the week. Even getting a workout in on the same days each week will help you feel like you have a good routine!

3. Set boundaries.

It’s crucial to let your family know when it’s YOUR time. Whether it’s a date night with your babe or coffee with the ladies, your time should be a priority on the schedule. We all know as moms, family is our priority, however–if YOU are not feeling like you are calm or in a state of well being, then this will affect the rest of your family. So when raising kids and supporting aging parents, make sure to set some boundaries.

I visit my parents three to four times a week to check in and the last couple of years, I decided I wanted to follow in their footsteps and join our Filipino community group to share our culture and spend more time with them. The boys have their activities, and we all love joining in on the fun! What keeps us organized is our family calendar, where we make sure to carve out a day or weekend that works for everyone. It makes a huge difference!

4. Get the kids involved.

My boys aren’t little anymore, and my oldest can drive now (still adjusting to that!). Getting them involved with helping our parents teaches them responsibility and gives them quality time with their grandparents. Like when my father-in-law needed help picking up his car, my teen stepped in, spending time with him and helping us out big time.

5. Prioritize self-care.

Without YOU, there’s nothing. Keeping up with exercise and a healthy diet will keep you strong and mentally sharp. Dive into that trashy book, take a long bubble bath, or stay out late with the girls—whatever fills your cup with joy, energy, and most importantly, love.

6. Communication is key.

Talking with both my elderly parents and my kids often feels the same! They both need things explained slowly, and sometimes, my parents need a repeat. Keeping open lines of communication with both can be tough at first, but with patience, you’ll get the hang of it!

7. Be real.

You can’t do everything yourself. Sure, you wanted to finish your to-do list yesterday, but life happens—the dog gets sick, someone spills milk, or you drop a jar of homemade buttermilk ranch, shattering glass all over the kitchen (yes, I did that!). The point is, you did your best with both your kids and your parents, and now it’s time to get some rest.

Nobody said this stage was easy—balancing concerns for your aging parents while setting the best example for your kids is a lot. But by following these seven tips, you’ll find ways to stay stress-free and keep it all together. Hope this helps!

It’s hard to think about, but we do need to make plans as our parents get older. Orna shares some helpful tips about preparing for the death of your parents.

Being Admitted to the NICU Saved My Child’s Life

Guest Blogger

September 20, 2024

I was 20 weeks pregnant when we found out that our son was diagnosed with Ventriculomegaly. It’s a condition in which the fluid-spilled spaces in a fetus’s brain (the ventricles) are larger than usual, according to the Cleveland Clinic. The ventricles widen or expand because cerebrospinal fluid becomes trapped in them, instead of flowing around the brain and spinal cord before getting reabsorbed.

At the time I felt as though I had done something wrong. I asked a lot of questions but unfortunately the doctors didn’t have many answers for me without doing risky testing. I joined a Facebook support group, and the stories were truly inspiring. They got me through extremely emotional days.

We opted to wait until our son was born to conduct an MRI to see the cause. Then, I went into labor five weeks early. He was born weighing 6 pounds and 4 ounces, and all my worries went away. I did not care what his diagnosis was; he was perfect to me. He was sent to the NICU to get an MRI and we waited anxiously for the results.

The results showed that he had had a brain bleed in utero, which caused extra fluid build-up. We were informed by the Neurologist that we would have to wait six months to see if the condition would create more buildup or resolve itself. The doctors were optimistic.

Our son had to stay in the NICU that night for observation.

During that night, his oxygen level dropped along with his blood sugar level, and he was at risk for jaundice. We were informed that he would have to stay in the NICU for a few more days for observation. This was the news we did not want to hear, but we knew he was in good hands.

When I was discharged, I spent most of the day cradling him in the NICU. The nurses helped with feeding time, encouraged me through breast feeding, provided nutritious meals, and provided long term resources. We were assigned a case worker who explained the resources we could utilize during the NICU stay. Some of these included a discount on food in the cafeteria, free housing a few minutes away from the hospital, and free parking. Knowing that we had access to these resources took a huge financial burden off our shoulders.

The nurses kept in constant contact with us the whole time.

When I went home for a few hours, the nurses communicated with me through an app that showed when he had a diaper change, how much he drank, and what his oxygen level was. I loved being updated about my child’s health while I went home to spend some quality time with our oldest son. It helped me feel at ease that I could click into the app and find out how he was doing. I felt less guilty for leaving him alone.

I was not mentally prepared to spend more than a few hours away from him but because of my other son, I knew I had to make the transition from one child to two children as smooth as possible. There were a few times I went into the bathroom and silently cried, wiped my tears away, and put a smile on my face because I knew I was the family’s glue. Giving up hope was not an option.

Day by day I watched him improve with feedings, staying up for longer periods of time, diaper changes, etc. Knowing he was improving gave me the strength on the days I felt I wasn’t strong enough to get through the next.

On day five he was ready to come home, but he failed his hearing test and his oxygen level dropped again during the car seat test.

We were concerned, but we knew he was in the right place to receive the care he needed. On day six they conducted the tests again, and he passed! Our baby boy was ready to come home. Before we walked out, the hospital announced on the intercom that he had graduated from the NICU. I was nervous. Did I know how to take care of a child with special needs? Was I going to be a good mother? Would he survive through the night? Before we could take him home, we took a CPR class. Taking that class gave me the reassurance, confidence, and validation that I needed.

Being admitted to the NICU saved my child’s life.

I will never forget the special care we were given. I had a preconceived notion that NICUs were sad and scary; I could not have been more wrong. When I walked into the NICU I felt relief, warmth, and understanding.

When I walked into the NICU there were hand washing and sterilization stations set up to minimize the chances of the babies getting sick. The reassurance that they would take those precautions eased a few of my fears. What if he gets sick? What if he catches COVID? They also checked our identification before we were allowed to access the NICU hall, and that eased all of my safety concerns.

Throughout the NICU stay I was surprised by how well each shift of nurses and doctors communicated. They addressed my son by name and knew what areas he needed improvement in.

My advice to NICU parents is to celebrate the small improvements your babies make, communicate as much as possible with the staff members so everyone’s expectations are met, and speak positive words to yourself. When I had heard the word Ventriculomegaly it was scary because it was so foreign to me. According to the Cleveland Clinic, Ventriculomegaly occurs in 2 out of every 1,000 live births here in the US. That’s about 200 babies per day, yet there is very little knowledge about it.

At six months old, our baby boy was cleared of Ventriculomegaly. I share our story in hopes that it reaches a family that may feel hopeless or alone. Join support groups, share your experiences, and hug your little fighter a little bit tighter today.

–Guest submission from Jolanda Smith

5 Tips to Rock Your Work-From-Home Schedule

Krystle

September 19, 2024

This summer, my work-from-home schedule was off. My husband is a teacher, so we opted out of summer camps to save money and because he is able to be home with the kids. But that also meant that I had to juggle work meetings, deadlines, and projects with my kids’ noise, interruptions, and demands.

Now that the kids are back to school, I have six hours of uninterrupted time to work on my tasks and goals. But how do I make the most of my time? How do I create a work-from-home schedule that works for me and my family?

Here are five tips to help you rock your work-from-home schedule!

1. Write out what you want to accomplish in between work meetings and tasks.

One of the benefits of working from home is that you have more flexibility and control over your time. You can use the breaks between your work meetings and tasks to do other things that are important to you.

For example, do you want to exercise more? Do you want to get chores done like laundry or dishes, or straighten up a room? Do you want to read a book, meditate, or nap? Whatever it is, write it down and prioritize it.

2. Decide how you want to accomplish your goals.

Once you have a list of things you want to do, you need to decide how you want to do them. Do you want to exercise only every other day? Laundry only on Mondays, or straighten up and dust one room a day? Figure out what will work best for you and your schedule.

For example, I am currently training for the Motor City Half Marathon. I used to run marathons back in my 20’s, and then I stopped once we started a family and I got busier with work and schedules. In order to get back into it, I run three days a week. Two days are shorter, half hour runs with a longer run and distance on the weekend. So, on those days, I may try to run before school starts, or because I lean more introverted, I might run after I’ve dropped the kids off at school to avoid seeing too many people.

3. Write it out.

Whether you use a paper planner, a wall planner, or a digital planner, write it out so you can get into the schedule and remember what you want to accomplish. You can write it down as tasks for each day or even by the hour. Another thing to consider is the six-hour window (this is factoring in drop-off and pick-up–because at some schools, you have to be at least half an hour early to get a good spot!).

You could work backwards from pick-up or forwards from drop-off, as long as it will work for you! For example, my Monday work-from-home schedule could look something like this:

8:30 a.m.: Drop off kids at school
9:00 a.m.: Run for 30 minutes
9:30 a.m.: Shower and breakfast
10:00 a.m.: Check emails and work on urgent tasks
10:30 a.m.: Join a video call with a client
11:30 a.m.: Do some laundry and dishes
12:00 p.m.: Lunch and read a book
1:00 p.m.: Work on a project or a report
1:30 p.m.: Join another video call with a colleague
2:00 p.m.: Straighten up and dust the living room
3:00 p.m.: Get in the pick-up line at school and check my emails while I’m waiting for half an hour . . .

4. Be okay with trial and error.

Of course, no schedule is perfect, and things can change. Maybe your kids now have soccer practice about an hour before dinner, so now, you can work something into your schedule there (maybe it’s just making dinner, but that works). Or maybe you have to shift things around because you forgot you have a standing meeting every Wednesday at 9:00 a.m.

Try out your schedule and adjust as you need to. No schedule is going to be perfect, but if you keep in mind to be flexible, everything will work itself out.

5. Enjoy the benefits and give yourself grace!

Working from home can be challenging, but it can also be rewarding. You can save time and money on commuting, have more autonomy and flexibility, and spend more quality time with your family. By creating a work-from-home schedule that works for you, you can enjoy the benefits of working from home and be more productive, happy, and healthy.

You may not tackle everything on your task list, but being able to accomplish even one thing without interruptions (meetings, kids, etc.) is already the makings of a good day. Give yourself grace and celebrate your achievements, no matter how big or small!

Back to school season is the perfect time to set up some new routines for the whole family. Rana shares 5 tips for back-to-school organization so that everything can be set in order!

How to Best Support a New Parent

Alicia Nedry

September 18, 2024

Being a new parent is hard. We all know it’s hard. But to support a new parent, and to show them compassion and understanding, can be a challenge. To say, “I’m here for you” and “I totally get it” sometimes doesn’t feel like enough.

Here at Detroit Mom, we have moms that are in all phases of motherhood. We have moms of multiples, blended families, older kiddos, and newborns. We have moms who have struggled with infertility and postpartum depression, stay-at-home moms, working moms, and everyone in between.

Even with all of our differences and unique journeys, we all know what it is like to be a new parent. We know what has or would have helped us in this life-altering new venture. So, we’ve all come together to share how we can best support other new parents.

Here are the ways we recommend to best support a new parent:

Ashley

“Take photos of the mama. It sounds so simple yet is often overlooked. Snapping candid shots of a mom with her newborn will be some of the most beautiful memories she has, especially when those first few weeks/months are a blur.”

Erica

“For a close friend, show up and immediately do a chore. Don’t ask what chore needs to be done, because the goal is to relieve the mental and physical load. Wash dishes, refill the diaper stash, start a load of laundry, and stay just long enough to toss it in the dryer.”

Jess

“Make a snack box for Mom (a mix of healthy and fun snacks to keep energy levels up). If they have a dog(s), take it/them for a walk. Be mindful of cues to leave when visiting; don’t overstay your welcome.”

Jillian

“Go to see the new mama, not just the baby. And go alone with no time restrictions or personal needs. Bring a bag of snacks that can last a week and a healthy meal the whole family can eat. Be ready to listen, hold the baby, occupy other children, and/or watch the new mom sleep. And please dress appropriately, make-up free, if possible; you want to fit in and help the new [mom] feel more comfortable with her appearance.”

Lauren

“Just keep inviting that new mom to all the things you used to do. Continue sending those invites to coffee or group date nights. She may say no a lot at the beginning . . . but eventually she will be ready to accept that invite and will be so happy to have that friend who never gave up on her.”

Lindsay

“Either make a homemade meal and deliver it within the first few weeks of the baby being born or order from a local restaurant and have it delivered. The last thing I wanted to do when I brought my kids home from the hospital was cook!”

Katie

“Don’t ask, just do (when it comes to bringing things over or sending things). Do a porch drop-off with things you know they like. Frivolous stuff. Things that show you care. Make them feel human again.”

Sofia

“Tell them to give you the baby for awhile and let them have a break to do something else. It can be hard when you get caught in the feed, change, contact nap cycle and sometimes just doing something alone, like folding laundry or loading the dishwasher, can feel freeing. Or even just sitting in a quiet room for five minutes or taking that extra-long shower!”

Stacy

“Listen! Don’t compare your birth story with theirs! Every pregnancy, labor, [and] delivery is different. Listen, and offer advice or tips only if asked!”

Tumkeen

“Sometimes, more than meals, there’s a need for basics and essentials that no one has the time to get like cut fruits, a mixed nuts tray, yogurt cups, milk, [or] eggs. Also, no expectations please. Give mommy the gift of grace. Drop a disposable dish off without expecting a thank you, leave a text with[out] needing a response, call once and leave a message, and give her the space to listen without responding or be late at it. Give her space and the gift of grace.”

Vaibhavi

“I cooked nutritional meals for a friend for [a] few days after birth. I made a huge batch of the food so that she could have it for a longer period of time.”

The experienced moms on our team have offered a wide variety of ways to best support a new parent. Just showing up, and showing you care, is a great start. Do you have other tips for supporting new parents? What did someone do for you that was extremely helpful when you were a new parent? Or, what is something you wish someone would have done for you?

For more motherhood inspiration, Sofia shares about the five new mom promises it’s okay to break (or keep!).

Detroit Mom’s Local Love Spotlight: Go Grow Playrooms

Whitney Cornelli

September 15, 2024

Detroit Mom’s Local Love series highlights local women and the businesses they have built. We love supporting small business! Today’s Local Love Spotlight belongs to Sara Khan, owner of Go Grow Playrooms.

To start, we asked Sara to share a few fun facts about herself with us!

She is a full-time working mom of three kids that are ages four and under.
She has an obsession with plants.
She is obsessed with podcasts!

We asked her to share a little bit more about her business with us, too. Get to know Sara and her business, Go Grow Playrooms, below!

Photo by Amy Kimball/Amy Kimball Photography

How did you come up with the idea of your business, and how did you start?

“My son was diagnosed with severe eczema when he was born in 2021. I struggled with him not being able to play outside when it’s too hot or too cold because of his eczema flares. Also, I am a full-time working mom who works from home. I found myself frequenting indoor playgrounds around the area but realized we didn’t have one in Canton. My journey [was started] to create a place that my family could visit any time my toddlers wanted to play.

“I started my business by saving up a lot while I worked. Our business is 100% self-funded and mom-owned so it’s been hard to bootstrap it from the beginning. However, once we were able to fund the business, designing the play structure and furniture was incredibly fun.”

Knowing what you know now, is there anything you would have done differently when you were first starting out?

“I would have done less myself and outsourced more. I spent a lot of sweat equity on setting up the facility and I would have someone else do that next time.”

What is the best business advice you’ve ever been given?

“Hardworking people tend to be lucky.”

Have you faced adversity in business due to being a woman? How did you navigate that?

“I have! [With] nearly every step of opening my business I was faced with judgments of not taking me seriously since I’m a young woman. I’ve had to haggle with vendors, contractors, and teams to show I know what I’m doing. I always show up twice as prepared and confident because I fully believe I am capable [of] handling anything.”

How do you persevere in challenging times?

“I persevere because I see no other option. When failure is not an option, then you figure out a way through.”

What impact do you want your business to have?

“I want my business to be a core memory for all children in Michigan.”

What are the pros and cons of being a woman business owner in 2024?

“Pros: women support women, the amount of women that have shown out to support our business has been incredible! We are so honored that women see the value of supporting women and other moms in their community.

“Cons: I simply think people underestimate women in all walks of life so you have to work twice as hard to prove yourself.”

What knowledge would you share with someone who wants to become an entrepreneur?

“Anything is possible, just put your mind to it and start somewhere.”

What do you do for personal and professional development?

“I love to listen to any business development podcast I can. I also like Mel Robbins’ podcasts and am currently reading Working Backwards.”

What mantra or quote do you live by?

“Hardworking people tend to be lucky.”

What’s your favorite place in Detroit or Michigan?

“Canton!”

Where can our readers find you on social media?

You can follow Go Grow Playrooms on Facebook, Instagram, and on their website!

We hope you loved getting to know more about Sara + Go Grow Playrooms. Be sure to check out our previous Local Love Spotlight featuring Annamarie Green + Annamarie Green Co!

5 Reasons All Moms Need Laser Hair Removal From Plush Laser

Detroit Mom

September 14, 2024

Detroit Mom partnered with the amazing people from Plush Laser to bring you this post. All opinions are our own.

As busy moms, our lives are a whirlwind of school runs, work deadlines, and endless to-do lists. Finding time for self-care can be a challenge, but that’s where Laser Hair Removal from Plush Laser steps in to make things easier!

If you’re exhausted from the never-ending cycle of shaving and waxing, here are five compelling reasons why Laser Hair Removal should be your new best friend.

1. Time-Saving Magic

Imagine this: you’re getting ready for a family outing, but first, you need to squeeze in a quick shave. Or, you’re preparing for a beach day, and you realize it’s time for another waxing session. Shaving takes precious minutes every day, and waxing can mean taking a chunk out of your weekend.

With Laser Hair Removal, you can say goodbye to these time-consuming tasks. Treatments are quick and efficient, typically lasting just 20 minutes, and after completing a package of sessions . . . you won’t need to worry about them again. Think of all the extra playtime with your kids or quiet moments you’ll gain back!

2. Smooth Skin, All the Time

Picture this: you’re heading out for a picnic with your family and you want to feel comfortable and confident in your favorite casual dress. You don’t want to worry about shaving your legs at the last minute and wondering if you missed any missed spots. With Laser Hair Removal, you get smooth, hair-free skin that lasts!

Whether you’re wearing your favorite sleeveless dress or you just want to feel confident in your swimsuit, you’ll always be ready for anything. It’s like having a built-in confidence booster that’s always on.

3. No More Irritation

If you’ve ever dealt with razor burn or ingrown hairs after shaving, you know how uncomfortable and frustrating they can be! Imagine trying to focus on your kids’ school projects or manage your workday while your skin feels irritated and itchy. Laser Hair Removal is gentle and designed to reduce those issues entirely. It’s like giving your skin a vacation from constant irritation, letting you focus on the important stuff without the discomfort.

4. Affordable Long-Term Solution

Did you know that over your lifetime, the cost of shaving products and waxing appointments ranges between $10,000-$23,000 on average? And, the time involved can be up to 72 days of your life spent on shaving. That’s a lot of money and time spent!

Think of it this way: Laser Hair Removal is like investing in a long-term time and money saver. Instead of spending hours and dollars on temporary fixes, you’re investing in smooth skin that lasts. It’s going for the real solution that lasts vs. the cheaper options you need to continue to replace.

5. That Confidence Boost

We all know how a little self-care can lift our spirits. Imagine being able to confidently put on that cute summer dress without a second thought about unwanted hair. Laser Hair Removal helps you feel polished and ready for anything, from impromptu family photos to last-minute outings.

But it’s not just about looking good–it’s about feeling fantastic and embracing your best self. It’s like getting a confidence upgrade that lasts and supports your busy lifestyle.

Ready to experience smooth skin for good?

At Plush Laser, we’re here to help you achieve smooth, glowing skin with a personalized touch. Our expert team in Birmingham is dedicated to providing top-notch service and results!

Book your FREE consultation today and discover how Laser Hair Removal can fit into your busy life. Let us help you make self-care a priority without the hassle–an average treatment is just 20 minutes!

Click here to schedule your Free Consultation at Plush Laser!

We can’t wait to welcome you to Plush and help you enjoy all the benefits of Laser Hair Removal. Cheers to more time for what you love, and to feeling fabulous!

My Healing Journey: Four Lessons I Learned Along the Way

Faten

September 13, 2024

Healing is all about undoing all the hurt, pain, and survival techniques we have been conditioned to believe about ourselves. If you think back to your childhood, you might recognize some patterns that your parents or environment taught you about yourself, others, and the world around you. These beliefs become our internal dialogue that we live by: the way we treat others, the way we react when we feel vulnerable, or the way we think about ourselves.

Undoing these false beliefs can be hard work. I wanted to share four things I learned on my own healing journey that might help you as you navigate through this major life change.

1. You might lose relationships along the way.

Not everyone will come along on your new journey. One of the most challenging aspects of healing is realizing that some relationships may not survive the process. As you grow and change, you might find that certain people in your life are no longer supportive of your new path. This can be heartbreaking, but it is essential to remember that your well-being comes first.

Healing often involves setting boundaries and prioritizing your needs, which can sometimes clash with the expectations of others. Some people might resist your changes because they are accustomed to the old dynamics of your relationship. This resistance can manifest in various ways, such as criticism, withdrawal, or even hostility. It’s crucial to recognize that these reactions are not a reflection of your worth–but rather, a sign of their discomfort with change.

During my own healing journey, I had to let go of a few relationships that no longer served me. It was painful, but it opened up space for new, healthier connections with people who supported my growth and understood my journey. Remember, it’s okay to outgrow people. Your healing is worth it.

2. Healing is not a destination, it’s a journey.

Healing is a continuous process, not a final destination. Don’t expect to reach an ending or destination. There is no magical point where you are “completely healed.” Instead, healing is about making consistent efforts to nurture your mental, emotional, and physical well-being.

It’s easy to fall into the trap of thinking that once you’ve dealt with certain issues, you’re done. However, life has a way of presenting new challenges that can trigger old wounds or create new ones. The key is to approach these challenges with the tools and insights you’ve gained along your healing journey.

During my own healing journey, I’ve learned to embrace the journey with patience and self-compassion. There will be setbacks and tough days, but each step you take, no matter how small, contributes to your overall growth and resilience. Celebrate your progress, no matter how incremental it may seem.

3. Healing can be painful.

Some days will be difficult–or many, I should say. Undoing things from your childhood that you have carried for so long can lead to more pain. As you open up to this pain, it will feel uncomfortable.

Healing often involves confronting uncomfortable truths and revisiting painful memories. This process can stir up a lot of emotions, such as sadness, anger, or fear. It’s important to allow yourself to feel these emotions rather than suppressing them. Acknowledging and processing your feelings is a crucial part of healing.

During my own healing journey, journaling became a vital tool for processing my emotions. Writing down my thoughts and feelings helped me gain clarity and release pent-up emotions. Additionally, seeking support from a therapist or joining a support group can provide a safe space to explore and work through these feelings.

Remember, it’s okay to feel pain. It’s a sign that you are addressing the deep-seated issues that need healing. Be gentle with yourself during these times and remind yourself that the discomfort is temporary and part of the process.

4. Resting is essential and part of the journey.

Rest is not just a luxury; it’s a necessity. In our fast-paced world, we often overlook the importance of rest and self-care. However, healing requires energy, and to sustain this energy, you need adequate rest.

Resting allows your body and mind to recover and rejuvenate. It’s during these moments of rest that your subconscious mind processes and integrates the work you’ve done. This can include taking breaks, getting enough sleep, engaging in relaxing activities, and giving yourself permission to do nothing.

During my own healing journey, incorporating mindfulness practices such as meditation and yoga helped me find a sense of calm and balance. These practices not only provided physical rest but also mental and emotional relief as well. They allowed me to connect with myself on a deeper level and recharge my energy.

Resting is not a sign of weakness or laziness. It’s a crucial component of the healing journey. Listen to your body and honor its need for rest. By doing so, you are creating a sustainable path for long-term healing and well-being.

My Final Thoughts on Healing

Healing is a profound and personal journey that requires patience, self-compassion, and perseverance. It’s about undoing the false beliefs and survival mechanisms that no longer serve you and embracing a healthier, more authentic way of being. As you heal, you are not only transforming yourself but also becoming a healthier mom, capable of nurturing your children with love and understanding.

This work doesn’t just impact you; it paves the way for future generations, breaking cycles of trauma and fostering a legacy of emotional well-being for your kids. Remember, you are not alone in this journey. Many have walked this path before you, and many will follow. By sharing our experiences and supporting one another, we can create a community of healing and growth.

Take it one day at a time, be kind to yourself, and trust the process. Healing is not a destination; it’s a journey, and every step you take is a step towards a better, more fulfilling life.

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Fall Activities from A to Z In + Around Detroit

LaurenDalton

September 12, 2024

As the weather cools down, and the kids are back to school, our focus shifts from those hot summer days to cozy fall adventures. We know there are so many wonderful fall events and orchards to visit in + around Detroit . . . but sometimes it is hard to track them all down.

Our team here at Detroit Mom took the planning off your plate. Our list of metro Detroit fall activities from A to Z is sure to keep your family busy this fall.

Whatever you choose to do, remember to have FUN and share with us on social media. We can’t wait to see all the fun things you do this fall!

Metro Detroit Fall Activities from A to Z: Fall Bucket List

A: Apple Picking at Stony Creek Orchard | Romeo

Pick a variety of your own apples, as well as enjoying the fresh-pressed apple cider from their own mill. In the salesroom you will find a variety of pies, caramel apples, and many tasty treats.

B: Bowers Farm | Bloomfield Hills

Whether you go for the open barn (September + October), Bourbon, Barns, + Brews (October 4th), or the Fall Festival (October 5th and 6th), Bowers Farm is a place for the whole family. Start with their open barn with the kids to explore and see the animals, then come back at night with your partner for a fun date night.

Bonus: Stop in at Blake Farms to fill all your fall needs–they have three locations in Almont, Armada, and South Lyon.

C: Corn Fun | Casco

Corn Fun is the perfect cider mill for those with young children. It offers lots of open space to run and play. There are many fun activities such as a corn digging pit, sunflower fields, and a corn maze to keep your little one busy for hours. They also just added a new barn to house their tickets and concessions.

D: DeBuck’s Corn Maze | Belleville

DeBuck’s is most well-known for their elaborate 15-acre corn maze. The family fun area has countless activities for people of all ages from super slides, to swings, to bounce pads.

E: Eagle Tavern Harvest Supper | Dearborn

Start off your Hallowe’en evening at Greenfield Village by transporting yourselves back to the 19th century to enjoy dinner by candle light. The Harvest Supper offers up items such as squash soup, roasted chicken, and pumpkin pie.

F: Ford House | Grosse Pointe Shores

Stroll the grounds of the Edsel and Eleanor Ford House and take in the many fall colors on the 87 acres of grounds and nature areas. Explore Bird Island, the rose garden, and take in the gorgeous views of Lake St. Clair. The Ford House also hosts Harvests Days and Little Goblins in the month of October.

Bonus: Head to Franklin Cider Mill in Bloomfield Hills!

Bonus: Support your local FOOTBALL team this season! Head to your local high school for a fun Friday night game with the whole family.

G: Glenlore Trails | Commerce Township

Glenlore Trails is a fully immersive nighttime stroll through the forest, as you watch the lights and sounds come alive before your eyes.

H: Huckleberry Railroad | Flint

Stroll the village and collect treats at 20 different stops. Children can also enjoy a straw maze. The village offers the opportunity to end your day on a 40-minute Huckleberry Ghost Train Express ride.

I: Indian Springs Metropark | White Lake

Watch the colors changing on the many nature trails. After, head over to the Environmental Discovery Center to view everything from touch tables with a variety of nature artifacts, to several sculptures where you can learn about the habitats of the area, and many classrooms and science labs which host community and private events.

J: Jack-o’-Lantern Evening Lighting at the Stone Wall Pumpkin Festival | Rochester Hills

Watch all of the Jack-o’-Lanterns come to life at Van Hoosen Farm at the Stone Wall Pumpkin Festival on October 12. By day you can enjoy food, crafts, and live entertainment. But once the sun goes down, the farm will be illuminated by hundreds of glowing pumpkins.

K: Kensington Metro Park | Milford

Head over to the nature center to grab a map to explore over 700 acres of outdoor beauty. The nature center also houses 20 animals as well as many displays and artifacts. The nature center offers many programs about animals and the natural habitat for people of all ages.

L: Lake St. Clair Halloween Hustle | Harrison Township

Get out those running shoes and lace up for a fun filled family run on October 26. This event offers a 5K and an 8K, as well as a family fun run/walk.

M: Maybury Farm | Northville

Head over to Maybury Farm to explore the nine acre corn maze. A fun tractor ride will take your family to and from the corn maze. Maybury also will be hosting the Great Fall Festival October 5-6. There will be plenty of food trucks, children’s activities, and games galore.

N: Northville Skeletons | Northville

Watch Northville come to life as more than 120 skeletons take over the downtown. Be sure to stop and welcome their arrival at the Launch Party on October 4. This free event will have food trucks and other entertainment.

O: Owl Encounters | Troy

Meet and learn all about owls during Owl Encounters at the Stage Nature Center. The nature center offers many other programs such as outdoor yoga, trick or treating among the trees, nature hikes, and homeschool classes.

P: Parmenter’s Northville Cider Mill | Northville

Donuts, cider, and many fall goodies . . . Parmenter’s Northville Cider Mill has something to satisfy everyone’s sweet tooth. The kids will enjoy playing on the play equipment while the adults can head next door to the Northville Winery and Brewery Company.

Q: Quarton Lake | Birmingham

Take in the fall air with views of a man-made waterfall tucked into a neighborhood of Birmingham. Walk along the scenic pathway around the lake and view a wide variety of wildlife and man-made art.

R: Renaissance Festival | Holly

Step back into medieval times for the day. Enjoy 17 stages of different entertainment, over 100 vendors for a variety of shopping, and feast on an array of food options. You will find theme weekends throughout September and October which will have curated entertainment and food options. Also, be sure to check out the live jousting!

S: South Lyon Pumpkinfest | South Lyon

Celebrate the South Lyon Pumpkinfest September 27-29. Enjoy an indoor craft show as well as an art competition. Take part in a pie eating contest or go and watch the ultimate air dogs. There will be many food vendors as well as local restaurants to enjoy. Also, you’ll find many inflatable games and activities for fun for all ages!

T: Three Cedars Farm | Northville

Three Cedars has a five acre pumpkin patch, a corn maze, and a barn yard playland, as well as train and wagon rides. They also have the cutest country store which has lots of fall and Halloween décor, as well as straw bales and fresh mums.

Bonus: Go for a drive through the Tunnel of Trees!

U: U-Pick at Spicer Orchards | Fenton

Take the wagon out to the orchard for apple picking. You can also get lost in the corn maze. This year’s corn maze theme is an eagle!

V: Vegetable Picking at Long Family Orchard | Commerce

Nothing like picking fresh vegetables and bringing them home to make a farm to family table meal.

W: Westview Orchards | Washington

From a market, playground, sunflowers, and u-pick . . . Westview has it all. During the Fun Fall Weekends, you pay one admission price and can take part in all the fall activities!

Bonus: Head on over to Wiard’s Orchard in Ypsilanti!

X: eXtreme Heights at TreeRunner Adventure Park | West Bloomfield

What better way to take in the fall colors than to truly be up in the trees! At TreeRunner, you test your fear of heights by tackling over 250 obstacles up in the trees and more than 45 zip lines. During the month of October, you can take part in their HallowGlow nights–climb among the trees during their glow nights and end the night with a little trick or treating.

Y: Yates Cider Miller | Rochester Hills

Enjoy the three picturesque trails along the Clinton River. The main trail is stroller-friendly and you will find many smaller trails down below which allow for walking right along the river. Yates is pet-friendly and offers a wonderful outdoor environment for your animals. After a walk along the trail, step inside to watch as they make fresh cider and donuts.

Z: Zehnder’s of Frankenmuth | Frankenmuth

Enjoy an overnight trip, or just a day, in Frankenmuth at Zehnder’s. The water park is separated into three sections: Atrium Waterpark, Splash Waterpark, and Outdoor Pool. The Splash Waterpark has an amazing toddler zone and the atrium area offers waterslides that will come toe-to-toe with the daredevils of the family. The hotel offers combo packages that include breakfast and dinner at the restaurant. The waterpark also offers day passes.

For more metro Detroit fall activities, check out our guide to cider mills in + around Detroit!

Reflecting on National Stepfamily Day

Renee Bolla

September 12, 2024

National Stepfamily Day is going to be celebrated soon, on September 16th. Today, I am reminded of my unique role as a stepmother and its profound impact on my life. I want to share my journey and learnings with the many blended families out there.

From stepdaughter…

I’ve never known the life of having married parents. My parents divorced when I was just two years old, eventually finding love again and remarrying. Growing up, I became intimately familiar with the dynamics of a blended family, yet it wasn’t always easy. In a society that often failed to fully embrace the uniqueness of our family structure, I grappled with misconceptions and negative stereotypes. And at times, I was left feeling like an outsider growing up surrounded by children with married parents.

Media, with its powerful influence, played a significant role in shaping my perceptions. Movies depicted stepmothers as villains, an evilness with intent on causing mayhem. Fairy tales further etched these notions into my consciousness, evoking fear at the mere mention of the word “stepmother.”

…to stepparent.

Fast forward several years, and life brought me face to face with a beautiful twist of fate. I became a stepmom myself, welcoming my stepdaughter into my heart when she was just two years old. Little did I know that this tiny, vibrant soul would teach me profound lessons about love, resilience, and the meaning of family.

My stepdaughter made me a mother–not by blood, but through a special bond that blossomed from mutual love and connection. As I journeyed through my own story, I wanted to reshape the narrative. I wanted to give the stepparent role the ending it truly deserves—a happy one.

What I Thought + What I Know Now

Myth #1: Transitioning between homes only impacts the child.

Before becoming a stepparent, I naively believed that the stepchild would be the only person impacted by transitioning between homes . . . because that was the experience I anchored to from my own childhood. All I felt as a stepchild going back and forth between two homes was how hard and disruptive it was for me.

As an adult and new stepmom, I soon realized that the truth ran much deeper. The transition not only affected my stepchild, but also permeated through the entire family dynamic, touching each member’s life in ways I hadn’t anticipated.

The truth hit home when I witnessed my partner navigating the delicate balance between co-parenting and introducing a new parental figure. It brought back memories of my father and stepmother navigating a fluid household while seeing the emotional pull it had on my mom when she was separated from her firstborn for days.

I began seeing my parents in a new light and had a more profound respect and understanding for our family dynamic. The emotions, adjustments, and unforeseen complexities are real. And as I soon gave birth to my first child, I witnessed firsthand a sibling finding herself straddling the line between camaraderie and newfound territories of shared spaces.

Perhaps the most humbling revelation was the impact on me.

The notion that my presence would seamlessly slide into this intricate family puzzle was unrealistic and unfair to all involved. The transition demanded a level of empathy, understanding, and resilience that I never anticipated.

Through my experience, I’ve understood that transitioning between homes is not a singular event. It is a continuous journey of adjustments, introspection, and heart-to-heart connections. It is a journey that underscores the beauty and complexities of building a blended family–which requires patience, open communication, and a willingness to embrace the reality that we are all in this together.

Myth #2: You must adopt the birth parents’ family values and expectations.

Before stepping into the stepparenting world, I had a misconception that adopting the birth parents’ family values and expectations was a requirement. I assumed that it was my role to seamlessly assimilate into established norms. This illusion of conformity quickly faded as reality unfolded before me. No one has ever been able to fit a round peg into a square hole.

I had always dreamed about motherhood. I had visions of the type of parent I would be and what I wanted in a family. The truth is that embracing co-parenting didn’t have to equate to sacrificing my principles. I wasn’t stepping into an existing family framework, but building a new one. And it was okay to allow myself the space to learn and fail with grace as I grew into motherhood.

Growing up, family dinners held immense value in both my parents’ individual homes. It was a tradition I was eager to establish in my own household. However, as I embarked on this new chapter as a stepparent, I soon realized that while the concept of family dinners wasn’t foreign to my stepdaughter, the emphasis on meaningful conversation and reflection during our meals was what set our approach apart.

I introduced a tradition I called the “sweet and sour,” where we each shared something positive (“sweet”) and something challenging (“sour”) from our day. It was an attempt to foster connection and open communication. I was met with, “We don’t do this at my mom’s house. My mom reads to me during dinner.” This moment served as a touching reminder that co-parenting required collaboration and harmony. It also highlighted the significance of my role in introducing fresh perspectives, experiences, and values.

Through this experience, I came to understand that setting our family values and expectations was not a deviation from co-parenting. Instead, it was a crucial component to nurturing a harmonious and balanced family dynamic.

So today, on National Stepfamily Day, I hope it brings reflection, connection, and the joy of a journey marked by strength, courage, and enduring love. Let’s unite to celebrate our special bond with our stepchildren and our impact on their lives. And to all stepparents, birth parents, and children navigating the beauty of blended families, we honor your steps, shared love, and moments that shape your story today and every day.

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