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Detroit Mom’s Local Love Spotlight: Neehee’s

Detroit Mom’s Local Love series highlights local women and the businesses they have built. We love supporting small business! Today’s Local Love Spotlight belongs to Dipali Patel, one of the owners of Neehee’s!

To start, we asked Dipali to share a few fun facts about herself with us!

  • She has her Bachelors in Accounting.
  • She is a very creative person and has experience working in fashion design.
  • She is always curious about learning more, especially about marketing in regards to the business!

We asked her to share a little bit more about her business with us, too. Get to know Dipali and her business, Neehee’s, below!

How did you come up with the idea of your business, and how did you start?

“We were actually in a grocery store business and then we decided to add some snacks in our grocery store… so we started with [samosas in] that small, little corner in our grocery store. From there, we decided to move full-fledged into the restaurant business.

“My husband and my brother-in-law and his wife and I, the four of us, started this restaurant business together back in 2006… I was pregnant and my sister-in-law was also pregnant, and we both had girls. And [the meaning behind Neehee’s] is behind our girls’ names: my daughter’s name is Niyati and my sister-in-law’s daughter’s name is Heeya. Niyati means honesty and Heeya means heart… So the name was branded behind their names… in 2009.

“Customers [of the grocery store] did enjoy the snacks that we were selling… so then we decided to add a full-fledged grocery store and a food corner in one grocery store, that was in 2006 when we started the first restaurant along with [a] grocery store. And then from there, we saw that people were coming actually just to eat–not to purchase any groceries so in 2009 we decided to open Neehee’s–just itself, as a restaurant.”

Knowing what you know now, is there anything you would have done differently when you were first starting out?

“So, in the beginning it was really a struggle full-time… I was pregnant while I was working in the restaurant, so… being a woman and working in the restaurant [was difficult]. Initially we did face a lot of struggle because we did not have any restaurant skills, we [didn’t] have any restaurant background… there were some struggles finding good people, skilled people, at that time, which we were not able to find.

“We have developed the recipe[s] from scratch, so that’s something that’s very appreciated right now. So the people who have eaten at Neehee’s, let’s say back in 2009-2010, they know how we have our consistency in the restaurant. Overall we have evolved so much, in not only keeping the quality and consistency in quality, but overall the restaurant itself, we have evolved in how it was like a small restaurant–40 people sitting–to now it’s like [a] 120 [person] sitting area.

“We always believe in consistency in quality, and quality in growth. So we [didn’t] find ourselves opening a bigger place right away. We want to expand it as much as we can based on our capacity.”

What is the best business advice you’ve ever been given?

“I think the best advice I would say is ‘serving happiness.’ That’s our tagline of the business. It’s like our internal mantra we have here at Neehee’s. We share what makes us happy… what we have found is if you can provide a product that serves happiness to your customers, you’re giving good customer service along with your good-quality products. So ‘serving happiness’ is something that we have gotten advice for–good customer service. And that’s what I would really pass on. People used to come to see us because we were the face of Neehee’s… they’ve known us from the beginning. So giving a good customer service brings your customers again and again.”

Have you faced adversity in business due to being a woman? How did you navigate that?

“No, not really. I mean, there might be one or two but I don’t really feel [like it] because our business has 75% of women working in our restaurants… and there is no language barrier in our restaurant. If [an employee has] difficultly following our manual, we try to help them out and translate our manual in their language to provide them [with] a good workspace.”

How do you persevere in challenging times?

“Being authentic to what you have, stick with your gut, [and] what you have come far for. If you stick with that in your difficult time, stick with your gut that yes, this will be over soon.”

What impact do you want your business to have?

“We want to see Neehee’s in every other state, almost. Our goal is to expand slowly from [the] midwest all the way to Dallas. That’s the goal, at least: 50 Neehee’s in 50 states… We are a part of our community. We are supporting our community in temples, and some other places… We believe in supporting our community and we are heavily into support for our community… ‘Serving happiness.’ That’s our tagline of the business.”

What are the pros and cons of being a woman business owner in 2024?

“We have my husband and my brother-in-law, me and my sister-in-law. We work together very well… My kids did not go to daycare, so we were growing the business at the same time my kids were growing, or my sister-in-law’s kids were growing. So that is something that I have never found challenging in my particular career… We also live together [which] I guess could be the reason we did not find that challenging, because we had enough support to raise our kids, to raise our business and our kids at the same time because we had each other’s back.”

What knowledge would you share with someone who wants to become an entrepreneur?

“I would encourage [to] follow your dreams. I would definitely encourage any woman who’d like to pursue their business: follow your dreams. We women underestimate ourselves a lot. And I would say just go for it!

What do you do for personal and professional development?

“I’m a learner. So I… watch a lot of YouTube videos, I do a lot of experimental things myself and learn from my own experience.”

What mantra or quote do you live by?

“Follow your dreams, and do what makes you happy. Our mantra, and our goal, and our internal mantra you could say, you’ll see a lot of things about happiness. So do what makes you happy!”

What’s your favorite place in Detroit or Michigan?

“Ann Arbor is very cozy!”

Where can our readers find you on social media?

You can follow Neehee’s on Facebook, Instagram, and on their website!

We hope you loved getting to know more about Dipali + Neehee’s. Be sure to check out our previous Local Love Spotlight featuring Shea + Soul Roots Wax Co.!

Detroit Mom Connect: The Art of Being Authentically + Vulnerably Yourself

We are so excited to announce a group designed specifically for moms who are also motivated to take the next step in their business or career: Detroit Mom Connect!

Detroit Mom Connect is where moms can come together to build community and network with other women in the Detroit area. Community and connection are the foundation of everything we do here at Detroit Mom. We want to nurture relationships between women, be their cheerleaders, and lift them up. In a world where competition and comparison are the norm, we want to shatter those ideas with compassion, encouragement, and sisterhood.

Networking

The vision behind Detroit Mom Connect is to connect women together. This is a networking group unlike any other because we are focused on supporting moms who are also working towards their career goals every day. We know working moms face a lot of unique challenges in the balance between career success and motherhood. That’s why we want to help you create relationships with other women who are experiencing the same things you are–so that you can feel supported not only in business, but in motherhood as well.

Detroit Mom Connect is for…

  • Moms who are entrepreneurs or own their own business.
  • Moms who work for an employer either at an office or from home.
  • Moms who have been raising their children and are looking to reenter the workforce either with employment through someone else or by starting their own business.

DM Connect April Event

Our next Detroit Mom Connect event will take place on Tuesday, April 30 in Ferndale. We would love to see you for an evening of food, learning, and networking with other women. Detroit Mom founder, Elizabeth Lewis, and Citizen Yoga founder + Fourth Tri Sanctuary co-founder, Kacee Must, will be focusing on all things vulnerability and authenticity–two things we are super passionate about here at Detroit Mom. 💜

Your ticket includes:

  • Charcuterie by Carm 😋
  • Surprise fun drinks 🍹
  • KB Event Co. will be joining us with another truly magical setup 🌟
  • Gluten free and vegan treats 🤗
  • Snacks from The Channeled Baker 🤩
  • Sweet treats from Toots Sweets 🍪
  • Photo booth from Modern Social 📸 🙌
  • And so many more surprises on the way . . .

Tickets are limited and will sell out quickly! Oh, and they’re only on sale until April 27th. 🤩 To buy your tickets, click the button below!

We can’t wait to see you there!

The NFL Draft in Detroit: What Families Can Do Downtown

A super exciting event is happening within our city of Detroit during this last week of April. We’re hosting the NFL Draft from April 25-27! The Draft itself is free, as are many of the activities, though you do need to sign up for attendance on the app. Each adult may sign up individually, as well as for their kids. So while I was able to sign up with my kids, my husband had to sign up separately. 

The Draft will be taking place at Hart Plaza and Campus Martius in downtown Detroit. And, kids activities will be taking place at Corner Ballpark in Corktown. Both locations are beautiful, not only for the fun downtown Detroit atmosphere coupled with all the sports happenings, but the weather is perfect this time of year to be downtown! 

Whether you’re from out of town or you’re a Detroit native, there is so much happening in our gorgeous city. Read on for some ideas of family-friendly places to visit in downtown Detroit, close to where the NFL Draft is taking place. 

Places for Fun Photo Ops

There are some incredible photo opportunities taking place because of the NFL Draft. At the Draft location fans young and old can take photos with the Vince Lombardi trophy along with many other fun football spots. Plus there are a myriad of other photo opportunities available. I can only imagine how fun these pictures are going to turn out!  

Hart Plaza itself has a lot of natural photo opportunities as well, including the gorgeous Detroit skyline. This beautiful background has made some of my family’s most picturesque photo backgrounds over the years. Hart Plaza is also located along the Detroit River, which boasts its own naturally beautiful scenery. 

This area is also close to Campus Martius, which is one of our personal favorite spots in the city. We love walking around among the hustle and bustle of this spot. It’s also been known to host some of the best seasonal and event activities. Right now it’s decorated both for spring and the NFL Draft. There are so many fun photo spots and walking destinations to snap some pictures! 

Places to Eat

One of the best things my family and I love to do in downtown Detroit is EAT! There is such a variety of cuisines and delicacies available. From date nights to family fun, there’s truly something for anybody at any time. Metro Detroit is a melting pot of cultures, and our cuisine definitely reflects this in a plethora of delicious food choices! 

Many local Detroit restaurants have amped up their food game in anticipation of all the Draft crowds attending. Detroit has been busy as of late getting ready for the upcoming crowds among the food scene. In fact, according to local news sources, it’s estimated that at least a dozen new restaurants have either opened brand new, or have expanded their spaces to accommodate! 

Some of my family’s favorites in the Hart Plaza area that I can count on my kids eating and loving are Cannelle Pastry, Chipotle, Andiamo, Buddy’s Pizza, Coney Islands, and a plethora of fast food, pizza, and coffee places. There’s definitely something kids of all ages will find! 

There are also a ton of food trucks that are going to be available near the Draft locations. From right outside Hart Plaza, to around the parks and districts surrounding, dozens of food truck vendors can be found. Many are locally owned by favorite Metro Detroit restaurants! More information about this can be found in the NFL Draft app or on their website

If you’re looking for a date night spot before or after the Draft, some of my and my husband’s favorite restaurants include The Apparatus Room, Selden Standard, Andiamo, Maru Sushi, Leila, Shewolf Detroit, and Joe Muer Seafood.  

Draft-Related Activities

My kids and I will be catching all the kids activities that are taking place for the Draft that weekend. Some things we plan to do are see the Lombardi trophy, as well as many of the sports and football activities they have going on. More information with exact times and locations of all the kids events can be found on their website. We’re so excited for all the fun things coming! 

Other Places to Play

Besides just being there to play and hang at the NFL Draft in Detroit, maybe you’re also looking for other family-friendly places to hang out while you’re here? Perhaps you want to take your kiddos to see more of what Detroit has to offer besides just an incredible food scene, gorgeous scenery, and masses of football fans?

There is so much to do in downtown Detroit that boredom won’t even be an option! Which is perfect for Draft weekend, which takes place over multiple days. My kids love visiting the Michigan Science Center—which was actually voted one of the top ten museums in the country by USA Today this year! If you have little art lovers you could also visit the Detroit Institute of Arts next door. If you want to catch another favorite Detroit sport outside of football, head over to Comerica Park where the Detroit Tigers will also be playing during the same weekend! 

My family and I also plan on catching the music and entertainment that has been prepared for the Draft weekend. There are many musicians and entertainers planning to perform in the “Draft Theater”, a special stage that has been erected in Campus Martius specifically for the Draft itself. More information with exact times and performers can be found on their website. Some of the performers are local Detroit favorites! It should also be noted that viewing is limited to a first-come basis.

The Detroit NFL Draft experience promises to be one of the highlights of the year. Whether you catch the Draft, or the surrounding activities and local adventures downtown Detroit has to offer, the weekend is sure to be a super fun and memorable one!

Thinking of heading to Corktown during the NFL Draft in Detroit? Annie shares a guide to the area and includes her best options for a date night or family-friendly day!

Detroit Mom’s Travel Series: Yosemite National Park

Our national parks are a true treasure. The diversity of landscapes and recreation can offer even a city-lover an opportunity to enjoy nature. The question is, with over 60 national parks to choose from, where do you start–especially, if you plan to visit with kids?

That was my question, as our family set a goal of visiting at least one national park per year. Yosemite National Park quickly rose to the top, as we discovered the family-friendly options the park offered. Additionally, we felt that this park would allow my six-year-old daughter to experience a variety of scenery and activities, helping to keep her interest during a week-long vacation. Here are some options to enjoy our nation’s third oldest national park!

Yosemite Valley, Yosemite National park
Yosemite Valley, Yosemite National Park

Know Before You Go

Plan Ahead for Lodging

Lodging inside Yosemite fills up fast. If you want to stay in the park (which I highly suggest to avoid long, windy drives in and out of the park each day) look to make your reservation a year or more before your planned visit, especially if your travels place you in the park between April and October.

Consider Visiting in the Shoulder Season

Over 3.5 million visitors entered Yosemite park in 2022, with the majority of tourists coming between June and August. If you are looking to avoid the crowds, consider visiting in the spring or fall. Spring brings roaring waterfalls and fall offers temperate weather with beautiful foliage.

Winter is the quietest season and the park remains open with unique experiences to be had. Just know that tire chains are required where posted, even for four-wheel-drive vehicles.

America the Beautiful Annual Pass

Entrance fees are required to visit Yosemite. You have two options to consider: you can pay $35 per vehicle, which is good for seven consecutive days to the park, OR the second option is the America the Beautiful Annual Pass for $80. This is a great option if you plan to stay longer than a week or if you plan to visit another national park or federal recreation site in a year. The annual pass is valid for 12 months from the month of purchase. If purchased online, allow for shipping time.

Check for Trail/Road Closures

Be aware that trails or roads may be closed due to construction or natural events, so check ahead to see if your plans may be impacted.

Half Dome Hiking Permits

Permits are required to hike Yosemite’s iconic Half Dome. You can apply for a permit during the preseason lottery, which is held in March, or you can try your luck in the daily lottery (applying for a weekday in the daily lottery gives you a better chance of success). Note that it is a very strenuous hike, and is not suitable for kids!

Top of Lembert Dome, Yosemite National Park

Hikes to Do With Kids

Lembert Dome

If you have an older child (or an adventurous younger child), Lembert Dome offers sweeping views from the top of its granite peak. It is a moderate hike, with an elevation change of 850 feet, but it really gave my daughter a sense of accomplishment once she made it to the top!

Mariposa Grove of Giant Sequoias

Mariposa Grove of Giant Sequoias was my daughter’s favorite day in Yosemite. We walked the two-and-a-half mile Grizzly Giant Loop, which took us past some of the famous trees in the grove such as the Bachelor and Three Graces, the California Tunnel Tree, and of course the Grizzly Giant.

Sentinel Dome Trail

The two-mile Sentinel Dome Trail hike offered panoramic views of the park, including Half Dome and El Capitan. Plus views of Yosemite Valley!

Vernal Falls

We accessed Vernal Falls using the Mist Trail. There are many options of trail length and elevation gain, depending on the ages and endurance of your kids. My husband and I continued on past Vernal Falls (thank you, grandparents!) up to Emerald Pool, then to Nevada Falls, and looped back to our starting point via the John Muir Trail.

Yosemite Lower Falls

This is an accessible one-mile hike that takes you to the base of Yosemite Falls. But bring rain gear if you are visiting in spring or early summer (which is the best time as the waterfall is flowing at its peak) as the mist from the falls can leave you drenched!

Best Views

The best views of Yosemite can be found at:

Activities That Are NOT Hiking

Ansel Adams Gallery | open year-round

This fine art and photography gallery boasts a beautiful collection of prints and artwork. It also offers photography workshops.

Tenaya Lake | open late May/early June through November

The crystal clear waters of this alpine lake are the perfect spot for a picnic. Michiganders can probably brave the chilly waters for a swim!

Yosemite Valley Bike Path | open March/April through October 27

Explore the park from a different vantage point via the 12 miles of flat, paved bike trails. Bikes, helmets, bike trailers, and tag-along bikes for kids are available to rent at Yosemite Valley Lodge and Curry Village Recreation Center.

Yosemite Valley Floor Tour | open year-round

We found this to be a great introduction to Yosemite on our first full day in the park. The Yosemite Hospitality naturalist, who led our tour, highlighted the history and nature inside the park, in-between designated stopping points. Depending on when you visit Yosemite, the tours are offered in an open-air tram or a heated motor coach.

Bonus Tips for Yosemite National Park

  • Print the Yosemite National Park Junior Ranger Handbook for fun and informative activities for your child to complete during their visit.
  • Depending on where you are in the park, cell phone reception can be spotty. Download any maps or information to your phone before entering the park.
  • Get to the park early to beat the crowds and the traffic!

What’s your favorite vacation spot? Check out our previous Travel Series location–Sturgeon Point Lighthouse!

Your Guide to a Night Out in Corktown!

It’s not every day that you can encounter authentic cobblestone streets. Yet, Detroiters have this rarity available just west of downtown on the edge of the Detroit River. CORKTOWN: the oldest neighborhood in Detroit!

Named after the Irish immigrants of the 1800s and still holds the annual St. Patrick’s Day festivities. This beautiful pocket of Detroit is a perfect place for a date night or a family outing.

The landmark of Corktown is the Michigan Central Train Station. This epically stunning building is a staple to the city of Detroit. Trains haven’t run through this building since the 1980s. However, the structure has stood the test of time and is ready to reopen this June. With plans for food and retail shops as well as corporate offices, this building is a must on your “to-visit” list come summertime.

Corktown Food + Drink

Situated just in front of the train station is Cork and Gabel, a restaurant with a unique blend of Irish, German, and Italian meals. The indoor space is great for large or small groups (some tables are communal). The menu variety makes this place appealing to many.

Drink-wise, I recommend the Interstate 75 for those that love fruity-bubbly drinks or the Manhattan for dark-liquor lovers. Food wise, do not pass on the Dip Trio; I was obsessed with the sun-dried tomato portion (and a word of advice–just ask for double bread from the start). The Mushroom Ravioli was a delight and is covered in cooked veggies. This dish is a perfect blend of pasta and freshness!

Post-dinner, take a short walk next door to Two James Spirits, the first licensed distillery in Detroit post-prohibition. This tiny gem off Michigan Avenue has a view of the train station through the top window. The walls are full of local artists’ work for sale, and the circle bar provides many seats to belly-up.

A flight is the way to go at this space if you are a “neat” lover. If that isn’t for you, I recommend the Negroni.

A view of the train station from the bar at Two James in Corktown.

A Corktown Bonus Spot

If you have one more spot to visit in you at this point, head past the train station to The Sugar House. With over one hundred drink options, everyone in your party is bound to find multiple drinks to fit their tastes. But if you find the menu to be overwhelming, the bartenders are ready and willing to pinpoint a drink that fits your preferences!

I went with a specialty holiday drink called I Can’t Believe it’s Not Bath Water (floral flavors with gin). My husband enjoyed the Suffering Bastard (bourbon, gin, lime, and ginger). The ambiance of this space is very dark in a romantic way–perfect for a date spot or a girls night out!

Venturing Corktown With Family

Walk about the streets, explore the cobblestone, visit the wall art. The simplest and cheapest form of entertainment.

Bobcat Bonnie’s is a perfect space for your family to dine in Corktown. The mimosa bar for mom and dad plus delicious food for the babes make it a prime spot for a weekend brunch!

The annual St. Patrick’s Day parade should be a must on your family’s bucket list, too. Since the first parade in 1958, Detroiters have gathered annually in Corktown to celebrate Irish customs and traditions. The parade always falls the weekend before the actual holiday so be sure to mark your calendars for the opportunity to assemble and celebrate in green unity!

The options in Corktown are endless. If you have yet to venture to this part of the city, I encourage you to make an effort to try one of these recommended places/activities!

We simply cannot get enough of the city! Dana shares 10 unique day date ideas to explore all that Detroit has to offer!

What Your Library Wishes You Knew During National Library Week

National Library Week is April 7-13, so we asked some library staffers what they would like moms to know about public libraries. Here’s what your library wishes you knew as we celebrate National Library Week!

Mother and toddler daughter play in brightly colored early literacy area at public libraryYour local library is special.

Whether you’re at the largest multi-branch system or a small rural library, every book, program, activity, and service is specially curated by librarians and staff just for your community. You won’t find the exact same set of materials or programs or services duplicated at any other library. Everything in your library is uniquely designed for your community’s unique demographics, interests, and needs. 

Libraries can save you a ton of dough.

Your tax dollars fund your library but it can more than pay off when you borrow items or attend programs. Use this calculator to see how much money your family saves using the library!

  • Attend storytimes, use NHS tutors, or get the resources to write an A+ paper.
  • Check out activity or sensory kits, puppets, or storytime materials for at-home fun.
  • Get free or reduced admission to hundreds of museums and activities across the state, like discounts on Detroit Zoo tickets or 313 Presents shows. 
  • Instead of buying hard covers or expensive e-books, borrow instead.
  • Make use of online tutoring, take practice ACT, SAT, and AP tests, community college-level classes, or learn a language.

Libraries are a great parenting resource.

Another thing you should know: if you want to meet up or make new mom friends without the obligation of buying something, head to the library. It’s a great place to hang out and reduce the isolation that parents can feel. Sign up for storytimes, drop in for play times in early learning centers, and check out parenting books.

Some libraries, like Grosse Pointe Public Libraries, have outreach services to new parents that include book delivery and local parenting resources. Looking for something to keep the kids busy over the summer? Sign up for free programming and activities.

Libraries are all about sharing.

We’re libraries, of course we share resources with the community and with each other. Take advantage of interlibrary loan (ILL) through the Michigan eLibrary (MeL) to borrow materials from a library across the state and have it delivered to your home library. You can also use your library card and visit reciprocating libraries throughout the metro area. Every library is different and worth exploring!

No one knows your community better than your library.

Libraries are a community connection point and gathering spot for everyone. Because they have that specific knowledge of what the community needs, you’ll see unique and interesting collections from a bakeware collection at Royal Oak Public Library, to a seed library at Birmingham’s Baldwin Public Library, to snowshoes from the Clinton-Macomb Library. What does your local library offer?

Libraries are for everyone.

Parents, kids, remote workers, students, seniors—people from all walks of life—are welcome at the library. Library staff won’t judge you on the type of materials you check out or what your needs are. Many libraries offer assistive devices, programs, and services, like this wide-ranging list from Bloomfield Township Public Library, or English Language Learner programs at the Canton Public Library. 

Make a Librarian’s Day

Of all the resources available at the library, the most valuable one is the staff. Library staff are experts in helping you find the perfect book for a reluctant reader, putting you in touch with a social service, or helping you learn new skills for a better job. They take their love for their community seriously and are ready for any situation—many are CPR, first aid, and NarCan trained.

Librarians can also help you spot scams and disinformation and send you to a verified resource. They are happy to share tips and tricks about requesting the latest best seller or setting up an account to stream online media. Ask a librarian for a reading suggestion and you’ll make their day!

And Lastly: Love Your Library Staff

Libraries are facing more challenges than ever—from budget issues to book censorship to demanding patrons—so show them some love. National Library Workers Day is April 9. Baked goods are especially appreciated! 🧁

Looking for more ways to celebrate libraries and reading? Check out Jessica’s 7 Ways to Celebrate Family Literacy Month post.

Unraveling the Medical Mystery: My Journey Beyond “Just Anxiety”

DISCLAIMER: The following post outlines the writer’s personal medical journey. It is not intended to act as medical advice. As always, please consult your doctor with any questions about your health.

“It’s just anxiety.” I have lost count of the number of times medical professionals have told me this. Have you ever felt like a detective trying to crack a case when it comes to your own health? That’s exactly how I felt for years. Every ache, pain, unexplained symptom was a mystery, leaving me baffled and frustrated.

It all started with a subtle sign–fatigue, dizziness, and heart palpitations that seemed to come out of nowhere. At first, I brushed it off as stress from having a new baby. But as my son grew up, the symptoms persisted, and new ones emerged. I knew something wasn’t right–it was time to unravel the medical mystery.

We are calling to confirm your appointment . . . again.

Thus began my journey through cardiologists, psychologists, endocrinologists, functional medicine doctors, primary care physicians, emergency room visits, consultations, and tests. Each one bringing me closer to the truth, but never quite there.

I have been “diagnosed” with irritable bowel syndrome, anxiety, iodine deficiency, possible tumors, Hashimoto’s, thyroid issues, autoimmune disorders, and depression. It felt like I was stuck in a never-ending loop of uncertainty, with no way out. I had started to lose hope–and convinced myself that the exhaustion, weight gain, abdominal issues, and all my other symptoms were just that “anxiety.”

Always Trust Your Gut

I knew deep down that something wasn’t right–that these symptoms weren’t just “anxiety.” Just when I was about to lose hope, a close friend referred me to an endocrinologist. He identified a pattern in my symptoms that had eluded other doctors. This led him to conduct a stimulation test aiming to confirm his suspicions of pituitary gland dysfunction.

The test took part over two days. The first day they placed arginine in my IV that was supposed to stimulate the pituitary gland; I was nervous going into the infusion room, but it wasn’t bad at all. The second day, they injected insulin into my system to drop my blood sugar and see how my body reacts in distress. This one was the most difficult!

My sugar levels dropped super low fast–I started sweating profusely, feeling dizzy and lightheaded. After drawing two vials of blood, they told me it was time to eat. I brought my mom with me, so someone could drive me to the restaurant to indulge in food after.

Medical Mystery: Solved

The waiting game was the hardest part. Waiting for test results, waiting for follow-up appointments, waiting for the elusive diagnosis that would explain it all. Meanwhile, the uncertainty was gnawing at me, fueling my anxiety. It was a weight lifted off my shoulders when I finally received the results.

The diagnosis wasn’t necessarily what I wanted to hear, but it was an answer, nonetheless. Knowing what I was up against meant I could finally act. No longer was I in the dark; I had clarity and a renewed sense of empowerment. Life threw me a curveball–a diagnosis of hypopituitarism and adult human growth hormone deficiency. Instead of singing into self-pity, I decided to take charge and kickstart my healing journey.

I contacted my dream team of medical professionals that helped me find the perfect treatment plan. Fast forward five weeks, and the transformation has been nothing short of miraculous. I am finally feeling like myself again–I am feeling like the supermom I always dreamed of being! The days of constant fatigue and irritation are scarce; now, I have energy to spare and am able to be fully present in my children’s lives like never before.

My workouts? Let’s just say they’ve leveled up! I am conquering intense exercises that once seemed out of reach. The icing on the cake?! I am finally getting some quality shut-eye–real, rejuvenating sleep that leaves me refreshed and ready to take on the world.

So here I am, on the other side of a medical mystery, finally having some answers and relief. It’s a reminder that even in the face of uncertainty, perseverance pays off. By actively listening to your body and being your own advocate, you empower yourself to take control of your well-being. This proactive approach allows you to make informed decisions, seek appropriate care when needed, and ultimately live a fuller, healthier life.

Never underestimate the importance of prioritizing your health and taking proactive steps to maintain it. While the journey may have been long, the satisfaction of unraveling the mystery makes it all worth it.

It’s so important to trust your gut when you feel like something is wrong. Megan shares her journey to a diagnosis of Graves disease.

The Parenting Post: Disagreeing With Your Partner

Do you have a parenting hurdle you’re working through? If so, “The Parenting Post” is for you! One of our writers, Albiona, has been answering all of YOUR parenting questions over on IG, and we’ve turned her series into blog posts on our website as well. We just can’t get enough of her helpful advice, and we thought you’d appreciate it, too!

Her videos cover a wide variety of parenting questions–honestly, anything and everything! If it’s something you’re wondering, there’s a really good chance that another parent in our community is struggling with it, too. And Albiona is here to help!

This week, she’s focusing on the idea of not always agreeing with your partner on parenting issues. It’s only normal that two different people may have two different ways of thinking about the same topic. So, how do you move forward when there’s a difference in opinion? We’re sharing three simple steps you can use the next time you find yourself needing to connect–and not convince.

How do my partner and I work through an issue we do not agree on?

This is so common, so know you aren’t alone in this! Albiona runs coaching sessions for parents, and these are the steps that she recommends to parents in a coaching session with her when it comes to disagreeing with your partner.

1. Ask yourself: is my intention to connect or to convince?

Before you even sit down to talk about disagreeing with your partner (because yes, it does need to be talked about!), figure out what your intention is. Do you want to connect with them? Or do you want to convince them to see things your way?

If you intend to connect: make sure your guard is down, and that you are open, available, and curious! You’re not looking to defend your point of view. You are truly invested in wanting to know where they’re coming from, and what their rationale is. You are recognizing their good intentions and you know where they’re coming from.

If you intend to convince: well, the conversation will go absolutely nowhere. And, you’ll find yourself on the hamster wheel of arguments all the time because you will be steadfast in wanting to convince your partner of how right YOU are. Your partner is probably going to do the exact same thing back to you–and their guard will go up. You and your partner are BOTH trying to defend your own point, and neither of you will come to any kind of compromise or middle ground.

2. Recognize the strengths in your partner that they have, and you do not.

When you feel yourself disagreeing with your partner on something, it’s really, really valuable to do this. Sometimes it all comes down to our strong suits. When you can recognize who is the better person to respond in different scenarios, you can really lean on each other more.

For example, one person might be better at setting boundaries and recognizing that their child needs to go through hard things. The other person might really struggle with this, and it could even be triggering for them. So, having that first parent handle a situation involving these specific circumstances would be the way to go in that moment. And the second parent can support from the sidelines as needed, while feeling supported in the moment, too.

Think about it: what strengths do you bring to the table? What strengths does your partner bring to the table? And how do you find that commonplace where you both are a team, where you recognize that you’re the person who needs to handle ____ situations, and you recognize that your partner is the one who needs to handle ____ situations?

It can be tricky, but if you can have a nice, honest conversation about your strengths, it really does help!

3. Set aside a time to come back to the topic and discuss it later on, out of the moment.

When you find yourself disagreeing with your partner on something, you might want to talk to them immediately about where they’re coming from, what their rationale is, or why they think their way is the best way. But, you need to find a time outside of the emotion to do this. Don’t have these discussions in the midst of the parenting challenge.

A lot of times, when disagreeing with your partner, emotions are high, and we say things we don’t mean. We’re not viewing the situation through a clear lens. We haven’t had time to ground and reflect on the situation and what came up for us specifically. We’re coming from a really defensive place and what we say in the moment isn’t going to be helpful. And, it’s not going to get you what you want–which is, what’s best for your child.

Think about planning out a separate time to chat with your partner about it. Decide to let calmer heads prevail, recognize that you’re not agreeing with one another, take a couple minutes to yourselves . . . whatever you need to do. Recognize that it is really incredibly important to go through that process.

And when you’re back, feet on the ground, calm, and able to really connect (and not convince!)–that’s the BEST time to have those conversations. This is where you’ll be able to gain those insights, make those connections, and you’ll be able to be there for your child in a way that is really helpful and positive.

Do you have more parenting questions for Albiona? Leave them below so she can possibly answer them for you. To learn more, you can follow Albiona on Instagram. Or, subscribe to her weekly newsletter and download her free guide for teaching parents how to get their kids to listen.

Looking for more parenting advice? Our previous Parenting Post blog post covered child fears + helping our kids to feel brave!

You Can’t Always Get What You Want: My C-Section Story

DISCLAIMER: The following post outlines the writer’s personal experience having a C-section. It is not intended to act as medical advice. As always, please consult your doctor with any questions about having a C-section.

C-sections are considered major surgery and although they are relatively safe, there can be risk to both baby and mother. The Mayo Clinic describes risks to mother including infection, blood loss, clots, and increased risk of complications in future pregnancies. Risks to baby include breathing issues and surgical injury. In recent years, they have raised in popularity. The CDC reported that as of 2021, C-section births had raised to about 32% of all births in the U.S.

My experience with C-sections is best described by the Rolling Stones when they sang, “you can’t always get what you want.” When I found out I was pregnant, what I wanted was to have a natural birth. Further, what I didn’t want was to have a C-section because I had heard a lot of negative things about them.

The Plan

My mother had delivered me and my two sisters without any pain medicine and spoke positively about the experiences. I was young, healthy, and active, so assumed I would similarly have an easy experience giving birth. Since I didn’t like to leave things to chance, I made a plan.

My husband and I attended birthing class and toured the hospital. I wrote out a birth plan and packed it in my hospital bag next to my nursing bra. The plan stated that I wanted to deliver vaginally, preferably without any pain medicine. A C-section was not even an option I considered. With a clear plan in place, I turned my sights to preparation.

The Preparation

I have always been very physically active. When I got pregnant, I was teaching barre classes and working out around five days a week. I started seeing a trainer that specialized in pregnant women and together we put together a program that would help me prepare for delivery and recovery.

My Spotify account contained several delivery room music playlists. Some had calm music for early labor and others had pump up music for the later stages. Friends and family had even written encouraging messages for me in a notebook I brought to the hospital. I was fully prepared.

On my due date, my water broke (right on schedule) and I headed to the hospital. Sure, I was nervous about motherhood, but I was fully prepared to push that baby out and recover in record time.

The Problem

Almost 8 hours after my water broke, I sat in the hospital with monitors keeping track of both me and the baby. But nothing was happening. I was in a lot of pain but was not dilating or progressing towards actual delivery. All of a sudden, the waiting turned quickly into action. The monitor tracking the baby’s heart started to beep rapidly and the doctor said the baby was in distress and needed to be delivered immediately.

The Pivot

Everything changed from a slow-motion waiting game to rapid action. A team of medical professionals appeared out of nowhere changing my gown and putting a hairnet over my head. I tried to protest and remind the doctor that this wasn’t what I wanted, but she said there really wasn’t any choice. This scared me and as I looked at my family members around the room, it was clear: the feeling was mutual.

I was wheeled into an operating room and the surgery started almost immediately. My husband appeared, magically wearing a gown from the hospital. Within moments, I was holding my son. A C-section was not what I wanted, but it had gotten my child safely to the world, and that was what mattered.

The New Plan

During my second pregnancy, we talked to the doctor about delivery. I was a good candidate for a VBAC (vaginal birth after Cesarian section) so we came up with a flexible plan. If I went into labor before my due date, we would try for a vaginal birth. If not, I would have a scheduled C-section on my due date.

I never went into labor, and ended up having the scheduled C-section. The second C-section was a completely different experience. I went into the hospital at a prearranged time, just like I was heading to an appointment. Everything was calm and felt orderly. The baby arrived and my recovery was fine.

The Rolling Stones were right: “you can’t always get what you want,” but hopefully, one way or another, “you get what you need.” As it turns out, what I needed were C-sections. They were not in my original plan but after having two C-sections, one emergency and one scheduled, I believe that the best birth plan is the plan to be flexible.

There are definitely risks associated with C-sections but there are risks involved in vaginal delivery as well. It doesn’t matter how a baby gets here or whether it was according to plan. What matters most is that the baby and mother are healthy after delivery.

Recovery after a C-section can be tough! Whitney shares six things you should NOT do after having a C-section.

An Open Letter to Our Local Librarians

We love our library for its resources–the books, the cozy reading spots, the quiet spaces for learning, the family-friendly programming, and the rentable items ranging from metal detectors to pickleball sets. But it is you, librarians, who truly make the magic.

You are much more than a keeper of books or someone who knows how to hunt down a copy of my child’s favorite movie in the labyrinth of aisles. How my little ones’ faces light up when a librarian remembers their name or work is priceless.

Coming from a small town–the same one in which I am now raising my children–I can recall the countless hours spent among those shelves.

It was not solely a repository of books but a sanctuary: quiet, peaceful, welcoming. Behind every memorable visit was, and still is, a librarian—someone who recommends hidden gems, guides craft time and storytelling, and overall nurtures curiosity. My kids feel like they belong at the library, like their knowledge, interests, and work are valued–even if it is a snake formed out of halved miniature cakes and a multitude of frosting in an attempt to win “Cupcake Wars.”

Because it is not just about books, but also about fostering a sense of community.

Under your watchful care, our library has been able to transcend its physical boundaries to become a vibrant hub of community engagement. Whether through concerts on the lawn, performances at the musical hall, book clubs, craft sessions, or educational workshops, you create platforms where individuals like my kiddos can connect, share ideas, and be someone outside of school, sports, and social media.

I will forever cherish the memories of my three children dancing barefoot in the grass outside the library as one of your invited musical artists played their favorite songs live. Or, the way my son turned out covered in just as much paint as his canvas but proudly boasted he was just like the artist in The Dot by Peter H. Reynolds.

Nevertheless, it’s true that inside those brick walls, you are the keepers of the keys to other worlds—the worlds found between the covers of books.

A place my oldest will gladly go for hours, especially if it’s an audiobook. Your commitment to fostering a love for literature and learning is nothing short of extraordinary. Based on a single title or interest, you can recommend a myriad of other stories my child might also enjoy. She’s picky, so I admire your patience, passion, and unwavering belief that the transformative power of words is always worth it.

As my little ones grow, I’m sure I’ll value how you are the unsung guides of the vast knowledge landscape. Effortlessly transitioning from reading a group of eager toddlers’ picture books with unsurpassed animation to assisting with big kid research endeavors and navigating the labyrinth of information both in print and online.

As an adult, I now know what my little ones don’t recognize; you do so much more behind the scenes.

You create spaces where minds can wander, imaginations can soar, and kiddos can discover at their own pace. Your meticulous organization of shelves, careful selection of books, and inviting spaces are the foundation upon which the magic of libraries is built—but without your compassion, zeal, and incredibly good memories, the library would be little more than a storehouse of books.

I want to express my deepest gratitude to each and every librarian who has played a part in shaping minds, kindling imaginations, and fostering a love for learning–especially those we are lucky enough to call our librarians.

This week is National Library Week! Lindsay shares a little insight into all the amazing things your library can do for you.

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